{"id":19994,"date":"2020-07-09T10:29:08","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T07:29:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=19994"},"modified":"2020-07-09T10:29:08","modified_gmt":"2020-07-09T07:29:08","slug":"indivizii-care-nu-accepta-un-nu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/indivizii-care-nu-accepta-un-nu\/","title":{"rendered":"Indivizii care nu accept\u0103 un “nu”"},"content":{"rendered":"

Acesta nu e un mail obi\u015fnuit de Po\u015fta redac\u0163iei. Irina \u015etirbu, fata care mi-a scris, dore\u015fte s\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi asume c\u0103 are o problem\u0103.<\/p>\n

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“De vreo 4 luni jum\u0103tate sunt asaltat\u0103 cu telefoane \u015fi mesaje de un tip pe care l-am v\u0103zut o singur\u0103 dat\u0103 \u00een via\u0163a mea. Totul a \u00eenceput c\u00e2nd ie\u015feam dintr-un anticariat din zona Unirii-Universitate al\u0103turi de o amic\u0103. \u00cen fa\u0163a noastr\u0103 se pro\u0163\u0103pe\u015fte un individ “binevoitor”\u00a0 cu o agend\u0103 \u00een m\u00e2n\u0103 turuind ca o moar\u0103 hodorogit\u0103 c\u0103 vrea s\u0103 fac\u0103 astrograme \u00een populatie pentru o lucrare de licen\u0163\u0103. Ce-i drept, nu prea am \u00eenghi\u0163it g\u0103lu\u015fca. Dar v\u0103z\u00e2nd-o pe amica asta\u00a0 a mea c\u00e2t de interesat\u0103 e de ce ne rezerv\u0103 stelele am zis s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n. Ne-a f\u0103cut o semi astrogram\u0103 ad hoc, apoi a r\u0103mas s\u0103 ne comunice rezultatul final telefonic.” <\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

E doar o tehnic\u0103 de extras numere de telefon de la gagici. Nu v\u0103 f\u0103cea analize la urin\u0103 \u015fi exudat nazal\u00a0 Trebuia s\u0103 zici stop, eu nu-mi dau num\u0103rul de telefon.<\/p>\n

“Sim\u0163ind c\u0103 e ceva \u00een neregul\u0103, am zis s\u0103 dau num\u0103rul mamei.”<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Pentru c\u0103 mama ta n-are dreptul la privacy?? Fetelor, \u00eenv\u0103\u0163a\u0163i s\u0103 spune\u0163i NU. N \u015fi U. Nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 at\u00e2t de tare astrograma, \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 vreau un num\u0103r de telefon.<\/p>\n

“La trei zile sun\u0103 acest individ, r\u0103spunde mama \u015fi \u00eel contrariaz\u0103 r\u0103u pe om \u00een momentul \u00een care \u00eel \u00eentreab\u0103 cum se nume\u015fte. Se prezint\u0103 \u00een cele din urm\u0103 Augustin Dr\u0103g\u0103nescu. Dup\u0103 un acces nervos.”<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Semnal de alarm\u0103. Un om care are un acces nervos c\u00e2nd \u00eel \u00eentrebi cum \u00eel cheam\u0103 e o persoan\u0103 de care trebuie s\u0103 te \u0163ii deoparte.<\/p>\n

“iar mama m\u0103 paseaz\u0103 pe mine la telefon. Toate bune \u015fi frumoase, omul \u00eencepe s\u0103 \u00een\u015fire verzi \u015fi uscate, dar conversa\u0163ia r\u0103m\u00e2ne “profi”.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ce s-o mai lungesc, c\u0103 tipul a \u00eenceput s\u0103 o sune pe prietena mea cu pretextul c\u0103 s-a \u00eendr\u0103gostit iremediabil de mine \u015fi are nevoie de num\u0103rul meu real, plus s\u0103 cear\u0103 o gr\u0103mad\u0103 de alte informa\u0163ii legate de programul meu, starea mea marital\u0103… iar ea a f\u0103cut impruden\u0163a s\u0103-i ofere num\u0103rul.”<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Cum s\u0103-i dea num\u0103rul t\u0103u, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 te \u00eentrebe?? Ai nevoie de prieteni mai buni. \u015ei am\u00e2ndou\u0103 ave\u0163i nevoie de o coloab\u0103 vertebral\u0103. S\u0103-i spune\u0163i NU unuia care nu v\u0103 intereseaz\u0103.<\/p>\n

“De atunci, a \u00eenceput furtuna de mesaje siropoase \u015fi dubioase, apeluri cu num\u0103r privat, inclusiv pe num\u0103rul mamei. Am blocat numarul. A revenit cu o nou\u0103 cartel\u0103, de\u015fi eram aproape sigur\u0103 c\u0103 renun\u0163ase.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Colac peste pup\u0103z\u0103\u00a0 aflu de la o cuno\u015ftin\u0163\u0103 c\u0103 \u015fi ea a fost acostat\u0103 de acest individ \u00een parc, tot cu pretextul astrogramei.”<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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Se pare c\u0103 Augutin are o tehnic\u0103 \u015fi o metod\u0103. \u00cencepe cu astrovr\u0103jeal\u0103, \u00ee\u0163i cere num\u0103rul de telefon pentru “rezultate” \u015fi apoi \u0163i se urc\u0103 \u00een cap cu psihoza.<\/p>\n

