{"id":20828,"date":"2020-11-29T11:49:17","date_gmt":"2020-11-29T08:49:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=20828"},"modified":"2020-11-29T11:49:17","modified_gmt":"2020-11-29T08:49:17","slug":"genul-de-prieten-pe-care-nu-l-vrei-in-viata-ta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/genul-de-prieten-pe-care-nu-l-vrei-in-viata-ta\/","title":{"rendered":"Genul de prieten pe care nu-l vrei \u00een via\u0163a ta"},"content":{"rendered":"

De multe ori, \u00een sec\u0163iunea de comentarii se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 diverse discu\u0163ii extrem de gr\u0103itoare, dar nu neap\u0103rat legate de subiect. Azi o s\u0103 v\u0103 prezint una dintre ele.<\/p>\n

Context: scrisesem un articol despre femei \u00eendr\u0103gostite de b\u0103rbatul gre\u0219it \u0219i m\u0103 oferisem s\u0103 deschid, pe modelul Alcoolicilor Anonimi, Amorezatele de cine nu trebuie Anonime.<\/p>\n

Apoi, a urmat asta:<\/p>\n

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Dafuq??<\/p>\n

Deci, vine fata 1, s\u0103 spun\u0103, asumat, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eenvinuiasc\u0103 pe nimeni altcineva, “numai rateuri am dat \u00een via\u0163\u0103”. Persoana I singular. OK.<\/p>\n

Apoi, de nic\u0103ieri, nechemat\u0103 de fix nimeni, apare “prietena”. Cu ce \u00eencepe prietena? Cu o “glum\u0103 menit\u0103 s\u0103 o \u00eenveseleasc\u0103”. \u00cen realitate o jignire voalat\u0103, care s\u0103 mai demoleze un pic din \u00eencrederea de sine a omului care deja are probleme.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd \u00eencerc s\u0103 opresc gluma, se zbor\u015fe\u015fte la mine, cu nesim\u0163irea specific\u0103 genului de misecuvenist care uit\u0103 c\u0103 e pe tarlaua altuia \u015fi mai c\u0103 te pocne\u015fte c\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i permi\u0163i, pe pagina TA, s\u0103 deranjezi sec\u0163iunea de comentarii. Cu trei semne de exclama\u0163ie. S\u0103 \u00eemi \u015ftiu locul sau ceva.<\/p>\n

Din c\u00e2te se pare, mi\u015ftoul nu a pl\u0103cut nici amicei, drept care, se dezl\u0103n\u0163uie Krakenul. \u00cenvinuiri, scoateri de ochi, expunerea vie\u0163ii private a prietenei, insulte peste insulte.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 un om \u00ee\u0163i spune c\u0103 nu te \u00eentreab\u0103 ce faci pentru c\u0103 “\u015ftie prea bine ce faci” nu \u00ee\u0163i e prieten.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Unui prieten \u00eei pas\u0103 ce faci. \u015ei e mai important pentru el \/ ea ce faci, dec\u00e2t s\u0103 se \u015ftearg\u0103 la c** cu tine.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 un om se apuc\u0103 s\u0103 te porc\u0103ie de fa\u0163\u0103 cu al\u0163ii, nu \u00ee\u0163i e prieten.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Un prieten adev\u0103rat e cel care te sus\u0163ine. Chiar dac\u0103 \u015ftie c\u0103 ai probleme, sunt \u00eentre voi, iar public, \u00ee\u0163i acoper\u0103 spatele \u015fi te ap\u0103r\u0103. Nu caut\u0103 s\u0103 te umileasc\u0103, s\u0103 te pun\u0103 \u00een lumin\u0103 proast\u0103 de fa\u0163\u0103 cu ter\u0163i, s\u0103 te fac\u0103 s\u0103 te sim\u0163i prost.<\/p>\n

