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<\/p>\nAm o amic\u0103 dintr-un ora\u015f mic de provincie. O fat\u0103 simpatic\u0103, funny \u015fi open-minded. Tipa asta a fost \u00eentr-o rela\u0163ie long term cu un tr\u00e2ntor. Adic\u0103: la \u00eenceput, el a aburit-o cu c\u00e2te are \u015fi ce influen\u0163\u0103, ea i-a \u00eemprumutat sume mari de bani, \u015fi de la un punct \u00eencolo, st\u0103tea \u00een rela\u0163ie doar din iner\u0163ia ideii c\u0103 \u00eentr-o zi \u00ee\u015fi recupereaz\u0103 banii \u00eemprumuta\u0163i, timp \u00een care \u00eel \u0163inea pe \u0103sta pe post de plant\u0103 de apartament, \u00een sensul c\u0103 \u00eel \u00eentre\u0163inea exclusiv din micul ei business.<\/p>\n
Dup\u0103 un timp, a pocnit-o revela\u0163ia c\u0103 oricum nu vei vedea banii \u00eenapoi vreodat\u0103 de la cineva care st\u0103 legum\u0103 pe capul t\u0103u, dar m\u0103car \u00ee\u015fi poate elibera op\u0163iunile, drept care i-a dat tr\u00e2ntorului papucii.<\/p>\n
\u00cen secunda imediat urm\u0103toare, \u0103la s-a h\u0103rnicit brusc. Dar nu \u00een sensul bun al cuv\u00e2ntului. A \u00eenceput s\u0103-i scrie mailuri cu amenin\u0163\u0103ri explicite fetei noastre, cum c\u0103 dac\u0103 nu se \u00eentoarce la el, el nu mai are nimic de pierdut \u015fi e gata de orice. Apoi, a \u00eenceput s-o terorizeze. Cu mesaje de pe conturi fake de Facebook. Cu SMS trimise prin diverse apps care relocau \u0163ara de provenien\u0163\u0103. Mesaje \u015fi telefoane violente la adresa familiei, inclusiv a mamei b\u0103tr\u00e2ne, care numai de genul \u0103sta de rahat n-are nevoie.<\/p>\n
A \u00eenceput s\u0103 depun\u0103 pl\u00e2ngeri \u015fi s\u0103-i trimit\u0103 pe firm\u0103 controale de peste tot, de la ANAF la Sanepid \u015fi la Poli\u0163ia Local\u0103. Se pare c\u0103 ceva influen\u0163\u0103 are, totu\u015fi, dar n-o poate folosi dec\u00e2t la mizerii.<\/p>\n
I-a spart cauciucurile \u00eentr-o noapte.
\n\u00cempr\u0103\u015ftie prin or\u0103\u015felul \u0103la de provincie zvonuri calomnioase legate de amica mea. Femeilor le spune c\u0103 s-a culcat cu b\u0103rba\u0163ii lor, b\u0103rba\u0163ilor c\u0103 e u\u015furatic\u0103. S\u0103 nu spun termenul. O parte din popula\u021bie \u00eel crede.<\/p>\n
Prietena mea merge cu regularitate la poli\u0163ie, de c\u00e2te ori prime\u015fte \u00eenc\u0103 un mesaj psihopat. \u0218i de c\u00e2te ori i se mai \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 un incident.<\/p>\n
Iar poli\u0163ia local\u0103 nu reu\u015fe\u015fte s\u0103 lege mailurile amenin\u0163\u0103toare semnate de prost cu m\u00e2na lui – “nu am nimic de pierdut \u015fi voi face orice”, cu toate acele apeluri \u015fi mesaje suspecte din re\u0163ele str\u0103ine, din \u0163\u0103ri \u00een care fata asta n-a fost niciodat\u0103.<\/p>\n
C\u00e2t de greu o fi, dac\u0103 tipa asta are un singur calomniator \u00een tot ora\u015ful?<\/p>\n
\u015ei tot poli\u0163ia \u00eei d\u0103 fetei mele, iar \u0219i iar, sfatul \u0103la care m\u0103 scoate din min\u0163i: “ignor\u0103-l”.<\/p>\n
Genul de sfat care, \u00een absen\u0163a ripostei, a dat putere \u015fi a \u00eencurajat bullies idio\u0163i din toate timpurile.<\/p>\n
