{"id":21192,"date":"2021-02-02T10:16:28","date_gmt":"2021-02-02T07:16:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21192"},"modified":"2021-02-02T10:16:28","modified_gmt":"2021-02-02T07:16:28","slug":"posta-redactiei-cuplul-dupa-nasterea-copilului","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-cuplul-dupa-nasterea-copilului\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei: Cuplul, dup\u0103 na\u0219terea copilului"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. Nu, Gicu, nu sub form\u0103 de sex, stai jos. \u00cen schimb, lu\u0103m o dram\u0103 personal\u0103 pe care mi-o trimite\u0163i pe mail, pe birou@lorenalupu.com, \u015fi g\u0103sim o solu\u0163ie, pe care oricum n-o ve\u0163i urma, dar m\u0103car ne distr\u0103m.<\/p>\n

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Bun\u0103, Lorena!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Urm\u0103resc post\u0103rile tale, at\u00e2t de pe blog, c\u00e2t \u0219i pe pagina oficial\u0103, suntem prieteni \u0219i pe Facebook, iar p\u0103rerea \u0219i sfaturile tale, \u00een modul t\u0103u unic, m-au f\u0103cut s\u0103-\u021bi scriu.<\/strong><\/div>\n
Sunt \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie cu un b\u0103rbat pe care \u00eel iubesc si din care a rezultat o minune blond\u0103 cu ochi alba\u0219tri de numai trei luni. Fiind \u00een concediu de cre\u0219tere, \u00eemi petrec timpul doar cu ea. Nop\u021bi nedormite de la colici, m\u00e2ncare, cur\u0103\u021benie, tipic tradi\u021bional \u0219i clasic. Toate bune \u0219i frumoase, doar c\u0103 am obosit, at\u00e2t fizic, c\u00e2t \u0219i psihic. Am avut o discu\u021bie cu partenerul de via\u021b\u0103, \u00een care\u00a0 am explicat nevoile mele de odihn\u0103, lipsa lui de implicare (\u00ee\u021bi spun c\u0103 \u00een aceste trei luni, nu a sp\u0103lat un vas, [nu a pus un] un aspirator sau o mas\u0103 cald\u0103 s\u0103 preg\u0103teasc\u0103, nu m-a \u00eentrebat m\u0103car o dat\u0103 dac\u0103 sunt bine, dac\u0103 am crampe, dac\u0103 m-am ref\u0103cut dup\u0103 na\u0219tere. Nimic. Aten\u021bie \u0219i interes zero.)<\/strong><\/div>\n
Pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 toate astea, i-am explicat: eu fac toate pentru bun\u0103starea noastr\u0103, m\u0103 a\u0219tept, c\u00e2nd vii acas\u0103, s\u0103 aduci o energie bun\u0103, s\u0103 petreci timpul cu noi, s\u0103 comunic\u0103m mai des. M\u0103 sun\u0103 doar o dat\u0103 pe zi sau deloc. Iar la c\u00e2teva zile tot arunc\u0103 cu acest gen de cuvinte: ai cearc\u0103ne, uite ce ai sl\u0103bit, ce fa\u021b\u0103 ai, \u00ee\u0163i miros hainele a ceap\u0103, parc\u0103 te ui\u021bi ur\u00e2t.<\/strong><\/div>\n
A fost ziua mea. Nici o aten\u021bie. Cea de nume, la fel. Desigur c\u0103 au urmat discu\u021bii pe fondul acesta, despre nemul\u021bumirile mele. A spus c\u0103 mi se pare, ba c\u0103 cer prea mult, ba s\u0103 am r\u0103bdare, ba c\u0103 am probleme, ba c\u0103 e pandemie \u0219i c\u0103 nu-s ie\u0219it\u0103 la aer, c\u0103 sunt picat\u0103 \u00een depresie, etc. Iar cirea\u0219a de pe tort: a zis c\u0103 \u00eei pare r\u0103u c\u0103 a f\u0103cut un copil cu mine (c\u0103 sunt o cic\u0103litoare). \u00cen fine. \u00ce\u021bi imaginezi c\u0103 am ripostat \u0219i eu cu c\u00e2teva replici nedemne, dar nu mai pot. Simt c\u0103 m\u0103 usuc. Am cerut doar pre\u021buire, pu\u021bin interes\u00a0 de la el, s\u0103 facem o echip\u0103. At\u00e2t.<\/strong><\/div>\n
