{"id":21132,"date":"2021-01-21T12:39:58","date_gmt":"2021-01-21T09:39:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21132"},"modified":"2021-01-21T12:39:58","modified_gmt":"2021-01-21T09:39:58","slug":"cum-rezisti-presiunii-unui-grup-agresiv","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/cum-rezisti-presiunii-unui-grup-agresiv\/","title":{"rendered":"Cum rezi\u015fti presiunii unui grup agresiv"},"content":{"rendered":"

C\u00e2nd am f\u0103cut o poz\u0103 cu Ana M\u0103i\u0163\u0103, o persoan\u0103 care n-a fost dec\u00e2t gra\u0163ioas\u0103, generoas\u0103 \u015fi extrem de amabil\u0103 cu mine, am declan\u015fat furia colectiv\u0103 a mafiei organizate a “iubitorilor de animale”. \u015fi folosesc “iubitori de animale” cu ghilimelele de rigoare. Pentru c\u0103 scopul lor nu e s\u0103 salveze \u015fi s\u0103 aib\u0103 grij\u0103 de animale, ci s\u0103 acopere de l\u0103turi, minciuni, insulte \u015fi hate orice persoan\u0103 care nu le sus\u0163ine agenda. Mai grav: chiar \u015fi pe o persoan\u0103 care le sus\u0163ine agenda, dar mai are \u015fi o via\u0163\u0103 pe l\u00e2ng\u0103, \u015fi nu o poate dedica \u00een \u00eentregime ideilor \u015fi directivelor lor.<\/p>\n

De trei zile, pagina mea e c\u00e2mp de\u00a0 lupt\u0103. Pe grupuri, diver\u015fi formatori de opinie bolnavi psihic \u015fi \u00eenseta\u0163i de s\u00e2nge trimit buluc de gigei sclave\u0163i, care nici m\u0103car nu \u015ftiu pe cine \u00eenjur\u0103, dar \u00eenjur\u0103, latr\u0103, url\u0103, \u00een virtutea uberabuzatei “libert\u0103\u0163i de exprimare”, care, iat\u0103, deschide o porti\u0163\u0103 pentru libertatea de cyberbullying, intimidare, abuz verbal, presiune, \u015fantaj. “O s\u0103 te l\u0103s\u0103m f\u0103r\u0103 cititori”. \u015ei colac peste pup\u0103z\u0103, deja posteaz\u0103 afirma\u0163ii mincinoase \u015fi despre mine. Ceea ce \u00eemi dovede\u015fte c\u0103 lucrurile pe care le scriu despre Ana sunt, de asemenea, 99% minciuni \u015fi n\u0103scociri.<\/p>\n

E un nivel de psihoz\u0103 \u015fi de misecuvenism legat de via\u0163a altuia care probabil c\u0103 ar zdrobi pe cineva mai slab de \u00eenger. Dar cum eu NU am de g\u00e2nd s\u0103 cedez acestui arsenal de tactici de persuasiune, \u00ee\u0163i voi povesti ce s\u0103 faci s\u0103 nu cedezi nici tu, dac\u0103 \u00een via\u0163a ta se oplo\u015fe\u015fte un grup de gunoaie toxice care vor s\u0103 te supun\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 te submineze.<\/p>\n

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  1. Nu le iei \u00een serios nici o afirma\u0163ie.\u00a0<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    S\u0103 pretinzi e u\u015for. S\u0103 \u0163ipi c\u0103 tu vrei aia, aia \u015fi aia e simplu. Orice copil de 2 ani o face. Copilul de 2 ani nu e con\u015ftient de limitele \u00een care preten\u0163iile lui \u00eencalc\u0103 libertatea personal\u0103 \u015fi dreptul la op\u0163iune al altora. \u015fi nici de faptul c\u0103 nu po\u0163i cere nimic de la oameni care nu-\u0163i datoreaz\u0103 nimic.<\/p>\n

    A\u015fa \u015fi gigeii \u015fi vasilicile care se adun\u0103 buluc s\u0103 te terorizeze pe tem\u0103 dat\u0103. Au maturitatea emo\u0163ional\u0103 a unui copil de 2 ani \u015fi exact aceea\u015fi proprietate a afirma\u0163iilor. Ai de ce s\u0103 cedezi unui copil de 2 ani care \u0163ip\u0103 \u015fi se agit\u0103? Da, dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i cere o napolitan\u0103. F*** NO, dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i cere s\u0103-\u0163i dicteze ce prietenii s\u0103 ai.<\/p>\n

    Drept care, dac\u0103 unii te f foarte tare la icre s\u0103 faci ceva ce nu au dreptul s\u0103-\u0163i cear\u0103, te deconectezi mintal \u015fi c\u00e2n\u0163i: lalalala.<\/p>\n

