{"id":20737,"date":"2020-11-11T10:11:47","date_gmt":"2020-11-11T07:11:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=20737"},"modified":"2020-11-11T17:53:16","modified_gmt":"2020-11-11T14:53:16","slug":"nu-mai-fiti-atat-de-disponibile","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/nu-mai-fiti-atat-de-disponibile\/","title":{"rendered":"Nu mai fi\u021bi at\u00e2t de disponibile"},"content":{"rendered":"

Am o prieten\u0103 foarte cumsecade, loial\u0103 \u0219i inteligent\u0103. Are un singur defect: \u00ee\u0219i dore\u0219te cu ardoare o rela\u021bie. \u0218i, cum se \u0219tie, fie c\u0103 e\u0219ti b\u0103rbat, fie c\u0103 e\u0219ti femeie, dac\u0103 emi\u021bi thirsty vibes, nu se leag\u0103 nimic cu nimeni, pentru c\u0103 sexul opus va detecta instant disperarea \u0219i va fugi m\u00e2nc\u00e2nd p\u0103m\u00e2ntul.<\/p>\n

OK. Dar, \u00een ceea ce-i prive\u0219te pe b\u0103rba\u021bii thirsty dup\u0103 rela\u021bii, \u00ee\u0219i g\u0103sesc mai devreme sau mai t\u00e2rziu o femeie c\u0103reia \u00eei tic\u0103ie ceasul biologic, una care vrea copii sau are deja \u0219i-i cre\u0219te singur\u0103, situa\u021bia nu e a\u0219a grav\u0103. \u00cen schimb, femeile thirsty dup\u0103 rela\u021bii iau \u021beap\u0103 dup\u0103 \u021beap\u0103 dup\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103 o \u021beap\u0103, de zici c\u0103-s infractori pe vremea lui Vlad \u021aepe\u0219.<\/p>\n

\u0218i m\u0103 \u00eentreba prietena asta a mea: Sunt oare ur\u00e2t\u0103? Sunt neatr\u0103g\u0103toare?<\/p>\n

Nu, fat\u0103. \u0218i chiar dac\u0103 ai fi. Chiar dac\u0103 ai fi Muma P\u0103durii, de\u015fi, punctez: NU e cazul: cite\u0219te vie\u021bile c\u00e2torva dintre cele mai frumoase actri\u021be \u0219i modele \u0219i o s\u0103 vezi c\u0103 \u0219i-au luat acela\u0219i num\u0103r de \u021bepe, dac\u0103 nu chiar mai multe dec\u00e2t o femeie de zi cu zi. Nemaivorbind c\u0103 unul care te ia pe baz\u0103 de looks te va p\u0103r\u0103si la 40.<\/p>\n

\u0218i atunci?<\/p>\n

\u0218i atunci, poveste\u0219te-mi c\u00e2te ceva despre ultimele tale rela\u021bii.<\/p>\n

P\u0103i, ne cuno\u0219team, veneau pe la mine, f\u0103ceam sex…<\/p>\n

Error! Acum, cu Covid, e adev\u0103rat c\u0103 nu prea ai unde ie\u0219i. Dar dac\u0103 \u00eel iei direct acas\u0103 \u0219i i-o pui pe tav\u0103, o ia drept hookup casual \u0219i pleac\u0103.<\/p>\n

Cine m\u0103 cite\u0219te de ceva timp, \u0219tie c\u0103 eu nu sunt nici mama pudorii, nici mironosi\u021ba ortodox\u0103, nici virginica popescu. Dar cred cu t\u0103rie c\u0103 a face sex repede e extrem de gre\u0219it, c\u00e2nd tu urm\u0103re\u0219ti o rela\u021bie. \u0218i nu s\u0103 mimezi c\u0103 e\u0219ti o virtuoas\u0103 sau ceva. Ci iat\u0103 de ce.<\/p>\n

\u00cen general, \u00een mintea b\u0103rba\u021bilor, totul e despre ei, \u0219i totul e meritul lor. A\u021bi v\u0103zut duminica trecut\u0103, \u00een live-ul meu serial de Facebook Cafeaua de diminea\u021b\u0103, boul \u0103la care f\u0103cea cele mai inepte comentarii sexiste, apoi am z\u00e2mbit la ceva zis de altcineva, \u0219i boul: Aha, te-am f\u0103cut s\u0103 z\u00e2mbe\u0219ti.<\/p>\n

\u00ce\u0219i aroga un merit care nu era cu nimic al lui.<\/p>\n

OK, majoritatea b\u0103rba\u021bilor nu sunt chiar at\u00e2t de egocentrici ca boul \u0103la, dar to\u0163i au tendin\u0163e. Cei mai mul\u021bi \u00ee\u0219i \u00eencep \u015fapte\u00a0 fraze din zece cu “eu”, \u015fi c\u00e2nd se g\u00e2ndesc la o femeie, se g\u00e2ndesc automat la ce vor ei de la ea.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 tu dai ce vor ei din prima, \u015fi te concentrezi s\u0103 dai ce vor ei mereu, nu va fi meritul t\u0103u c\u0103 e\u015fti o fat\u0103 minunat\u0103, ci, \u00een mintea lor, va fi meritul lor de cuceritori c\u0103 ob\u0163in totul de la “femei”. \u00cen punctul \u00een care abia te-a \u00eent\u00e2lnit, \u015fi nu te-a descoperit cu adev\u0103rat, nici m\u0103car nu conteaz\u0103 cine e\u015fti. E\u015fti personajul generic “femei”.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 \u00eei \u015fi dai ce vrea din prima, intri la personajul generic “pxxzd\u0103”.<\/p>\n

