{"id":19924,"date":"2020-07-01T19:24:21","date_gmt":"2020-07-01T16:24:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=19924"},"modified":"2020-07-01T19:38:54","modified_gmt":"2020-07-01T16:38:54","slug":"posta-redactiei-sunt-grasa-si-cu-cosuri","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-sunt-grasa-si-cu-cosuri\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u015fta redac\u0163iei: Sunt gras\u0103 \u015fi cu co\u015furi"},"content":{"rendered":"

Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. Nu, Gicu, nu sub form\u0103 de sex, stai jos. \u00cen schimb, lu\u0103m o dram\u0103 personal\u0103 pe care mi-o trimite\u0163i pe mail, pe birou@lorenalupu.com, \u015fi g\u0103sim o solu\u0163ie, pe care oricum n-o ve\u0163i urma, dar m\u0103car ne distr\u0103m.<\/p>\n

\u015ei misiva de data asta:<\/p>\n

Buna,Lorena<\/strong><\/p>\n

Am 28 de ani aproape, \u015fi m\u0103 confrunt cu o stim\u0103 de sine extrem de sc\u0103zut\u0103 din cauza unor kilograme \u00een plus \u015fi a unei fe\u0163e distruse de acnee. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Trec neobservat\u0103 prin lume \u015fi constant am parte de bullying la locul de munc\u0103 \u015fi printre prieteni. Nu am avut rela\u0163ii consumate p\u00e2n\u0103 la v\u00e2rsta asta \u015fi simt constant nevoia unui ata\u015fament fizic \u015fi emotional. Fac eforturi mari, nu m\u0103n\u00e2nc lucruri nes\u0103n\u0103toase \u015fi fac sport zilnic, totu\u015fi, parc\u0103 nimic nu se schimb\u0103 \u015fi m\u0103 afund tot mai mult \u00een depresie. Ce crezi c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 fac ca s\u0103 \u00eemi \u00eembun\u0103t\u0103\u0163esc imaginea de sine?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mul\u0163umesc,<\/strong><\/p>\n

X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

*<\/p>\n

Drag\u0103 X,<\/p>\n

Problema nu e c\u0103 ai kilograme \u00een plus \u015fi acnee. Cunosc oameni care au kilograme \u00een plus \u015fi acnee, \u015fi sunt at\u00e2t de veseli, de glume\u0163i, de “sufletul petrecerii”, \u00eenc\u00e2t \u00eei iube\u015fte toat\u0103 lumea.<\/p>\n

Problema e c\u0103 tu \u00ee\u0163i percepi defectele fizice ca pe o problem\u0103 \u015fi te ur\u0103\u015fti tu pe tine din cauza lor. \u015ei, a\u015fa cum c\u00e2inii simt frica trec\u0103torului, iar asta \u00eei a\u0163\u00e2\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 latre, oamenii cu stof\u0103 de abuzatori simt ura de sine a trec\u0103torului \u015fi adopt\u0103 acela\u015fi comportament.<\/p>\n

Legat de bullyingul extern, dai reclama\u0163ii la HR, \u00een care descrii cine s-a luat de tine \u015fi cum, \u015fi la c\u00e2t de panicate sunt firmele de procese \u00een perioada asta, pariez c\u0103 bully-ii t\u0103i \u00ee\u015fi vor lua prompt ni\u015fte bocanci binemerita\u0163i \u00een ou\u0163e. Dac\u0103 cercul de prieteni e cel care te bully, \u00eei po\u0163i elimina din via\u0163a ta pe cei care o fac.<\/p>\n

Eu m\u0103 declar \u00een prezent omul f\u0103r\u0103 bullies. E adev\u0103rat, am peste 2000 de nume banate \u015fi 300 de numere de telefon la filtrate, dar nimeni dintre cei care au \u00eencercat s\u0103-mi impun\u0103 vreodat\u0103 toxicitate nu m\u0103 mai poate contacta. Sau dac\u0103 o face de pe un num\u0103r de telefon nou, ajunge prompt tot la filtrate.<\/p>\n

Dar principalul bully cu care trebuie s\u0103 cazi la pace e propria persoan\u0103.<\/p>\n

Nevoia disperat\u0103 de ata\u015fament e taman semnul faptului c\u0103 nu te placi pe tine \u00eens\u0103\u0163i foarte tare. Din exact motivele pe care le enumeri: kilograme \u00een plus, co\u015furi. \u015ei ce faci c\u00e2nd bagi oamenilor sub nas nevoia disperat\u0103 de ata\u015fament? Nu faci dec\u00e2t s\u0103-i pui pe fug\u0103. \u015etiu, iar scriu ceva perceptibil ca adev\u0103r crud \u015fi iar mi se adun\u0103 virtue signallerii \u00een rubrica de comentarii s\u0103 m\u0103 cronc\u0103ne, dar:<\/p>\n

