{"id":21325,"date":"2021-02-24T19:47:38","date_gmt":"2021-02-24T16:47:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21325"},"modified":"2021-02-24T19:47:38","modified_gmt":"2021-02-24T16:47:38","slug":"crush-ul-meu-e-timid","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/crush-ul-meu-e-timid\/","title":{"rendered":"Crush-ul meu e timid"},"content":{"rendered":"

De Dragobete, po\u0219ta redac\u021biei e instant\u0103 pe teme de amor. Tu trimi\u021bi mailul cu problema de amor pe birou@lorenalupu.com, eu r\u0103spund.<\/p>\n

\u0218i misiva de azi zice a\u0219a:<\/p>\n

Bun\u0103, Lorena!<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Ador modul \u00een care r\u0103spunzi pove\u0219tilor primite de la cititori, a\u0219a c\u0103 am decis s\u0103-\u021bi scriu \u0219i eu ceva, a\u0219a, ca de Dragobete.<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Bun, o s\u0103 \u00eencerc s\u0103-\u021bi expun dilema mea c\u00e2t mai pe scurt, de\u0219i e o poveste destul de lung\u0103. Totul a \u00eenceput acum 4 ani, pe c\u00e2nd aveam 14 ani. \u00cen cadrul unei activit\u0103\u021bi \u0219colare, am cunoscut un b\u0103iat de la \u0219coala vecin\u0103, cu un an mai mic dec\u00e2t mine. O s\u0103-l numim T. Pe vremea aceea, eu eram extrem de imatur, sensibil \u0219i introvertit. Iar dintre toate persoanele pe care le cuno\u0219team, el era cam singurul care m\u0103 b\u0103ga \u00een seam\u0103 \u0219i care chiar era dr\u0103gu\u021b cu mine. Era genul de persoan\u0103 foarte vorb\u0103rea\u021b\u0103, care emana un vibe super bun \u0219i un entuziasm molipsitor. Adev\u0103rul e c\u0103 T era un b\u0103iat bun \u0219i sensibil \u0219i o persoan\u0103 minunat\u0103. Dar nici prin g\u00e2nd nu mi-ar fi trecut c\u0103 el avea s\u0103 fie prima persoan\u0103 de care s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eendr\u0103gostesc.<\/strong><\/div>\n
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\u00cen perioada imediat urm\u0103toare, am avut activit\u0103\u021bi comune. De fiecare dat\u0103 c\u00e2nd ne-am \u00eent\u00e2lnit, s-a purtat la fel de frumos cu mine \u0219i sim\u021beam c\u0103 aveam o leg\u0103tur\u0103 care cre\u0219tea din ce \u00een ce mai mult. Am avut c\u00e2teva tentative de a-i spune, dar de fiecare dat\u0103 am fost re\u021binut din cauza fricii.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Timpul a trecut, eu am devenit extrovertit, \u00een timp ce T pare s\u0103 se fi \u00eenchis \u00een el. Acum pu\u021bin timp, i-am descoperit o latur\u0103 nou\u0103 a sa: se pare c\u0103 este foarte timid, fiind insecure \u00een preajma mea. Faza e c\u0103 au fost extrem de multe situa\u021bii care au condus la ipoteza conform c\u0103reia el ar fi avut, la r\u00e2ndul s\u0103u, sentimente pentru mine. \u0218i sincer, chiar pare gay. Dar nu am nicio dovad\u0103 solid\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Ce pot s\u0103 zic… dup\u0103 o ie\u0219ire cam e\u0219uat\u0103, a cam rupt leg\u0103tura cu mine. E aiurea c\u0103, pe vremea c\u00e2nd era dr\u0103gu\u021b cu mine, nici m\u0103car nu-l b\u0103gam \u00een seam\u0103 (pur \u0219i simplu nu eram capabil s\u0103 leg un dialog). Probabil nu a ajutat nici faptul c\u0103, la un moment dat, am fost \u00eempreun\u0103 cu cea mai bun\u0103 prieten\u0103 a lui (\u0219tiu, sunt un idiot). \u0218i chiar m\u0103 \u00eentreb dac\u0103 oare sim\u021bea la fel…\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Am