{"id":20406,"date":"2020-09-17T09:44:07","date_gmt":"2020-09-17T06:44:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=20406"},"modified":"2020-09-17T09:44:07","modified_gmt":"2020-09-17T06:44:07","slug":"posta-redactiei-in-capcana-deciziilor-proaste","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-in-capcana-deciziilor-proaste\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei: \u00cen capcana deciziilor proaste"},"content":{"rendered":"

Periodic (a se citi zilnic) oferim iubire cititorului nostru fidel. Voi \u00eemi scrie\u021bi un mail cu o problem\u0103 stringent\u0103, ap\u0103s\u0103toare \u0219i care nu sufer\u0103 am\u00e2nare, pe birou@lorenalupu.com, iar eu identific posibile solu\u021bii, pe care le pute\u021bi aplica. Sau nu. Cel mai probabil nu, dar m\u0103car ne distr\u0103m.<\/p>\n

\u0218i misiva de azi zice a\u0219a:<\/p>\n

Bun\u0103, Lorena!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Situa\u021bia mea este urm\u0103toarea. Am realizat c\u0103 via\u021ba este un rahat, iar totul este doar din vina mea. \u00cen ultimii trei ani am luat fix cele mai proaste decizii, am gre\u0219it mult \u0219i habar nu am avut cum s\u0103 m\u0103 bucur de via\u021b\u0103. \u00cens\u0103 revela\u021bia asta a venit abia \u00een urm\u0103 cu o lun\u0103, iar de atunci nu mai pot sc\u0103pa de ea. M-am l\u0103sat influen\u021bat \u00een fiecare ac\u021biune pe care am f\u0103cut-o \u0219i mi-am dat seama c\u0103 dac\u0103 a\u0219 fi f\u0103cut lucrurile altfel, dup\u0103 placul meu, situa\u021bia de fa\u021b\u0103 ar fi fost cu totul alta.<\/strong><\/div>\n
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\u00cen momentul de fa\u021b\u0103, simt c\u0103 tr\u0103iesc o via\u021b\u0103 care nu e a mea \u0219i care m\u0103 face tot mai nefericit pe zi ce trece. Aproape c\u0103 am renun\u021bat definitiv la pasiunile \u0219i hobby-urile care m\u0103 f\u0103ceau fericit, iar \u00een timpul liber nu m\u0103 simt ca\u00a0mai mult dec\u00e2t o legum\u0103. Nu trece zi \u00een care s\u0103 nu am g\u00e2nduri negre, \u00eens\u0103 din fericire, nu am ajuns \u00eenc\u0103 s\u0103 comit fapte necugetate \u0219i sper s\u0103 nu ajung prea cur\u00e2nd \u00een acest punct.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Tot ce \u00eemi doresc \u00een acest moment este s\u0103 pot da timpul \u00een urm\u0103 cu trei ani \u0219i s\u0103 fac lucrurile a\u0219a cum trebuie, astfel \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 fiu fericit \u0219i mul\u021bumit de propriile decizii. \u0218tiu c\u0103 este imposibil, dar \u00eenc\u0103 continui s\u0103 sper \u00eentr-o minune care s\u0103 m\u0103 duc\u0103 \u00eenapoi \u00een punctul din care au \u00eenceput toate relele \u0219i s\u0103 am \u0219ansa de a-mi repara via\u021ba. A\u0219 renun\u021ba p\u00e2n\u0103 \u0219i la realiz\u0103rile din ace\u0219ti ani doar ca s\u0103 am oportunitatea de a porni de la zero \u0219i de a face lucrurile a\u0219a cum trebuie.<\/strong><\/div>\n
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So, dac\u0103 nu ai vreo ma\u0219in\u0103 a timpului care nu-\u021bi mai trebuie \u0219i pe care s-a pus praful, m-ar ajuta m\u0103car un sfat care s\u0103 m\u0103 scape de g\u00e2ndurile negre pe care le tot am de c\u00e2teva s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni \u00eencoace.<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Mult succes \u00een continuare,<\/strong><\/div>\n
X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Drag\u0103 X,<\/div>\n
