Te urm\u0103resc de ceva timp \u0219i cred c\u0103 faci o treab\u0103 foarte bun\u0103, cu rubrica asta, rezonez cu r\u0103spunsurile date si cred c\u0103 m-ai putea ajuta \u0219i pe mine.<\/strong><\/p>\n Problema este \u00een felul urm\u0103tor: sunt \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie de 7 ani, cu un b\u0103rbat ok, cu capul pe umeri, de \u00eencredere, care m\u0103 sprijin\u0103 \u0219i m\u0103 iube\u0219te. \u00cens\u0103, de ceva timp, de mult timp de fapt, nu m\u0103 mai simt atras\u0103 sexual de el, ne pupam prietene\u0219te \u0219i c\u00e2nd trebuie sa fac sex, parc\u0103 e for\u021bat \u0219i automat.<\/strong><\/p>\n El \u00ee\u0219i dore\u0219te, eu nu, am \u00eencercat \u0219i chestii noi, nu func\u021bioneaz\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u0218tiu c\u0103 dup\u0103 un timp de rela\u021bie, dup\u0103 venirea unui copil, diferite greut\u0103\u021bi \u00een via\u021b\u0103<\/strong>, intervine monotonia, nu mai e acela\u0219i chef, zv\u00e2c ca ca la \u00eenceput. Asta v\u0103d \u0219i \u00een jurul meu, la prietenii mei \u0219i to\u021bi zic c\u0103 asta e normalitatea.<\/strong><\/p>\n Recunosc c\u0103 \u00een trecut m\u0103 sim\u021beam atras\u0103 de b\u0103rba\u021bi hot\u0103r\u00e2\u021bi in pat \u0219i deschi\u0219i la minte, asta m\u0103 f\u0103cea s\u0103 am chef. Eu te \u00eentreb, a\u0219a este normal, dup\u0103 mult timp de rela\u021bie sau nu este el ce trebuie? Mul\u021bumesc mult!<\/strong><\/p>\n X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n Drag\u0103 X.<\/p>\n Da, este normal ca atrac\u021bia sexual\u0103 s\u0103 se diminueze \u00een timp. Exist\u0103 \u0219i explica\u021bie chimic\u0103. \u00cen secunda \u00een care ne \u00eendr\u0103gostim, secret\u0103m oxitocin\u0103 (hormonul pl\u0103cerii) \u00een doze maxime c\u00e2nd persoana iubit\u0103 ne atinge. Pe m\u0103sur\u0103 ce \u00eencepem s\u0103 petrecem din ce \u00een ce\u00a0 mai mult timp cu respectiva persoan\u0103, cantitatea de oxitocin\u0103 se diminueaz\u0103 \u0219i, odat\u0103 cu ea, \u0219i atrac\u021bia perceput\u0103.<\/p>\n Vestea bun\u0103 e c\u0103 nu \u021bi se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 ceva ie\u0219it din comun. Toate cuplurile trec prin asta. A\u0219a se \u0219i ajunge la divor\u021b.<\/p>\n Vestea proast\u0103 e c\u0103 asta nu te consoleaz\u0103 foarte tare. C\u00e2nd m\u0103 doare capul, nu e nici o consolare faptul c\u0103 pe to\u021bi locuitorii ora\u0219ului meu \u00eei doare capul. Problema mea sunt eu.<\/p>\n M\u0103 pune pe g\u00e2nduri disponibilitatea ta de a renun\u021ba la om. C\u0103 nu e ce trebuie. M-ar ajuta o viziune mai de ansamblu, care s\u0103 includ\u0103 \u0219i r\u0103spunsul la \u00eentrebarea: Ai \u00eent\u00e2lnit pe altcineva?<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 da, tu vrei de la mine confirmare s\u0103-\u021bi p\u0103r\u0103se\u0219ti so\u021bul, iar pe asta nu \u021bi-o pot da, pentru c\u0103 un b\u0103rbat care s\u0103 te iubeasc\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi ofere sus\u021binere e rar ca o cioar\u0103 alb\u0103.<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 nu, \u0219i te intereseaz\u0103 pe bune s\u0103 reg\u0103se\u0219ti apetitul sexual pentru omul t\u0103u, treaba necesit\u0103 un pic de efort, un pic de voin\u021b\u0103 \u0219i un pic de imagina\u021bie.