{"id":21053,"date":"2021-01-08T10:54:38","date_gmt":"2021-01-08T07:54:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21053"},"modified":"2021-01-08T10:54:38","modified_gmt":"2021-01-08T07:54:38","slug":"posta-redactiei-cum-devenim-adulti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-cum-devenim-adulti\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei: Cum devenim adul\u021bi?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. Nu, Gicu, nu sub form\u0103 de sex, stai jos. \u00cen schimb, lu\u0103m o dram\u0103 personal\u0103 pe care mi-o trimite\u0163i pe mail, pe birou@lorenalupu.com, \u015fi g\u0103sim o solu\u0163ie, pe care oricum n-o ve\u0163i urma, dar m\u0103car ne distr\u0103m.<\/p>\n

\u015ei misiva de data asta:<\/p>\n

Am vrut de mult timp s\u0103-\u021bi scriu, \u00eens\u0103 mi-a lipsit curajul \u0219i am considerat mereu c\u0103 al\u021bii au probleme mai grave. Te citesc de 3 ani \u0219i, \u00eentr-adev\u0103r, am v\u0103zut unele cazuri dramatice la Po\u0219ta Redac\u021biei, oameni care se confruntau cu membri ai familiei cu probleme psihice, care aveau alegeri dificile de f\u0103cut, care fuseser\u0103 agresa\u021bi. Nu am vrut s\u0103 r\u0103pesc unei persoane care are nevoie urgent\u0103 de ajutor posibilitatea de a-l ob\u021bine de la tine.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Dar pentru c\u0103 am avut de multe ori ocazia s\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u021b din r\u0103spunsurile diferitelor provoc\u0103ri aduse de Po\u0219ta Redac\u021biei \u0219i a\u0219 aprecia opinia ta asupra chestiunii cu care m\u0103 confrunt, m-am decis s\u0103-\u021bi scriu.<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Am 25 ani, nu am fost angajat\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 acum (am ob\u021binut, lupt\u00e2ndu-m\u0103\u00a0cu birocra\u021bia, o parte din atestatele necesare, suficient pentru a intra \u00een c\u00e2mpul muncii) \u0219i sunt \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie stabil\u0103 cu un om absolut minunat, de pu\u021bin mai mult de 4 ani.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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De c\u00e2nd am terminat facultatea (studii de master), vara trecut\u0103, sunt prins\u0103 \u00eentr-o rutin\u0103 static\u0103, d\u0103un\u0103toare, plictisitoare, dar \u0219i foarte confortabil\u0103. Simt presiunea, at\u00e2t din partea apropia\u021bilor, c\u00e2t \u0219i a mea, de a reu\u0219i \u00een via\u021b\u0103, de a avea, \u00een sf\u00e2r\u0219it, un salariu \u0219i o func\u021bie. \u00cemi doresc o carier\u0103 \u0219i m\u0103 preg\u0103tesc \u00een acest sens merg\u00e2nd la cursuri de formare \u0219i citind independent. Vreau o via\u021b\u0103 care s\u0103-mi ofere satisfac\u021bii, profesionale \u0219i personale, dar \u00ee\u021bi spun cu toat\u0103 sinceritatea: mi-e fric\u0103. M\u0103 simt nepreg\u0103tit\u0103 pentru un job, de\u0219i nu am mai pu\u021bine competen\u021be comparativ cu colegele de aceea\u0219i v\u00e2rst\u0103 cu mine, care activeaz\u0103 undeva. M\u0103 simt obosit\u0103 c\u00e2nd m\u0103 for\u021bez s\u0103 citesc, de\u0219i nu a\u0219 avea chef (no shit, Sherlock\ud83d\ude05). M\u0103 lini\u0219te\u0219te traiul comod, unde primesc bani de la p\u0103rin\u021bi, nu fac nimic timp de ore iar zilele intr\u0103 unele \u00een altele…<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Dar acest