Da, Lorena, e un evergreen al lui Depeche Mode. \u015ei?<\/p>\n
Nu, nu. Actually enjoy the silence.<\/p>\n
O gre\u015feal\u0103 pe care o fac unele cupluri, \u015fi, da, gigei, o recunosc: mai ales femeile din unele cupluri e nevoia de a bla bla bla bla bla bla f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 respire, doar pentru c\u0103 mai e cineva\u00een \u00eenc\u0103pere. Chestie care e dr\u0103g\u0103la\u015f\u0103 la un date de o or\u0103, o or\u0103 \u015fi jum\u0103tate, dar profund epuizant\u0103 mintal c\u00e2nd stai izolat 24 de ore din 24 cu o persoan\u0103.<\/p>\n
Adev\u0103rata intimitate \u00eentre oameni \u00eencepe c\u00e2nd nu \u0163i-e fric\u0103 de lini\u015fte. \u015ei exist\u0103 lini\u015fti confortabile, calde, \u00eenv\u0103luitoare \u015fi lini\u015fti tensionate, amenin\u0163\u0103toare, imposibil de suportat. \u00cencuraj\u00e2ndu-v\u0103 unul pe cel\u0103lalt, le pute\u0163i crea \u00eempreun\u0103 pe primele. <\/p>\n
2. Respecta\u0163i-v\u0103 reciproc orele de lucru.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n O prieten\u0103 care lucra remote mi-a povestit c\u0103, parc\u0103 era un f\u0103cut, pe gagiu \u00eel apuca pofta de sex exact c\u00e2nd ea muncea cu ochii \u00een laptop. Era incredibil de iritant, mai ales c\u0103 avea timpi fic\u015fi \u00een care trebuia s\u0103 termine taskurile \u015fi avea nevoie s\u0103 se concentreze, s\u0103-i poat\u0103 respecta.<\/p>\n Mul\u0163i oameni nu \u00een\u0163eleg c\u0103 \u015fcoala pe Zoom \u015fi jobul pe computer de acas\u0103 sunt la fel de serioase \u015fi solicitante de aten\u0163ie ca \u015fi cum real ai fi \u00een clas\u0103 sau \u00een birou. E ca \u015fi cum tu \u00eencerci s\u0103 termini de scris ni\u015fte mailuri, \u015fi bag\u0103 b\u0103rbatu-tu capul pe u\u015fa biroului: “Maricico, faci \u015fi mie ni\u015fte cartofi pr\u0103ji\u0163i?”<\/p>\n \u015ei apropo de cartofi pr\u0103ji\u0163i.<\/p>\n 3. \u00cemp\u0103r\u0163i\u0163i-v\u0103 rezonabil munca \u00een cas\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Da, \u00een evul mediu, b\u0103rbatul pleca la r\u0103zboi \u015fi femeia gestiona casa, dar tu e\u015fti un hipstera\u015f firav ca o libelul\u0103, care \u00ee\u015fi stilizeaz\u0103 barba jum\u0103tate de or\u0103 \u00eenainte s\u0103 ias\u0103 \u00een cas\u0103. Dac\u0103 te trimite cineva la r\u0103zboi nici nu te ucide du\u015fmanul, te bag\u0103 direct la sclave sexuale.<\/p>\n Nu ai de ce s\u0103 ai preten\u0163ia s\u0103 fac\u0103 ea tot, \u015fi s\u0103 mieuni pe un ton mai sopran dec\u00e2t al ei: “Noi ce m\u00e2nc\u0103\u0103\u0103m azi”.<\/p>\n Ai YouTube, are tutoriale de cooking din toate buc\u0103t\u0103riile lumii. Dac\u0103 mie mi-a ie\u015fit paella dup\u0103 indica\u0163iile unui nene spaniol, \u00ee\u0163i iese \u015fi \u0163ie o omlet\u0103 cu sl\u0103nin\u0103 \u015fi ceap\u0103.<\/p>\n Mai ales c\u0103, st\u00e2nd acas\u0103 mai mult, cu munci remote, sunt trei mese ale zilei, \u015fi mult mai mult\u0103 mizerie dec\u00e2t atunci c\u00e2nd plecai diminea\u0163a \u015fi veneai seara. S\u0103 te a\u015ftep\u0163i s\u0103 munceasc\u0103 numai ea ca un fel de menajer\u0103 moca toat\u0103 ziua e incredibil de frustrant. S\u0103 vezi 24 de ore din 24 o legum\u0103 pe canapea e re\u0163et\u0103 sigur\u0103 de divor\u0163.<\/p>\n 4. Petrece\u0163i timp \u00een \u00eenc\u0103peri separate.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Bine, eu am crescut doar cu mama, dar am observat cum func\u0163ionau familiile care au rezistat. Nu st\u0103teau toat\u0103 ziua unul pe capul celuilalt. De obicei, femeia st\u0103tea \u00een buc\u0103t\u0103rie, \u015fi nu neap\u0103rat la crati\u0163\u0103, ci mai veneau prietenele la o cafea \u015fi un fursec, mai venea vecina la o b\u00e2rf\u0103, mai citea o revist\u0103 pentru doamne, mai rezolva integrame, iar b\u0103rbatul \u00een camera cu televizor sau computer. \u015ei \u00ee\u015fi vedeau fiecare de ale lui. Se bucurau de ceea ce noi numim azi “me time”.