{"id":20274,"date":"2020-08-20T09:48:28","date_gmt":"2020-08-20T06:48:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=20274"},"modified":"2020-08-20T09:48:28","modified_gmt":"2020-08-20T06:48:28","slug":"cum-raspunzi-la-un-compliment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/cum-raspunzi-la-un-compliment\/","title":{"rendered":"Cum r\u0103spunzi la un compliment"},"content":{"rendered":"

Fiecare blog are, \u00een partea de admin, o rubricu\u0163\u0103 numit\u0103 Google Searches, care \u00ee\u0163i arat\u0103 prin ce termeni de c\u0103utare ajung oamenii pe blogul t\u0103u.<\/p>\n

Ieri, era o c\u0103utare repetat\u0103 \u00een variante: Cum r\u0103spund la un compliment, R\u0103spuns compliment, r\u0103spunsuri la complimente, ce r\u0103spundem la compliment, de unde deducem c\u0103 o persoan\u0103, probabil foarte t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103, avea aceast\u0103 problem\u0103 \u015fi dr\u0103cu\u015forul pervers al internetului o tot trimitea pe acest site explicit, unde afli cel mult cum s\u0103 r\u0103spunzi la insulte.<\/p>\n

Hai s\u0103 fim cre\u015ftini adev\u0103ra\u0163i, s\u0103 ne milostivim de aproapele nostru aflat \u00een nevoie \u015fi s\u0103-i oferim un r\u0103spuns la c\u0103ut\u0103rile lui.<\/p>\n

De c\u00e2nd \u00eencepe s\u0103 prind\u0103 forme, orice fat\u0103 – \u015fi orice b\u0103iat la care ai ce vedea – \u00eencepe s\u0103 primeasc\u0103 o sumedenie de complimente. Unele sincere, altele cu motiv ascuns, altele ipocrite, altele de-a dreptul par\u015five \u015fi r\u0103ut\u0103cioase. \u015ei dac\u0103 e\u015fti timid\u0103 – c\u0103 dac\u0103 nu erai, \u015eTIAI cum s\u0103 r\u0103spunzi la complimente – tu pui valoare pe cuvinte, nu le \u00eempr\u0103\u015ftii graui \u015fi nici nu te tenteaz\u0103 s\u0103 le \u00eencasezi gratuit.<\/p>\n

\u00cen special pentru c\u0103 mul\u021bi trateaz\u0103 complimentele ca pe moned\u0103 de schimb pentru chestiile pe care le vor de la tine (gen, sex), \u0219i dac\u0103 din varii motive, nu te atrage persoana, se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 fenomenul:<\/p>\n

Gigel: E\u0219ti cea mai frumoas\u0103 femeie, hai la un sug.<\/p>\n

Tu: Nu, mul\u021bumesc, nu sug.<\/p>\n

Gigel: Huooo, ur\u00e2to, cine s-ar uita la tine, vaaai d\u0103 vea\u021ba ta.<\/p>\n

\u0218i ajungi s\u0103 \u021bi se fac\u0103 fric\u0103 de complimente, ca de ni\u0219te crean\u021be \u00een alb. \u0218tiu, \u00een\u021beleg, sunt cu tine.<\/p>\n

Dar nu trebuie s\u0103 la\u0219i frica de interac\u021biuni de acest tip s\u0103-\u021bi guverneze existen\u021ba. Lumea e plin\u0103 \u0219i de oameni mi\u0219to. \u0219i unii dintre cei care te complimenteaz\u0103 chiar nu vor altceva dec\u00e2t s\u0103-\u021bi spun\u0103 c\u0103 e\u0219ti simpatic\u0103 \u0219i le placi, no ulterior motives.<\/p>\n

OK. Deci, cum reac\u021bion\u0103m la complimente, ghid simplu \u0219i practic.<\/p>\n

A. Complimentul sincer.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Omul care te complimenteaz\u0103 sincer \u0219i nu vrea nimic ascuns se simte dup\u0103 vibe. E cald, autentic \u0219i natural. Acest compliment se prime\u0219te cu un z\u00e2mbet larg, cu inima deschis\u0103, cu un mul\u021bumesc \u0219i eventual cu un compliment \u00eenapoi care, preferabil, s\u0103 laude ceva real \u0219i valoros al persoanei respective.<\/p>\n

Nu ai de ce s\u0103 te temi de complimentul sincer. Avem cu to\u021bii nevoie de acel tip de energie pozitiv\u0103, s\u0103 ne ridice \u0219i s\u0103 ne binedispun\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u0218i atunci, the least you can do e s\u0103 oferi aceea\u0219i energie pozitiv\u0103 la schimb.<\/p>\n

B. Complimentul libidinos.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Gigel \u0219i-a pus \u00een cap s\u0103 te combine. \u00cen fiecare zi e\u0219ti cea mai frumoas\u0103, cea mai de\u0219teapt\u0103, cea mai m\u0103rea\u021b\u0103 \u0219i mai deosebit\u0103 pentru c\u0103, desigur, complimentele se convertesc \u00een puncte care, c\u00e2nd ating pragul x, se convertesc \u00een acte de amor.<\/p>\n

