{"id":21183,"date":"2021-01-31T10:32:34","date_gmt":"2021-01-31T07:32:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21183"},"modified":"2021-01-31T10:32:34","modified_gmt":"2021-01-31T07:32:34","slug":"draga-esti-dificila","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/draga-esti-dificila\/","title":{"rendered":"Drag\u0103, e\u0219ti dificil\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"

C\u0103utam de citit ceva la cafea, c\u00e2nd mi-a picat sub ochi un articol. Despre actri\u021be, \u0219i despre cum eticheta de “dificil\u0103” li se pune din aaabsolut, dar absolut orice. Pentru c\u0103 sunt perfec\u0163ioniste. Pentru c\u0103 vor s\u0103 mai dea o dubl\u0103. Pentru c\u0103 rolul feminin, adeseori scris de un scenarist b\u0103rbat, este mult prea schematic, mult prea “e ok s\u0103 stai acolo \u015fi s\u0103 fii dr\u0103gu\u0163\u0103”, \u015fi vin cu idei care s\u0103 infuzeze personalitate \u015fi motiva\u0163ii. Pentru c\u0103 nu vor s\u0103 mai fie pl\u0103tite cu nasturi pentru munc\u0103 \u00een condi\u0163ii dificile. Pentru c\u0103 au idei proprii. \u015fi tot a\u015fa.<\/p>\n

Dup\u0103 ce am terminat articolul, am stat s\u0103 meditez: cam asta e eticheta care li se pune femeilor \u00een toate domeniile. Numai c\u0103 actri\u0163ele aleg s\u0103 denun\u0163e situa\u0163ia \u015fi s\u0103 protesteze \u00eempotriva ei.<\/p>\n

Am fost f\u0103cut\u0103 “dificil\u0103” inclusiv \u00een acea etap\u0103 a vie\u0163ii mele c\u00e2nd m\u0103 d\u0103deam peste cap s\u0103 mul\u0163umesc pe toat\u0103 lumea. \u015ei de cele mai multe ori, eram dificil\u0103 strict pentru c\u0103, de la un punct al exploat\u0103rii \u00een sus, eram like: “Okkk, asta nu a fost \u00een negocierea ini\u0163ial\u0103”. Sau eram dificil\u0103 pentru c\u0103 nu c\u0103deam cu cracii larg desf\u0103cu\u0163i de c\u00e2te ori un gigel binevoia s\u0103 m\u0103 bage \u00een seam\u0103. Sau pentru c\u0103 nu puneam botul la BS \u015fi \u00eentrebam, foarte dr\u0103gu\u0163 \u015fi inofensiv, exact ce trebuia pentru a demonstra c\u0103 interlocutorul m\u0103n\u00e2nc\u0103 …<\/p>\n

Mbun.<\/p>\n

Practic, o femeie, \u00een orice domeniu, este etichetat\u0103 dificil\u0103 c\u00e2nd este orice altceva dec\u00e2t un robo\u0163el supus \u015fi executant f\u0103r\u0103 discern\u0103m\u00e2nt. Pentru c\u0103, de c\u00e2te ori unii te vor pentru ceva, te vor cu a\u015ftept\u0103ri foarte fixe \u015fi cea mai fin\u0103 tentativ\u0103 de negociere \u00ee\u0163i aduce eticheta de dificil\u0103.<\/p>\n

Lucru de care b\u0103rba\u0163ii nu se lovesc niciodat\u0103. Te a\u015ftep\u0163i ca gigel s\u0103 aib\u0103 perpetuu ceva de comentat, sau idei mai d\u0103jtepte, sau s\u0103 spun\u0103 dac\u0103 \u00eel nemul\u0163ume\u015fte ceva, \u015fi pe toate astea, societatea le contabilizeaz\u0103 drept “comportament b\u0103rb\u0103tesc normal”. Pentru ca un b\u0103rbat s\u0103 capete eticheta de dificil, chiar trebuie s\u0103 fie un bou c\u00e2rcota\u015f pe orice idio\u0163enie irelevant\u0103, sau un mitoman care se \u00eencurc\u0103 \u00een propriile minciuni, sau un \u0163\u0103r\u0103noi lipsit complet de maniere. \u00cen rest, derapajele mici \u015fi mijlocii sunt din categoria “las\u0103-l, drag\u0103, c\u0103 e b\u0103iat bun”.<\/p>\n

Dup\u0103 ce m-am prins cum merge treaba, am decis s\u0103 renun\u0163 la orice tentativ\u0103 de a mai mul\u0163umi pe al\u0163ii, \u00een afara unui contract care s\u0103 stipuleze clar ce primesc pentru asta. Dac\u0103 toate bunele tale inten\u0163ii \u015fi toat\u0103 implicarea sunt ignorate din cauza etichetei de “dificil\u0103”, perfect. How about f***ing pay for my services and f*** the f*** off?<\/p>\n

\u015ei, totodat\u0103, am renun\u0163at la orice ezitare \u00een a comunica ce nu e bine \u015fi ce m\u0103 nemul\u0163ume\u015fte. Dac\u0103 tot ai un label, tr\u0103ie\u015fte cu el, right?<\/p>\n

Paradoxal, cu c\u00e2t am renun\u0163at s\u0103 mai mul\u0163umesc pe al\u0163ii \u015fi cu c\u00e2t le-am prezentat din prima un modus operandi \u015fi un fel de a privi via\u0163a, am \u00eenceput s\u0103 aud mai rar eticheta de “dificil\u0103”. Sau, poate, nu mi se spune \u00een fa\u0163\u0103 \u015fi sunt b\u00e2rfit\u0103 ca “dificil\u0103” doar pe la spate, ceea ce mi-e ok.<\/p>\n

Oamenii \u00eei trateaz\u0103 cel mai frumos pe confra\u0163ii lor pe care \u00eei m\u0103n\u00e2nc\u0103 de c** pe la spate, dar de care se tem de fapt. Deci, fine for me.<\/p>\n

Probabil c\u0103, \u00eentre timp, a evoluat un pic \u015fi societatea, sau cel pu\u0163in cercurile \u00een care m\u0103 \u00eenv\u00e2rt eu, \u015fi s-a mai nuan\u0163at termenul “dificil\u0103”.<\/p>\n

Cert e c\u0103 am recomandare pentru voi, gagici. Dac\u0103 vi se spune: Drag\u0103, e\u015fti dificil\u0103, cere\u0163i-le explica\u0163ie. Ce vor s\u0103 spun\u0103 cu asta. Adeseori, dificultatea e mai mult \u00een atitudinea lor, dec\u00e2t \u00een ceea ce face\u0163i voi de fapt.<\/p>\n

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Dac\u0103 \u0163i-a pl\u0103cut acest articol,\u00a0sus\u0163ine site-ul cu o dona\u0163ie<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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