Citindu-te pe tine am \u00een\u0163eles c\u00e2t\u0103 presiune pun b\u0103rba\u0163ii pe femei cu comportamentul de \u00eemperechere \u015fi cum s\u0103 fii femeie pe net e ca \u015fi cum ai fi mereu \u00een trecere pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 un \u015fantier. Dar vreau s\u0103 \u015ftii c\u0103 \u015fi femeile pot fi foarte rele dac\u0103 le place de un b\u0103rbat \u015fi el nu e interesat. Eu am cunoscut o tip\u0103 pe Instagram care mi-a trimis foarte repede poze cu ea goal\u0103 \u015fi a tot \u00eencercat s\u0103 m\u0103 cheme pe la ea. Era dr\u0103gu\u0163\u0103, dar nu mi-a pl\u0103cut c\u0103 e agresiv\u0103, \u015fi am refuzat-o. M-a \u00eenjurat, m-a f\u0103cut gay, poponar \u015fi c*rist \u015fi a zis c\u0103 ar fi cazul s\u0103 pun pe profil c\u0103 \u00eemi place p*la, s\u0103 nu mai \u00eencurc femeile. Eu nici nu \u015ftiu ce s\u0103 r\u0103spund la toate astea.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Te rog frumos s\u0103 m\u0103 aju\u0163i.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n \u015ei te rog s\u0103 ne poveste\u015fti dac\u0103 tu vreodat\u0103 ai \u00eencercat s\u0103 ag\u0103\u0163i un tip, \u015fi ce faci dac\u0103 nu te place.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Te pup,\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n Drag\u0103 X.,<\/p>\n Oamenii foarte nesiguri de ei nu suport\u0103 s\u0103 fie refuza\u0163i. Tocmai pentru c\u0103 nu se ancoreaz\u0103 \u00eentr-un respect s\u0103n\u0103tos fa\u0163\u0103 de propria persoan\u0103, din care s\u0103 derive acea demnitate care nu te las\u0103 s\u0103 te miloge\u015fti lung \u015fi nici s\u0103 te dezbraci de caracter fa\u0163\u0103 de o persoan\u0103 care nu e intens \u015fi entuziast interesat\u0103, oamenii foarte nesiguri de ei se cramponeaz\u0103 doar de validarea dat\u0103 de acceptul celor din jur.<\/p>\n Drept care, orice refuz are puterea de a le induce o mic\u0103 pr\u0103bu\u015fire nervoas\u0103, la care te fac martor \u015fi pe tine.<\/p>\n Persoana care te \u00eenjur\u0103 dup\u0103 ce i-ai ar\u0103tat absen\u0163a interesului t\u0103u e de fapt un om r\u0103nit care rage de durere. Insultele, prezum\u0163ia c\u0103 ai fi gay, frigid\u0103, arogant(\u0103), \u00eenchipuit(\u0103) \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe NU AU NICI O LEG\u0102TUR\u0102 CU TINE. Ci cu inabilitatea omului de a face fa\u0163\u0103 ideii c\u0103 nu e dorit(\u0103).<\/p>\n Nu le lua asupra ta. Sunt doar schel\u0103l\u0103ieli iscate de orgoliul r\u0103nit \u015fi trebuie tratate ca atare.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Cu mor\u0163i de mam\u0103, \u00een cazul meu, pentru c\u0103 mul\u0163i masculi rom\u00e2ni trebuie reeduca\u0163i c\u0103, doar pentru c\u0103 tu ai un detaliu anatomic \u00een plus, nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 ai c\u00e2\u015ftigat la belciuge orice femeie pe care pui ochii, \u015fi c\u0103 traseul corect e s\u0103 \u00eentrebi POLITICOS \u015fi s\u0103 respec\u0163i acel NU.<\/p>\n Dar dac\u0103 persoana obsedat\u0103 e o femeie, \u015fi \u015ftiu c\u0103 nu \u0163ine de educa\u0163ie patriarhal\u0103 misecuvenist\u0103, ci de o form\u0103 de a se crampona de neiubire, ca o continuare a tratamentului lipsit de afec\u0163iune primit de la p\u0103rin\u0163i, \u00eent\u00e2i caut s\u0103 o calmez, s\u0103-i spun c\u0103 poate fi \u015fi altfel, dac\u0103 g\u0103se\u015fte persoana potrivit\u0103, \u015fi c\u0103 nu trebuie s\u0103 se \u00eenjoseasc\u0103 \u00een halul \u0103sta. Dac\u0103 \u00een\u0163elege \u015fi renun\u0163\u0103, o las \u00een pace. Dac\u0103 face ur\u00e2t \u00een continuare, block.<\/p>\n Cam asta ai putea face \u015fi tu.