Ce a\u0219 putea s\u0103 zic: omule, nu pandemia te \u00eempiedic\u0103 s\u0103 spui un “mul\u021bumesc”, nu pandemia te \u00eempiedic\u0103 s\u0103 spui: “draga mea, cum \u0163i-a fost ziua”, “mai po\u0163i?”, pupicul de noapte bun\u0103 sau de bun venit. \u00cen fine.<\/strong><\/div>\n
De comunicat, nu mai vrea sa comunice deloc. Dac\u0103 \u00eei spun ceva, el nu e de vin\u0103, nu recunoa\u0219te nimic, el nu a gre\u0219it cu nimic.<\/strong><\/div>\n
A\u0219a, doar acas\u0103 e a\u0219a. C\u00e2nd ie\u0219im sau mergem \u00een vizit\u0103, e la fel ca cel pe care l-am cunoscut: galant, jovial, atent. Stau ca proasta \u0219i m\u0103 minunez sau doar mi se pare mie c\u00e2t\u0103 pref\u0103c\u0103torie (i-am zis \u0219i asta: “cum e\u015fti \u00een societate altfel?” R\u0103spunsul lui: “m\u0103 simt aerisit.”)<\/strong><\/div>\n
Eu doresc s\u0103 realizeze c\u0103 pierde o familie, o femeie care-l iube\u0219te, dar am \u0219i eu limita mea de toleran\u021b\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
S-a pus problema s\u0103 ne desp\u0103r\u021bim. Eu i-am zis c\u0103 accept, pentru c\u0103 jignirile zilnice nu duc nic\u0103ieri, iar el nu vrea. Dar nici nu face nimic pentru a se schimba situa\u021bia \u00een bine. A\u0219teapt\u0103 s\u0103 treac\u0103 de la sine totul. Luna asta nici un ban nu a adus \u00een cas\u0103. Habar nu am ce face. Peac\u0103 din cas\u0103 seara c\u00e2te o or\u0103. Cic\u0103 la plimbare, s\u0103 se aeriseasc\u0103.<\/strong><\/div>\n
Nu stau pentru nici un alt motiv dec\u00e2t sentimentele care le nutresc pt el. At\u00e2t. Sunt o femeie care are un job c\u00e2t de c\u00e2t pl\u0103tit pentru a se \u00eentre\u021bine singur\u0103 cu un copil.<\/strong><\/div>\n
Unde gre\u0219esc?<\/strong><\/div>\n
Mul\u021bumesc pentru timpul t\u0103u, c\u00e2t \u0219i pentru un eventual r\u0103spuns!<\/strong><\/div>\n
Cu considera\u021bie,<\/strong><\/div>\n
X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Drag\u0103 X,<\/div>\n
Gre\u0219e\u0219ti c\u0103 mai stai.<\/div>\n
Desp\u0103r\u021birea aia nu trebuie “acceptat\u0103”, \u00een condi\u0163iile astea, ci \u00ee\u0163i faci frumos bagajele \u015fi te duci \u00eenv\u00e2rtindu-te. Apoi, dai boul sinistru \u00een judecat\u0103 \u015fi \u00eei ceri 1\/4 din venitul lunar net pentru \u00eentre\u0163inerea copilului. At\u00e2t \u00ee\u0163i datoreaz\u0103. Numai pentru \u00eentre\u0163inerea copilului. Dac\u0103 pe tine nu te bag\u0103 \u00een seam\u0103, va b\u0103ga \u00een seam\u0103 executorul judec\u0103toresc.<\/div>\n
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Eu, una, nu am cic\u0103lit niciodat\u0103 pe nimeni. Am spus frumos o dat\u0103 ce nu-mi convine. Dac\u0103 nu s-a \u00eenregistrat informa\u0163ia, am spus cu mor\u0163i, r\u0103ni\u0163i \u015fi b\u0103gare \u00een zzzd\u0103 de mam\u0103. Dac\u0103 nici a\u015fa nu a trecut rampa, f***-\u0163i mor\u0163ii m\u0103-tii de c\u00e2\u015ftig\u0103tor la belciuge, n-ai \u00een\u0163eles ce se a\u015fteapt\u0103 de la tine, haipa d\u0103-te-n g\u00e2\u0163ii m\u0103-tii.<\/div>\n
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At\u00e2ta timp c\u00e2t un b\u0103rbat \u0163ine la o femeie, o ajut\u0103, \u00eei face cadouri de ziua ei \u015fi \u00ee\u015fi asum\u0103 partea lui de munc\u0103 \u00een \u00eengrijirea copilului comun. C\u00e2nd nu-i mai pas\u0103, se p***\u0103 pe nevoile ei cum se p***\u0103 \u0103sta pe ale tale.<\/div>\n
