{"id":20094,"date":"2020-07-23T09:12:01","date_gmt":"2020-07-23T06:12:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=20094"},"modified":"2020-07-23T09:15:44","modified_gmt":"2020-07-23T06:15:44","slug":"vasilescu-fericirea-feminina","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/vasilescu-fericirea-feminina\/","title":{"rendered":"Vasilescu \u0219i fericirea feminin\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"

Cite\u0219ti c\u00e2teodat\u0103 o r\u0103utate gratuit\u0103, exagerat de \u00eencr\u00e2ncenat\u0103, la adresa unui lucru complet inofensiv, \u0219i te \u00eentrebi a\u0219a, nedumerit: De ce plm e necesar\u0103 chestia asta?<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

La un moment dat, Vasilescu avea o problem\u0103 cu grasele. Nu, nu cu grasele care zg\u00e2rmau la u\u0219a lui \u0219i implorau un autograf pe pliul al optulea al bur\u021bii, ci cu grase a\u0219a, \u00een general. Pentru simplul fapt c\u0103 exist\u0103. Atunci, \u00eel cuno\u0219team mai pu\u021bin \u0219i i-am administrat m\u0103t\u0103r\u00e2nga lorenistic\u0103 full force \u0219i full effect<\/a>.<\/strong> Pentru c\u0103 nimeni nu-\u021bi datoreaz\u0103 raport pe num\u0103rul personal de kilograme, dac\u0103 nu le-a acumulat din banii t\u0103i, chiar dac\u0103, dintr-un motiv bizar, m\u00e2rlanul rom\u00e2n \u00eenc\u0103 simte c\u0103 are un drept nedeslu\u0219it s\u0103 spun\u0103 unor femei pe care nu le cunoa\u0219te \u0219i care nu-i datoreaz\u0103 absolut nimic ce s\u0103 simt\u0103, c\u00e2te kilograme s\u0103 aib\u0103, s\u0103 z\u00e2mbeasc\u0103 frumos \u00een poze, s\u0103 scrie dr\u0103gu\u021b ca o duamn\u0103 \u0219i a\u0219a mai departe.<\/p>\n

\u00centre timp, ne-am \u00eemprietenit, am \u015fi b\u0103ut o bere la un party HBO Rom\u00e2nia, a\u015fa c\u0103 m\u0103 voi ab\u0163ine de la insulte \u015fi voi prezenta strict problema, sec \u015fi la obiect.<\/p>\n

De data asta, filosoful nostru are o alt\u0103 problem\u0103. Cu femeile care desf\u0103\u0219oar\u0103 exerci\u021bii de cunoa\u0219tere a sinelui pe social media \u0219i descriu cum g\u0103sesc fericirea \u00een diverse explor\u0103ri de sine. (De\u0219i, confirm, explorarea de sine cu diverse gadgeturi vibrante, dup\u0103 o baie lung\u0103 \u0219i relaxant\u0103, este o chestie absolut aduc\u0103toare de fericire, \u0219i cine n-are un bunny, s\u0103-\u0219i cumpere).<\/p>\n

Atoatecunosc\u0103torul nostru Tat\u0103 Omid a scos globul de cristal \u0219i a citit \u00een el c\u0103 toate exploratoarele sinelui sunt de fapt extrem, dar extrem de nefericite, c\u0103 “se mint singure” \u015fi c\u0103 “posteaz\u0103 pentru validare”.<\/p>\n

Absolut toate, sut\u0103 la sut\u0103.<\/p>\n

Prostia asta cu validarea mi-au servit-o \u015fi mie vreo 8904367 de inceli plini de venin \u015fi pseudomasculinitate angoasat\u0103, c\u00e2nd, printre multe complimente de genul “ur\u00e2t\u0103”, “proast\u0103”, “c**v\u0103”, m-au informat c\u0103 nu m\u0103 valideaz\u0103. E ok, blogul \u0103sta func\u0163ioneaz\u0103 de peste zece ani nevalidat de ei \u015fi cei ca ei, \u015fi nu le-a pl\u00e2ns nimeni pe pre\u015f cer\u00e2ndu-le validarea.<\/p>\n

