{"id":21042,"date":"2021-01-06T13:02:40","date_gmt":"2021-01-06T10:02:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21042"},"modified":"2021-01-06T13:02:40","modified_gmt":"2021-01-06T10:02:40","slug":"posta-redactiei-exista-sex-dupa-o-nastere","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-exista-sex-dupa-o-nastere\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei: Exist\u0103 sex dup\u0103 o na\u0219tere?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. Nu, Gicu, nu sub form\u0103 de sex, stai jos. \u00cen schimb, lu\u0103m o dram\u0103 personal\u0103 pe care mi-o trimite\u0163i pe mail, pe birou@lorenalupu.com, \u015fi g\u0103sim o solu\u0163ie, pe care oricum n-o ve\u0163i urma, dar m\u0103car ne distr\u0103m.<\/p>\n

\u015ei misiva de data asta:<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Servus, Lorena!<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Am v\u0103zut ultimul post \u00een care ziceai c\u0103 nu \u00ee\u021bi mai scrie lumea ca \u00eenainte la Po\u0219ta Redac\u021biei, a\u0219a c\u0103 m-am g\u00e2ndit c\u0103 acum am \u0219anse maxime s\u0103 primesc un r\u0103spuns la misiva mea.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
\u0218i iat\u0103 problema: acum 6 luni, \u00een familia noastr\u0103 au venit doi copii perfec\u021bi: frumo\u0219i, cumin\u021bi, iste\u021bi, tot ce \u00ee\u021bi po\u021bi dori. \u00cen general, dup\u0103 evenimente din astea, femeia e cea care evit\u0103 momentele intime al\u0103turi de partener.<\/strong><\/div>\n
Nah, la noi e taman invers. \u0218i nu, Lorena, nu mi-am schimbat \u00eenf\u0103\u021bi\u0219area, nu sunt nici balen\u0103, nici troll nesp\u0103lat. M\u0103 g\u00e2ndeam c\u0103 nah…\u0219i-o fi g\u0103sit vreo tuf\u0103, da’ \u00ee\u021bi zic c\u0103 nu are c\u00e2nd (\u00eentre bebe \u0219i munca de acas\u0103, chiar nu are c\u00e2nd). \u0218i da, se implic\u0103 \u00een cre\u0219terea copiilor, tragem cot la cot, pe partea asta e f\u0103r\u0103 cusur. De sufocat nu-l sufoc, avem spa\u021biu suficient ca fiecare s\u0103 se desf\u0103\u0219oare \u00een camera lui.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
Am deschis subiectul, zice ca sunt nebun\u0103, c\u0103 mi se pare mie c\u0103 nu m\u0103 vrea. \u00cen concluzie, nu mai am idei. Nu \u00een\u021beleg, Lorena, de ce evit\u0103 sexul. C\u0103 eu m-a\u0219 toat\u0103 ziua, dac\u0103 m\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi *wink wink.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
D\u0103-mi, te rog, un sfat, c\u0103 \u00een cur\u00e2nd m\u0103 dau \u0103\u0219tia de la ora 5 pe post pentru viol.<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Mersi fain!<\/strong><\/div>\n
X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Drag\u0103 X.,<\/div>\n
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Te felicit.<\/div>\n
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Te felicit c\u0103 ai un b\u0103rbat responsabil, care pune osul la treab\u0103 \u00een cas\u0103 \u0219i care te ajut\u0103 cu droaia de sarcini care vin odat\u0103 cu na\u0219terea copiilor mici. Crede-m\u0103 c\u0103 de animale co\u021b\u0103itoare care nu mi\u0219c\u0103 nimic \u00een cas\u0103 e plin\u0103 lumea. Ar trebui s\u0103 fii recunosc\u0103toare cerurilor c\u0103 ai tras lozul de aur.<\/div>\n
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Acum, faptul c\u0103 nu \u00eel prea atrage sexul poate avea mai multe explica\u021bii:<\/div>\n
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1. A asistat la na\u0219tere.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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De pe la finalul anilor 90 a ap\u0103rut moda asta cu tat\u0103l care e prezent la na\u0219tere. Pe de o parte, e o idee bun\u0103, pentru c\u0103 nimic nu vindec\u0103 un gigel de obiectificarea corpului femeii ca prezen\u021ba la o na\u0219tere. E o epifanie. Abia dup\u0103 ce vezi cu c\u00e2t s\u00e2nge \u0219i chin vine pe lume un copil, \u00eencepi s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi adev\u0103ratele consecin\u021be ale actului sexual.<\/div>\n