Uite, \u00een public \u015ftie s\u0103 se poarte, \u015fi \u015ftii de ce?<\/div>\n
Pentru c\u0103 de opinia lumii \u00eei pas\u0103.<\/div>\n
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“Vai,\u00a0 nu realizeaz\u0103 c\u0103 pierde o femeie a\u015fa-\u015fi-pe-dincolo”.<\/div>\n
P\u0103i, iat\u0103 c\u0103 n-o pierde. Tu tolerezi s\u0103 se duc\u0103 o or\u0103 pe sear\u0103 la f***t (\u015ftim am\u00e2ndou\u0103 c\u0103 asta face, nu?), tolerezi s\u0103 nu ajute cu nimic la \u00eengrijirea copilului mic, tolerezi s\u0103 nu dea un ban \u00een cas\u0103 c\u00e2nd copilul cost\u0103 o droaie de bani \u015fi din c\u00e2nd \u00een c\u00e2nd mai protestezi un pic, dar \u00ee\u0163i \u00eenchide gura cu ni\u015fte vr\u0103jeal\u0103 proast\u0103.<\/div>\n
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Va realiza c\u0103 pierde a\u015fa \u015fi pe dincolo DUP\u0102 CE chiar pierde. Dup\u0103 ce judec\u0103torul va admite solicitarea ta care \u00eei va lua silit o parte din venit pentru \u00eentre\u0163inerea copilului. Nu, \u00een mor\u0163ii lui de gunoi jegos, faza cu “regret c\u0103 am f\u0103cut un copil cu tine” nu e un r\u0103spuns valid, DUP\u0102 CE a ap\u0103rut deja copilul \u015fi pl\u00e2nge zilnic dup\u0103 m\u00e2ncare, aten\u0163ie \u015fi pamper\u015fi. Numai pentru nesim\u0163irea asta ar merita s\u0103 treac\u0103 prin umilin\u0163a unui proces pierdut. \u015ei s\u0103 i se deduc\u0103 automat acea p\u0103trime din venit.<\/div>\n
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Pleac\u0103 m\u00e2ine, d\u0103-l \u00een judecat\u0103 poim\u00e2ine. A vrut copilul, nu i l-ai f\u0103cut tu cu for\u0163a. Sau cel pu\u0163in sper. Drept care, \u00ee\u015fi va asuma c\u0103 e tat\u0103, sau \u00eel va face statul rom\u00e2n s\u0103-\u015fi asume. Nu sta s\u0103 chinui copilul pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 un tat\u0103 indiferent \u015fi neimplicat, care nu contribuie cu nimic, c\u0103 nu vei face dec\u00e2t s-o educi c\u0103 a\u015fa sunt b\u0103rba\u0163ii. Iar asta e o jignire pentru b\u0103rba\u0163ii care \u00ee\u015fi onoreaz\u0103 obliga\u0163iile de so\u0163 \u015fi tat\u0103.<\/div>\n
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Recapitul\u0103m: p\u0103r\u0103sit jigodia ordinar\u0103 \u015fi nesim\u0163it\u0103 m\u00e2ine. Dat \u00een judecat\u0103 pentru drepturile copilului jigodia ordinar\u0103 \u015fi nesim\u0163it\u0103 poim\u00e2ine. Savurat cum se miloge\u015fte jigodia ordinar\u0103 \u015fi nesim\u0163it\u0103 s\u0103 retragi pl\u00e2ngerea p\u00e2n\u0103 la data procesului, apoi luat banii lun\u0103 de lun\u0103 \u015fi cump\u0103rat din el pamper\u015fi \u015fi ce mai trebuie.<\/div>\n
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Baft\u0103,<\/div>\n
Lorena.<\/div>\n
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PS: F***-l \u00een gur\u0103 de jeg ordinar, b\u0103ga-mi-a\u015f p**a \u00een to\u0163i mor\u0163ii lui.<\/div>\n
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PS2: E traum\u0103 din copil\u0103rie, exact \u0103sta e taic\u0103-miu, deci am voie. Nu fi maic\u0103-mea, s\u0103 te tot miloge\u015fti de el s\u0103 se prind\u0103 ce femeie minunat\u0103 e\u015fti \u015fi ce rela\u0163ie autentic\u0103 are cu tine. Newsflash: \u00eel doare \u00een _I_.<\/div>\n
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