{"id":19881,"date":"2020-06-24T10:15:10","date_gmt":"2020-06-24T07:15:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=19881"},"modified":"2020-06-24T10:34:54","modified_gmt":"2020-06-24T07:34:54","slug":"nu-mai-mintiti-copiii","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/nu-mai-mintiti-copiii\/","title":{"rendered":"Nu mai min\u0163i\u0163i copiii"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ieri, o amic\u0103 a dat un status \u00een care a descris cum a asistat de la geam la o dramolet\u0103 conjugal\u0103 \u00een strad\u0103. \u015ei au s\u0103rit prompt ni\u015fte doamne: Vai. Dar au auzit \u015fi copiii? Ce-o s\u0103 zic\u0103? Ce-o s\u0103 cread\u0103? <\/p>\n

Prietena mea le-a dat r\u0103spunsul matur: Asta e lumea \u00een care tr\u0103im, \u015fi e bine ca un copil s\u0103 vad\u0103 \u015fi lucruri frumoase, \u015fi lucruri ur\u00e2te. <\/p>\n

De c\u00e2nd eram eu adolescent\u0103 se tot poart\u0103 discu\u0163ia asta \u00een contradictoriu \u00eentre p\u0103rin\u0163i, profesori \u015fi p\u0103reri\u015fti care nu-s nici p\u0103rin\u0163i, nici profesori, dar consider\u0103 c\u0103 au autoritate: S\u0103 b\u0103g\u0103m educa\u0163ie sexual\u0103 \u00een \u015fcoli, c\u0103 avem cel mai mare num\u0103r de minore gravide din Europa.
\n“Ahaaa, adic\u0103 tu vrei s\u0103 \u00eenve\u0163i copiii s\u0103 se f??” <\/p>\n

\u015ei \u00eenc\u0103 nu a ajuns toat\u0103 lumea la \u00een\u0163elegerea unei no\u0163iuni simple: TOCMAI, educa\u0163ia sexual\u0103 \u00eei \u00eenva\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 nu se f, \u015fi mai important, s\u0103 nu se lase f. <\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd copilul e con\u015ftient de pericole, de sarcini, de boli, de comportamentul poten\u0163ialilor corup\u0103tori \u015fi de cum arat\u0103 h\u0103r\u0163uirea sexual\u0103, amenin\u0163area, \u015fantajul, \u015fi ce arme are \u00eempotriva lor, \u015ftie cum s\u0103 se apere. <\/p>\n

Religia are un interes direct s\u0103 \u0163in\u0103 masele ignorante \u015fi dependente, de vreme ce omul ignorant \u015fi dependent e extrem de u\u015for de manipulat \u015fi de jecm\u0103nit. De aceea, vorbe\u015fte insistent despre virtutea purit\u0103\u0163ii \u015fi despre c\u00e2t de ferici\u0163i sunt cei s\u0103raci cu duhul, c\u0103ci a lor e \u00eemp\u0103r\u0103\u0163ia cerurilor. M\u0103car aia, de vreme ce bunurile materiale au fost deja \u00een\u015ff\u0103cate de cei care \u00ee\u0219i \u0219tiu interesul. <\/p>\n

Realitatea e c\u0103 singura virtute real\u0103 este aceea a inform\u0103rii corecte \u015fi c\u00e2t mai detaliate. Un om informat \u00ee\u015fi d\u0103 seama de inten\u0163iile altora \u015fi \u015ftie s\u0103 previn\u0103 interac\u021biuni abuzive, influen\u021b\u0103 proast\u0103 \u0219i escrocherii. <\/p>\n

Unele m\u0103mici, cum ar fi comentatoarele prietenei mele, se dau peste cap s\u0103 construiasc\u0103 acest univers roz bombon cu filtru de profanitate \u015fi de abjec\u0163ie. E munc\u0103, nu glum\u0103, s\u0103 men\u021bii 24 de ore iluzia lunii perfecte pentru copil. <\/p>\n