Dar cu asta vine la pachet \u0219i reversul. C\u0103 imaginile respective \u00eel vor urm\u0103ri c\u00e2nd va da s\u0103 se apropie de tine. What was seen cannot be unseen.<\/div>\n
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2. E pur \u0219i simplu foarte obosit. As in foarte, foarte obosit.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Merge la munc\u0103, lucreaz\u0103 full time, apoi vine acas\u0103 \u0219i \u00eencepe s\u0103 schimbe scutecele bebelu\u0219ilor sau s\u0103 le fac\u0103 baie, s\u0103 spele vase sau s\u0103 bage haine la sp\u0103lat. Munc\u0103, urmat\u0103 de munc\u0103 \u0219i de \u00eenc\u0103 ni\u0219te munc\u0103.<\/div>\n
Sunt b\u0103rba\u021bi c\u0103rora surmenajul nu le afecteaz\u0103 cheful de sex, dar sunt \u0219i b\u0103rba\u021bi mai sensibili, care nu au cum s\u0103 se simt\u0103 b\u0103rba\u021bi dup\u0103 12 – 14 ore de munc\u0103, \u0219i au nevoie pur \u0219i simplu s\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nce ceva cald \u0219i s\u0103 se culce, pentru c\u0103 m\u00e2ine \u00eencepe totul de la cap\u0103t. Nu e c\u0103 nu te vrea, ci pur \u0219i simplu nu mai are de unde.<\/div>\n
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3. O includ pe asta strict ipotetic. Dar poate c\u0103 a avut un fling pe vremea sarcinii.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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O sarcin\u0103 e un uria\u0219 test de rezisten\u021b\u0103 al unei rela\u021bii. Pentru c\u0103, din zece pove\u0219ti de amor, cinci se alimenteaz\u0103 din atrac\u021bia fizic\u0103 pe care el o resimte fa\u021b\u0103 de ea. Modific\u0103rile aduse de sarcin\u0103 reduc drastic atractivitatea fizic\u0103, prin urmare tipului \u00eencepe s\u0103-i fug\u0103 aten\u021bia. \u0218i \u00ee\u0219i neglijeaz\u0103 partenera, care \u00eencepe s\u0103 se simt\u0103 nemul\u021bumit\u0103 \u0219i frustrat\u0103, \u0219i a\u0219a, multe divor\u021buri apar dup\u0103 o na\u0219tere sau \u00een jurul unei na\u0219teri.<\/div>\n
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Tipul \u0103sta e prea responsabil, din c\u00e2te \u00eemi reiese, s\u0103 te p\u0103r\u0103seasc\u0103, dar e posibil ca, \u00een ultimul t\u0103u trimestru de sarcin\u0103, s\u0103-\u0219i fi g\u0103sit ceva de f*** pe margine. \u00cen schimb, c\u00e2nd \u0219i-a \u021binut copiii \u00een bra\u021be prima oar\u0103, l-au invadat brusc ru\u0219inea \u0219i vinov\u0103\u021bia, \u0219i a \u00eenceput s\u0103 munceasc\u0103 \u00eentr-o disperare, s\u0103 se revan\u0219eze.<\/div>\n
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Acum, c\u0103 am examinat posibile cauze, hai s\u0103 vedem ce po\u021bi face.<\/div>\n
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Nu pretinde sex \u0219i nu bate cu pumnul \u00een mas\u0103 pe subiect.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Sexul nu se cere. Au luptat genera\u021bii de feministe s\u0103 ai dreptul s\u0103 spui nu, c\u00e2nd nu vrei s\u0103 faci sex, dar asta se aplic\u0103 \u0219i b\u0103rba\u021bilor, nu numai \u021bie. \u0218i e foarte bine c\u0103 nu se cere, pentru c\u0103 DORIN\u021aA SEXUAL\u0102 NU ESTE STIMULAT\u0102 DE PRETEN\u021aII.<\/div>\n
Dimpotriv\u0103: un discurs de genul: Trebuie \/ E\u0219ti obligat s\u0103 faci sex cu mine induce doar t\u00e2r\u0219eal\u0103 \u0219i respingere.<\/div>\n
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\u00cen schimb, poart\u0103 ceva provocator, glume\u0219te sugestiv \u0219i \u021bine mereu o sticl\u0103 de vin sec \u00een frigider.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Nu neap\u0103rat pentru zilele de munc\u0103, c\u00e2nd omul abia a\u0219teapt\u0103 s\u0103 cad\u0103 \u00een pat, c\u00e2t pentru weekend. C\u00e2nd are \u0219i el un moment s\u0103 se relaxeze, s\u0103 o ia \u00eencet \u0219i s\u0103 se bucure de un moment de lini\u0219te. F\u0103-l s\u0103 se simt\u0103 b\u0103rbat, dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 te fac\u0103 s\u0103 te sim\u021bi femeie.<\/div>\n
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Sper c\u0103 \u021bi-am fost util\u0103,<\/div>\n
Lorena.<\/div>\n
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