Exist\u0103 doar o singur\u0103 problem\u0103: nu te prea intereseaz\u0103 Gigel la modul \u0103la.<\/p>\n

Recomand s\u0103 nu mim\u0103m nimic \u0219i s\u0103 nu d\u0103m speran\u021be de\u0219arte unora pe care nu \u00eei vrem. Chit c\u0103 se vor oftica, dar e mai necinstit din partea ta s\u0103-i induci \u00een eroare cu fals interes \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eei tot string along.<\/p>\n

Cred c\u0103 po\u021bi s\u0103-i spui ceva de genul: Mul\u021bumesc frumos, apreciez buna inten\u021bie, dar nu-mi plac exager\u0103rile \u0219i o s\u0103 te rog s\u0103 te lini\u0219te\u0219ti. Dac\u0103 insist\u0103, te ridici \u0219i pleci \/ te ridici \u0219i te mu\u021bi mai \u00eencolo, \u00een func\u021bie de situa\u021bie.<\/p>\n

C. Complimentul insult\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0102sta vine de la femei, pentru c\u0103 nu mul\u021bi b\u0103rba\u021bi rom\u00e2ni posed\u0103 arta de a persifla cu dou\u0103 t\u0103i\u0219uri. Masculul rom\u00e2n ghiolban te face direct ur\u00e2t\u0103 \u0219i proast\u0103 \u0219i groh\u0103ie a satisfac\u021bie c\u0103 te-a dominat verbal.<\/p>\n

Femeile, fiind sexul dotat cu mai pu\u021bin\u0103 for\u021b\u0103 fizic\u0103, au supravie\u021buit prin arta cuvintelor. \u0218i r\u0103zboaiele dintre dou\u0103 femei sunt prioritar verbale. Dac\u0103 ai chef s\u0103 stai \u00eentr-un astfel de r\u0103zboi. C\u0103 eu mi le aleg doar pe cele cu miz\u0103 mare \u0219i le reduc la t\u0103cere pe cele care nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103.<\/p>\n

So. Dac\u0103 Gigica te complimenteaz\u0103 \u00eentr-un mod care s\u0103 includ\u0103 \u0219i insulta la pachet, po\u021bi:<\/p>\n

a) S\u0103 te prefaci c\u0103 vezi doar complimentul la valoare nominal\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103-i mul\u021bume\u0219ti c\u0103lduros. O s\u0103 crape de oftic\u0103 dac\u0103 veninul ei s-a irosit \u00een gol.<\/p>\n

b) S\u0103 o call out. V\u0103d ce faci \u0219i nu \u021bine cu mine.<\/p>\n

c) S\u0103 double down cu un compliment – insult\u0103 care s-o scoat\u0103 pe ea de pe \u0219ine.<\/p>\n

D) Complimentul fake.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u0103 zicem c\u0103 ai stat acas\u0103 de Covid \u0219i ai f\u0103cut un c c\u00e2t China. Vine Saveta cea mieroas\u0103, vrea nu \u0219tiu ce de la tine \u0219i \u00eencepe: Vaaai, fat\u0103, ce ai sl\u0103bit.<\/p>\n

Tu \u0219tii c\u0103 te-ai \u00eengr\u0103\u0219at. Ai \u0219i ochi, ai \u0219i oglind\u0103. Po\u021bi fie s\u0103 mergi pe calea ironiei: Da, mai am pu\u021bin \u0219i m\u0103 usuc complet, vrei \u0219i tu re\u021beta, sau po\u021bi reteza direct tentativa: Nu e nevoie s\u0103 m\u0103 pupi \u00een c, zi direct ce vrei. Iar eu \u00ee\u021bi spun dac\u0103 se poate sau nu.<\/p>\n

Cum \u021bi-e \u0219i \u021bie firea.<\/p>\n

*<\/b><\/p>\n

Indiferent cum ar fi, e important s\u0103 \u0219tii c\u0103 un compliment nu te oblig\u0103 la nimic \u0219i nu ai de ce s\u0103 cazi prad\u0103 manipul\u0103rii de tip: eu te laud, \u0219i apoi scot de la tine ce vreau. Iar dac\u0103 Gogu te jigne\u0219te unde a \u00een\u0103l\u021bat osanale, pe motiv de refuz \u00een amor, problema e la Gogu, educa\u021bia lui precar\u0103 \u0219i misecuvenismul abject. Raportat la superiori dac\u0103 e la munc\u0103, scos cu totul din via\u021ba ta dac\u0103 e \u00een via\u021ba personal\u0103.<\/p>\n

Dar un compliment onest \u00ee\u021bi poate da energie pozitiv\u0103 \u0219i inspira\u021bie, de aceea e important s\u0103 nu le tratezi pe toate la fel.<\/p>\n

Sper c\u0103 \u021bi-am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n

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