{"id":21347,"date":"2021-02-28T11:10:09","date_gmt":"2021-02-28T08:10:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21347"},"modified":"2021-02-28T11:10:09","modified_gmt":"2021-02-28T08:10:09","slug":"posta-redactiei-ghid-de-supravietuire-al-fetei-parasite","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-ghid-de-supravietuire-al-fetei-parasite\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei: Ghid de supravie\u021buire al fetei p\u0103r\u0103site"},"content":{"rendered":"

Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. Nu, Gicu, nu sub form\u0103 de sex, stai jos. \u00cen schimb, lu\u0103m o dram\u0103 personal\u0103 pe care mi-o trimite\u0163i pe mail, pe birou@lorenalupu.com, \u015fi g\u0103sim o solu\u0163ie, pe care oricum n-o ve\u0163i urma, dar m\u0103car ne distr\u0103m.<\/p>\n

\u015ei misiva de data asta:<\/p>\n

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Bun\u0103, Lorena,\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Pentru cineva care nu prea s-a sc\u0103ldat \u00een rela\u021bii, cum \u00eenve\u021bi s\u0103 accep\u021bi situa\u021bia \u0219i s\u0103 te maturizezi emo\u021bional? Adic\u0103 doare, \u00ee\u021bi schimb\u0103 rutina, casa se gole\u0219te, trebuie s\u0103-\u021bi cari singur\u0103 baxurile de ap\u0103, avea\u021bi prieteni comuni, amintiri, rudele-s curioase ce naiba s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat, iar tu e\u0219ti varz\u0103, \u00eencepi s-o iei pe C\u00e2mpie \u0219i sa te \u00eenvinov\u0103\u021be\u0219ti \u0219i pt. ce a f\u0103cut el dac\u0103 se poate, dorindu-\u021bi o \u00eemp\u0103care rapid\u0103 care sa restabileasc\u0103 echilibrul.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
Pentru c\u0103 mi se pare at\u00e2t de u\u0219or s\u0103 reac\u021bionezi ca un copil atunci c\u00e2nd e\u0219ti p\u0103r\u0103sit\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 cazi \u00eentr-o stare de tot rahatul. Asta a\u0219a, pentru cineva care a fugit tot timpul de a se angaja \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie, iar c\u00e2nd chiar s-a trezit \u00eentr-una, bine\u00een\u021beles c\u0103 lucrurile au fost complicate la prima experien\u021b\u0103, iar “Gigelone” se crede mare scul\u0103 pe bascul\u0103, domne. Mi-am pierdut timpul tr\u0103g\u00e2nd de un om s\u0103 fie a\u0219a cum sim\u021beam nevoia, de\u0219i \u0219tiu c\u0103 unii ar condamna asta c\u0103 vai, cum s\u0103-\u021bi permi\u021bi s\u0103 schimbi un om.<\/strong><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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(Ai \u00een\u021beles gre\u0219it nuan\u021ba. Nu e “cum \u00ee\u0163i permi\u0163i”, e “ce rost are s\u0103 te zba\u0163i degeaba. Cum \u00eel vezi, a\u015fa este.)<\/div>\n
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Crezi c\u0103 e vorba de cizelare \u00een multe situa\u021bii c\u00e2nd oamenii poate chiar nu sunt obi\u0219nui\u021bi a nu fi egoi\u0219ti, b\u0103d\u0103rani sau at\u00e2t de condu\u0219i de dorin\u021ba sexual\u0103? Sau e doar nevoia noastr\u0103 egoist\u0103 de a fi conform a\u0219tept\u0103rilor? Ar trebui s\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u021b s\u0103 accept oamenii fix a\u0219a cum sunt \u0219i s\u0103-i tratez dup\u0103 acest aspect real \u0219i hai, poate \u0219i-n m\u0103sura-n care-\u0219i doresc s\u0103 schimbe ceva la ei in bine? Mi se pare a\u0219a easy-peasy s\u0103 g\u00e2nde\u0219ti ra\u021bional, dar naiba s\u0103 te ia c\u0103 reac\u021biile tale nu-s deloc a\u0219a.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
\u00a0\u0218i de ce dup\u0103 ce tragi at\u00e2t de el \u0219i chiar p\u0103rea c\u0103 merge, pleac\u0103, domne? A, nu, stai, c\u0103 se \u00eentoarce dup\u0103 ceva timp cu g\u00e2nduri m\u0103re\u021be c\u0103 te ia de nevast\u0103 \u0219i dispare iar la scurt timp, c\u0103*\u00e2ndu-se pe toat\u0103 speran\u021ba ta!\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
Dac\u0103 ai citit vreo carte mi\u0219to vreodat\u0103 despre a\u0219a ceva, doar d\u0103 un semn s\u0103 nu murim proaste, c\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 ne maturiz\u0103m, o s\u0103 mai suferim dup\u0103 to\u021bi pro\u0219tii.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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S\u0103rut m\u00e2na!\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
Te admir,\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Drag\u0103 X.,<\/div>\n