P\u00c2N\u0102 C\u00c2ND NU TE IUBE\u015eTI TU PE TINE, NU VEI INSPIRA IUBIRE ADEV\u0102RAT\u0102 ALTORA. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Valabil \u015fi pentru fetele cu siluete de fotomodele \u015fi piele de alabastru. Dac\u0103 tu nu te placi \u015fi nu te respec\u0163i, dac\u0103 at\u00e2rni dup\u0103 c\u00e2te unul care se \u015fterge la c*r cu tine, vei avea doar rela\u0163ii abuzive.<\/p>\n

Kilogramele \u00een plus se pot masca prin vestimenta\u0163ie adecvat\u0103, co\u015furile printr-un fond de ten special recomandat de un dermatolog bun, dar respectul fa\u0163\u0103 de propria persoan\u0103 nu trebuie s\u0103 se bazeze pe looks.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Eu \u00ee\u0163i recomand s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i aloci \u0163ie \u00eens\u0103\u0163i mai mult me time \u015fi s\u0103 cau\u0163i s\u0103 te bucuri de lucrurile \u00een care excelezi.<\/p>\n

Sau dac\u0103 nu excelezi \u00een nimic, s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i propui s\u0103 excelezi \u00een ceva. Editare video. Crea\u0163ie grafic\u0103. Compozi\u0163ie muzical\u0103. Croitorie. Un hobby care are \u015fi valoare economic\u0103 – ni\u015fte bani n-au stricat nim\u0103nui. \u015ei care presupune suficient\u0103 migal\u0103 \u015fi aten\u0163ie la detaliu \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103-\u0163i scoat\u0103 capul din c*r. (A\u015fa le spun eu celor scufunda\u0163i \u00een mila de sine precum castrave\u0163ii \u00een o\u0163et: oameni cu capul b\u0103gat ad\u00e2nc \u00een c*r.) Da, \u015ftiu, virtue signallerilor, e oribil de ur\u00e2t, dar nu “vai, s\u0103racaaa” va schimba \u00een bine moodul acestei fete, ci con\u015ftientizarea propriului poten\u0163ial, \u015fi a c\u00e2t de pu\u0163in relevante sunt looks pentru o persoan\u0103 care \u015ftie s\u0103 fac\u0103 bine lucruri \u015fi care are pre\u0163uirea altora din acest motiv.<\/p>\n

\u015ei c\u00e2nd vei ajunge s\u0103-\u0163i accep\u0163i complet propria persoan\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 nu te mai judeci, tu pe tine, pentru defecte, vor veni gigei s\u0103-\u0163i spun\u0103 “E\u015fti ur\u00e2t\u0103 \u015fi gras\u0103” \u015fi tu o s\u0103 le c\u00e2n\u0163i “Sooge\u0163i poolaaa la la la”.<\/p>\n

\u015ei c\u00e2nd e\u015fti acas\u0103, caut\u0103 pe Spotify sau pe Deezer muzic\u0103 vesel\u0103 \u015fi bucur\u0103-te de ea.<\/p>\n

Bucur\u0103-te de pozitivul fiec\u0103rei clipe, de libertate, de faptul c\u0103 e\u015fti t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 \u015fi plin\u0103 de energie, de cafeaua delicioas\u0103 pe care o bei diminea\u0163a, de animale de companie, dac\u0103 ai, – \u015fi dac\u0103 n-ai, uite o surs\u0103 imens\u0103 de ata\u015fament care nu se uit\u0103 la co\u015furi – de faptul c\u0103 e var\u0103 \u015fi cald, de o plimbare \u00eentr-un parc, de o salat\u0103 fresh cu toate legumele proaspete, de faptul c\u0103 n-ai f\u0103cut Covid, de faptul c\u0103 ai un internet uria\u015f la dispozi\u0163ie, plin de filme, documentare, resurse pe orice subiect \u00ee\u0163i dore\u015fti \u015fi de faptul c\u0103 a \u00eenceput sezonul pepenilor.<\/p>\n

Astea fiind zise, contacteaz\u0103 un dermatolog \u015fi continu\u0103 s\u0103 faci sport, dar nu te mai preocupa at\u00e2t de tare.<\/p>\n

Also: Dac\u0103 crezi c\u0103 o rela\u0163ie e finalul magic al tuturor problemelor din via\u0163a ta, ei bine, error. Trebuie s\u0103 fii al naibii de echilibrat\u0103 \u015fi stabil\u0103 tu cu tine, ca s\u0103 duci responsabilitatea emo\u0163ional\u0103 a dou\u0103 persoane \u015fi s\u0103 nimere\u015fti balan\u0163a potrivit\u0103 \u00eentre nevoile tale \u015fi ale lui. Sau ei, c\u0103 nu vreau s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i aloc eu o orientare by\u00a0 default.<\/p>\n

Schimbarea \u00eencepe \u00eentotdeauna cu tine \u00eens\u0103\u0163i.<\/p>\n

Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n

Lorena.<\/p>\n

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Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i place acest blog, fii un partener la men\u0163inerea lui.<\/p>\n

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