{"id":19909,"date":"2020-06-29T10:37:54","date_gmt":"2020-06-29T07:37:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=19909"},"modified":"2020-06-29T10:37:54","modified_gmt":"2020-06-29T07:37:54","slug":"ghidul-de-supravietuire-al-excentricului-in-societate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/ghidul-de-supravietuire-al-excentricului-in-societate\/","title":{"rendered":"Ghidul de supravie\u0163uire al excentricului \u00een societate"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Se spune c\u0103 fiecare om ajunge la un anumit nivel de popularitate c\u00e2nd o categorie de popula\u0163ie se recunoa\u015fte \u015fi se poate reg\u0103si \u00een el. Po\u015fta redac\u0163iei e un indiciu relativ clar din acest punct de vedere pentru mine. Se pare c\u0103 eu sunt capul de afi\u015f pentru excentrici, ne\u00een\u0163ele\u015fi, bizari \u015fi imagina\u0163ii slobode, ceea ce, sincer, MI SE PARE O ONOARE.<\/p>\n<p>Voi sunte\u021bi pietrele pre\u021bioase ale umanit\u0103\u021bii, petele de culoare vibrant\u0103, \u0219i e magnific s\u0103 v\u0103 reprezint pe voi, of all people.<\/p>\n<p>Numai c\u0103 via\u021ba de excentric nu e deloc simpl\u0103. Sunt o gr\u0103mad\u0103 de capete p\u0103trate care simt nevoia s\u0103 te informeze c\u00e2t de ciudat e\u0219ti, s\u0103 lanseze zvonuri dubioase \u0219i \u00een mare parte neadev\u0103rate despre tine \u0219i s\u0103 te agaseze \u00een mod repetat cu remarci t\u00e2mpite, par\u021bial din nevoia de a te reduce la nivelul lor \u0219i par\u021bial din lips\u0103 de ceva mai bun de f\u0103cut.<\/p>\n<p>De aceea, my weird babies, iat\u0103 c\u00e2teva tips and tricks prin care po\u021bi \u0219i tu s\u0103 respiri.<\/p>\n<p><strong>A) Nu c\u0103uta s\u0103 te integrezi.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00cen Sf\u00e2ntu Gheorghe, jude\u021bul Covasna, unde lumea suferea de o \u00eengustime a min\u021bii de-a dreptul scary, s\u0103 fii ciudat era r\u0103u. S\u0103 fii fat\u0103 ciudat\u0103 era de dou\u0103 ori mai r\u0103u, pentru c\u0103 rolul predestinat de nevast\u0103 al femeii \u00een secuime e un dat incontestabil.<\/p>\n<p>\u0218i, pentru c\u0103 am avut parte de o stricte\u021be milit\u0103reasc\u0103 \u00een cre\u0219tere &#8211; \u00een general, mamele singure au aceast\u0103 panic\u0103, c\u0103 dac\u0103 te scap\u0103 o secund\u0103 din ochi, r\u0103m\u00e2i ca prin farmec \u00eens\u0103rcinat\u0103 cu triple\u021bi &#8211; o bun\u0103 parte din adolescen\u021b\u0103 \u0219i chiar pe la 20 de ani, am f\u0103cut eforturi supraomene\u0219ti &#8220;s\u0103 fiu normal\u0103&#8221;, &#8220;s\u0103 fiu feminin\u0103&#8221; \u015fi &#8220;s\u0103 m\u0103 integrez&#8221;. Mi-am l\u0103sat p\u0103rul lung, am \u00eenceput s\u0103 port rochii non-ironice \u015fi am \u00eencercat s\u0103 am un prieten.<\/p>\n<p>Evident, c\u00e2nd te negi pe tine ca s\u0103 te adaptezi la normele altora, rezultatul e de o st\u00e2njeneal\u0103 \u015fi de un fake dureros. E ca \u015fi cum un juc\u0103tor de sumo s-ar fi chinuit foarte tare, zi de zi, s\u0103 par\u0103 o ghei\u015f\u0103. Da, merge pentru o poz\u0103 de Instagram, chiar \u015fi pentru un one (wo)man show, dar c\u00e2t s\u0103 te falsifici?<\/p>\n<p>E cooperativa munca \u00een zadar, nu va da nici un rezultat, dar te va face s\u0103 te sim\u0163i infinit de frustrat \u015fi de nefericit \u015fi cu tine, \u015fi cu cei din jurul t\u0103u.<\/p>\n<p><strong>B) Get Your Freak On.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>E titlul unei piese de Missy Elliott. Care crede\u0163i c\u0103 Lizzo a inventat superstarul plus size care \u00ee\u015fi scutur\u0103 sexy \u015funcile, meet pe regina rapului din anii 90 \u015fi 2000, Missy Elliott.\u00a0 Cu pl\u0103cere.<\/p>\n<div class=\"video-container\"><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"700\" height=\"394\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/FPoKiGQzbSQ?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Dac\u0103 personalitatea \u015fi felul t\u0103u de a fi sunt ie\u015fite din comun, nu mai c\u0103uta s\u0103 te strecori \u015fobol\u0103ne\u015fte pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 perete, ci treci m\u00e2ndru prin mijlocul mul\u0163imii \u015fi las\u0103-i s\u0103 fac\u0103 potec\u0103 pentru tine. Asum\u0103-\u0163i c\u0103 e\u015fti altceva, \u015fi c\u0103 acest altceva nu e edi\u0163ie de mas\u0103, 100.000 de exemplare identice, ci pies\u0103 unicat.<\/p>\n<p>Transform\u0103 ceea ce e diferit \u00een blazonul t\u0103u.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;U wierd&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;No, mama, I&#8217;m queen of weird, first of her name&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p><strong>C) Respinge predicile nivelatorii.