Am tot ezitat s\u0103-\u0163i scriu, dar chiar am nevoie de un sfat. E o problem\u0103 urgent\u0103 \u015fi sincer, nu mai pot cu certurile. Am nevoie de o minte limpede de afar\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00cen 2008, l-am n\u0103scut pe fiul meu A. \u00cen 2009, mi-am f\u0103cut cont de Facebook \u015fi mie, \u015fi, pentru c\u0103 era un bebelu\u015f frumos ca un \u00eengera\u0219, \u015fi lui. Pe atunci nu se g\u00e2ndea nimeni la perver\u015fi care se uit\u0103 la pozele copiilor, \u015fi mie \u00eemi pl\u0103cea s\u0103 postez \u00een fiecare poze superbe cu A \u015fi pove\u015fti din via\u0163a lui. Cuvintele pe care le \u00eenv\u0103\u0163a, cum a \u00eenceput s\u0103 mearg\u0103, c\u00e2t de mult \u00eel iubea pe c\u0103\u0163elul nostru, ce dr\u0103gu\u0163i erau \u00eempreun\u0103, ce \u00eentreb\u0103ri amuzante punea, primul lui desen. \u015ei a\u015fa mai departe, nu te plictisesc cu detalii.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Normal c\u0103 scriam post\u0103rile din perspectiva lui \u015fi r\u0103spundeam la comentarii, dar nu mi se p\u0103rea nimic gre\u015fit. Era puiul meu de om, bebelu\u015ful meu, era principala mea preocupare, sensul vie\u021bii mele, iar prietenelor le pl\u0103cea s\u0103 citeasc\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 comenteze ce facem \u00een fiecare zi. Multe aveau \u015fi ele bebeii lor. <\/strong><\/p>\n Acum, A are 12 ani \u015fi zice c\u0103 \u00eei e foarte ru\u015fine de contul \u0103la \u015fi c\u0103 nu \u00eel reprezint\u0103 cu nimic. \u015ei c\u0103 tonul meu siropos i se pare vulgar. Insist\u0103 de c\u00e2teva luni s\u0103-l \u015fterg \u015fi \u00een ultima vreme \u00eemi promite c\u0103 pune lumea s\u0103-l raporteze ca fake account \u015fi furt de identitate.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Asta m\u0103 face s\u0103 suf\u0103r foarte tare, pentru c\u0103 e vorba de o mul\u0163ime de poze frumoase din copil\u0103ria lui A, de toate amintirile noastre comune, \u015fi c\u00e2nd \u00eemi spune ce ru\u015fine \u00eei e de contul \u0103la, m\u0103 simt ca \u015fi cum mi-ar spune c\u0103 \u00eei e ru\u015fine de mine.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Cred c\u0103 am dreptul, ca mam\u0103, s\u0103 p\u0103strez aceste amintiri, \u015fi nu \u015ftiu ce s\u0103 fac s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103 \u015fi A c\u0103 m\u0103 r\u0103ne\u015fte foarte tare degeaba.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Ce s\u0103-i spun, s\u0103-l conving s\u0103 nu \u015ftearg\u0103 contul?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Te pup,\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n X<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Drag\u0103 X,<\/p>\n \u00ce\u0163i \u00een\u0163eleg sentimentele. Gre\u015fit, nu \u0163i le \u00een\u0163eleg, pentru c\u0103 nu am copii \u015fi nu am trecut prin tot ce ai trecut tu, dar pot empatiza cu suferin\u0163a ta.<\/p>\n Colac peste pup\u0103z\u0103, legal, A. are dreptate. Ce faci tu e un furt de identitate. Legal, A are dreptul s\u0103-\u015fi controleze propria imagine, iar dac\u0103 el nu vrea poze la trei ani \u00een coco\u015felul gol pe net, e dreptul lui.<\/p>\n Cei care face\u0163i conturi de social media pe numele bebelu\u015filor nu v\u0103 g\u00e2ndi\u0163i nici o clip\u0103 c\u0103 \u00eentr-o zi ace\u015ftia vor fi oameni \u00een toat\u0103 firea cu dreptul la propria identitate. \u015ei ar trebui s-o face\u0163i. Copiii nu sunt pets, nu sunt propriet\u0103\u0163i, \u015fi un cont f\u0103cut bebelu\u015fului ESTE furt de identitate. Indiferent de noble\u0163ea inten\u0163iei tale adorabile de a documenta via\u0163a copilului.<\/p>\n Uite ce solu\u0163ie de compromis am pentru tine. Seteaz\u0103 contul pe privat, s\u0103-l vezi doar tu. Sau pe custom, cu un grup extrem de mic de prietene, cele cu care erai tovar\u0103\u015f\u0103 de m\u0103micie.<\/p>\n Redenume\u015fte-l Vasile Roait\u0103. C\u0103 \u0103la, s\u0103racul, a murit \u015fi nu te mai poate reclama pentru furt de identitate.<\/p>\n A\u015fa, tu r\u0103m\u00e2i cu poza dr\u0103gu\u0163\u0103 de la mare unde el sugea col\u0163ul prosopului la doi ani, pentru c\u0103 \u00eei era foame \u015fi \u00eenc\u0103 visa la al\u0103ptat, \u015fi el are un istoric de internet clean, f\u0103r\u0103 imagini jenante care s\u0103-i afecteze imaginea de mascool cool, care s-a n\u0103scut direct cu Ray Ban pe nas.<\/p>\n Accept\u0103 ideea c\u0103 pu\u015ftiul intr\u0103 \u00een adolescen\u0163\u0103 \u015fi c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103-l la\u015fi s\u0103-\u015fi formeze personalitatea. \u015ei c\u0103 pozele de la\u00a0 serbarea grupei mici \u00eel pun \u00een ipostaze jenante \u00een fa\u0163a g\u0103\u015ftii lui cool, ca \u015fi el.<\/p>\n \u015etii c\u00e2nd va aprecia amintirile din contul \u0103sta? Pe la 30 de ani, sau pu\u0163in peste, c\u00e2nd nostalgia copil\u0103riei va izbi, iar nevoia de a se conforma stilului celor din jur se va evapora.<\/p>\n P\u00e2n\u0103 atunci, respect\u0103 nevoile \u015fi boundaries-urile copilului.<\/p>\n Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n Lorena.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, pute\u021bi sus\u0163ine activitatea siteului cu o dona\u0163ie.<\/p>\n *** ***<\/p>\n Ascult\u0103 Jet pe Spotify<\/a><\/strong>, cump\u0103r\u0103 piesa pe iTunes<\/strong><\/a> sau pe Amazon Music<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. Nu carnal, teluric sau metafizic, ci prin aceast\u0103 minunat\u0103 rubric\u0103. Ai o problem\u0103 \u015fi nu-i dai de cap\u0103t? 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