\u0218i ce munc\u0103 \u00een zadar.
\nAcest univers roz bombon este extrem de fragil \u015fi de u\u015for de clintit. \u015ei cu c\u00e2t copilul a fost men\u0163inut artificial \u00een starea asta de naivitate indus\u0103, cu at\u00e2t de mai pu\u0163in preg\u0103tit s\u0103 \u00eenfrunte lumea real\u0103. <\/p>\n

Eu, ca vl\u0103star de mam\u0103 singur\u0103, am cunoscut de mic\u0103 s\u0103r\u0103cia, pe “nu avem” \u015fi pe “nu se poate”. Prin urmare, nu am suferit niciodat\u0103 de naivitatea copilului care crede c\u0103 banii cresc \u00een copaci \u015fi cele mai bune lucruri \u00een via\u0163\u0103 sunt gratis.
\nDar naivitatea educa\u0163iei mele de acas\u0103 a fost \u00een punctul \u00een care m-au \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at c\u0103 to\u0163i oamenii sunt cinsti\u0163i \u015fi c\u0103 efortul de bun\u0103 credin\u0163\u0103 e r\u0103spl\u0103tit. \u015ei a luat sora voastr\u0103 \u0163epe peste \u0163epe, p\u00e2n\u0103 a \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at c\u0103 exist\u0103 oameni cinsti\u0163i \u015fi exist\u0103 scursuri. \u015ei pentru c\u0103 nu primise date de acas\u0103 legate de scursuri, \u015fi sfatul “fii doamn\u0103 \u015fi ignor\u0103” nu \u00eencuraja scursurile dec\u00e2t s\u0103 fie \u015fi mai josnice, sora voastr\u0103 a trebuit s\u0103 deprind\u0103 arta de a f*** \u00een gur\u0103 de una singur\u0103, cu mult trial and error. <\/p>\n

A\u015f fi preferat, retroactiv, s\u0103 nu mi se administreze iluzia bun\u0103t\u0103\u0163ii omene\u015fti \u015fi s\u0103 pornesc \u00een via\u0163\u0103 ceva mai echipat\u0103 mintal \u0219i emo\u021bional. <\/p>\n

Pentru ca omul s\u0103 afle diferen\u0163a dintre bine \u015fi r\u0103u, trebuie s\u0103 le cunoasc\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 le \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103. Pe ambele. <\/p>\n

\u015ei da, uneori nu stric\u0103 s\u0103 vezi, copil fiind, un cuplu care \u00ee\u015fi blestem\u0103 reciproc existen\u0163a. \u00cel \u00eenva\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 aprecieze just ce are acas\u0103. \u00cel face s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 c\u0103 dac\u0103 mami \u0219i tati au o rela\u021bie bun\u0103, asta nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 automat c\u0103 po\u021bi avea o rela\u021bie bun\u0103 cu oricine ci, dimpotriv\u0103, mami \u0219i tati sunt p\u0103s\u0103ri rare \u0219i ar trebui s\u0103 \u00eenve\u021bi de la ei ce fac. <\/p>\n

C\u0103 binele nu se \u00een\u021belege de la sine, \u0219i c\u0103, exact cum supereroul t\u0103u preferat e echipat cu arme speciale, vie\u021bi \u00een plus, bilu\u021be de energie \u0219i alte nebunii, s\u0103 \u00eenving\u0103 to\u021bi r\u0103uf\u0103c\u0103torii, \u0219i tu ai nevoie de discern\u0103m\u00e2nt, luciditate, g\u00e2ndire critic\u0103, asumare, aten\u021bie la detalii \u0219i disponibilitatea de a \u00eenfrunta \u0219i de a confrunta. <\/p>\n

Altfel, vei fi eterna victim\u0103 a \u00eemprejur\u0103rilor \u0219i \u00eemprejurimilor, care nu face nimic s\u0103 schimbe situa\u021biile care nu-i plac, doar se vaiet\u0103 neputincios. Cel mult, \u00eei d\u0103 \u0219tiri pe surse Lorenei Lupu. <\/p>\n

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