{"id":20599,"date":"2020-10-18T10:11:52","date_gmt":"2020-10-18T07:11:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=20599"},"modified":"2020-10-18T10:11:52","modified_gmt":"2020-10-18T07:11:52","slug":"posta-redactiei-e-iubire-sau-deceptie","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-e-iubire-sau-deceptie\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u015fta redac\u0163iei: E iubire sau decep\u0163ie?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. El sau ea ne descrie exact ce \u00eel \/ o apas\u0103 pe corason printr-un mail pe birou@lorenalupu.com, \u0219i noi venim cu idei, p\u0103reri, posibile solu\u021bii, pe care cititorul oricum nu le aplic\u0103, dar m\u0103car ne distr\u0103m.<\/p>\n

Misiva de azi zice a\u0219a:<\/p>\n

Bun\u0103, Lorena,<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Am \u0219i eu o dilem\u0103 moral\u0103 \u0219i sunt super curioas\u0103 ce p\u0103rere ai \u00een leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu asta. Legat de tipi \u0219i cum func\u021bioneaz\u0103 \u00een rela\u021bie cu noi, femeile.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
Este vorba de tatonarea aceea cu un tip, c\u00e2nd nu sunte\u021bi \u00eempreun\u0103, dar nici nu sunte\u021bi doar prieteni, dar \u0219tii c\u0103 te place, pentru c\u0103 \u021bi-a spus \u00eentr-un moment de euforie. \u0218i la un moment dat, la o perioad\u0103 dup\u0103 acea declara\u021bie \u00eenfl\u0103c\u0103rat\u0103 \u0219i dup\u0103 ce ai mai petrecut ni\u0219te timp cu d\u00e2nsul, \u00ee\u021bi dai seama c\u0103 \u0219i tu \u00eel placi \u0219i \u00eei spui la un moment dat c\u00e2nd sim\u021bi c\u0103 e momentul potrivit. \u0218i nimic. \u0218i evident c\u0103 \u00eencepi s\u0103 te g\u00e2nde\u0219ti, ca orice fiin\u021b\u0103 ra\u021bional\u0103, c\u0103 declara\u021bia lui era de fapt doar legat\u0103 de atrac\u021bia fizic\u0103 \u0219i c\u0103 poate te consider\u0103 o persoan\u0103 mi\u0219to \u0219i at\u00e2t. Dar atunci de ce pisicii t\u0103i te invit\u0103 \u00een diverse contexte sociale, \u00ee\u021bi face cuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103 cu prietenii lui, \u00een fa\u021ba c\u0103rora se comport\u0103 cu tine de parc\u0103 ai fi iubita lui, \u00ee\u021bi g\u0103te\u0219te, \u00ee\u021bi face cinste, se muleaz\u0103 dup\u0103 tine \u0219i programul t\u0103u, mai c\u0103 nu \u00ee\u021bi d\u0103 luna de pe cer? :))<\/strong><\/div>\n
Te g\u00e2nde\u0219ti c\u0103 poate o ia lent \u0219i pe etape, dar tu ca o moldoveanc\u0103 veritabil\u0103, arzi s\u0103 \u00eel posezi tandru \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eel faci fericit. :))) Am exagerat pu\u021bin, dar \u00een\u021belegi la ce m\u0103 refer.<\/strong><\/div>\n
Of, \u0219i de specificat c\u0103 omul cel pu\u021bin pare matur \u0219i stabil emo\u021bional, financiar, social \u0219i foarte bine crescut.<\/strong><\/div>\n
\u0218i acuma, \u00eentrebarea cea mare, ce ar fi cel mai indicat s\u0103 faci \u00een situa\u021bia asta, dac\u0103 nu vrei s\u0103 faci nici pe ignoranta, nici pe profitoarea \u0219i nici, poate cel mai r\u0103u, pe disperata?\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
Mul\u021bumesc anticipat de r\u0103spuns \u0219i sper c\u0103 nu \u00eencarc prea tare po\u0219ta redac\u021biei.<\/strong><\/div>\n
Mult spor \u00een continuare!<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Cu mult\u0103 stim\u0103,<\/strong><\/div>\n
X. <\/strong><\/div>\n
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Bun\u0103, X.<\/div>\n
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Tu n-ai o dilem\u0103 moral\u0103 aici, ci una amoroas\u0103. O dilem\u0103 moral\u0103 presupune un conflict \u00eentre bine, care e dezavantajos, \u0219i r\u0103ul care \u021bi-ar putea aduce profit, ca de exemplu: S-o sap pe cut\u0103reasca de la munc\u0103 s\u0103 ajung eu \u00een locul ei? sau cut\u0103rescu are nevast\u0103 \u0219i doi copii, \u0219i totu\u0219i se d\u0103 la mine, \u0219i e cel mai bogat din ora\u0219. S\u0103 intru \u00een joc \u00een ideea c\u0103 de m\u00e2ine \u00eemi pl\u0103te\u0219te el chiria?<\/div>\n
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Astea-s dileme morale. Nu v\u0103d nimic de genul \u0103sta \u00een mailul t\u0103u.<\/div>\n
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Tu probabil c\u0103 vrei s\u0103 auzi c\u0103 \u0103la te iube\u0219te \u0219i el, \u0219i c\u0103 vrea s\u0103 fi\u021bi \u00eempreun\u0103. Acum, poate c\u0103 gre\u0219esc. Nu to\u021bi b\u0103rba\u021bii sunt la fel. Exact ca femeile, mereu apare c\u00e2te unul care te face s\u0103 consta\u021bi c\u0103 nu \u0219tiai nimic despre b\u0103rba\u021bi. Dar o s\u0103 speculez pe baza experien\u021belor mele. \u0218i anume:<\/div>\n
