{"id":20389,"date":"2020-09-14T09:43:48","date_gmt":"2020-09-14T06:43:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=20389"},"modified":"2020-09-14T09:43:48","modified_gmt":"2020-09-14T06:43:48","slug":"posta-redactiei-si-eu-am-doi-iubiti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-si-eu-am-doi-iubiti\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u015fta redac\u0163iei: \u015ei eu am doi iubi\u0163i"},"content":{"rendered":"
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  1. Periodic, ar\u0103t\u0103m iubire cititorului nostru. De c\u00e2nd cu pandemia, cititorul nostru ne scrie zilnic \u015fi \u00eei ar\u0103t\u0103m exces de iubire. Dar, cum rubrica Po\u015fta redac\u0163iei are nenum\u0103ra\u0163i fani, nu ne sup\u0103r\u0103m. Scrie\u0163i-mi \u00een continuare problemele voastre pe birou@lorenalupu.com (f\u0103r\u0103 “s\u0103 nu publici pe blog”( \u015fi eu v\u0103 r\u0103spund \u00eentr-un articol anonim cu idei, sugestii, p\u0103reri.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Misiva de azi zice a\u015fa:<\/p>\n

    Drag\u0103 Lorena,\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    \u0162i-a scris o fat\u0103 care avea doi iubi\u0163i c\u0103 vrea obligatoriu s\u0103 aleag\u0103, mi-a pl\u0103cut r\u0103spunsul t\u0103u \u015fi am hot\u0103r\u00e2t s\u0103-\u0163i scriu \u015fi eu.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Am 22 de ani, sunt student\u0103, sunt foarte frumu\u015fic\u0103. Nu m\u0103 laud, \u00ee\u0163i spun doar cum st\u0103 treaba. Am un cont pe un site de sugar dating, de unde am cunoscut un tip matur, c\u0103s\u0103torit, cu care am o rela\u0163ie foarte ok, cu sus\u0163inere financiar\u0103 foarte generoas\u0103, ce-mi acoper\u0103 costurile vie\u0163ii de student\u0103, distrac\u0163iile, orice \u00eemi doresc.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Din facultate am cunoscut un alt b\u0103iat, cu doi ani mai mare, care m\u0103 place foarte mult pentru felul meu de a fi, ie\u015fim \u00eempreun\u0103 peste tot \u015fi ne sim\u0163im foarte bine \u00eempreun\u0103, dar el nu prea are bani. Are un job part-time, dar nu are de unde s\u0103 cheltuiasc\u0103 ca primul \u015fi nici nu m\u0103 a\u015ftept.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Mie \u00eemi super convine via\u0163a mea a\u015fa cum e acum. \u00cemi place \u015fi varietatea sexual\u0103 pe care o am cu cei doi iubi\u0163i ai mei \u015fi m\u0103 simt perfect satisf\u0103cut\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Problema e c\u0103 \u00een ultima vreme tipul de la facultate vrea neap\u0103rat s\u0103 fiu numai cu el, s\u0103 avem exclusivitate. Eu \u00eel plac mult, dar nu at\u00e2t de mult \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 pierd banii de la sugar daddy.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Cum s\u0103 fac s\u0103 renun\u0163e la ideea de exclusivitate \u015fi s\u0103 fim ca p\u00e2n\u0103 acum?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Te pup \u015fi felicit\u0103ri pentru tot ce faci,\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    X.<\/strong><\/p>\n

    ***<\/p>\n

    Drag\u0103 X,<\/p>\n

    E foarte complicat c\u00e2nd cuiva \u00eei intr\u0103 \u00een cap c\u0103 vrea exclusivitate cu tine. Probabil c\u0103 urmeaz\u0103 etal\u0103ri de orgolii, \u015fantaj emo\u0163ional, “te spun lu’ m\u0103-ta c\u0103 faci sugar dating”, cold treatment \u015fi alte manevre din arsenalul boyfriendului nedrept\u0103\u0163it.<\/p>\n

