{"id":21287,"date":"2021-02-19T12:26:29","date_gmt":"2021-02-19T09:26:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21287"},"modified":"2021-02-19T12:26:29","modified_gmt":"2021-02-19T09:26:29","slug":"despre-toxicitate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/despre-toxicitate\/","title":{"rendered":"Despre toxicitate"},"content":{"rendered":"

Cum o spun de nenum\u0103rate ori, se scriu nenum\u0103rate texte despre toxicitatea masculin\u0103, dar mult prea pu\u021bin despre cea feminin\u0103, \u0219i de obicei, acel pu\u021bin e redactat de b\u0103rba\u021bi at\u00e2t de frustra\u021bi de lipsa sexului din vie\u021bile lor, \u00eenc\u00e2t sun\u0103 mai degrab\u0103 a “bine v-a f\u0103cut, b\u0103i, boilor”.<\/p>\n

Aici, Gigel, beh\u0103ind \u00een comentarii: Cum adic\u0103\u0103\u0103, Lorenaaaa, toxicitate masculin\u0103? De ce ur\u0103\u015fti to\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163ii??<\/p>\n

Discu\u0163ia despre toxicitate masculin\u0103 \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 ur\u0103\u015fti to\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163ii \u00een aceea\u015fi m\u0103sur\u0103 \u00een care discu\u0163ia despre turbare canin\u0103 \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 ur\u0103\u015fti to\u0163i c\u00e2inii.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd vorbim despre turbare canin\u0103, ce facem? Descriem simptomele, vorbim despre ce se poate face cu exemplarele care sufer\u0103 de aceste simptome \u015fi eventual stabilim mijloace de preven\u0163ie, pentru s\u0103n\u0103tatea noastr\u0103 a tuturor.<\/p>\n

Nu e un atac legat de c\u00e2ini. E un mod de a preveni ca respectivii c\u00e2ini s\u0103 te atace pe tine.<\/p>\n

A\u015fa \u015fi cu toxicitatea masculin\u0103.<\/p>\n

Problema mea nu e cu b\u0103rbatul lini\u015ftit, civilizat, care \u00een\u0163elege interac\u0163iunea online cu mine drept ceea ce este: uite un om care scrie s\u0103 zicem c\u0103 bine, care \u00eemi ofer\u0103 zilnic con\u0163inut interesant, hai s\u0103 nu-l stresez mai mult dec\u00e2t a\u015f stresa patronatul lui Cartoon Network, de exemplu, c\u0103 nu am vreun motiv real.<\/p>\n

Problema mea nu e nici m\u0103car cu b\u0103rbatul lini\u015ftit, civilizat, care nu e interesat de ceea ce scriu \u015fi fac. \u0102la \u00ee\u015fi vede \u00een pace de via\u0163a lui \u015fi nu m\u0103 tulbur\u0103 cu nimic.<\/p>\n

Problema e cu agariciul torturat de complexe \u015fi misecuvenism ordinar, care m\u0103 streseaz\u0103 lung \u015fi aiurea cu b\u0103g\u0103ri \u00een seam\u0103 \u015fi preten\u0163ii nebazate pe absolut nimic, apoi tot el m\u0103 amenin\u0163\u0103, caut\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 \u015fantajeze – n-are cu ce! – face o filmare despre cum \u00eel bag \u00een mor\u0163ii m\u0103-sii de jeg \u015fi o r\u0103sp\u00e2nde\u015fte pe tot netul, sau face un print screen la o mu** cu crengi pe care o dau drept replic\u0103 la o obr\u0103znicie \u015fi o r\u0103sp\u00e2nde\u015fte pe tot netul \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe.<\/p>\n

\u00cemi asum aceste reac\u0163ii?<\/p>\n

DA.<\/p>\n

\u015ei punctez c\u0103 SUNT NECESARE.<\/p>\n

\u00centr-o \u0163ar\u0103 care-\u015fi educ\u0103 at\u00e2t de prost b\u0103ie\u0163eii, trebuie s\u0103-\u0163i cam bagi pwla \u00een mor\u0163ii c\u00e2torva dintre b\u0103rba\u0163ii care rezult\u0103, pur \u015fi simplu s\u0103 po\u0163i \u015fi tu s\u0103 \u00eencapi \u00een propria ta curte. Asta e realitatea.<\/p>\n