Abia iluzia asta a tentativelor e\u015fuate de masculi c\u0103 validarea lor ar conta mi se pare adev\u0103ratul min\u0163it de unul singur. \u015ei spre deosebire de ni\u015fte fete care stau cumin\u0163i pe pere\u0163ii lor \u015fi fac exerci\u0163ii de dezvoltarea sinelui \u00een pace, \u015fi dac\u0103 nu vrei s\u0103 le vezi po\u0163i seta un pa\u015fnic unfollow sau un definitiv unfriend, validatorii – sau mai exact invalidatorii – sunt toat\u0103 ziua c\u0103lare pe pere\u0163ii altora, de pe n conturi false, url\u00e2ndu-\u015fi cu exces de zel invalidarea \u0219i uucur\u00e2ndu-se c\u00e2nd v\u0103d pe cineva c\u0103 e afectat de insultele lor.<\/p>\n

Sincer, c\u00e2t timp nu pot cump\u0103ra trufe de ciocolat\u0103 cu validare, ci doar cu moned\u0103 na\u021bional\u0103 \u0219i interna\u021bional\u0103\u00a0 – to\u0163i validatorii au o invita\u0163ie deschis\u0103, cu antet, s\u0103-\u015fi bage validarea ad\u00e2nc unde \u00eemi bag eu explorarea de sine \u015fi s\u0103 se duc\u0103 rostogol cu validarea bine \u00eenfipt\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u015ei cum noi, fetele, suntem firi practice, ceva \u00eemi spune c\u0103 un procent semnificativ dintre voi are exact acelea\u015fi sentimente legate de validare.<\/p>\n

Mbun.<\/p>\n

Partea amuzant\u0103 cu exerci\u0163iile astea de dezvoltare a sinelui \u015fi explorare meditativ\u0103 chiar func\u0163ioneaz\u0103. Calmeaz\u0103, relaxeaz\u0103, te ajut\u0103 s\u0103 vezi partea bun\u0103 a lucrurilor, te ajut\u0103 s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i alegi b\u0103t\u0103liile, s\u0103 iei decizii cu capul mai limpede \u015fi s\u0103 evi\u0163i manipularea.<\/p>\n

Dar un exemplu scurt.<\/p>\n

Lorena de acum zece ani ar fi cedat presiunii cuiva \u015fi s-ar fi carantinat cu te miri cine. Ar fi ajuns \u00een dou\u0103 luni de stat \u00een cas\u0103 cu altcineva s\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi f mama de una singur\u0103.<\/p>\n

Lorena de azi, care se cunoa\u015fte pe sine, \u00een urma \u00eendelungatelor explor\u0103ri, wink, \u015ftie c\u0103 nu are chef de isteriile altora. \u015ei c\u0103 da, se distreaz\u0103 cu tine o or\u0103-dou\u0103, dar apoi vrea la cote\u0163. \u015ei pentru un om cu astfel de necesit\u0103\u0163i, op\u0163iunea corect\u0103 este singur\u0103tatea.<\/p>\n

Astea sunt lucrurile care se clarific\u0103 \u00een tine dac\u0103 te cuno\u015fti. Nu la modul glume\u0163 cu iepura\u015ful vibrant, ci la modul asumat. \u00ce\u0163i dai seama ce \u0163i se potrive\u015fte \u015fi ce nu, ce te ajut\u0103 s\u0103 te echilibrezi \u015fi ce te scoate din echilibru, de ce ai nevoie \u015fi de ce te po\u0163i lipsi.<\/p>\n

E un exerci\u0163iu de cunoa\u015ftere de tine \u00eensu\u0163i sau \u00eens\u0103\u0163i s\u0103 faci diferen\u0163a \u00eentre presiune extern\u0103 aka gura lumii sau insisten\u0163ele m\u0103-tii, ale lui tac-tu sau ale soacr\u0103-tii \u015fi lucrurile de care ai TU, PERSONAL, tu \u015fi nu altcineva, nevoie.<\/p>\n

