{"id":21075,"date":"2021-01-11T12:04:33","date_gmt":"2021-01-11T09:04:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21075"},"modified":"2021-01-11T12:04:33","modified_gmt":"2021-01-11T09:04:33","slug":"posta-redactiei-ma-simt-urata-si-nedemna","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-ma-simt-urata-si-nedemna\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei: M\u0103 simt ur\u00e2t\u0103 \u0219i nedemn\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"

Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. Nu, Gicu, nu sub form\u0103 de sex, stai jos. \u00cen schimb, lu\u0103m o dram\u0103 personal\u0103 pe care mi-o trimite\u0163i pe mail, pe birou@lorenalupu.com, \u015fi g\u0103sim o solu\u0163ie, pe care oricum n-o ve\u0163i urma, dar m\u0103car ne distr\u0103m.<\/p>\n

\u015ei misiva de data asta:<\/p>\n

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Bun\u0103, Lorena!<\/strong><\/div>\n
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M\u0103 confrunt cu o problem\u0103 \u00een ce prive\u0219te sistemul meu de valori sau concep\u021biile mele, dac\u0103 m\u0103 pot exprima a\u0219a. Se promoveaz\u0103 intens pe re\u021belele sociale faptul c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 ne accept\u0103m \u00eenf\u0103\u021bi\u0219area a\u0219a cum este ea, s\u0103 nu \u00eencerc\u0103m s\u0103 p\u0103rem cine nu suntem. \u00cens\u0103, \u00een ciuda acestei aparen\u021be, toate persoanele pe care le urm\u0103resc se ascund \u00een fiecare zi dup\u0103 filtre \u0219i machiaje \u00eenc\u0103rcate. Lucrul \u0103sta \u00eemi d\u0103uneaz\u0103 foarte mult stimei mele de sine, m\u0103 face s\u0103 m\u0103 simt ur\u00e2t\u0103 \u0219i nedemn\u0103 de a ie\u0219i \u00een public f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eemi analizez \u0219i ultimul fir de p\u0103r din cap, pentru c\u0103 altfel nu m\u0103 simt bine. La fel \u0219i c\u00e2nd v\u0103d vedete sau influenceri supli, slabi,aproape de anorexie, care se vaiet\u0103 de diminea\u021ba p\u00e2n\u0103 seara c\u0103 nu pot m\u00e2nca ceea ce \u00ee\u0219i doresc sau fac sport p\u00e2n\u0103 la epuizare, motiv\u00e2nd c\u0103 asta e absolut necesar ca s\u0103 ar\u0103\u021bi bine. Mi-am dezvoltat o obsesie compulsiv\u0103 de a judeca \u0219i de a m\u0103 judeca pentru orice m\u0103n\u00e2nc sau nu fac ca s\u0103 ar\u0103t bine. Am \u00eencercat s\u0103 renun\u021b de tot la re\u021belele sociale, dar chiar \u0219i a\u0219a, v\u0103d lucruri care \u00eemi perturb\u0103 imaginea de sine. Ce atitudine crezi c\u0103 a\u0219 putea aborda ca s\u0103 nu m\u0103 mai las at\u00e2t de influen\u021bat\u0103?<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Mul\u021bumesc,<\/strong><\/div>\n
X.<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Drag\u0103 X.,<\/div>\n
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Care e traseul spre a nu ne l\u0103sa influen\u021ba\u021bi? Simplu. Hai s\u0103 \u00eencepem s\u0103 g\u00e2ndim cu mintea proprie.<\/div>\n
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De ce \u00ee\u0219i pun influencerii at\u00e2tea poze cu makeup? Eu, care am Instagramul mai plin de makeup dec\u00e2t o drogherie obi\u0219nuit\u0103, pot s\u0103-\u021bi r\u0103spund: PENTRU C\u0102-MI PLACE S\u0102 M\u0102 JOC DE-A ILUZIA. De asemenea: nu e at\u00e2t de serios, baby. Nimic nu e at\u00e2t de serios.<\/div>\n
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Da, e fain s\u0103 ar\u0103\u021bi bine, dar nu e at\u00e2t de dramatic \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 te zbuciumi pe interior \u0219i s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi faci dramele Parisului.<\/div>\n
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Also: de ce te sim\u021bi amenin\u021bat\u0103 sau chinuit\u0103 de lookurile altora pe Instagram? E\u0219ti \u00een concurs cu ei? Dac\u0103 da, care e premiul? Cum, nu exist\u0103 un premiu? Stai, fat\u0103, lini\u0219tit\u0103, \u0219i bucur\u0103-te de ce ai tu.<\/div>\n