tip de via\u021b\u0103 nu reprezint\u0103 o op\u021biune. Nu m-a\u0219 putea suporta \u0219i a\u0219 considera c\u0103 am e\u0219uat ca persoan\u0103 dac\u0103 nu a\u0219 lucra undeva. Concomitent, cred \u0219i sper c\u0103 un job ar contribui la sentimentul c\u0103 sunt adult \u0219i c\u0103 m\u0103 pot descurca singur\u0103. La 25 de ani, \u00eenc\u0103 m\u0103 simt, nu neap\u0103rat copil, dar sub-adult. Uneori, \u00eenc\u0103 a\u0219tept pe cineva s\u0103 m\u0103 salveze din situa\u021biile nepl\u0103cute \u00een care m\u0103 g\u0103sesc. Se apropie ziua mea de na\u0219tere \u0219i, de aproape 10 ani, m\u0103 simt mult mai mic\u0103 dec\u00e2t num\u0103rul pe care \u00eel marcheaz\u0103. Mi se pare cople\u0219itor s\u0103 ai 25 ani \u0219i consider c\u0103 sunt at\u00e2t de nepreg\u0103tit\u0103 pentru aceast\u0103 v\u00e2rst\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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A\u0219 vrea s\u0103 te \u00eentreb: Cum fac tranzi\u021bia spre via\u021ba de adult\/ Va rezolva un loc de munc\u0103 stabil, m\u0103car par\u021bial, aceast\u0103 problem\u0103? \u0218i cum \u00eempac cele dou\u0103 ipostaze, persoana care vrea cu disperare s\u0103 lucreze undeva \u0219i s\u0103 fie unul dintre cei mai buni profesioni\u0219ti pe care \u00eei cunoa\u0219te \u0219i individul obosit \u0219i speriat de a\u0219tept\u0103ri, care vrea doar s\u0103 fie l\u0103sat \u00een pace?<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Mul\u021bumesc. Cu admira\u021bie,\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Drag\u0103 X.,<\/div>\n
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\u00ce\u021bi spun eu prima condi\u021bie esen\u021bial\u0103 a maturiz\u0103rii. E momentul c\u00e2nd \u00ee\u021bi pui semn\u0103tura pe un contract de \u00eenchiriere al unei case, singur\u0103, cu con\u0219tiin\u021ba c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi ajung\u0103 suma de bani X pentru toat\u0103 luna.<\/div>\n
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Legat de carier\u0103: sper c\u0103 \u0219tii \u0219i tu, a\u0219a cum \u0219tiu \u0219i eu, c\u0103 preg\u0103tirea asta cu cursuri de formare \u0219i alte BS-uri e doar o prelungire a dependen\u021bei de p\u0103rin\u021bi, pentru c\u0103 \u00een secret \u00ee\u021bi convine fuga de responsabilit\u0103\u021bi. Dar hai s\u0103-\u021bi spun\u0103 sora ta Lorena ce te va forma de fapt pentru o carier\u0103.<\/div>\n
Ob\u021binerea unui loc de munc\u0103 propriu-zis \u0219i adaptarea la atribu\u021biile pe care le prevede.<\/div>\n
\u00cen absen\u021ba practicii propriu-zise, 46790 de cursuri nu sunt dec\u00e2t frec\u021bie la picior de lemn.<\/div>\n
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Eu am lucrat \u0219i \u00een facultate, pentru c\u0103 mama nu mi-a dat bani de actorie. A crezut c\u0103 m\u0103 r\u0103zbe\u0219te foamea \u0219i vin acas\u0103. Numai c\u0103 a\u0219 fi preferat \u00een acel punct s\u0103 mor de foame, dec\u00e2t s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentorc la via\u021ba ur\u00e2t\u0103 \u0219i lipsit\u0103 de orice speran\u021b\u0103 din provincie. Am muncit, am f\u0103cut bani, mi-am pl\u0103tit \u00eent\u00e2i c\u0103minul, apoi o chirie \u0219i facturi, din ei, \u0219i mi-am urmat visul.<\/div>\n