<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 nu v-a\u0163i autoizolat \u00eentr-o garsonier\u0103 – \u015fi atunci pute\u0163i trage o perdea pe mijloc – g\u0103si\u0163i-v\u0103 hobbies care s\u0103 v\u0103 relaxeze, s\u0103 deconecteze de la tensiunea \u015fi incerritudinea momentului \u015fi bucura\u0163i-v\u0103 de singur\u0103tate. Oferi\u0163i-v\u0103 ocazia s\u0103 vi se fac\u0103 dor de prezen\u0163a celuilalt.<\/p>\n 5. How about sex?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Sexul \u00eencepe s\u0103 dispar\u0103 la mul\u0163i dup\u0103 c\u00e2teva luni de rela\u0163ie, pentru c\u0103 oamenii nu \u00een\u0163eleg urm\u0103toarea diferen\u0163\u0103 \u00eentre sexe: b\u0103rba\u0163ii fac sex s\u0103 se relaxeze – prin sex se lini\u015ftesc – iar femeile au nevoie s\u0103 fie relaxate a priori, s\u0103 se poat\u0103 bucura de sex. De aceea el poate face sex diminea\u0163a la 6, c\u00e2nd mai are zece minute p\u00e2n\u0103 s\u0103 ias\u0103 din cas\u0103 s\u0103 plece la\u00a0 munc\u0103, iar ea are nevoie de baie cu spum\u0103, cin\u0103 cu lum\u00e2n\u0103ri, dans \u015fi vin ro\u015fu.<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 vrei sex, mai ales \u00een condi\u0163ii stresante de autoizolare, nu pretinde sex \u015fi nu te pl\u00e2nge c\u0103 nu faci suficient sex. Sunt dou\u0103 moduri \u00een care tensionezi o femeie \u015fi o faci s\u0103 nu vrea nici de-al dracu. Creeaz\u0103 atmosfera propice. \u015ei o dat\u0103 creat\u0103, n-o strica cu remarci t\u00e2mpite.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n De ce femeile au o rat\u0103 a refuzului at\u00e2t de mic\u0103, atunci c\u00e2nd vine vorba de ini\u0163iative erotice? Pentru c\u0103\u00a0 foarte multe dintre ele \u015ftiu instinctual s\u0103 creeze atmosfera propice. Rar o s\u0103 vezi o femeie d\u00e2nd cu basca de mas\u0103: Gicule, de ce nu m\u0103 f…???<\/p>\n 6. Porne\u015fte de la premisa de nonconflictualitate.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Sunt oameni care au \u00een permanen\u0163\u0103 nevoie s\u0103 se contrazic\u0103, s\u0103 se mitralieze din vorbe, s\u0103 se pl\u00e2ng\u0103 de c\u00e2te ceva \u015fi s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 defecte.<\/p>\n Asta func\u0163ioneaz\u0103, s\u0103 zicem, c\u00e2nd ave\u0163i ambii joburi \u015fi v\u0103 vede\u0163i maximum trei ore pe zi.<\/p>\n Dar c\u00e2nd sta\u0163i 24 de ore din 24, ajungi s\u0103 vrei s\u0103-l str\u00e2ngi de g\u00e2t pe gic\u0103 contra sau pe cic\u0103litoare.<\/p>\n Pune-\u0163i pofta de scandal \u00een cui \u015fi o iei de acolo, intact\u0103 \u015fi neroas\u0103 de molii, c\u00e2nd se descoper\u0103 oficIal tratamentul pentru Covid 19 \u015fi via\u0163a revine la normal.<\/p>\n S\u0103 ini\u0163iezi conflict de dragul conflictului c\u00e2nd stai cu acela\u015fi om \u00een cas\u0103 nonstop e ca \u015fi cum te-ai kk \u00een lift la parter \u015fi tu ai de urcat p\u00e2n\u0103 la etajul 300. Good luck sharing the space, s\u0103 zic a\u015fa.<\/p>\n 7. Ie\u015fi\u0163i s\u0103 alerga\u0163i pe afar\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n Alergarea e un exerci\u0163iu fizic minunat. Relaxeaz\u0103 tensiunile din corp, antreneaz\u0103 mu\u015fchii, oxigeneaz\u0103 creierul, ajut\u0103 la secre\u0163ia de endorfine, hormonii fericirii. \u015ei ofer\u0103 antidot la senza\u0163ia de alienare care vine c\u00e2nd petreci s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni \u00een \u015fir \u00een acelea\u015fi \u00eenc\u0103peri. <\/p>\n 8. \u00cembr\u0103\u0163i\u015fa\u0163i-v\u0103 \u015fi m\u00e2ng\u00e2ia\u0163i-v\u0103 nonsexual.<\/strong><\/p>\n Cum \u00ee\u015fi consoleaz\u0103 mamele copiii c\u00e2nd se lovesc? Prin \u00eembr\u0103\u0163i\u015f\u0103ri \u015fi m\u00e2ng\u00e2ieri. 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