{"id":21204,"date":"2021-02-04T11:08:52","date_gmt":"2021-02-04T08:08:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21204"},"modified":"2021-02-04T11:08:52","modified_gmt":"2021-02-04T08:08:52","slug":"hai-sa-vorbim-despre-bdsm","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/hai-sa-vorbim-despre-bdsm\/","title":{"rendered":"Hai s\u0103 vorbim despre BDSM"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>E un b\u0103iat cu care \u00eemi place s\u0103 glumesc. De c\u00e2te ori \u00eel v\u0103d, \u00eei spun: pick a safeword. La un moment dat, mi-a m\u0103rturisit: Am gug\u0103lit faza aia cu safeword \u0219i am \u00een\u021beles despre ce e vorba. Dar nu \u00een\u021beleg de ce e nevoie de un safeword. Stop, nu-mi mai place nu e suficient?<\/p>\n<p>\u0218i atunci i-am explicat: \u00cen BDSM, rela\u021bia de domina\u021bie e consensual\u0103. Se pun \u00een practic\u0103 \u00een mod aproape realist fantezii \u00een care e\u0219ti legat, supus, umilit, tu protestezi c\u00e2t mai credibil, dar de fapt \u00ee\u021bi place.<\/p>\n<p>De ce e nevoie de un safeword?<\/p>\n<p>Pentru c\u0103 dominatorul sau dominatrix nu vrea s\u0103 te fac\u0103 s\u0103 suferi cu adev\u0103rat. Pune \u00een practic\u0103 o fantezie reciproc satisf\u0103c\u0103toare, presupun\u00e2nd c\u0103 e\u0219ti submisiv. Safeword este un cuv\u00e2nt total random, cum ar fi de exemplu &#8220;pizza capricciosa&#8221;, prin care tu comunici c\u0103 nu-\u0163i mai place ceea ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103. \u015ei atunci, el sau ea se opre\u015fte.<\/p>\n<p>Evident c\u0103 b\u0103iatul \u0103sta nu a ales niciodat\u0103 un safeword \u015fi totul a r\u0103mas la nivel de glumi\u0163\u0103, pentru c\u0103 nu vrei s\u0103 obligi pe nimeni la nimic. BDSM autentic e 100% consim\u0163it.<\/p>\n<p>*<\/p>\n<p>\u00cen schimb, dac\u0103 cite\u015fti <a href=\"https:\/\/www.rollingstone.com\/tv\/tv-features\/evan-rachel-wood-how-wild-past-personal-demons\"><strong>interviul \u0103sta<\/strong><\/a> pentru Rolling Stone al lui Evan Rachel Wood, afli c\u0103 ea alesese demult un safeword.<\/p>\n<p>Citez din Rolling Stone:<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;So Wood did what made sense at the time: At 18, she went to the Chateau Marmont, met Marilyn Manson (then 36 and married to Dita Von Teese), started dating him, and subsequently appeared, Lolita-like, in a video for \u201cHeart-Shaped Glasses,\u201d groping her nether region and then making out with Manson as fake blood rains upon them in a video so graphic that the sex was rumored to have been real (she says it wasn\u2019t). \u201cI met somebody that promised freedom and expression and no judgments,\u201d she says. \u201cAnd I was craving danger and excitement. I looked at my mother one day and said, \u2018Mom, I\u2019m gonna get on this tour bus for eight months and see the world and have a crazy journey and find myself, and if people aren\u2019t OK with that, I\u2019m sorry, but I can\u2019t live my life for other people.\u2019\u2009\u201d<\/p>\n<p>*<\/p>\n<p>Deci, ea, pe atunci o necunoscut\u0103, l-a c\u0103utat personal pe Manson, la Chateau Marmont, \u015fi l-a ag\u0103\u0163at. De ce? O spune chiar ea.\u00a0<strong>I was craving danger and excitement.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&#8220;T\u00e2njeam dup\u0103 pericol \u015fi exaltare&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Nu dup\u0103 &#8220;m\u00e2ng\u00e2ieri tandre pe c\u0103p\u015for&#8221;, nu dup\u0103 &#8220;s\u0103rut\u0103ri sub clar de lun\u0103&#8221;. Dup\u0103 PERICOL \u015eI EXALTARE.<\/p>\n<p>Deci, tu te duci \u015fi-i ceri unuia pericol \u015fi exaltare. \u0102la \u0163i le d\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Apoi, tu e\u015fti \u00eentr-un fel victima \u0103luia care \u0163i-a dat exact ce ai cerut.<\/p>\n<p>N\u0163\u0163\u0163\u0163\u0163! nu-mi iese Excelul.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Manson nu a f\u0103cut niciodat\u0103 un secret din faptul c\u0103 e ahtiat dup\u0103 BDSM. Toat\u0103 estetica lui era despre asta. C\u00e2nd \u0163i se pune pata SPECIFIC pe cineva care \u00ee\u015fi afi\u015feaz\u0103 deschis kinkurile, \u015fi TE DUCI S\u0102 CAU\u0162I OMUL SPECIAL PENTRU ASTA, apoi accep\u0163i s\u0103 faci clipurile lui, s\u0103 pleci \u00een turnee cu el, pentru c\u0103 ASTA \u00ce\u0162I DORE\u015eTI \u015eI NU VREI S\u0102 TR\u0102IE\u015eTI PENTRU AL\u0162II, mi se pare ipocrit \u015fi tic\u0103los s\u0103 spui, zece ani mai t\u00e2rziu, c\u0103 omul \u0163i-a sp\u0103lat creierii.<\/p>\n<p>Dup\u0103 cum se vede, venise\u015fi cu ei gata sp\u0103la\u0163i, da\u0163i cu balsam \u015fi trecu\u0163i pe la usc\u0103torie.<\/p>\n<p>Trei ani mai t\u00e2rziu, o Wood foarte fericit\u0103 (aparent) accept\u0103 s\u0103 se logodeasc\u0103 cu omul care o chinuia \u015fi o maltrata.