{"id":21046,"date":"2021-01-07T12:17:45","date_gmt":"2021-01-07T09:17:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21046"},"modified":"2022-01-08T20:02:22","modified_gmt":"2022-01-08T17:02:22","slug":"posta-redactiei-nu-stiu-cand-sa-tac","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-nu-stiu-cand-sa-tac\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei: Nu \u0219tiu c\u00e2nd s\u0103 tac"},"content":{"rendered":"

Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. Nu, Gicu, nu sub form\u0103 de sex, stai jos. \u00cen schimb, lu\u0103m o dram\u0103 personal\u0103 pe care mi-o trimite\u0163i pe mail, pe birou@lorenalupu.com, \u015fi g\u0103sim o solu\u0163ie, pe care oricum n-o ve\u0163i urma, dar m\u0103car ne distr\u0103m.<\/p>\n

\u015ei misiva de data asta:<\/p>\n

Bun\u0103, Loreno!<\/strong><\/div>\n
Te urm\u0103resc de ceva vreme \u0219i \u00eemi place cum sf\u0103tuie\u0219ti oamenii \u0219i le oferi c\u00e2te fragment din experien\u021bele \u0219i p\u0103rerile tale! Chiar dac\u0103 nu am o problem\u0103 grav\u0103 (poate mai grav\u0103 ca ale altora care \u00ee\u021bi scriu) mi-am zis s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi prezint \u0219i eu dilema de zilele acestea, s\u0103 vedem dac\u0103 m-ai putea ghida pu\u0163in.<\/strong><\/div>\n
Eu nu sunt o persoan\u0103 mega stresat\u0103, \u00een general, \u00eens\u0103 m\u0103 surprind pe mine \u00eens\u0103mi \u00een unele ipostaze, av\u00e2nd reac\u021bii care m\u0103 \u0219ocheaz\u0103! Clachez \u0219i \u00eencep s\u0103 bocesc mai ceva ca \u00een filme, \u0219i nu m\u0103 pot opri, cauza fiind fie extrem de copil\u0103reasc\u0103, fie prosteasc\u0103 de tot ! (Exemplu, pu\u021bin\u0103 batjocur\u0103 din partea persoanelor apropiate, din aceea spus\u0103 “f\u0103r\u0103 inten\u0163ie”). De multe ori atrag aten\u0163ia persoanelor din jur \u00een leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu unele lucruri \u0219i (poate mi se pare mie doar) simt ca e un lucru deranjant pentru ele (genul de “nu-mi spune tu mie cum sa-mi fac treaba”). Trec\u00e2nd in alt\u0103 emisfer\u0103 am impresia ca imi sufoc \u0219i iubitul \u0219i familia \u0219i colegele \u0219i pe toat\u0103 lumea, de altfel, \u00eens\u0103, nu fac altceva dec\u00e2t sa fiu sincer\u0103, s\u0103 imi spun p\u0103rerea… \u00eencerc sa ajut dar mai mereu iese un poo enorm din toata treaba asta. Ba c\u0103 sunt egoist\u0103, ba c\u0103 ma cred superioar\u0103, ba ca mai bine tac. E doar \u00een capul meu sau toata lumea se confrunt\u0103 cu a\u0219a ceva ? Deja oscilez \u00eentre a t\u0103cea pe vecie \u0219i a vorbi necontenit (cu riscul de a deveni gur\u0103-spart\u0103, pentru ca da, iubesc sa vorbesc), iar calea de mijloc mi se pare enorm de greu de atins… help !<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Cu disperare,<\/strong><\/div>\n
X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Drag\u0103 X,<\/div>\n
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Acest mail m\u0103 surprinde \u00een mod pl\u0103cut. To\u021bi \u00eei avem \u00een vie\u021bile noastre pe p\u0103reri\u0219tii nesolicita\u021bi. Nu \u0219tiam \u00eens\u0103 c\u0103 \u0219i ace\u0219tia au sentimente de inadecvare.<\/div>\n
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Mbun. S\u0103 comunici c\u0103 te deranjeaz\u0103 ceva ce te prive\u0219te direct e recomandat \u0219i foarte s\u0103n\u0103tos. Inclusiv “pu\u0163ina batjocur\u0103”, dac\u0103 nu ai genul \u0103la de sim\u0163 al umorului. O glum\u0103 \u00eentre doi oameni trebuie s\u0103 existe doar cu acordul ambilor, s\u0103 fie glum\u0103. Altfel, e invita\u021bie deschis\u0103 la bocanci \u00een bot.<\/div>\n
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Pe de alt\u0103 parte, “nu-mi spune mie ce s\u0103 fac” c\u00e2nd \u0103la \u00ee\u015fi face treaba lui \u015fi nu \u0163i-a cerut \u00een mod explicit p\u0103rerea e o reac\u0163ie just\u0103. \u00cen general, c\u00e2nd vor s\u0103 afle ce crezi tu despre subiectul X, oamenii \u00eentreab\u0103. Dac\u0103 nu \u00eentreab\u0103, e semn c\u0103 nu \u00eei preocup\u0103 grav viziunea ta original\u0103 pe tem\u0103.<\/div>\n
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\u015ei acum, ca s\u0103-\u0163i fie clar c\u00e2nd ai dreptate s\u0103 dai cu p\u0103rerea \u015fi c\u00e2nd nu, hai s\u0103 aplic\u0103m \u00eempreun\u0103 testul “Ce te f… grija”.<\/div>\n
