{"id":20772,"date":"2020-11-18T13:24:19","date_gmt":"2020-11-18T10:24:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=20772"},"modified":"2020-11-18T13:27:44","modified_gmt":"2020-11-18T10:27:44","slug":"sunt-un-tip-de-incredere-de-ce-nu-ma-place","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/sunt-un-tip-de-incredere-de-ce-nu-ma-place\/","title":{"rendered":"Sunt un tip de \u00eencredere. De ce nu m\u0103 place?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Am repostat un articol mai vechi, o “po\u015ft\u0103 a redac\u0163iei”, \u00een care o cititoare m\u0103 \u00eentreba cum identific\u0103 un b\u0103rbat de \u00eencredere. I-am descris ce anume s\u0103 urm\u0103reasc\u0103 aici<\/a>. \u015ei, instant, a ap\u0103rut un comentator:<\/p>\n

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XXXXX: S\u0103 vezi ce mi\u015fto este c\u00e2nd \u00ee\u0163i spune o duduie pe care o placi , \u015fi \u00eencerci s\u0103 te por\u0163i cu ea exact cum ai descris mai sus, c\u0103 \u00eei place de tine. dar te vede ca pe un …. frate!<\/span><\/span><\/strong><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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E o eroare frecvent\u0103 de \u00een\u0163elegere a multor b\u0103rba\u0163i. Dac\u0103 aud o femeie c\u0103 spune c\u0103 vrea s\u0103 fie tratat\u0103 frumos, ei “\u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 se poarte a\u015fa”, rezultatul nu e cel scontat, \u015fi atunci, ei deduc c\u0103 femeile prefer\u0103 musai b\u0103ie\u0163ii r\u0103i.<\/p>\n

E CEA MAI COMUN\u0102 EROARE DE \u00ceN\u0162ELEGERE A B\u0102RBA\u0162ILOR. O EROARE DE \u00ceN\u0162ELEGERE CARE \u00ceNC\u0102 NE INFUZEAZ\u0102 VIE\u0162ILE CU VALURI – VALURI DE TOXICITATE NEJUSTIFICAT\u0102.<\/p>\n

Comportamentul de unul singur nu e suficient s\u0103-\u0163i aduc\u0103 un partener. \u015ei b\u0103rba\u0163ii o \u015ftiu, c\u00e2nd vine vorba de propriile lor op\u0163iuni, dar o uit\u0103 convenabil c\u00e2nd sunt ei cei ale\u015fi. Poate s\u0103 fie una cea mai harnic\u0103 \u015fi vrednic\u0103, s\u0103 se poarte ca eroina muncii socialiste; dac\u0103 e plicticoas\u0103, ur\u00e2\u0163ic\u0103, lipsit\u0103 de vino \u00eencoace, o vrei cel mult de secretar\u0103, \u00een niciun caz de iubit\u0103. \u015ei nu, dac\u0103 ur\u00e2\u0163ica ar deveni brusc r\u0103ut\u0103cioas\u0103 \u015fi arogant\u0103, nu ai zice: Vai, dar sigur am gre\u015fit, uite femeia vie\u0163ii mele”. Ai zice “Aha, ce bine am procedat c\u0103 nu m-am complicat cu asta”.<\/p>\n

Valabil \u015fi reciproc.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Apoi, mai e un lucru deloc neglijabil.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Una e s\u0103 “\u00eencerci s\u0103 te por\u0163i cu ea” \u015fi alta e s\u0103 CHIAR FII.<\/p>\n

Dau o analogie.<\/p>\n

S\u0103 zicem c\u0103 anun\u0163\u0103 unii casting de balerine. Finu\u0163e, mignone, delicate.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 se duce Lorena la casting, mare c\u00e2t o zi de post \u015fi cu c***u c\u00e2t China comunist\u0103, degeaba “\u00eencearc\u0103 ea” s\u0103 poarte poante, s\u0103 mearg\u0103 pe v\u00e2rfuri \u015fi s\u0103 fac\u0103 bra\u0163ele coroni\u0163\u0103. Impostura se vede din avion \u015fi e extrem de ilar\u0103.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd CHIAR E\u015eTI un om de \u00eencredere, transmi\u0163i o aur\u0103 de demnitate, onoare \u015fi onestitate, care e foarte atr\u0103g\u0103toare. C\u00e2nd “\u00eencerci s\u0103 pari”, e\u015fti doar grasa \u00een tutu pe poante. Se simte impostura de la o po\u015ft\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u015ei dac\u0103 e dublat\u0103 \u015fi de disperarea de a nu fi refuzat, impactul e \u015fi mai lame.<\/p>\n

Am \u00eencercat s\u0103 l\u0103muresc scurt: “Dac\u0103 ai fost refuzat, n-are leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu comportamentul, ci cu faptul c\u0103 tu, persoana, omul din spatele comportamentului, nu-i inspiri pasiune”.<\/p>\n