<\/p>\n<p>*<\/p>\n<p>Mi se pare ridicol\u0103 afirma\u0163ia ei, c\u0103 ea nu \u015fi-a dorit ini\u0163ial o rela\u0163ie cu el, dar el a manipulat-o \u015fi \u00een acest sens.<\/p>\n<p>Hai s\u0103 ne g\u00e2ndim la Lorena adolescent\u0103. M\u0103 atr\u0103gea foarte tare Axl Rose, care ar\u0103ta ca o fat\u0103 frumoas\u0103. \u00centotdeauna m-au atras b\u0103rba\u0163ii femei \u015fi femeile b\u0103rba\u0163i.<\/p>\n<p><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-21205\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Axl-Rose.jpg?resize=439%2C604&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"439\" height=\"604\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Axl-Rose.jpg?w=439&amp;ssl=1 439w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Axl-Rose.jpg?resize=218%2C300&amp;ssl=1 218w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Axl-Rose.jpg?resize=109%2C150&amp;ssl=1 109w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 439px) 100vw, 439px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Dac\u0103 eu a\u015f fi avut tupeul lui Evan Rachel Wood s\u0103-l caut pe \u0103sta acas\u0103 la el, crede\u0163i c\u0103 era nevoie de vreo manipulare din partea lui s\u0103 m\u0103 fac\u0103 s\u0103 accept o rela\u0163ie?<\/p>\n<p>Sau, dimpotriv\u0103, realist, mi-a\u015f fi udat simultan toat\u0103 colec\u0163ia de chilo\u0163ei din dotare &#8211; \u015fi subsolul blocului de domiciliu &#8211; dac\u0103 el m\u0103 b\u0103ga \u00een seam\u0103 \u015fi \u00eemi propunea una?<\/p>\n<p>Practic, Evan Rachel Wood a fost o groupie. O groupie care a c\u0103utat un star rock, pentru c\u0103 o excita imaginea pe care o vindea el.<\/p>\n<p>Dar Manson n-a tratat-o ca pe un groupie. A distribuit-o \u00een clipurile lui, a prezentat-o peste tot ca logodnica lui, a avut cu ea o rela\u0163ie c\u00e2t se poate de public\u0103 \u015fi asumat\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei pariez pe orice c\u0103 au avut un safeword.<\/p>\n<p>Altfel nu rezistau mai mult de trei ani.<\/p>\n<p>O fat\u0103 care se duce acas\u0103 la un tip celebru nu e g\u00e2sculi\u0163a naiv\u0103 c\u0103reia \u00eei e ru\u015fine s\u0103 spun\u0103 ce nu-i place, sau tipa timid\u0103 care se teme s\u0103 r\u0103neasc\u0103 sentimentele celuilalt. O fat\u0103 care se duce acas\u0103 la un tip celebru \u015ftie EXACT ce vrea.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;M-a legat, m-a umilit verbal, m-a f\u0103cut s\u0103 \u00eemi dovedesc iubirea pentru el&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Da. Sun\u0103 total a roleplay BDSM.<\/p>\n<p>Dar safewordul era la Rachel. \u015ei \u00eel putea folosi oric\u00e2nd.<\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>Dac\u0103 \u0163i-a pl\u0103cut acest articol,\u00a0<strong><a href=\"http:\/\/paypal.me\/Trollywood\">sus\u0163ine site-ul cu o dona\u0163ie<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/paypal.me\/Trollywood\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-14577 jetpack-lazy-image jetpack-lazy-image--handled\" src=\"https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=160%2C160&amp;ssl=1 160w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=320%2C320&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=184%2C184&amp;ssl=1 184w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?w=931&amp;ssl=1 931w\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" data-lazy-loaded=\"1\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>***<br \/>\nVrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lorenaalmighty\/\"><strong>Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe\u00a0<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/lorenalupu\">Twitter<\/a><\/strong>\u00a0\u015fi\u00a0<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lorena.lup\/\">Instagram<\/a><\/strong>, subscribe pe\u00a0<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCCHBtHi6S2GlUFqETH70cjQ\">YouTube<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>E un b\u0103iat cu care \u00eemi place s\u0103 glumesc. De c\u00e2te ori \u00eel v\u0103d, \u00eei spun: pick a safeword. La un moment dat, mi-a&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":21209,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21204","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/domina.jpg?fit=640%2C448&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21204","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21204"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21204\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":21208,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21204\/revisions\/21208"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/21209"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21204"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21204"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21204"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}