avut at\u00e2tea ocazii \u00een care s\u0103-i spun ce simt, dar nu am profitat de ele. \u00cel plac de vreo 4 ani \u0219i \u0219tiu c\u0103 singura cale de a trece peste ar fi s\u0103-i m\u0103rturisesc. S\u0103 ne \u00een\u021belegem, nu mi-e fric\u0103 de o posibil\u0103 respingere, ci mi-e fric\u0103 de b\u00e2rf\u0103. Plus c\u0103 mi-am cam ratat ocaziile, ceea ce regret foarte mult…<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Marea problem\u0103 este c\u0103 nu-mi mai trece. A\u0219adar, ce ar trebui s\u0103 fac ca s\u0103 trec peste ni\u0219te sentimente ne\u00eemp\u0103rt\u0103\u0219ite de 4 ani? Cum s\u0103 fac s\u0103-l uit? Sau s\u0103 risc \u0219i s\u0103-i zic p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103?<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Mul\u021bumesc anticipat!<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Cu drag,<\/strong><\/div>\n
X<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Bun\u0103, X,<\/div>\n
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Realitatea e c\u0103 ceea ce descrii tu acolo e foarte, foarte complicat. \u00cen genul \u0103sta de situa\u021bii, odat\u0103 cu neconfesiunea, se mai acumuleaz\u0103 \u0219i o doz\u0103 mare e frustrare de ambele p\u0103r\u021bi, \u0219i e pragul \u0103la dincolo de care \u00eenceteaz\u0103 flirtul \u0219i tatonarea reciproc\u0103 \u0219i \u00eencep resentimentele. Ceva de genul: B\u0103, da’ boul \u0103sta chiar nu e \u00een stare s\u0103 fac\u0103 nimic, ce dracu’?<\/div>\n
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Pe de o parte, \u00een multe situa\u0163ii de genul \u0103sta, cel\u0103lalt era nice and friendly, chestie pe care setea ta o \u00een\u0163elege gre\u015fit. \u015ei de obicei, c\u00e2nd se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 asta, cel\u0103lalt remarc\u0103 crush-ul t\u0103u \u015fi \u00eencepe s\u0103 se fereasc\u0103, pentru c\u0103 nu vrea nimic.<\/div>\n
Pe de alt\u0103 parte, sunt situa\u0163ii \u00een care cel\u0103lalt e exact ca tine, foarte awkward \u015fi speriat de respingere, \u015fi nu \u00eendr\u0103zne\u015fte s\u0103 spun\u0103 sau s\u0103 fac\u0103 nimic, pentru c\u0103 \u00eei e fric\u0103 de ridicol.<\/div>\n
Chiar cred c\u0103 o solu\u0163ie de ie\u015fire din cercul \u0103sta vicios este s\u0103 \u00eei spui omului: Trebuie s\u0103 vorbim. Te rog. nu m\u0103 lua la mi\u015ftouri \u015fi ascult\u0103-m\u0103 sincer. Te plac \u015fi vreau s\u0103 \u015ftiu dac\u0103 m\u0103 placi \u015fi tu.<\/div>\n
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Sigur, acest gest de curaj presupune \u015fi asumarea momentului c\u00e2nd o s\u0103-\u0163i spun\u0103: Iart\u0103-m\u0103, te rog, dar nu te plac foarte tare.<\/div>\n
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Mie mi s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat.<\/div>\n
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Dar am o surpriz\u0103 pentru tine. Dac\u0103 nu te cramponezi \u015fi \u015ftii s\u0103 accep\u0163i adev\u0103ruri grele, “Iart\u0103-m\u0103, te rog, dar nu te plac foarte tare” e o eliberare. \u015ei dup\u0103 genul \u0103la de blocaj emo\u0163ional de 4 ani, e o eliberare de care ai nevoie.<\/div>\n
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Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/div>\n
Lorena.<\/div>\n
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