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Ideea c\u0103 primul job trebuie s\u0103 fie obligatoriu acela de CEO la Pulacalului Inc., e absolut fals\u0103. Habar n-ai c\u00e2te \u00eenve\u021bi despre oameni dintr-un job de chelner, de telemarketer sau de supraveghetor al unei s\u0103li de p\u0103c\u0103nele. Faptul c\u0103 apar probleme \u0219i g\u0103se\u0219ti \u00een tine resurse s\u0103 le rezolvi, faptul c\u0103 faci fa\u021b\u0103 onorabil la job \u00eentr-o zi \u00een care te zv\u00e2rcole\u0219ti de crampe menstruale, toate acestea te antreneaz\u0103, te fac mai sigur\u0103 de tine, mai ferm\u0103 \u00een reac\u021bii \u0219i mai inspirat\u0103.<\/div>\n
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Pot spune c\u0103 joburile mici pe care le-am avut \u00een timpul facult\u0103\u021bii au fost o a doua \u0219coal\u0103, la fel de util\u0103 ca prima. Chiar mai util\u0103, pentru c\u0103 m-a ajutat s\u0103 deconstruiesc educa\u021bia de etern\u0103 victim\u0103 a \u00eemprejur\u0103rilor, pe care o primisem de la mama, \u0219i stilul de via\u021b\u0103 “ne v\u0103ic\u0103rim toat\u0103 ziua, dar nu facem concret nimic \u00een leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu problemele noastre”, \u015fi s\u0103-mi dau seama c\u0103, dac\u0103 vreau s\u0103 construiesc ceva, trebuie s\u0103 pun osul la treab\u0103 \u015fi c\u00e2nd am chef, \u015fi c\u00e2nd nu am, s\u0103 nu las dezaprobarea s\u0103 m\u0103 influen\u0163eze, dimpotriv\u0103, s\u0103 g\u0103sesc \u00een ea trambulin\u0103 pentru a s\u0103ri mai sus data viitoare \u015fi, de c\u00e2te ori mi se pretind chestii, s\u0103 abordez realist, cu plusuri \u015fi minusuri, care e utilitatea, care e deranjul, \u015fi dac\u0103 utilitatea merit\u0103 deranjul.<\/div>\n
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Recomand c\u0103lduros s\u0103 \u00eencerci un job unde trebuie s\u0103 te zba\u0163i, ca de exemplu agent de v\u00e2nz\u0103ri sau de imobiliare, dac\u0103 ai carnet de \u015fofer. Sigur ai, \u015fi probabil c\u0103 tati \u015fi mami \u0163i-au luat \u015fi ma\u015fin\u0103. Nimic nu te va maturiza mai rapid, nu te va \u00eenv\u0103\u0163a s\u0103 cuno\u015fti omul din prima \u015fi s\u0103 evaluezi c\u00e2te parale face caracterul lui ca un job unde trebuie s\u0103 convingi oamenii s\u0103 cumpere lucruri de la tine.<\/div>\n
Sau ia ma\u015fina de la tati \u015fi mami \u015fi f\u0103-te curier o lun\u0103, dou\u0103, trei, timp \u00een care aplici pentru pozi\u0163ii de CEO \u00een continuare.<\/div>\n
\u00ce\u0163i spun \u015fi de ce. Un CEO care a sp\u0103lat vase \u00een tinere\u0163e, sau a c\u0103rat pr\u00e2nzuri de la KFC, \u015ftie cum s\u0103 vorbeasc\u0103 \u015fi cu cel mai umil membru al echipei, \u015ftie problemele oamenilor \u015fi \u015ftie cum s\u0103-i motiveze. Pentru c\u0103 \u00een\u0163elege. A fost \u015fi el acolo.<\/div>\n
Un CEO care a fost doar la cursuri e paralel cu via\u0163a, \u015fi de obicei \u015fi cu business-ul, pentru c\u0103 orice business e de fapt tot via\u0163\u0103. Secretul succesului const\u0103 \u00een modul \u00een care \u00eencorporezi numitul business \u00een vie\u0163ile oamenilor.<\/div>\n
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So: sun\u0103 m\u00e2ine la Bringo \u015fi \u00eentreab\u0103-i dac\u0103 au un job pentru tine, apoi caut\u0103 o garsonier\u0103 de \u00eenchiriat. Combina\u0163ia va face minuni pentru maturizarea ta.<\/div>\n
Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/div>\n
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