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Exemplu: &#8220;Vai, Lorena, ce limbaj licen\u0163ios \u015fi m\u0103sc\u0103r\u0103gios&#8221;. Nope, e un STIL, \u015fi dac\u0103 e\u015fti prea limitat s\u0103 recuno\u015fti un SIGNATURE STYLE, ia hai jet pe alte meleaguri.<\/p>\n<p>La un moment dat, am cunoscut un b\u0103iat suficient de soft \u015fi de fin \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 m\u0103 atrag\u0103. \u00cencepusem s\u0103 flirtez cu el, se n\u0103scuse chimia c\u00e2nd&#8230; pe nepus\u0103 mas\u0103, a intrat pe pagina mea \u015fi a \u00eenceput s\u0103 rag\u0103 la mine, public, sub ochii cititorilor, c\u0103 agresivitatea \u015fi modul meu asertiv nu sunt feminine. N-ai v\u0103zut un switch mai rapid de la &#8220;A\u015f&#8221; la &#8220;N-a\u015f nici moart\u0103, mai degrab\u0103 m-a\u015f ridica scheletic ca un wight \u015fi a\u015f face whoooo-whooo&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>You like a freak the way they are, or freak the freak off.<\/p>\n<p>Morala pove\u015ftii: ca weirdo, NU vrei niciodat\u0103 un partener care s\u0103 \u0163i-o dea de exemplu pe Marghioala de la opt, \u015fi ce cuminte se \u00eembrac\u0103 ea \u00een deux-pi\u00e8ces gri \u015fobolan \u015fi cum nu iese niciodat\u0103 \u00een eviden\u0163\u0103. Cine o vrea pe Marghioala, s-o ia direct pe Marghioala.<\/p>\n<p>Vrei partenerul care s\u0103 iubeasc\u0103 cu pasiune exact nivelul t\u0103u de weird \u015fi s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 pl\u0103cere infinit\u0103 \u00een asta. E singurul mod \u00een care po\u0163i fi fericit(\u0103).<\/p>\n<p><strong>D) F\u0103 din felul t\u0103u excentric de a fi amprenta ta profesional\u0103\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sigur, nu spun prin asta s\u0103 fii neserios, s\u0103 nu se poat\u0103 baza lumea pe tine sau s\u0103 te sustragi de la efort. Nope, nope, nope. Un weirdo trebuie s\u0103 livreze \u00eentotdeauna excelen\u0163\u0103, altfel ri\u015fti b\u00e2rfe de tipul &#8220;dup\u0103 ce c\u0103 e ciudat, mai e \u015fi prost&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Spun c\u0103 logo-ul, delivery-ul, produsul final \u00ee\u0163i pot reflecta \u00eentotdeauna nota personal\u0103, \u015fi c\u0103, dac\u0103 \u00eentr-o prim\u0103 faz\u0103, lumea o s\u0103 zic\u0103 &#8220;ce plm e chestia asta&#8221;, de la un punct \u00eencolo o s\u0103 le plac\u0103 la nebunie. Celor cu un dram de creier \u015fi un dram de imagina\u0163ie. Restul sunt biomas\u0103 \u015fi trebuie trata\u0163i ca atare.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei aceast\u0103 ultim\u0103 idee ne duce la&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><strong>E) Nu v\u00e2na aprobarea c\u00e2te unei min\u0163i \u00eenguste.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Dac\u0103 a\u015f avea un eurocent de fiecare personalitate vibrant\u0103, intens\u0103, sclipitoare, care c\u0103uta s\u0103-\u015fi fr\u00e2ng\u0103 aripile \u015fi s\u0103 se \u00eenchid\u0103 de bun\u0103 voie \u00een cutie, s\u0103 plac\u0103 c\u00e2te unui Plain John sau unei Plain Jane cu preten\u0163ii de autoritate, a\u015f avea acum avion privat.<\/p>\n<p>Un lucru pe care un weirdo nu trebuie s\u0103-l v\u00e2neze niciodat\u0103, NICIODAT\u0102, e aprobarea bigo\u0163ilor. Po\u0163i evalua o minte \u00eengust\u0103 din trei replici \u015fi nu ai nevoie de mai mult. \u015ei din secunda aia, \u00eel treci instant pe\u00a0 bigot la capitolul &#8220;figura\u0163ie simpl\u0103&#8221; \u00een filmul vie\u0163ii tale, \u015fi limitezi la minimum interac\u0163iunea.<\/p>\n<p>Capcana v\u00e2n\u0103torii de aprobare a cea mai scurt\u0103 cale spre depresie, mai ales c\u0103 aprobarea vine rar spre noi, excentricii.<\/p>\n<p><strong>F) Mul\u0163ume\u015fte-i \u00een fiecare zi lui Dumnezeu c\u0103 \u0163i-a dat ceva special.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sau lui Allah. Sau lui Manitu. Sau lui Freddie Mercury. Fiecare la ce se \u00eenchin\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Chiar ai vrea s\u0103 fii produs \u00een serie?<\/p>\n<p>Dac\u0103 da, ghinion. E ca \u015fi cum o po\u015fet\u0103 Herm\u00e8s ar suferi foarte tare c\u0103 nu e o po\u015fet\u0103 de 50 de lei din Obor.<\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>Sus\u0163ine arta cuvintelor. <\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/paypal.me\/Trollywood\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-14577\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=160%2C160&amp;ssl=1 160w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=320%2C320&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=184%2C184&amp;ssl=1 184w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?w=931&amp;ssl=1 931w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>***<br \/>\nVrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? 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