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Am \u00eenceput o mic\u0103 munc\u0103 de detectiv \u015fi am aflat c\u0103 multe alte fete\/femei au fost abordate de acest individ sub varii pretexte, inclusiv pentru a le cere bani. Telefoanele cu num\u0103r privat continu\u0103 s\u0103 curg\u0103. Dar m\u0103 lini\u015ftesc la g\u00e2ndul c\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103 nu mi-a mai ie\u015fit \u00een cale, nu \u015ftiu dac\u0103 ar putea deveni agresiv.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tipul are pe la 1,80, brunet ,cu ochelari \u015fi rucsac negru \u015fi o nelipsit\u0103 map\u0103 \u00een m\u00e2n\u0103. Las aici ni\u015fte mesaje primite de la el, care cred c\u0103 fac c\u00e2t o mie de cuvinte.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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De\u015fi mi-ar pl\u0103cea la nebunie s\u0103 public num\u0103rul \u015fi s\u0103 las magia internetului s\u0103 func\u0163ioneze, a\u015f \u00eenc\u0103lca GDPR \u015fi nu risc un proces unde un h\u0103r\u0163uitor pe nume Augustin Dr\u0103g\u0103nescu m\u0103 acuz\u0103 c\u0103 i-am \u00eenc\u0103lcat dreptul la intimitate, aka exact ce-\u0163i \u00eencalc\u0103 el \u0163ie \u015fi multor altora. Exact pe criterii de \u00eenc\u0103lcare a GDPR po\u0163i s\u0103-l ai \u015fi tu la m\u00e2n\u0103. Cere consiliere juridic\u0103.<\/p>\n

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Nu \u015ftiu cum s\u0103 scap de individ, pentru c\u0103 poli\u0163ia nu a avut nicio reac\u0163ie.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Mda. C\u00e2t timp nu te-a b\u0103tut, nu te-a violat, nu \u0163i-a f\u0103cut un r\u0103u fizic concret dovedibil, nu au ce s\u0103-i fac\u0103.<\/p>\n

Dar tu ai ce s\u0103-i faci.<\/p>\n

Reteaz\u0103-l t\u0103ios \u015fi nu sta la palavre.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Genul \u0103sta de individ func\u0163ioneaz\u0103 pe cu totul alte repere dec\u00e2t mine \u015fi tine. Noi ne bucur\u0103m de interac\u0163iunile reciproc agreabile \u015fi ne deta\u015f\u0103m de cele dezagreabile. Dar printre minciunile cu care pickup arti\u015ftii se instig\u0103 unii pe al\u0163ii este c\u0103, at\u00e2ta timp c\u00e2t prime\u015fti un r\u0103spuns, femeia e interesat\u0103.<\/p>\n

A\u015fa se ajunge la:<\/p>\n

Tu: Mar\u015f \u00een pxla mea de ratat.<\/p>\n

\u0102la: Dar \u00eemi r\u0103spunzi, deci e\u015fti interested.<\/p>\n

Auzi c\u0103 e vocea lui? Spui foarte calm: Credeam c\u0103 \u0163i-e clar c\u0103 nu m\u0103 interesezi \u015eI \u00ceNCHIZI \u00ceN NAS. Apoi, adaugi num\u0103rul la filtrate. Sau, dac\u0103 e num\u0103r ascuns, \u00eenchizi toate urm\u0103toarele apeluri. C\u0103 genul \u0103sta de prost, c\u00e2nd sun\u0103, sun\u0103 de opt – zece ori.<\/p>\n

De asemenea, multe modele de telefoane au filtru de numere ascunse. Pe Samsung S10, de exemplu, e setarea\u00a0 Block Unknown Callers.<\/p>\n

Verific\u0103-te \u00een set\u0103ri.<\/p>\n

Block instant la orice num\u0103r nou de pe care semnalizeaz\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u0103 vedem c\u00e2te cartele \u00eel \u0163ine s\u0103 cumpere?<\/p>\n

Pe Whatsapp po\u0163i refuza conversa\u0163ii care nu te intereseaz\u0103, c\u00e2nd vin de pe un num\u0103r nou.<\/p>\n

Nu ai de ce s\u0103 \u00eencasezi 40\u00a0 de mesaje la care bele\u015fti ochii a groaz\u0103, c\u00e2nd po\u0163i, pur \u015fi simplu, s\u0103 nu le prime\u015fti.<\/p>\n

\u00cenva\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eenjuri.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mul\u0163i dintre raha\u0163ii \u0103\u015ftia se lungesc \u00een a te stresa pentru c\u0103 nu te percep\u00a0 ca amenin\u0163\u0103toare. Bag\u0103-\u0163i pwla \u00een mor\u0163ii lor la modul serios \u015fi o parte vor ajunge la realizarea subit\u0103 c\u0103 de fapt nu te vor at\u00e2t de tare.<\/p>\n

\u015ei dac\u0103 v\u0103 \u00eent\u00e2lni\u0163i pe strad\u0103, ce?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nu e\u015fti de sticl\u0103 \u015fi nu te spargi at\u00e2t de u\u015for. “Nu vreau s\u0103 vorbesc cu tine” \u015fi pleci mai departe. Dac\u0103 devine agresiv, m\u0103car \u00ee\u0163i d\u0103 motiv valid s\u0103 suni la 112.<\/p>\n

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Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, sus\u0163ine\u0163i blogul cu o dona\u0163ie.<\/p>\n

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