<\/p>\n Face\u021bi sport \u00eempreun\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n E ceva raw, animalic \u0219i periculos \u00een a face sport. Mu\u0219chii se \u00eencordeaz\u0103, respira\u021bia se precipit\u0103, transpira\u021bia curge. Aproape ca \u00een sex. Devii con\u0219tient de prezen\u021ba fizic\u0103 a omului de l\u00e2ng\u0103 tine. Nu degeaba sexul la sal\u0103 are propria lui categorie pe pornhub.<\/p>\n Un alt avantaj al sportului este faptul c\u0103 modeleaz\u0103 corpul. Mul\u021bi oameni \u00ee\u0219i pierd tonusul \u0219i sex appealul dup\u0103 c\u0103s\u0103torie, pentru c\u0103 nu mai sunt la v\u00e2n\u0103toare. C\u00e2teva kilograme pierdute \u00eempreun\u0103, \u0219i ve\u021bi redeveni am\u00e2ndoi mult mai dezirabili. Obiectiv, nu subiectiv.<\/p>\n Face\u021bi preludii, f\u0103r\u0103 finalizare.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Un mod prin care primul t\u0103u iubit \u021bi-a trezit instinctul sexual, pe c\u00e2nd erai adolescent\u0103, a fost urm\u0103torul mecanism: mozol \u0219i stop. Mai mult mozol \u0219i stop. Mozol p\u00e2n\u0103 la scoaterea sutienului \u0219i stop. \u0218i tot a\u0219a, p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd n-ai mai rezistat \u0219i ai vrut s\u0103 mergi p\u00e2n\u0103 la cap\u0103t.<\/p>\n Preludiul f\u0103r\u0103 finalizare e modul sigur de a trezi dorin\u021ba sexual\u0103 pe termen lung la o femeie. Pentru c\u0103 un b\u0103rbat face o lab\u0103 \u0219i se descarc\u0103, pe c\u00e2nd \u00een cazul femeii, dorin\u021ba e ca la loto. Report pe s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2na urm\u0103toare.<\/p>\n Oamenii se \u00eempart \u00een multe versiuni de kink, dar acestea sunt, \u00een linii mari, tributare a dou\u0103 direc\u021bii mari \u0219i late: domina\u021bia \u0219i submisivitatea. Mie \u00eemi place la nebunie s\u0103 domin. Tu, dac\u0103 e\u0219ti atras\u0103 de b\u0103rba\u021bi hot\u0103r\u00e2\u021bi \u00een pat, probabil c\u0103 e\u0219ti mai mult submisiv\u0103.<\/p>\n Caut\u0103 s\u0103 reg\u0103se\u0219ti atrac\u021bia c\u0103tre omul de l\u00e2ng\u0103 tine.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n E b\u0103rbatul de care te-ai \u00eendr\u0103gostit mai demult. Sigur au existat detalii fizice pe care le-ai g\u0103sit sexy. Fa\u021ba. Ochii. Buzele. Umerii. Bra\u021bele.<\/p>\n Viziteaz\u0103-i fotografiile \u0219i prive\u0219te-le ca \u0219i cum ar fi noul hookup. D\u0103-i likes \u0219i comentarii cu sub\u00een\u021beles. Anticipeaz\u0103-i r\u0103spunsurile.<\/p>\n \u0218i apropo de asta:<\/p>\n Cel mai fierbinte afrodisiac e flirtul.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Popularizat de fran\u021buzoaicele din \u00eenalta societate drept arta cea mai eficient\u0103 a seduc\u021biei, flirtul e inteligent, fermec\u0103tor, pune \u00een valoare tot ce ai tu mai bun, ridic\u0103 moralul \u0219i pune fantezia pe jar. Flirteaz\u0103 cu b\u0103rbatul t\u0103u ca \u0219i cum ar fi un amant. F\u0103-l s\u0103 intre \u00een joc. Cuvintele cu multe \u00een\u021belesuri, micile pauze, t\u0103cerile, toate astea creeaz\u0103 tensiune erotic\u0103.<\/p>\n Ini\u021biaz\u0103 contact fizic aparent nonsexual.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n \u021aine-l de m\u00e2n\u0103 inocent. \u00cembr\u0103\u021bi\u0219eaz\u0103-l dup\u0103 o zi grea. Cere-i s\u0103-\u021bi fac\u0103 baie cu un burete \u00eenspumat. F\u0103-i un masaj dup\u0103 o rund\u0103 de sal\u0103 de la punctul 1.