    E chiar mai important s\u0103 faci asta, dec\u00e2t modul \u00een care alegi s\u0103 reac\u0163ionezi. Nu-i l\u0103sa s\u0103 aib\u0103 putere asupra ta. Deta\u015feaz\u0103-te pe interior.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    *<\/p>\n

    2. Las\u0103-i s\u0103 at\u00e2rne.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Nu le r\u0103spunde imediat \u015fi nu c\u0103uta un mod amiabil de a le face pe plac. Repet: \u0103\u015ftia \u00ee\u0163i cer chestii CARE NU LI SE CUVIN. Dac\u0103 le ar\u0103\u0163i disponibilitate, te-au m\u00e2ncat de viu.<\/p>\n

    Repet\u0103, over and over again, “nu”. “Nu \u00eemi spui ce s\u0103 fac”. “Nu \u00eemi dictezi cum s\u0103-mi tr\u0103iesc via\u0163a. Nu e\u015fti factor de influen\u0163\u0103 \u00een deciziile mele”.<\/p>\n

    Puterea lui “nu” este absolut\u0103. Dar fii convins de NU-ul t\u0103u, las\u0103-l s\u0103 vin\u0103 din cea mai intim\u0103 fibr\u0103 a fiin\u0163ei tale \u015fi nu ezita nici dac\u0103 sunt zece, nici dac\u0103 sunt trei mii.<\/p>\n

    Puterea e la tine.<\/p>\n

    3. Proiec\u0163iile \u015fi psihozele lor sunt problemele lor, \u015fi nu e treaba ta s\u0103 le tratezi\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    \u015ei, dac\u0103 sunt problemele lor, s\u0103-\u015fi vad\u0103 ei de ele. Nu pe timpul t\u0103u, c\u0103 nu ai de ce s\u0103 investe\u015fti timp \u00een preten\u0163iile f\u0103r\u0103 acoperite ale unui mob de misecuveni\u015fti.<\/p>\n

    Omul din ziua de azi nu-\u015fi pre\u0163uie\u015fte \u00eendeajuns timpul. Nu \u015ftie cum s\u0103-l compartimenteze, s\u0103 nu-l mai piard\u0103 pe toate rahaturile \u015fi inep\u0163iile.\u00a0 Nu, gigel, faptul c\u0103 tu vrei aia \u015fi aia NU e problema mea. Te justific\u0103 ceva s\u0103-mi ceri aia \u015fi aia? Nu? Mar\u015f voios \u00een direc\u0163ia general\u0103 a pxlii mele structuraliste.<\/p>\n

    4. Nu ceda la jigniri \u015fi amenin\u0163\u0103ri\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Dac\u0103 un individ are de oferit ceva de calitate, o va face. Cei care recurg la jigniri \u015fi amenin\u0163\u0103ri sunt cei care nu au nimic altceva de oferit.<\/p>\n

    De cum cineva atac\u0103 \u00een acest mod, tu \u00eel treci instant \u00een recycle bin-ul t\u0103u mintal \u015fi extragi din jignirile \u015fi insultele lui mai mult\u0103 baz\u0103 pentru NU. Cu at\u00e2t mai mult NU.<\/p>\n

    5. \u00cen definitiv, f\u0103 ceea ce e mai bine pentru tine.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Ia decizia raportat strict la ceea ce \u00ee\u0163i place \u015fi ceea ce te bucur\u0103. E via\u0163a ta. N-o tr\u0103ie\u015fte haita de cretini, o tr\u0103ie\u015fti tu. \u00cen ceasul mor\u0163ii, haita de cretini nu va fi l\u00e2ng\u0103 tine s\u0103 te \u0163in\u0103 de m\u00e2n\u0103. E\u015fti responsabil pentru fericirea ta, nu pentru a lor.<\/p>\n

    6. Prin urmare, elimini \u00een totalitate, sau c\u00e2t po\u0163i tu de mult, acest tip de persoane.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Dac\u0103 po\u0163i rupe complet leg\u0103turile, f\u0103-o. Dac\u0103 nu, limiteaz\u0103 la minimum interac\u0163iunea. P\u0103streaz\u0103 distan\u0163area social\u0103, la propriu \u015fi la figurat. Arat\u0103-le c\u00e2t se poate de limpede c\u0103 nimic din presiunea\u00a0 lor nu te va \u00eempiedica s\u0103 faci exact ce vrei, c\u00e2nd vrei, cum vrei, cu cine vrei.<\/p>\n

    Iar dac\u0103, dimpotriv\u0103, tu erai cel care le oferea p\u00e2n\u0103 acum chestii, retrage-le f\u0103r\u0103 regrete.<\/p>\n

    Nu ne juc\u0103m a\u015fa, b**ch. Iar presupunerea ta c\u0103 ne putem juca a\u015fa vine cu consecin\u0163e.<\/p>\n

    ***<\/p>\n

    Dac\u0103 \u0163i-a pl\u0103cut acest articol,\u00a0sus\u0163ine site-ul cu o dona\u0163ie<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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