\u015ei atunci, tipul mi-a mai servit cea mai frecvent\u0103 ne\u00een\u0163elegere masculin\u0103 pe tav\u0103:<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Dar trebuie s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103 \u015fi ele , c\u0103 de cele mai multe ori , reversul pasiunii este exact comportamentul de care se pl\u00e2ng. Am dou\u0103 exemple \u00een familie, cu dou\u0103 veri\u015foare, foarte frumoase, care au c\u0103utat numai rela\u0163ii bazate pe pasiune \u015fi acum tot singure sunt! Dac\u0103 doar pasiune caut\u0103, s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103 \u015fi c\u0103 pasiunea poate veni la pachet cu dezam\u0103girea!<\/span><\/span><\/strong><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

Nu, dude, n-are nici o leg\u0103tur\u0103 sezonul cu fazonul. Pe Angelina Jolie \u00een versiunea ei t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 probabil c\u0103 ai fi luat-o de so\u0163ie \u015fi dac\u0103 era de super \u00eencredere, \u015fi dac\u0103 era pervers\u0103 \u015fi arogant\u0103, pentru c\u0103 femeia emana o senzualitate r\u0103v\u0103\u015fitoare, INDEPENDENT\u0102 DE CEEA CE F\u0102CEA.<\/p>\n

VALABIL \u015eI RECIPROC. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Faptul c\u0103 “ai \u00eencercat” s\u0103 fii nice cu una, iar aia n-a mar\u015fat n-are absolut nici o leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu faptul c\u0103 ai fost nice. Asta e doar scuza tic\u0103lo\u015filor s\u0103-\u015fi scoat\u0103 la iveal\u0103 adev\u0103rata natur\u0103. Eu sunt nice \u00een fiecare zi cu un num\u0103r mare de oameni, de la v\u00e2nz\u0103toarea de la Mega \u015fi p\u00e2n\u0103 la omul c\u0103ruia \u00eei r\u0103spund pe po\u015fta redac\u0163iei. \u015ei sunt nice cu to\u0163i ace\u015fti oameni nu pentru c\u0103 vreau s\u0103 ob\u0163in ceva la schimb ci pentru c\u0103 a\u015fa sunt eu.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd e\u015fti nice doar ca s\u0103 ob\u0163ii ceva, se vede \u015fi se simte din avion. E\u015fti grasa balerin\u0103.<\/p>\n

Comportamentul decent, politicos, de \u00eencredere, ar trebui s\u0103 fie A GIVEN, CARACTERISTICA TA CA OM. Nu ceva ce mimezi s\u0103 placi uneia sau alteia.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 placi uneia sau alteia, vezi ce te recomand\u0103 \u00een afar\u0103 de asta<\/strong>. Cum ar\u0103\u0163i? C\u00e2t de fit e\u015fti? C\u00e2t de carismatic \u015fi de fermec\u0103tor? \u015etii s\u0103 por\u0163i o conversa\u0163ie inteligent\u0103? \u015etii s-o relaxezi, s-o binedispui, s-o faci s\u0103 se simt\u0103 safe \u00een preajma ta?<\/p>\n

\u00cen cazul celor care vor familie \u015fi copii: ai deja o cas\u0103, eventual \u015fi o ma\u015fin\u0103, \u015fi un venit decent, pentru momentele c\u00e2nd ea va trebui s\u0103 stea acas\u0103 cu bebelu\u015ful \u015fi cheltuielile vor s\u0103ri \u00een tavan?<\/p>\n

\u00cen cazul carieristelor: e\u015fti echipat cu r\u0103bdare \u015fi suficient\u0103 \u00eencredere \u00een for\u0163ele proprii s\u0103 \u00een\u0163elegi c\u0103 nu v\u0103 ve\u0163i vedea \u00een fiecare zi, c\u0103 doamna are mult de lucru, c\u0103 uneori va reveni intempestiv dintr-o vacan\u0163\u0103 pentru un proiect mare, \u015fi MAI ALES, s\u0103 nu te frustrezi c\u00e2nd ea avanseaz\u0103 \u00een func\u0163ie?<\/p>\n

\u015ei chiar dac\u0103 le ai pe toate astea, se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 de multe ori urm\u0103torul fenomen. Maricica e frumoas\u0103, de\u015fteapt\u0103, gospodin\u0103, iubitoare, dr\u0103g\u0103la\u015f\u0103, se f ca o zei\u0163\u0103, dar Gigel pur \u015fi simplu nu e interesat. Nu \u00eel inspir\u0103 Maricica. Nu exist\u0103 chimia.<\/p>\n

VALABIL \u015eI RECIPROC. <\/strong><\/p>\n

To\u0163i suntem periodic refuza\u0163i, chit c\u0103 suntem cel mai potrivit candidat. Pentru c\u0103 dragostea nu e un interviu de job. \u015ei nici asisten\u0163\u0103 social\u0103. Chimia dintre doi oameni exist\u0103 sau nu. \u015ei dac\u0103 nu, grow up and accept it.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Dac\u0103 \u0163i-a pl\u0103cut acest articol,\u00a0sus\u0163ine site-ul cu o dona\u0163ie<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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