A\u015f prefera s\u0103 nu fie a\u015fa.<\/p>\n

A\u015f prefera s\u0103 existe doar b\u0103rba\u0163ii civiliza\u0163i cita\u0163i mai sus \u015fi s\u0103 nu trebuiasc\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 enervez degeaba de trei ori pe s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103. De aceea aduc des \u00een discu\u0163ie toxicitatea masculin\u0103.<\/p>\n

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Dac\u0103 toxicitatea masculin\u0103 e predominant h\u0103r\u0163uitoare, acaparatoare \u015fi l\u0103ud\u0103roas\u0103, adic\u0103 ignore pe meritele altuia \u015fi \u00eencordare nesolicitat\u0103 de musculatur\u0103 pe calit\u0103\u0163ile de cele mai multe ori absente ale agariciului cu pricina, cea feminin\u0103 e pe nevoia extrem de agasant\u0103 de a da pove\u0163e cui nu le-a cerut \u015fi de a dojeni b\u0103be\u015fte oameni care chiar nu au timp de a\u015fa ceva.<\/p>\n

Cic\u0103leal\u0103, i se zice.<\/p>\n

\u015ei da, uneori cic\u0103leala e util\u0103. Ai un iubi, \u0103la nu face nimic \u00een cas\u0103, \u00eel cic\u0103le\u015fti p\u00e2n\u0103 pune osul la treab\u0103 sau \u00eel la\u015fi. C\u00e2nd e\u015fti parte din cuplu, asum\u0103-\u0163i singur responsabilit\u0103\u0163ile sau nu te v\u0103ic\u0103ri de cic\u0103leal\u0103. Punct.<\/p>\n

Dar \u00een afara unei rela\u0163ii \u00een care omul cel\u0103lalt chiar are obliga\u0163ii fa\u0163\u0103 de tine, cic\u0103leala e nesolicitat\u0103, agasant\u0103 \u015fi detestabil\u0103. Mai ales c\u0103 mecanismul ei e de obicei urm\u0103torul:<\/p>\n

Vine pysy. Vrea \u015fi ea s\u0103 fie special\u0103, dar nu o recomand\u0103 nimic. Atunci, \u00ee\u0163i g\u0103se\u015fte o vin\u0103 pe care chiar nu o ai, \u015fi \u00eencepe s\u0103 te mustre, pentru c\u0103 a\u015fa, cumva, \u0163i se impune drept o for\u0163\u0103 demn\u0103 de b\u0103gat \u00een seam\u0103, sau ceva de genul.<\/p>\n

Ieri, de exemplu, am repostat un text mai vechi. Despre toate r\u0103ut\u0103\u0163ile pe care societatea noastr\u0103 le scrie la adresa b\u0103rbatului scund. Despre cum e desconsiderat, jignit \u015fi umilit, de\u015fi \u00een\u0103l\u0163imea e ceva ce nu po\u0163i controla \u015fi, pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 asta, ceva 100% irelevant, comparativ cu calit\u0103\u0163ile care chiar conteaz\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u015ei am dat un alt exemplu. Despre cum mie calvi\u0163ia masculin\u0103 mi se pare repulsiv\u0103. Personal. Despre cum calvi\u0163ia e corectabil\u0103 prin transplant de p\u0103r, spre deosebire de \u00een\u0103l\u0163ime. \u015ei despre cum societatea, totu\u015fi, e perfect ok cu asta.<\/p>\n

Explicam \u015fi mecanismul din spatele acestor atitudini: Societatea o s\u0103 critice \u015fi jigneasc\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163i care LUCREAZ\u0102 pentru un look mai bun: poart\u0103 tocuri, \u00ee\u015fi vopsesc p\u0103rul, se epileaz\u0103, se penseaz\u0103. Dar societatea \u00eembr\u0103\u0163i\u015feaz\u0103 pe t\u0103cute b\u0103rba\u0163i care nu fac nimic s\u0103 arate mai bine.<\/p>\n

Ce spuneam cu acest text? Spuneam cumva s\u0103 lin\u015f\u0103m de m\u00e2ine b\u0103rba\u0163ii chei?<\/p>\n