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Primul pas pentru a dep\u0103\u015fi o desp\u0103r\u0163ire este s\u0103 iei reflectorul de pe Gigelone \u015fi s\u0103-l concentrezi pe propria persoan\u0103. Nu Gigelone e eroul principal al vie\u0163ii tale, ci tu. Nimic din ce promite Gigelone nu e imposibil de realizat \u015fi prin for\u0163e proprii, dac\u0103 \u00een loc s\u0103 fug\u0103re\u015fti pxla cu plasa de fluturi, te concentrezi pe finalitatea a ce vrei s\u0103 ob\u0163ii de la via\u0163\u0103.<\/div>\n
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Al doilea pas: nu investi speran\u0163e \u00een oameni p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd ace\u015ftia nu dovedesc c\u0103 le merit\u0103. De promis marea cu sarea poate oricine are suficient tupeu \u015fi obr\u0103znicie. De f\u0103cut pe interesantul \u015fi etalat aere poate absolut oricine. Gigelone nu e special. E exponentul unei categorii extrem de frecvente. Pe care o vom numi generic “locul unde poten\u0163ialul femeilor se duce s\u0103 moar\u0103”.<\/div>\n
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Al treilea pas: nu ne mai min\u0163im c\u0103 putem transforma rahatul \u00een aur. Mnope. E \u0163\u0103ran? E \u0163\u0103ran pentru c\u0103 at\u00e2ta poate \u015fi nimic din ce faci tu nu o s\u0103-l schimbe. E prost? E prost pentru c\u0103 at\u00e2ta poate \u015fi nimic din ce faci tu nu o s\u0103-l schimbe. E tic\u0103los? E tic\u0103los pentru c\u0103 at\u00e2ta poate \u015fi etc.<\/div>\n
Drept care, ne asum\u0103m c\u0103 nu suntem isu\u015fi cristo\u015fi \u015fi nu e treaba noastr\u0103 s\u0103 m\u00e2ntuim pe nimeni. \u00cei lu\u0103m gata cinsti\u0163i, corec\u0163i \u015fi sufleti\u015fti, \u015fi nu ne mai batem capul.<\/div>\n
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Ne asum\u0103m c\u0103 lui gigelone nu \u00eei pl\u0103cem foarte tare. Cred c\u0103 de fapt, asta ne \u0163ine cramponate de c\u00e2te un pieli\u0163a p**ii. Faptul c\u0103 orgoliul nostru refuz\u0103 ideea c\u0103 gigelone nu e cu adev\u0103rat interesat de noi \u015fi sim\u0163im nevoia s\u0103 hr\u0103nim cu iluzii, \u00een ideea de “tot \u00eel seduc eu, d\u0103-l dracu”.<\/div>\n
B\u0103rba\u0163ii sunt actori foarte neconving\u0103tori. Except\u00e2ndu-i pe cei care sunt actori, dar \u0103ia joac\u0103 \u00een aceea\u015fi echip\u0103 cu voi, majoritatea.<\/div>\n
Dac\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163ii sunt interesa\u0163i de tine, o sim\u0163i. \u00ce\u015fi g\u0103sesc de lucru \u00een jurul t\u0103u \u015fi ca din \u00eent\u00e2mplare, se nimeresc mereu s\u0103 mute chestia aia la care nu ajungi tu, s\u0103 desfac\u0103 borcanul cu care nu te descurci tu \u015fi s\u0103 te \u00eenve\u0163e cum se \u00eenfige laleaua \u00een br\u00e2nz\u0103.<\/div>\n
Iar dac\u0103 nu sunt interesa\u0163i de tine, o sin\u0163i din cum nu vor nimic altceva dec\u00e2t s\u0103-\u0163i \u00eemping\u0103 m\u00e2lul la deal cu minimum de efort din partea lor \u015fi cum evit\u0103 orice form\u0103 de implicare uman\u0103.<\/div>\n
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Din c\u00e2te \u00eemi scrii tu despre gigelone, semnele au fost \u00eentotdeauna acolo. Trebuia doar s\u0103 nu-\u0163i la\u015fi orgoliul s\u0103 te opreasc\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103-\u0163i spui: Ba \u00eel cuceresc eu pe \u0103sta.<\/div>\n
Mnup.<\/div>\n
Nimeni, nici tu, nici eu, nici Brad Pitt, nu suntem irezistibili pentru toat\u0103 lumea. Unii nu ne g\u0103sesc iubibili. Asta e. Ce putem face pentru propria noastr\u0103 fericire e s\u0103-i identific\u0103m pe \u0103\u015ftia din prima, s\u0103 nu-i l\u0103s\u0103m s\u0103 se foloseasc\u0103 de noi \u015fi s\u0103 nu cre\u0103m rela\u0163ii toxice \u015fi reciproc frustrante.<\/div>\n
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Tu de fapt nu l-ai iubit pe gigelone. Ci pe gigelonele ideal din mintea ta. Persoana perfect\u0103 pe care ai fi modelat-o tu din el, dac\u0103 s-ar fi l\u0103sat. Lol.<\/div>\n
Cu micul amendament c\u0103 oamenii nu sunt plastilin\u0103 \u015fi singurul bine de care sunt \u00een stare e la propria lor ini\u0163iativ\u0103. Iar binele lor adev\u0103rat nu e totuna cu ce e bine \u00een mintea ta pentru ei.<\/div>\n
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Acestea fiind spuse: ce facem? Ne impunem ferm s\u0103 trecem peste gigelone, suprim\u0103m preocuparea fa\u0163\u0103 de el \u015fi ne concentr\u0103m pe ce putem s\u0103 facem pentru noi \u00een\u015fine.<\/div>\n
E dureros?<\/div>\n
Da.<\/div>\n
Dar e singura ie\u015fire.<\/div>\n
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