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B\u0103iatul \u0103la este, probabil, un gay \u00een dul\u0103pior. Sau e foarte \u00eendr\u0103gostit de altcineva \u0219i nu prea are \u0219anse. Iar tu e\u0219ti “barba”.<\/div>\n
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Din experien\u0163a mea, de obicei, b\u0103rba\u0163ii care te plac \u015fi vor s\u0103 fie cu tine \u00eent\u00e2i testeaz\u0103 apele fizic, cu o \u00eembr\u0103\u0163i\u015fare, un s\u0103rut, tandre\u0163uri, \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i spun c\u0103 te plac DUP\u0102 CE au dep\u0103\u015fit bariera asta, \u015fi sunt mai siguri c\u0103 nu \u00ee\u015fi expun sufletul unui refuz.<\/div>\n
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Dac\u0103 \u0103la a zis c\u0103 te place \u00eentr-un moment de euforie, m\u0103 tem c\u0103 e cam cum spun eu c\u00e2nd vine clip cu Ricky Martin pe YouTube. “Frateee, ce frumos e\u015fti, s\u0103 mor \u00een culmile orgasmului”. Adic\u0103, exprim o apreciere, foarte euforic\u0103, dar care nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 nimic \u00een termeni de iubire \u015fi commitment.<\/div>\n
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Din faptul c\u0103 te invit\u0103 \u00een ora\u015f \u015fi te trateaz\u0103 ca pe gagic\u0103-sa, dar numai c\u00e2nd sunte\u0163i \u00een public, \u00eemi d\u0103 mie senza\u0163ii de “barb\u0103”. (Adic\u0103 fata cu care se afi\u015feaz\u0103 \u00een poblic, s\u0103 \u00eenchid\u0103 b\u00e2rfele despre sexualitatea lui, un b\u0103rbat c\u0103ruia de fapt \u00eei plac b\u0103rba\u0163ii.) \u015ei eu am fost barb\u0103 de multe ori \u00een via\u0163\u0103, \u015fi numitorul comun era public display of affection care nu era replicat cu nimic \u00eentre patru ochi.<\/div>\n
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Sau e posibil ca \u0103sta s\u0103 sufere dup\u0103 una, care e din varii motive indisponibil\u0103. \u015ei atunci s\u0103 te aib\u0103 pe tine, s\u0103 vad\u0103 lumea c\u0103 nu e un at\u00e2rnache \u015fi c\u0103 a trecut mai departe, dar, \u00eentre patru ochi, s\u0103 nu aib\u0103 de ce s\u0103 men\u0163in\u0103 mima.<\/div>\n
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C\u0103 te trateaz\u0103 frumo\u015fi, \u00ee\u0163i g\u0103te\u015fte \u015fi blabla? P\u0103i da, pentru c\u0103 un gay \u015fi barba lui formeaz\u0103 \u00een timp o prietenie mai str\u00e2ns\u0103 dec\u00e2t doi tovar\u0103\u015fi de cazarm\u0103, prin \u00eens\u0103\u015fi natura faptului c\u0103 ascund un secret \u00eempreun\u0103. \u015ei, cumva, dinamica e similar\u0103 \u015fi \u00een cazul tipului \u00eendr\u0103gostit de altcineva \u015fi fetei de umplutur\u0103. E ca un friendzone, dar unul elevat.<\/div>\n
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Pe scurt: exist\u0103, desigur, \u015fi posibilitatea ca \u0103la s\u0103 te iubeasc\u0103, dar dac\u0103 te iubea, consider\u00e2nd dezinvoltura cu care te ia acas\u0103, f\u0103cea amor cu tine de n ori. P\u0103rerea mea e c\u0103 e\u015fti \u00een friendzone \u015fi \u0163ii locul c\u0103ldu\u0163 fie pentru Romeo care o s\u0103 apar\u0103 la un moment dat, fie pentru Julieta care va deveni – sau nu – disponibil\u0103.<\/div>\n
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A\u015f sugera s\u0103-\u0163i pui pu\u0163in pofta \u00een cui. Sau, de ce nu, s\u0103 testezi dac\u0103 e interesat s\u0103 fac\u0103 dragoste cu tine. La o sesiune de cookout a voastr\u0103, te \u00eembraci \u00een ceva mai mulat \u015fi revelator, te oferi s\u0103 aju\u0163i la belit cartofi, etc., te tot atingi accidental de el, \u015fi \u00eei spui c\u0103 adori c\u00e2t de bine g\u0103te\u015fte, \u015fi de la un punct \u00eencolo, se na\u015fte de la sine un mozol. Dac\u0103 e cazul. Dac\u0103 nu simte deloc, dar deloc, chestia asta, o s\u0103 te roage frumos s\u0103 \u00eencetezi. \u015ei o s\u0103 \u015ftii c\u0103 nu e cazul.<\/div>\n
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Ideea e c\u0103 nu e foarte r\u0103u s\u0103 fii fata de umplutur\u0103. Ai al\u0103turi de tine un prieten pe care te po\u0163i baza la orice, \u015fi care s-ar duce p\u00e2n\u0103 la cap\u0103tul lumii pentru tine. C\u00e2t\u0103 lume se poate l\u0103uda cu a\u015fa ceva? Multe femei nu primesc nici un sfert din investi\u0163ia asta emo\u0163ional\u0103 de la p*l\u0103r\u0103ii de proast\u0103 calitate care vor o iubit\u0103 doar ca s\u0103 nu dea bani la c***e.<\/div>\n
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Indiferent ce ar fi, bucur\u0103-te c\u0103 este.<\/div>\n
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Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/div>\n
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Lorena.<\/div>\n
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