NOOOPE.<\/p>\n

Spuneam s\u0103 \u00eei h\u0103r\u0163uim cu comentarii idioate, cum h\u0103r\u0163uiesc incelii feministele, de exemplu?<\/p>\n

NOOOPE.<\/p>\n

\u00cendemnam femeile s\u0103 resping\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163ii chei?<\/p>\n

NOOOPE. DE VREME CE IDEEA TEXTULUI ERA S\u0102 NU MAI TRATEZI OAMENII \u00ceN FUNC\u0162IE DE DETALII FIZICE.<\/p>\n

\u015ei atunci?<\/p>\n

D\u0103deam un simplu exemplu despre c\u00e2t de toxic\u0103 \u015fi selectiv\u0103 e discriminarea social\u0103.<\/p>\n

At\u00e2t.<\/p>\n

\u015ei vine pizmoiul \u0103sta \u00een sec\u0163iunea de comentarii, \u015fi \u00eencepe s\u0103 m\u0103 fwoot\u0103 la icre: \u0102vaaai, Lorena, dar tu discriminezi oamenii cu chelie, omaaagaaaa.<\/p>\n

\u00cei recomand s\u0103 reciteasc\u0103 pur \u015fi simplu articolul, \u015fi s\u0103 nu-mi mai atribuie o problem\u0103 imaginar\u0103 pe care e ea chemat\u0103 s\u0103 o rezolve cu lec\u0163ioare \u015fi pove\u0163e, pentru c\u0103 NU E CAZUL.<\/p>\n

La care, \u00eencepe: \u0103vaaai, dar de ce tolerezi doar lauda \u015fi nu e\u015fti flexibil\u0103 \u015fi la critici, cotcodaaac, cotcodaaac, cotcodaac.<\/p>\n

\u00cen momentul \u0103la, eu a\u015f dori aplica\u0163ia Bocancul Virtual TM. Cineva te freac\u0103 la icre neavenit? Tu accesezi aplica\u0163ia. Din ecran se desprinde Bocancul virtual TM \u015fi \u00eei repede cu sete una direct \u00een muf\u0103. A\u015fa, din fundul gr\u0103dinii.<\/p>\n

A\u015f folosi aplica\u0163ia deopotriv\u0103 pe agarici \u015fi pe pis\u0103loage. Nu m\u0103 mai acuza\u0163i de sexism. Ur\u0103sc aceste categorii cu sete egal\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u015ei de ce nu accept critica idioatei?<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 eu nu f\u0103ceam chestia de care m\u0103 acuza idioata in the first place, dam’it.<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 nu ai de ce s\u0103 m\u0103 critici de ceva ce nu f\u0103ceam, \u015fi nu am de ce s\u0103 tolerez asta.<\/p>\n

Tipele care ave\u0163i nevoia asta s\u0103 face\u0163i procese de inten\u0163ie unor oameni care nu v\u0103 datoreaz\u0103 nimic, bazate pe texte pe care le citi\u0163i printr-o lentil\u0103 tenden\u0163ioas\u0103, v\u0103 rog eu mult. \u00centreba\u0163i-v\u0103 sincer ce e \u00een neregul\u0103 cu voi. Ce anume lipse\u015fte din vie\u0163ile voastre. De ce c\u0103uta\u0163i s\u0103 m\u0103 impune\u0163i \u00een interac\u0163iuni cu al\u0163ii c\u0103ut\u00e2nd s\u0103-i trage\u0163i pe ei \u00een jos cu n\u0103scociri \u015fi proiec\u0163ii.<\/p>\n

Sunte\u0163i la fel de toxice ca agaricii care trimit poz\u0103 cu pwla.<\/p>\n

Voi nu trimite\u0163i poz\u0103 cu pwla, ci cu sufletul vostru otr\u0103vit, toxic \u015fi r\u0103u.<\/p>\n

Same level of c\u00e2\u00e2\u00e2\u00e2\u00e2h la recep\u0163ie.<\/p>\n

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Dac\u0103 \u0163i-a pl\u0103cut acest articol,\u00a0sus\u0163ine site-ul cu o dona\u0163ie<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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