{"id":21416,"date":"2021-03-11T12:48:23","date_gmt":"2021-03-11T09:48:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21416"},"modified":"2021-03-11T13:09:33","modified_gmt":"2021-03-11T10:09:33","slug":"posta-redactiei-despre-varstnici-bolnavi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-despre-varstnici-bolnavi\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u015fta redac\u0163iei: Despre v\u00e2rstnici bolnavi"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ieri, am primit un mesaj foarte personal, cu extrem de multe detalii intime. At\u00e2t de multe, \u00eenc\u00e2t nu simt nevoia s\u0103 \u00eel public.<\/p>\n

Voi face un rezumat.<\/p>\n

Este de la o fat\u0103 foarte t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103, care s-a mutat cu mama ei, s\u0103 aib\u0103 grij\u0103 de ea, pentru c\u0103 aceasta sufer\u0103 de o boal\u0103 degenerativ\u0103, care o face extrem de violent\u0103, imprevizibil\u0103. Fata are \u015fi un m\u00e2\u0163. \u015ei \u00eemi spunea c\u0103 \u00eei e team\u0103 s\u0103 lase pisoiul cu mama \u00een timp ce e la munc\u0103. M\u0103 \u00eentreba dac\u0103 e cazul s\u0103-l dea spre adop\u0163ie.<\/p>\n

At\u00e2ta m\u0103 simt confortabil s\u0103 descriu public.<\/p>\n

Acest subiect deschide \u00een mine o furie.<\/p>\n

Cunosc femei. \u00centotdeauna femei. Mereu femei. Aceste femei \u00ee\u015fi irosesc vie\u0163ile, energia, nervii, orice urm\u0103 de pozitivitate \u015fi de vlag\u0103 \u00eengrijind acas\u0103 b\u0103tr\u00e2ni suferinzi de diverse boli mintale.<\/p>\n

\u015ei nu m\u0103 refer la \u00eengrijirea normal\u0103 pe care o dator\u0103m p\u0103rin\u0163ilor \u015fi bunicilor s\u0103n\u0103to\u015fi.<\/p>\n

M\u0103 refer la oameni care \u00ee\u015fi irosesc orice \u015fans\u0103 la o via\u0163\u0103 echilibrat\u0103 chinuindu-se s\u0103 ofere \u00eengrijire profesional\u0103 unor membri de familie pe care bolile psihice – inclusiv cele degenerative – \u00eei transform\u0103 \u00een mon\u015ftri.<\/p>\n

Mul\u0163i le glorific\u0103 pe aceste femei. Ia te uit\u0103, ce frumos se sacrific\u0103 ele. Ce noble\u0163e, ce bun\u0103tate. Pe de alt\u0103 parte, aceste femei, de 20, 30, chiar 40 de ani \u00ee\u015fi rateaz\u0103 \u015fansa de a dezvolta o carier\u0103, de a g\u0103si o rela\u0163ie fericit\u0103, de a face copii, de a construi o firm\u0103, de a face ceva cu vie\u0163ile lor. \u015ei toat\u0103 energia lor, care ar fi putut investit\u0103 \u00een aceste planuri constructive, se duce s\u0103 hr\u0103neasc\u0103 o persoan\u0103 care, \u00een majoritatea cazurilor, nu mai poate fi adus\u0103 \u00eenapoi, sau dac\u0103 poate, \u00een nici un caz de \u00eengrijitorul domestic.<\/p>\n

Genul \u0103sta de irosire m\u0103 scoate din min\u0163i de fiecare dat\u0103.<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103, dup\u0103 ce ai f\u0103cut asta cu bunic\u0103-ta 20 de ani, c\u00e2nd tu ai 47 de ani \u015fi ea 92, bunic\u0103-ta moare \u015fi tu r\u0103m\u00e2i f\u0103r\u0103 nimic. O via\u0163\u0103 irosit\u0103 \u00een slujba unei degrad\u0103ri treptate.<\/p>\n

Poate c\u0103 o s\u0103 sune crud ceea ce spun, dar o spun. Pentru bolnavii de acest tip exist\u0103 centrele de specialitate. Unde li se pot oferi \u00eengrijirile adecvate.<\/p>\n

Am avut cu mama un dialog similar chiar zilele trecute. \u00cemi povestea de o b\u0103tr\u00e2n\u0103 care, de la nu \u015ftiu ce boal\u0103 degenerativ\u0103, a ajuns s\u0103 dea \u00een fiic\u0103-sa, care o \u00eengrije\u015fte.<\/p>\n

-\u015ei uite ce fiic\u0103 bun\u0103 e, cum \u00eendur\u0103.<\/p>\n

-Iart\u0103-m\u0103, mam\u0103, dar nu cred c\u0103 acest tip de \u00eendurat d\u0103 calitatea de fiic\u0103. Dac\u0103 ajung eu s\u0103 m\u0103 sp\u00e2nzur de draci din frustrarea zilnic\u0103 pe care mi-o provoac\u0103 violen\u0163a ta, nu po\u0163i spune c\u0103 am fost o fiic\u0103 bun\u0103. Ci doar un om care n-a admis la timp c\u0103 problema a ie\u015fit de sub control.<\/p>\n

-A, c\u0103 genera\u0163ia voastr\u0103 oricum nu-\u015fi iube\u015fte p\u0103rin\u0163ii.<\/p>\n

\u00cen fine. Dac\u0103 b\u0103tr\u00e2nul t\u0103u din cas\u0103 a devenit extrem de ciudat, extrem de violent, dac\u0103 te acuz\u0103 de t\u00e2mpenii, dac\u0103 spune brusc minciuni, dac\u0103 nu te sim\u0163i \u00een siguran\u0163\u0103 \u00een cas\u0103 cu el, \u00eemi pare r\u0103u s-o spun, dar e momentul intern\u0103rii.<\/p>\n

Poate c\u0103 nu e doar Alzheimerul, poate e \u015fi o psihoz\u0103 pe care o avea mai demulticel \u015fi care abia acum se desf\u0103\u015foar\u0103 full force, iar aceasta poate fi tratat\u0103.<\/p>\n

Nu cred c\u0103 un om cu asemenea manifest\u0103ri se simte bine, el cu sine, \u00een primul r\u00e2nd. Cred c\u0103 e cumplit de greu s\u0103 pierzi busola \u015fi s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i dai seama c\u0103 pierzi contactul cu realitatea. Cred c\u0103 omul are nevoie de ajutor specializat, chiar dac\u0103 nu recunoa\u015fte, \u015fi nu, calitatea de fiic\u0103 bun\u0103, nepoat\u0103 bun\u0103, nor\u0103 bun\u0103, whatever bun\u0103, nu se m\u0103soar\u0103 \u00een c\u00e2t\u0103 teroare e\u015fti dispus\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eenduri, ci \u00een ce faci s\u0103 schimbi ceva \u00een bine.<\/p>\n

Drept care, mama respectiv\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 beneficieze de \u00eengrijirile aferente, la un centru de specialitate, iar fiica, s\u0103 nu renun\u0163e la tinere\u0163ea \u015fi \u015fansele ei drept ofrand\u0103 pe altarul unei boli care o dep\u0103\u015fe\u015fte oricum.<\/p>\n

A\u015fa v\u0103d eu lucrurile.<\/p>\n

Sper c\u0103 am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n

Lorena.<\/p>\n

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