    Cred c\u0103 \u00een aceast\u0103 situa\u0163ie, tensiunea emo\u0163ional\u0103 e prea mare s\u0103 po\u0163i prevedea un final clar \u015fi u\u015for de anticipat, pentru c\u0103, \u00een func\u0163ie de temperamentul \u015fi personalitatea b\u0103iatului, poate merge \u00een multiple moduri.<\/p>\n

    Eu, s\u0103 fiu \u00een locul t\u0103u, a\u015f \u00eencerca \u00eentr-o prim\u0103 faz\u0103 discu\u0163ia de adul\u0163i: “\u00cemi pare r\u0103u, am nevoie de sus\u0163inerea financiar\u0103 a lui Cut\u0103rescu, nu pot renun\u0163a acum la ea, iar dac\u0103 pentru tine e inacceptabil, e\u015fti liber s\u0103 iei ce decizie vrei \u015fi o voi respecta”. Sigur, dac\u0103 el e foarte imatur \u015fi self-centered, o s\u0103-i sune a “mi se rupe pl de tine”, dar e un risc pe care trebuie s\u0103-l \u00eenfrun\u0163i.<\/p>\n

    Scuz\u0103-mi o mic\u0103 r\u0103utate, dar nu m\u0103 pot ab\u0163ine s\u0103 nu o scriu: Dac\u0103 pxla a fost bun\u0103, acum trebuie s\u0103 te descurci \u015fi cu restul de celule ata\u015fat de ea. (Mam\u0103\u0103, ce crize de isterie de la b\u0103rb\u0103tu\u015fi angoasa\u0163i o s\u0103-mi vin\u0103 acum \u00een rubrica de comentarii, lol.)<\/p>\n

    Dac\u0103 decide s\u0103 plece, respec\u0163i asta. \u00cen fond, e dreptul lui s\u0103 viseze la o iubit\u0103 numai a lui, iar dac\u0103 tu nu po\u0163i fi acea femeie din varii motive, let him find the one. Dac\u0103 decide s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103, bafta \u015fi \u015fpaga ta. Dar po\u0163i ob\u0163ine asta numai prin comunicare straightforward.<\/p>\n

    Ce nu \u00ee\u0163i recomand s\u0103 faci e s\u0103 \u00eencepi s\u0103 min\u0163i, s\u0103 \u00eempaci \u015fi capra \u015fi varza. Min\u0163itul e daraver\u0103 complicat\u0103, pentru c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 \u0163ii minte ce ai min\u0163it data trecut\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 brodezi peste, c\u0103 altfel \u00eencepe s\u0103 se vad\u0103 cus\u0103tura cu a\u0163\u0103 alb\u0103, \u015fi tot ce ob\u0163ii e ne\u00eencredere \u015fi frustrare.<\/p>\n

    Nu po\u0163i oferi acum exclusivitate? Nu promite nimic de genul, nici pentru acum, nici pentru luna viitoare, nici pentru “de cum rezolv\u0103m cu taxa pe semestrul \u0103sta”. Fii onest\u0103 legat de beneficiile care te \u0163in \u00een situa\u0163ie, \u015fi dac\u0103 omul prime\u0219te argumente s\u0103-\u0163i \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103 situa\u0163ia, poate c\u0103 o ia cum este. Sau poate nu, dar tu m\u0103car ai \u00eencercat.<\/p>\n

    Distractiv oricum c\u0103 \u0103sta vrea rela\u0163ie stabil\u0103 cu o sugar baby, dar dac\u0103 nimerea vreo amorezat\u0103 care s\u0103-i fac\u0103 toate poftele \u015fi s\u0103-l caute la ou\u0163e, se d\u0103dea indisponibil emo\u0163ional. \ud83d\ude00<\/p>\n

    Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost m\u0103car pu\u0163in util\u0103,<\/p>\n

    Lorena.<\/p>\n

    ***<\/p>\n

    Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, pute\u021bi sus\u0163ine activitatea siteului cu o dona\u0163ie.<\/p>\n

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