S\u0103 ne amintim de b\u0103t\u0103u\u015ful clasei. Cum domina\u0163ia lui era complet\u0103 c\u00e2nd victimele, speriate \u015fi pierite, t\u0103ceau \u00een col\u0163 \u015fi “ignorau” – se rugau cerurilor ca bully-ul s\u0103 nu se ia de ei azi. \u015ei singura persoan\u0103 care sp\u0103rgea domina\u0163ia era cea care \u00eentreba pe un ton foarte matter of fact: “Dar cine pizza m\u0103-tii te crezi tu, b\u0103i, spartule?”.<\/p>\n
Refuz s\u0103 cred c\u0103 poli\u0163ia nu \u015ftie acest adev\u0103r simplu. C\u0103 un bully poate fi dezarmat doar dac\u0103 pui tu m\u00e2na s\u0103-l dezarmezi \u015fi c\u0103 ignoratul \u00eenchide doar victima \u00eentr-un cerc vicios al t\u0103cerii, izol\u0103rii \u015fi autocenzurii.<\/p>\n
Ca dovad\u0103 c\u0103 prietena mea vrea s\u0103-\u015fi \u00eenchid\u0103 social media – unde \u00ee\u015fi f\u0103cea publicitate pentru micul business \u015fi g\u0103sea cliente. \u015ei chiar ia \u00een considerare s\u0103 lase \u00een urm\u0103 vadul comercial format \u00een acel ora\u015f. De frica prostului.<\/p>\n
Eu, s\u0103 fi fost ea, pl\u0103team rake\u0163i s\u0103-l bat\u0103 pe \u0103la p\u00e2n\u0103 kk s\u00e2nge \u015fi s\u0103-l calce fix pe m\u00e2inile care nu-s bune de muncit \u015fi de pus o p\u00e2ine pe mas\u0103, dar sunt bune de tastat mailuri, mesaje cu amenin\u0163\u0103ri \u015fi reclama\u0163ii false.\u00a0 A\u015f \u00eentoarce tot or\u0103\u015felul \u0103la cu dosul \u00een sus s\u0103 aflu ce mizerii a mai f\u0103cut \u015fi cui. Le-a\u015f c\u0103uta pe toate fostele, \u015fi dac\u0103 a avut un pattern similar abuziv r\u0103zbun\u0103tor \u015fi cu ele. \u015ei mai cu seam\u0103: a\u015f l\u0103sa wallul de Facebook public \u015fi a\u015f face serialul Imbecilul care m\u0103 h\u0103r\u0163uie\u015fte, cu print screens zi de zi \u015fi ironii s\u0103 r\u00e2d\u0103 popula\u0163ia.<\/p>\n
Pentru c\u0103 pe un kkt cu ochi agresiv \u015fi psihopat nu \u00eel opre\u015fte cel ce tremur\u0103 de fric\u0103 \u00een col\u0163, ci cel ce \u00eei fwte Dumnezeii p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00eenapoi \u00een punctul originar, c\u00e2nd la \u00eenceput a fost lumina, apoi \u00eei fwte \u015fi lumina. C\u00e2nd a\u015f termina eu cu zdrean\u0163a aia infect\u0103, care nu se calific\u0103 la titlul de b\u0103rbat din nici un punct de vedere, s-ar ruga s\u0103-i vin\u0103 sf\u00e2\u015fitul mai repede, \u015fi cu anestezie dac\u0103 se poate.<\/p>\n
\u015ei un cuv\u00e2nt adresat poli\u0163iei locale: nup, ignoratul nu rezolv\u0103 nimic \u015fi voi \u015fti\u0163i asta. Ca dovad\u0103 c\u0103, dac\u0103 cineva d\u0103 o spargere \u00eentr-o cas\u0103 \u015fi fur\u0103 banii, bijuteriile \u015fi ultimul iPhone, recomandarea nu e s\u0103-l ignori, c\u0103 poate \u00eel descoper\u0103 singur pe Isus, ci s\u0103-l arestezi, s\u0103-l duci la sec\u0163ie \u015fi apoi, s\u0103-i demonstrezi vinov\u0103\u0163ia, s\u0103-l condamni \u015fi s\u0103-l bagi la p\u00e2rnaie.<\/p>\n
De ce lini\u015ftea unei femei e mai\u00a0 prejos \u015fi mai neimportant\u0103 dec\u00e2t furtul de g\u0103ini? De ce nu exist\u0103 o lege, \u015fi dac\u0103 exist\u0103, de ce nu se aplic\u0103?<\/p>\n
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