<\/p>\n \u00cen niciun caz nu stai s\u0103 te justifici c\u0103 e\u015fti sau nu gay, sau alte acuza\u0163ii stupide pe care \u0163i le aduce un refuzat. Repet: sunt doar schel\u0103l\u0103ieli ale unui orgoliu r\u0103nit. Nu trebuie luate \u00een considerare ca informa\u0163ii. Unii gigei de exemplu sunt at\u00e2t de demen\u0163i, c\u0103 te fac c**v\u0103 dac\u0103 le respingi avansurile. S\u0103 st\u0103m s\u0103 rumeg\u0103m logic. M\u0103 faci c**v\u0103 dac\u0103 refuz un necunoscut la 3 noaptea pe net?? Ra\u0163ional, nu eram mai degrab\u0103 c**v\u0103 dac\u0103 acceptam?<\/p>\n Dar, cum ziceam, nu e vorba despre ra\u0163iune \u015fi nu ai de ce s\u0103 te complici s\u0103 por\u0163i un dialog. \u015ei \u00een niciun caz nu te justifici dac\u0103 e\u015fti sau nu gay. E fix problema ta. Nu datorezi nim\u0103nui nici explica\u0163ii legate de orientarea ta sexual\u0103, nici aten\u0163ie, nici timp, nici polite\u0163e, dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i \u00eencalc\u0103 limitele.<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 eu ag\u0103\u0163?<\/p>\n Da, ag\u0103\u0163. Dar ag\u0103\u0163 strict pe cine \u00eemi place mie \u015fi am gusturi foarte specifice. De aceea, 99,9% din oameni nu vor vedea acest comportament din partea mea.<\/p>\n \u00cen niciun caz nu ag\u0103\u0163 agresiv, agasant, insistent sau cu poze nud. Dac\u0103 pui totul pe tav\u0103 din prima, ce r\u0103m\u00e2ne de oferit mai \u00eencolo? C\u00e2nd ag\u0103\u0163 eu, te conduc at\u00e2t de lin, \u00eenc\u00e2t nici nu \u015ftii cum ai ajuns \u00een situa\u0163ie.<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 persoana nu e receptiv\u0103? Fair enough. Eu nu sunt receptiv\u0103 la 99,9% din oameni, deci \u015ftiu cum e s\u0103 nu-\u0163i plac\u0103 DELOC, dar DELOC un om \u015fi c\u00e2t de vomitiv e s\u0103 insiste lung \u015fi prost. Nu am o problem\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 opresc \u015fi s\u0103 m\u0103 resetez, pentru c\u0103 nu fac altor oameni lucruri pe care nu le-a\u015f tolera eu.<\/p>\n S\u0103 tragem concluziile:<\/p>\n Nu l\u0103sa schel\u0103l\u0103ielile omului refuzat s\u0103 te afecteze. Nici la nivelul acuza\u0163iilor sau insultelor, care intr\u0103 toate \u00een categoria “struguri acri”. Dac\u0103 nu erai minimum o persoan\u0103 simpatic\u0103 \u015fi cu un look atr\u0103g\u0103tor, \u0103la sau aia nu era \u00een mesajele tale private in the first place. Nici la nivelul la care s\u0103 te sim\u0163i obligat s\u0103 te justifici. C\u00e2t timp tu nu \u0163i-ai asumat vreo obliga\u0163ie fa\u0163\u0103 de cutare, ce simte, ce crede \u015fi ce vrea SUNT PROBLEMELE LUI SAU EI, \u015fi nu au de ce s\u0103 devin\u0103 ale tale.<\/p>\n Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n Lorena.<\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, pute\u021bi sus\u0163ine activitatea siteului cu o dona\u0163ie.<\/p>\n *** ***<\/p>\n Ascult\u0103 Jet pe\u00a0Spotify<\/a><\/strong>, cump\u0103r\u0103 piesa pe\u00a0iTunes<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0sau pe\u00a0Amazon Music<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. \u00cen sensul \u00een care el sau ea, sau chiar tu, de ce nu, ne trimite(\u021bi) problema voastr\u0103 de suflet...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":18293,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21494","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/letter.jpg?fit=4752%2C3168&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21494","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21494"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21494\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":26536,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21494\/revisions\/26536"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/18293"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21494"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21494"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21494"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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