Deci, cel pu\u0163in din acest unghi, pe care filosoful nostru extrem de plin de sine, cu arogan\u0163a specific\u0103 oamenilor care au dat de bine \u015fi se cred invincibili \u015fi atotcunosc\u0103tori, \u00eel ignor\u0103 cu des\u0103v\u00e2r\u015fire.<\/p>\n

OK. Acum hai s\u0103 presupunem, totu\u015fi. De dragul unui exerci\u0163iu de imagina\u0163ie. Hai s\u0103 presupunem c\u0103 ar avea dreptate. C\u0103 toate femeile care \u00ee\u015fi descriu traseul spiritual spre fericire pe net pl\u00e2ng de fapt singure acas\u0103.<\/p>\n

Cam c\u00e2t de infect s\u0103 fii, tu ca om, s\u0103 dai \u00een oameni care deja pl\u00e2ng singuri acas\u0103?<\/p>\n

*<\/p>\n

Acum o s-o \u00eenchei cu o tem\u0103 de medita\u0163ie. Aia pe care o dispre\u0163uie\u015fte at\u00e2t de vizibil Tata Omid. Ai un job bine pl\u0103tit, o familie iubitoare \u015fi crezi c\u0103 e\u015fti regele universului \u015fi po\u0163i urina cu bolt\u0103 romanic\u0103\u00a0 peste to\u0163i \u0103ia de pe net care au vie\u0163i mai pu\u0163in reu\u015fite \u015fi “se mint singuri”.<\/p>\n

Ave\u0163i idee, dragi prieteni, c\u00e2t de u\u015for se poate \u00eenchide o firm\u0103 sau desfiin\u0163a un post, c\u00e2t de u\u015for se destram\u0103 iluzia iubirii c\u00e2nd, de pe o zi pe alta, un partener sau o partener\u0103 te anun\u0163\u0103 c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 vede\u0163i \u015fi al\u0163i oameni, \u015fi c\u00e2t de u\u015for pic\u0103 \u00een ruine bula asta imaginar\u0103 de putere \u015fi stabilitate?<\/p>\n

Incredibil de u\u015for.<\/p>\n

Taman de aceea, nu fi\u0163i otrepe degeaba. Nu v\u0103 lua\u0163i de oameni care \u00ee\u015fi v\u0103d lini\u015fti\u0163i de ale lor \u015fi nu d\u0103uneaz\u0103 nim\u0103nui.\u00a0 Chit c\u0103 nu v\u0103 place \u00een mod deosebit ce fac ei. Dar dac\u0103 lor le ajut\u0103, dac\u0103 ei se bucur\u0103, cine e\u015fti tu s\u0103 le spui ce s\u0103 fac\u0103?<\/p>\n

“Am libertatea s\u0103 fac pe prostul pe net”. OK, dar libertatea nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 e musai. Ai \u015fi op\u0163iunea s\u0103 faci ceva util pentru tine. Ca de exemplu, s\u0103 te autoexplorezi. Chiar \u015fi cu un vibrator bunny. Mmmm.<\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, pute\u021bi fi sus\u021bin\u0103tori de n\u0103dejde.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a><\/p>\n

***
\nVrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe Twitter<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi Instagram<\/a><\/strong>, subscribe pe YouTube<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

Ascult\u0103 Jet pe Spotify<\/a><\/strong>, cump\u0103r\u0103 piesa pe iTunes<\/strong><\/a> sau pe Amazon Music<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Cite\u0219ti c\u00e2teodat\u0103 o r\u0103utate gratuit\u0103, exagerat de \u00eencr\u00e2ncenat\u0103, la adresa unui lucru complet inofensiv, \u0219i te \u00eentrebi a\u0219a, nedumerit: De ce plm e necesar\u0103...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":11139,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20094","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/07\/monkey.jpg?fit=517%2C494&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20094","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20094"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20094\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":20095,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20094\/revisions\/20095"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11139"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20094"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20094"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20094"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}