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Te treze\u015fti deschiz\u00e2nd gura s\u0103 comentezi ceva ce face cineva din familie. Pune stop din telecomand\u0103 \u015fi \u00eentreab\u0103-te: Ce m\u0103 f… grija?<\/div>\n
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Adic\u0103:\u00a0TE AFECTEAZ\u0102 DIRECT CE FACE PERSOANA \u00ceN ACEL MOMENT? \u00ce\u0162I ADUCE VREUN DERANJ, VREO PAGUB\u0102, WHATEVER?\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Da?<\/div>\n
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Go on.<\/div>\n
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Nu?<\/div>\n
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Te ab\u0163ii \u015fi nu spui nimic. Remember: dac\u0103 voiau o p\u0103rere, \u00eentrebau.<\/div>\n
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Exemplu: Vasile, te rog frumos, d\u0103 radioul mai \u00eencet c\u0103 \u00eencerc s\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u0163!<\/div>\n
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Justificat, pentru c\u0103 Vasile te \u00eencurc\u0103.<\/div>\n
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Vs.: Vasile, iar te-ai machiat ca o c***\u0103 de pe centur\u0103, nu \u0163i-e ru\u015fine?<\/div>\n
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At\u00e2ta timp c\u00e2t nu \u0163i-a consumat \u0163ie fardurile alea bune, de la Makeup Forever, nu te f*** grija, c\u0103 obiectiv nu are de ce.<\/div>\n
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Apoi, cu ajutatul. Recomand s\u0103 \u00eencepi a\u015fa:<\/div>\n
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Pot s\u0103 te ajut cu ceva?<\/div>\n
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A\u015fteapt\u0103 s\u0103 \u0163i se r\u0103spund\u0103 afirmativ, apoi \u00eentreab\u0103: Cu ce?<\/div>\n
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\u015ei omul \u00ee\u0163i va spune \u00een ce departament are nevoie de ajutor, dac\u0103 are nevoie at all. C\u0103 uneori chiar nu are, \u015fi mai mult \u00eel \u00eencurci.<\/div>\n
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Aplic\u0103 testul Ce te f*** grija \u015fi \u00een interac\u0163iunea cu str\u0103inii. \u015ei NU pune \u00eentreb\u0103ri deplasate \u015fi nesim\u0163ite. De exemplu, pe mine m\u0103 scot grav din s\u0103rite dou\u0103 \u00eentreb\u0103ri de la str\u0103ini, iar astea vin over and over again:<\/div>\n
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Ai prieten?\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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“De ce te f*** grija? Ce sunt eu, WC public, s\u0103 devin disponibil\u0103 din secunda \u00een care iese utilizatorul anterior?”<\/div>\n
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Care e orientarea ta sexual\u0103?\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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“De ce te f*** grija? Nici dac\u0103 \u00eemi pl\u0103ceau persoanele de acela\u015fi sex cu tine nu \u00eemi pl\u0103ceai tu, pe simplul motiv c\u0103 b\u0103garea iritant\u0103 \u00een seam\u0103 mi-o culc\u0103, so, irelevant pentru tine”.<\/div>\n
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\u015ei pe final, am un mic secret pentru tine. Cu c\u00e2t \u00ee\u0163i \u0163ii p\u0103rerea pentru tine mai mult, except\u00e2nd, cum am precizat mai sus, situa\u0163iile care te vizeaz\u0103 direct, cu at\u00e2t oamenii o s\u0103 \u00eenceap\u0103 s\u0103 \u0163i-o cear\u0103. Cu c\u00e2t vorbe\u015fti mai pu\u0163in, cu at\u00e2t spui mai mult, raportat la num\u0103r de cuvinte.<\/div>\n
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Sau dac\u0103 ai o pasiune pentru logoree, cump\u0103r\u0103 un webcam \u015fi… haha, nu. F\u0103-\u0163i pur \u015fi simplu un vlog. Alege subiectele pe care vrei s\u0103 ba\u0163i c\u00e2mpii, \u00eenregistreaz\u0103-te \u015fi pune pe YouTube. Sau mai nou pe TikTok.<\/div>\n
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Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/div>\n
Lorena.<\/div>\n
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Dac\u0103 \u0163i-a pl\u0103cut acest articol,\u00a0sus\u0163ine site-ul cu o dona\u0163ie<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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