<\/p>\n \u00cencerca\u021bi domina\u021bie.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Oamenii se \u00eempart \u00een multe versiuni de kink, dar acestea sunt, \u00een linii mari, tributare a dou\u0103 direc\u021bii mari \u0219i late: domina\u021bia \u0219i submisivitatea. Mie \u00eemi place la nebunie s\u0103 domin. Tu, dac\u0103 e\u0219ti atras\u0103 de b\u0103rba\u021bi hot\u0103r\u00e2\u021bi \u00een pat, probabil c\u0103 e\u0219ti mai mult submisiv\u0103.<\/p>\n Du asta mai departe. Cere-i s\u0103 te lege la ochi, s\u0103 te domine verbal, s\u0103 te ating\u0103 juc\u0103u\u0219 cu un bici, s\u0103 te lege, s\u0103 te posede brutal. \u0218i s\u0103 intre \u00een rol. S\u0103 o fac\u0103 cu convingere \u0219i pasiune. Face\u021bi roleplay cu infractorul sexy care d\u0103 spargere, cu poli\u021bistul sexy care ia cu japca o lucr\u0103toare sexual\u0103 culeas\u0103 de pe str\u0103zi, sau proful care te trece la examen dac\u0103 te la\u0219i sedus\u0103. Sunt versiuni de roleplay care merg pe tendin\u021ba ta natural supus\u0103 erotic.<\/p>\n Obiectific\u0103-l.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n De ce sunt unii b\u0103rba\u021bi capabili fizic s\u0103 fac\u0103 sex cu cele mai cringy ur\u00e2te? Pentru c\u0103 le v\u0103d ca pe ni\u0219te obiecte destinate pl\u0103cerii.<\/p>\n \u00cencearc\u0103 minimum o dat\u0103 s\u0103 te folose\u0219ti de el pentru pl\u0103cere \u0219i at\u00e2t. S\u0103 ceri satisfac\u021bie, s\u0103 ceri lucruri care s\u0103 te excite, s\u0103 alegi pozi\u021bii \u0219i unghiuri din care s\u0103 resim\u021bi excita\u021bie. Folose\u0219te-l ca pe un penis. E ceva extrem de excitant \u00een a te folosi de cel\u0103lalt ca de un obiect, nu degeaba o fac b\u0103rba\u021bii de secole.<\/p>\n \u00cencearc\u0103 juc\u0103rii.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Ai testat vreodat\u0103 dubla penetrare? E un traseu valid spre orgasm pentru multe femei. Alege un vibrator anal sub\u021bire \u00een timp ce faci sex cu el. Sau un stimulator pentru clitoris. Sau pentru sf\u00e2rcuri. Elementele noi sunt precum condimentele. Adaug\u0103 noi niveluri de arom\u0103.<\/p>\n \u0218i mai ia o pauz\u0103\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Un mod de a reseta pasiunea este s\u0103 creezi dor. Caut\u0103-\u021bi un hobby care s\u0103 presupun\u0103 prezen\u021ba undeva \u00een alt\u0103 parte a ora\u0219ului. Bine, acum majoritatea locurilor de acest gen sunt \u00eenchise. Dar po\u021bi face voluntariat la casa de copii, de exemplu. Aju\u021bi ni\u0219te suflete nevinovate \u0219i, totodat\u0103, cultivi dorul de un om a c\u0103rui prezen\u021b\u0103 nu va mai fi at\u00e2t de perpetu\u0103 \u0219i de previzibil\u0103. \u0218i \u00eencurajeaz\u0103-l \u0219i pe el s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 un hobby. Lucrurile noi ne deschid orizonturile \u0219i ne dau teme noi de discu\u021bii. Ne ajut\u0103 s\u0103 ne redescoperim. Pe noi \u0219i pe ceilal\u021bi.<\/p>\n \u0218i dac\u0103 nimic din ce spun eu nu merge, \u00eencearc\u0103 terapia de cuplu.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Poate c\u0103 exist\u0103 frustr\u0103ri sau resentimente neasumate care \u00ee\u021bi blocheaz\u0103 dorin\u021ba. 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