Sunt \u00eempreun\u0103 cu iubitul meu de un an. De opt luni ne-am mutat \u00eempreun\u0103 \u0219i, pas cu pas, rela\u021bia \u0219i-a pierdut tot farmecul. Nu mai face gesturi dr\u0103gu\u021be ca la \u00eenceput, nu m\u0103 mai prive\u0219te ca la \u00eenceput, nu mai caut\u0103 s\u0103 arate bine ca la \u00eenceput, \u00eemi spune mereu c\u0103 e ocupat sau obosit. Cele dou\u0103 o-uri cu care scap\u0103 de mine.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Ce s\u0103 fac?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n Drag\u0103 X.,<\/p>\n Eu, recunosc,\u00a0 nu sunt omul cel mai bun pentru astfel de discu\u021bii, pentru c\u0103 \u0103sta e punctul dintr-o rela\u021bie \u00een care \u00eemi cam bag piciorul. Nu stau s\u0103 m\u0103 milogesc de nimeni, \u0219i \u00eemi sunt at\u00e2t de suficient\u0103 mie \u00eens\u0103mi, \u00eenc\u00e2t, dac\u0103 rela\u021bia \u00eenceteaz\u0103 s\u0103 merite, dau pur \u0219i simplu check out.<\/p>\n Dar dac\u0103 to\u021bi oamenii ar fi ca mine, nimeni n-ar avea copii \u0219i omenirea s-ar stinge \u00een 50 de ani.<\/p>\n Taman de aceea, a\u0219 vrea s\u0103 faci un tabel. Care sunt calit\u0103\u021bile lui gigel care merit\u0103 s\u0103 mergi mai departe \u00een rela\u021bie, \u0219i care sunt defectele care ar justifica o eventual\u0103 desp\u0103r\u021bire. \u00cen tabelul \u0103sta nu e cazul s\u0103 intre “cum m\u0103 trata la \u00eenceput”. Aia e etapa de curte, \u015fi mult\u0103 lume, \u015fi b\u0103rba\u0163i, \u015fi femei, consider\u0103 c\u0103, odat\u0103 ce ai luat trenul, nu mai fugi dup\u0103 el.<\/p>\n Deci, “cum m\u0103 trata la \u00eenceput” cade de pe list\u0103. R\u0103m\u00e2i la calit\u0103\u0163i \u015fi defecte reale, ale lui ca persoan\u0103.<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i d\u0103 cu plus pe partea de defecte, drag\u0103 gigele, nu mai avem ce s\u0103 facem aici, hai s\u0103 ne vedem fiecare de via\u0163a proprie.<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i d\u0103 cu plus pe partea de calit\u0103\u0163i: \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eel la\u015fi \u00een pace o vreme. De multe ori, treaba merge a\u015fa: gigel o cucere\u015fte pe marioara cu o curte ravisant\u0103. marioara se amorezeaz\u0103, dar nu de gigel, ci de gesturile m\u0103re\u0163e. gigel, odat\u0103 c\u0103lare \u00een \u015fa, \u00eencepe s-o ia pe marioara for granted. marioara \u00eencepe s\u0103 trag\u0103 cu disperare de gigel, \u00een ideea de a ob\u0163ine de la el tratamentul de la \u00eenceput. gigel e ocupat \u015fi obosit, pentru c\u0103 se simte asediat.<\/p>\n Drept care, ce poate face marioara e s\u0103-l lase frumos \u00een pace pe gigel \u015fi s\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi vad\u0103 de sine. Poate c\u0103 ai pus c\u00e2teva kilograme \u00een pandemie. Ia o saltea, ni\u015fte exerci\u0163ii \u015fi f\u0103 sport. Aranjeaz\u0103-te, tunde-te diferit, vopse\u015fte-te, apuc\u0103-te de un hobby. \u015ei las\u0103-l pe gigel \u00een pace, pur \u015fi simplu. S\u0103 fie ocupat \u015fi obosit la el \u00een col\u0163.<\/p>\n Iar dac\u0103 \u00eencepe brusc s\u0103 se intereseze ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 cu tine, \u00eei spui deschis, \u015fi nu cu isterii sau r\u0103utate, ci pe un ton foarte calm \u015fi onest, vulnerabil chiar, c\u0103 rela\u0163ia nu-\u0163i mai aduce nici un fel de bucurie, drept care, \u00ee\u0163i cau\u0163i bucurii de sine st\u0103t\u0103toare.<\/p>\n \u015ei dac\u0103 se apuc\u0103 s\u0103 m\u00e2r\u00e2ie a nemul\u0163umire, \u00eel \u00eentrebi: OK, ce propui? Ce propui ca activit\u0103\u0163i comune, s\u0103 putem clasifica treaba asta drept o rela\u0163ie frumoas\u0103? \u00cen forma de acum, nu m\u0103 satisface. A\u015ftept idei pozitive. Acum te las, merg la tenis. Sau ce alt hobby ai ales.<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 e un frustrat \u015fi un misecuvenist, probabil c\u0103 o s\u0103 se despart\u0103, iar cu asta \u00ee\u0163i face un serviciu. Dac\u0103 e un b\u0103rbat de bun\u0103 credin\u0163\u0103 \u015fi \u00ee\u015fi dore\u015fte cu adev\u0103rat rela\u0163ia CU TINE, nu doar ceva de f*** generic gratis, o s\u0103-\u015fi pun\u0103 onest problema a ce propune, \u015fi va lua m\u0103suri.<\/p>\n Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n Lorena.<\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, pute\u021bi sus\u0163ine activitatea siteului cu o dona\u0163ie.<\/p>\n *** ***<\/p>\n Ascult\u0103 Jet pe\u00a0Spotify<\/a><\/strong>, cump\u0103r\u0103 piesa pe\u00a0iTunes<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0sau pe\u00a0Amazon Music<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. \u00cen sensul \u00een care el sau ea, sau chiar tu, de ce nu, ne trimite(\u021bi) problema voastr\u0103 de suflet...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":19992,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21574","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/love.jpg?fit=640%2C334&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21574","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21574"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21574\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":21575,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21574\/revisions\/21575"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/19992"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21574"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21574"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21574"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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