Am o \u00eentrebare scurt\u0103: cum facem un b\u0103rbat s\u0103 nu mai fie zg\u00e2rcit? *<\/p>\n Drag\u0103 X,<\/p>\n Am un r\u0103spuns scurt: comportamentul financiar al oamenilor e foarte greu de schimbat. Sfatul meu e s\u0103 opre\u0219ti toat\u0103 treaba acum, c\u00e2t \u00eenc\u0103 e\u0219ti vag iritat\u0103, \u0219i s\u0103 nu ajunge\u021bi \u00een raportul \u0103la extrem de toxic unde nu faci dec\u00e2t s\u0103-l \u0163ii \u00een remarci pasiv agresive \u015fi el se face c\u0103 ignor\u0103 pentru a continua s\u0103 fac\u0103 sex. V\u0103d multe rela\u0163ii de tipul \u0103ata \u00eentre oameni \u015fi m\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc c\u00e2t de pu\u0163in respect de sine au cei care se angajeaz\u0103 \u00een a\u015fa ceva. Pentru fiecare zg\u00e2rcit exist\u0103 undeva o femeie zg\u00e2rcit\u0103, care se va bucura \u00eempreun\u0103 cu el de cum au economisit 20 de lei prin faptul c\u0103 nu au ales livrarea prin curier, ci s-au dus pe jos p\u00e2n\u0103 la magazin, \u00een Pope\u015fti Leordeni. Nu sta \u00een calea fericirii comune a acestor oameni \u015fi set him free.<\/p>\n Eu nu prea am tactici de evaluare financiar\u0103 a masculilor pentru c\u0103 nu \u00eemi caut o rela\u0163ie \u015fi atunci, e whatever, dar \u00ee\u0163i spun ce face o amic\u0103 a mea, care are. C\u00e2nd o invit\u0103 unul \u00een ora\u015f, \u00eentreab\u0103: “Faci cinste?”. Dac\u0103 r\u0103spunsul e pe linia lui nu, o apuc\u0103 brusc o durere intens\u0103 de cap, \u00eei vine ciclul, o r\u0103pesc extratere\u015ftrii \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe. Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n Lorena.<\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n Contribuie la sus\u021binerea acestui blog.<\/p>\n *** ***<\/p>\n Ascult\u0103 Jet pe Spotify<\/a><\/strong>, cump\u0103r\u0103 piesa pe iTunes<\/strong><\/a> sau pe Amazon Music<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. Nu, Gicu, nu sub form\u0103 de sex, stai jos. \u00cen schimb, lu\u0103m o dram\u0103 personal\u0103 pe care mi-o...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":14195,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19888","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/FBmoney.jpg?fit=600%2C400&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19888","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=19888"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19888\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":19891,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19888\/revisions\/19891"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/14195"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=19888"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=19888"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=19888"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nAm cunoscut un tip frumu\u0219el, dar dezam\u0103gitor: vrea mereu s\u0103 lu\u0103m metroul \u00een loc de taxi, dac\u0103 pl\u0103te\u0219te el \u00een ora\u0219 face comentarii despre ce ar trebui s\u0103-mi iau (normal, chestiile cele mai ieftine) \u0219i dac\u0103 pl\u0103tesc eu, nu m\u0103 simt ca \u0219i cum ar fi un date, ci ca \u0219i cum a\u0219 fi ie\u0219it cu colegii la mas\u0103.
\nLa \u00eenceput, \u00eemi pl\u0103cea foarte tare, dar comportamentul lui m\u0103 face s\u0103 nu mai am chef de el \u0219i e p\u0103cat. M-am s\u0103turat de singur\u0103tate.
\nMul\u021bumesc,
\nX.<\/strong><\/p>\n
\nSunt persoane care pur \u0219i simplu nu vor s\u0103 cheltuiasc\u0103 mai mult dec\u00e2t strictul necesar, \u0219i motivele sunt diverse. Fie c\u0103 au tr\u0103it \u00eentr-o s\u0103r\u0103cie crunt\u0103 \u00een copil\u0103rie. Fie c\u0103 au avut o serie de joburi prost pl\u0103tite, unde au fost trata\u021bi ca ni\u0219te sclavi. Mai exist\u0103 \u0219i posibilitatea s\u0103 fi nimerit o gold diggeri\u021b\u0103 care s\u0103 se fi folosit de ei \u0219i s\u0103 fi r\u0103mas cu sechele. Fie, pur \u0219i simplu, \u00ee\u0219i aga\u021b\u0103 respectul de sine de c\u00e2t de ieftin pot s\u0103 ob\u021bin\u0103 sex. Am citit o discu\u021bie din asta pe un forum de manosphere, unde diver\u0219i gigei se l\u0103udau c\u00e2t de pu\u021bin i-a costat s\u0103 ajung\u0103 la p\u0103s\u0103ric\u0103, \u0219i mi-a t\u0103iat pofta de m\u00e2ncare pe o s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103.
\nPo\u021bi \u00eencerca o discu\u021bie, s\u0103-i spui c\u0103 te deranjeaz\u0103 acest comportament, dar din faptul c\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi comenteaz\u0103 op\u021biunile c\u00e2nd pl\u0103te\u0219te, am un sentiment acut al inutilit\u0103\u021bii acestui demers.<\/p>\n
\nPlus c\u0103, pe m\u0103sur\u0103 ce trece\u021bi de etapa de taton\u0103ri \u0219i deveni\u021bi voi \u00een\u0219iv\u0103, oamenii \u00ee\u0219i dau arama pe fa\u021b\u0103 \u0219i devin mai r\u0103i, nu mai buni, \u0219i nivelul de penibil nu va face dec\u00e2t s\u0103 creasc\u0103.
\nEu dac\u0103 mi-ar comenta unul c\u0103-mi iau ceva prea scump, i-a\u0219 r\u0103spunde: “Nici o problem\u0103, this one is on me”, \u0219i dup\u0103 ce a\u0219 termina masa, a\u0219 lua taxiul spre cas\u0103 singur\u0103. Nici m\u0103car nu ar fi pentru bani, ci pentru b\u0103d\u0103r\u0103nia intrinsec\u0103 a comentariului. Cu mine NU vorbe\u015fti a\u015fa, dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 mai vezi vreodat\u0103 \u00eentre patru ochi.<\/p>\n
\nC\u00e2nd am \u00eentrebat-o dac\u0103 nu se simte prost s\u0103 cear\u0103 sec \u015fi direct chestia asta, mi-a zis: “Mai bine \u015ftiu c\u0103 nota de plat\u0103 e acoperit\u0103 \u015fi m\u0103 pot distra la date.”
\nFair enough.<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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