Cu alte cuvinte, wights sexuali ai regelui Sul\u0103, la care apel\u0103m periodic \u015fi strict mecanic, pe care \u00eei ac\u0163ion\u0103m prin ridicarea bra\u0163elor \u015fi ale c\u0103ror g\u00e2nduri \u015fi sentimente sunt nule. E zgomotul \u0103la nearticulat de care facem abstrac\u0163ie. Da, \u015ftiu, trebuie s\u0103 fi v\u0103zut Game of Thrones s\u0103 identifici referin\u021ba.<\/p>\n

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Dac\u0103 zici pas, ia stai pu\u0163in, ia te\u00a0 uit\u0103 cine sunt eu, ia te uit\u0103 ce vreau eu, \u00eel sco\u0163i din mecanismul satisfacerii propriilor nevoi \u015fi at\u00e2t, \u015fi \u00eel obligi s\u0103 se autosesizeze legat de faptul c\u0103 ai un set diferit de nevoi, care sunt la fel de importante.<\/p>\n

Unii o s\u0103 dispar\u0103 \u00een acest stadiu, ceea ce e perfect ok. \u0102ia fug\u0103reau personajul generic “femei”, iar cu \u0103\u015ftia nu vrei o rela\u0163ie anyway.<\/p>\n

Al\u0163ii, \u015fi anume cei cu care e\u015fti natural compatibil\u0103, o s\u0103 \u00eenceap\u0103 s\u0103 descopere lucruri specifice \u0163ie, pe care le g\u0103sesc atr\u0103g\u0103toare. \u015ei o s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103 c\u0103 pot avea aceast\u0103 companie, dac\u0103 sunt b\u0103ie\u0163i cumsecade \u015fi respectuo\u015fi. \u015ei c\u0103 e o companie agreabil\u0103, pe care au motive s\u0103 o doreasc\u0103.<\/p>\n

A\u015fa insufli unui b\u0103rbat cu care te potrive\u015fti dorin\u0163a s\u0103 fie cu tine. Pun\u00e2nd stop egoismului lui specific \u015fi f\u0103c\u00e2ndu-l s\u0103 ia not\u0103.<\/p>\n

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\u00censeamn\u0103 chestia asta s\u0103 faci un date iritant la care s\u0103 vorbe\u015fti numai tu despre tine? Mnope. E important s\u0103-l descoperi. S\u0103 evaluezi marfa, s\u0103 vezi dac\u0103 merit\u0103 deranjul.<\/p>\n

\u00censeamn\u0103 s\u0103 fii autentic\u0103, s\u0103 te compor\u0163i firesc, s\u0103-\u0163i manife\u015fti personalitatea, sim\u0163ul umorului, s\u0103 te ar\u0103\u0163i ca om complet, nu ca p\u0103pu\u015fa de plastic. M\u0103 uitam pe Facebook la alt\u0103 doamn\u0103. \u00cemi plac interven\u0163iile estetice, (\u015fi eu am botox \u00een frunte c\u00e2t s\u0103 anuleze ridurile verticale), dar men\u0163inute \u00een limita realismului psihologic. Multe \u00ee\u015fi injecteaz\u0103 un num\u0103r interminabil de fillere \u00een fa\u0163\u0103 \u015fi nu realizeaz\u0103 c\u0103, p\u00e2n\u0103 se inventeaz\u0103 \u015fi fillerele pentru personalitate, e cam degeaba. Degeaba ai buze de pe\u015fte mort, dac\u0103 ai personalitatea… oh, well, tot de pe\u015fte mort.<\/p>\n

“Dar pe unii \u00eei sperie personalitatea \u015fi creierul femeii”.<\/p>\n

Cu \u0103ia nu vrei s\u0103 ai de a face oricum \u015fi te bucuri c\u0103 s-au sortat singuri.<\/p>\n

F\u0103 sex dup\u0103 ce ai descoperit c\u0103 se bucur\u0103 real de fiecare secund\u0103 pe care o petrece cu tine, chiar \u00een sta\u0163ia de autobuz, dup\u0103 ce vezi c\u0103 \u015ftie exact ce \u00ee\u0163i place, c\u0103 te \u00eentreab\u0103 despre lucruri de care ai povestit data trecut\u0103, deci chiar \u00eei pas\u0103, \u015fi c\u0103 frisoneaz\u0103 c\u00e2nd \u00eei pui o m\u00e2n\u0103 pe um\u0103r.<\/p>\n

Abia atunci, faptul c\u0103 face sex cu tine devine important nu pentru c\u0103 “tufe \u015fi el ceva”, ci pentru c\u0103 e CU TINE.<\/p>\n

\u015ei \u0103sta e un b\u0103rbat care o s\u0103 vrea o rela\u0163ie CU TINE.<\/p>\n

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