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\u00cen primul r\u00e2nd: ce \u0219tii s\u0103 faci bine? Ai un talent anume, un domeniu \u00een care excelezi? Uite ceva \u00een care merit\u0103 s\u0103 investe\u0219ti efort \u0219i energie. Caut\u0103 un job care s\u0103 te provoace intelectual sau fizic, caut\u0103 lucruri interesante de f\u0103cut care la final vin cu un onorariu. Uite altceva \u00een care merit\u0103 s\u0103 investe\u0219ti efort \u0219i energie. Sau dac\u0103 ai bani de-i \u00eentorci cu lopata, f\u0103 voluntariat la o cas\u0103 de copii sau un ad\u0103post de animale \u0219i ajut\u0103 fiin\u021be \u00een nevoie. Uite \u00eenc\u0103 ceva \u00een care merit\u0103 s\u0103 investe\u0219ti efort \u0219i energie.<\/div>\n
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Dar chinuiala pe tema standardelor de frumuse\u021be ale unor oameni pe care n-o s\u0103-i \u00eent\u00e2lne\u0219ti niciodat\u0103 \u0219i care nu-\u021bi vor pl\u0103ti chiria mi se pare cea mai stupid\u0103 \u0219i inutil\u0103 \u00eendeletnicire dintre toate.<\/div>\n
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Ai ochi frumo\u0219i? Concentreaz\u0103 machiajul pe zona ochilor. Ai buze mi\u0219to? Ghinion, se poart\u0103 masc\u0103 zilele astea. Ai p\u0103r frumos? Pune-l \u00een valoare cu un pic de styling. Alege \u0219i accentueaz\u0103 ce e frumos, \u0219i ignor\u0103 ce e mai nereu\u0219it. E adev\u0103rata tactic\u0103 a tuturor.<\/div>\n
Nu e nimic frumos? Dezvolt\u0103 un deosebit sim\u021b al umorului. O mai spun o dat\u0103: NU E AT\u00c2T DE SERIOS. Machiajul, filtrele, hainele sunt toate chestiuni de leisure. De entertainment. Un pulover \u0219i o pereche de blugi te acoper\u0103 perfect \u0219i \u00ee\u021bi \u021bin cald iarna. Restul e alint \u0219i r\u0103sf\u0103\u021b. Nu motiv de fr\u0103m\u00e2nt\u0103ri. Iar cine \u00ee\u021bi spune c\u0103 ba da, e motiv de fr\u0103m\u00e2nt\u0103ri, e prea prost sau proast\u0103 s\u0103 merite aten\u021bie.<\/div>\n
Iar legat de faptul c\u0103 te la\u0219i influen\u021bat\u0103: c\u00e2nd \u0219tii c\u0103 ai problem\u0103 cu o chestie: solu\u021bia e pe jum\u0103tate acolo. F\u0103 urm\u0103torul exerci\u021biu: ignor\u0103 felul \u00een care arat\u0103 oamenii \u0219i concentreaz\u0103-te pe ceea ce fac. Cine din cercul t\u0103u e cu adev\u0103rat dedicat \u0219i serios? Pe cine te po\u021bi baza c\u0103 se \u021bine de cuv\u00e2nt? Cine te ajut\u0103 la nevoie? Cu cine po\u021bi avea conversa\u021bii valoroase \u0219i autentice, nu b\u00e2rf\u0103 m\u0103runt\u0103 \u0219i meschin\u0103 de curci proaste, care fac s\u0103 par\u0103 c\u0103 misoginii au dreptate?<\/div>\n
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\u0218i c\u00e2nd \u00eencepi s\u0103 judeci oamenii pe baza a ce au cu adev\u0103rat valoros, dramele Parisului dispar magic de la sine.<\/div>\n
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Mai spun o dat\u0103: TOATE ASPECTELE LEGATE DE LOOK TREBUIE LUATE CA AMUZAMENT, EXACT CA HOROSCOPUL SAU GHICITUL \u00ceN TAROT. NU E NIMIC SERIOS.<\/div>\n
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Singura diferen\u021b\u0103 pe care o face lookul dr\u0103gu\u021b e c\u0103 or s\u0103 vrea ni\u0219te gigei s\u0103 te foot\u0103, or s\u0103 te apeleze cu video pe Instagram la trei noaptea \u0219i, dac\u0103 tu nu r\u0103spunzi, or s\u0103 te frece la melodioar\u0103 cu mesaje idioate. Nimic serios sau trainic nu se na\u0219te pe baz\u0103 pe looks.<\/div>\n
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Sper c\u0103 \u021bi-am fost util\u0103,<\/div>\n
Lorena.<\/div>\n
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Dac\u0103 \u0163i-a pl\u0103cut acest articol,\u00a0sus\u0163ine site-ul cu o dona\u0163ie<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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