Bonus points:<\/p>\n

“Nu-i st\u0103 bine s\u0103 fac\u0103 pe victima. Crede-m\u0103, \u015fi eu am trecut prin situa\u0163ii critice”. *continu\u0103 s\u0103 fac\u0103 pe victima \u00eenc\u0103 cinci r\u00e2nduri*<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 un om te acuz\u0103 pe tine de ceea ce face el, nu \u00ee\u0163i e prieten.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd am ajuns la partea cu situa\u0163ia care a degenerat “din cauza ei”, de\u015fi fata 1 fusese super chill, polite \u015fi decent\u0103, am v\u0103zut eu ro\u015fu \u00een fa\u0163a ochilor. Deci vii tu, nechemat\u0103 de fix nimeni, o iei la mi\u015ftouri proaste pe interlocutoarea mea, apoi la jigniri \u015fi scoateri de ochi \u015fi, cumva, situa\u0163ia a degenerat tot din cauza ei? Really? Talk about neasumare real\u0103 a propriilor fapte.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd un prieten te “treze\u015fte la realitate” f\u0103r\u0103 vreo utilitate practic\u0103, doar din pl\u0103cerea de a-\u015fi bate p**a de tine, nu \u00ee\u0163i e prieten.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Din comentariile fetei 1, vedem c\u0103 e mai mult dec\u00e2t trezit\u0103 la realitate, e intens con\u015ftient\u0103 de realitate. Dar, chiar \u015fi \u00een rest, trezirea la realitate func\u0163ioneaz\u0103 a\u015fa:<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd\u00a0e o problem\u0103 real\u0103, de moment, da, \u00eel treze\u015fti la realitate pe cel\u0103lalt: s\u0103-\u015fi pl\u0103teasc\u0103 datoriile, s\u0103-\u015fi caute un job, s\u0103 *fapt\u0103 concret\u0103”. C\u00e2nd sunt \u00eenvinuiri de-astea vagi \u015fi toxice, a\u015fa-numita trezire la realitate e abuz verbal \u015fi at\u00e2t, \u015fi rostul ei e s\u0103 te \u00eenchid\u0103 \u00eentr-un cerc vicios al ru\u015finii \u015fi umilin\u0163ei, care s\u0103-i permit\u0103 celuilalt ascendent asupra ta \u015fi libertatea de a te bruftului \u00een voie.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd un prieten \u00ee\u0163i spune c\u0103 nu \u00eei pas\u0103 dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i face r\u0103u, NU \u00ee\u0163i e prieten.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

“Dac\u0103 doare, e problema ei”.<\/p>\n

Exact, bestie narcisist\u0103. Nu ai pic de empatie \u015fi \u0163i se rupe profund dac\u0103 ceea ce faci \u00eei provoac\u0103 celuilalt durere.<\/p>\n

Partea nespus de iritant\u0103, din punctul meu de vedere, e preten\u0163ia alternativ\u0103 c\u0103 “ar fi vrut s-o \u00eenveseleasc\u0103”. Nu, bitch, nu voiai s-o \u00eenvesele\u015fti, voiai s-o umile\u015fti. \u015ei probabil, voiai s\u0103 te impui pu\u0163in \u00een fa\u0163a mea prin modul \u00een care \u00ee\u0163i calci prietena \u00een picioare numai c\u0103, ghinion, eu v\u0103d prin genul t\u0103u de om ca prin geam.<\/p>\n

\u015ei cire\u015fica de pe tort: “vai, dar chestia asta e \u00eentre mine \u015fi ea!”<\/p>\n

S\u0103 mori tu. Tu dechizi circul la mine pe pagin\u0103, tu speli toate rufele celeilalte \u00een public, apoi, subit, e \u00eentre tine \u015fi ea??<\/p>\n

Internet, \u0163i-o spune sora ta Lorena, indiferent ce p\u0103cate ai f\u0103cut la via\u0163a ta, NU ai nevoie de genul \u0103sta de “prieten”. Oamenii ca Mo\u0163oc asta au dus la crearea expresiei “Ap\u0103r\u0103-m\u0103 de prieteni, c\u0103 de du\u015fmani m\u0103 ap\u0103r \u015fi singur”.<\/p>\n

Acum, eu s\u0103 fiu Sugar, a\u015f bloca-o pe Mo\u0163oc peste tot \u015fi a\u015f scoate-o complet din via\u0163a mea. \u015ei, \u00een modul cel mai cert, via\u0163a mea ar fi mai pl\u0103cut\u0103 \u015fi mai frumoas\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 genul \u0103sta de venin gratuit. \u0162i-e suficient s\u0103 ai r\u0103nile, nu mai e nevoie \u015fi de cineva s\u0103 pun\u0103 sare pe ele.<\/p>\n

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Dac\u0103 \u0163i-a pl\u0103cut acest articol,\u00a0sus\u0163ine site-ul cu o dona\u0163ie<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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