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Nu doar c\u0103 nu am o ma\u0219in\u0103 a timpului, dar s\u0103-\u021bi spun un alt lucru pe care nu \u00eel am. U ready? Ei, bine, drag\u0103 X, al doilea lucru pe care nu \u00eel de\u021bin p\u0103 persoan\u0103 fizic\u0103, \u0219i nici m\u0103car pe PFA, e un glob de cristal. Sau abilitatea de a ghici \u00een cafea.<\/div>\n
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Tu \u00eemi dai cel mai vag mail din toat\u0103 rubrica, nu \u00eemi spui care e problema, sau care sunt problemele, ce ai f\u0103cut gre\u0219it, cui ai gre\u0219it, dar te a\u0219tep\u021bi ca eu s\u0103 dau sfaturi pertinente pe baz\u0103 de nimic? \u00cen ce consideri tu c\u0103 ghicesc eu? \u00cen bobi? \u00cen urina de diminea\u021b\u0103? \u00cemi apare Isus \u00een ciorb\u0103 \u0219i-mi d\u0103 magic r\u0103spunsuri?<\/div>\n
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Seriously. Dac\u0103 vrei r\u0103spunsuri pertinente \u0219i aplicate pe concret, trebuie s\u0103-mi dai date suficiente s\u0103 am pe ce s\u0103 m\u0103 bazez.<\/div>\n
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P\u00e2n\u0103 una alta, bazat pe ce mi-ai scris p\u00e2n\u0103 acum, observ o meteahn\u0103 a caracterelor slabe. \u0218i anume, pasarea responsabilit\u0103\u021bii pentru decizii gre\u0219ite cu “am fost influen\u0163at”.<\/div>\n
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Am luat \u015fi eu mun\u0163i de decizii gre\u015fite \u00een via\u0163a mea. Dar realitatea e c\u0103 nu ne l\u0103s\u0103m influen\u0163a\u0163i dec\u00e2t de opiniile care reflect\u0103 ceea ce ne dorim \u00een secret. Dac\u0103 un om roste\u015fte cu voce tare scenariul spre care t\u00e2njim, zicem dadada, apoi facem ceea ce spune PENTRU C\u0102 DEJA NE DOREAM RESPECTIVUL LUCRU.<\/div>\n
Sau dac\u0103 pic\u0103m sub influen\u0163a proast\u0103 a lui iubi \/ \u015feful \/whatever de fapt o facem din nevoia de a primi sex \/ bani \/ apreciere.<\/div>\n
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Cert e c\u0103, oric\u00e2t de proast\u0103 ar fi decizia, e a ta \u015fi \u0163i-o asumi.<\/div>\n
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E extrem de convenabil s\u0103-i acuzi mereu pe al\u0163ii, c\u0103 nu trebuie s\u0103 lup\u0163i cu propria con\u015ftiin\u0163\u0103 care \u00ee\u0163i murmur\u0103 c\u0103 e\u015fti un vax, dar adev\u0103rata maturizare intervine abia cu “Mam\u0103, ce idiot irecuperabil am fost. OK, poate nu chiar irecuperabil. S\u0103 vedem ce \u015fi cum putem recupera”.<\/div>\n
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F\u0103-\u0163i o list\u0103 cu lucrurile pe care le po\u0163i schimba. Un job mai bun. Mai bine pl\u0103tit. Un al doilea job. Desp\u0103r\u0163ire, dac\u0103 e\u015fti cu o individ\u0103 toxic\u0103. Chirie nou\u0103. Dac\u0103 ai copii: moduri \u00een care te po\u0163i apropia de ei. Whatever. Aici pot doar specula, pentru c\u0103 nu mi-ai oferit nimic palpabil la care s\u0103 m\u0103 refer.<\/div>\n
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C\u00e2t timp e\u015fti viu, via\u0163a ta se poate schimba. E treaba ta s\u0103 descoperi \u00een ce mod. Sau pot sugera eu moduri, c\u00e2nd ACTUALLY descrii problemele.<\/div>\n
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\u015ei \u00een general, c\u00e2nd e\u015fti foarte ocupat s\u0103 reconstruie\u015fti, nu prea ai timp de g\u00e2nduri negre.<\/div>\n
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Sper c\u0103 am fost c\u00e2t se poate de util\u0103 \u00een condi\u0163iile precare oferite de tine,<\/div>\n
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Lorena.<\/div>\n
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