Am v\u0103zut c\u0103 dai sfaturi bune \u0219i am optat s\u0103-\u021bi scriu \u0219i eu. Am o prieten\u0103, cea mai bun\u0103 prieten\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103 din gr\u0103dini\u021b\u0103. Acum eu am 17 de ani \u0219i ea 16. E cu c\u00e2teva luni mai mic\u0103. Ne-am \u00een\u021beles perfect c\u00e2t am fost copii, dar de c\u00e2nd am crescut, are un obicei foarte frustrant. Dac\u0103 mie \u00eemi place un tip, \u0219i \u00eei spun c\u0103 mi se pare dr\u0103gu\u021b, sau \u00eencep s\u0103 glumesc cu el, sau el intr\u0103 \u00een vorb\u0103 cu mine, ea se bag\u0103 peste mine \u0219i nu se las\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 nu se combin\u0103 cu el. E foarte enervant, m-a f\u0103cut s\u0103 suf\u0103r foarte mult de c\u00e2teva ori, \u0219i nu \u00een\u021beleg ce vrea s\u0103 ob\u021bin\u0103 cu asta. C\u0103 nu r\u0103m\u00e2ne cu ei, Lorena. Dup\u0103 ce iese cu ei de c\u00e2teva ori, le d\u0103 papucii.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Ce ai face tu dac\u0103 ai avea o prieten\u0103 ca asta? Am \u00eencercat s\u0103 vorbesc cu ea, dar ea mi-a zis c\u0103 nu are ce face, dac\u0103 b\u0103rba\u021bii o prefer\u0103 pe ea.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Cum s\u0103 fac s\u0103 revenim la cum eram \u00eenainte?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Te iubesc \u0219i te pup,\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n Drag\u0103 X.,<\/p>\n Eu nu a\u0219 avea o prieten\u0103 ca asta. Punct. A\u0219 rupe orice rela\u021bie cu ea \u0219i a\u0219 \u021bine-o la distan\u021b\u0103. Pentru c\u0103 nu ai de ce s\u0103-\u021bi infectezi tu via\u021ba \u0219i rela\u021biile din cauza problemelor ei.<\/p>\n O s\u0103 \u00eencep cu o veste trist\u0103. Nu ave\u021bi cum s\u0103 reveni\u021bi la ce era\u021bi \u00eenainte. E ca \u0219i cum m-ai \u00eentreba cum s\u0103 faci s\u0103 scapi de s\u00e2ni \u0219i de menstrua\u021bie, \u0219i s\u0103 redevii din nou copil. Nu exist\u0103 a\u0219a ceva, \u0219i rela\u021biile interumane care au ajuns \u00eentr-o zon\u0103 de toxicitate, cum e a voastr\u0103, sunt extrem de greu de reparat, \u0219i cum via\u021ba e scurt\u0103 \u0219i cealalt\u0103 persoan\u0103 neag\u0103 problema, \u00een loc s-o abordeze constructiv cu tine, sugerez deta\u0219are brusc\u0103 \u0219i ferm\u0103.<\/p>\n Hai s\u0103-\u021bi explic de ce oamenii ca prietena ta fac ceea ce fac.<\/p>\n Tu intri \u00een rela\u021bia cu ea dintr-un unghi al bunei credin\u021be \u0219i al prieteniei: \u021bii la ea, \u00eei vrei binele, vrei s\u0103 v\u0103 \u00een\u021belege\u021bi. Ea, din varii motive, poate \u0219i din cauza adolescen\u021bei, e extrem de nesigur\u0103 pe ea, \u0219i probabil c\u0103 are motive s\u0103 te invidieze, drept care, \u00een mintea ei, e \u00eentr-un concurs perpetuu cu tine.<\/p>\n \u0218i de aceea se apuc\u0103 s\u0103-\u021bi sufle to\u021bi b\u0103rba\u021bii. S\u0103-\u0219i demonstreze sie\u0219i c\u0103 e mai femeie, mai seduc\u0103toare \u0219i mai mi\u0219to dec\u00e2t tine.<\/p>\n C\u0103 nu se g\u00e2nde\u0219te la suferin\u021ba pe care \u021bi-o provoac\u0103 cu asta?<\/p>\n E ceva specific oamenilor lipsi\u021bi de empatie.<\/p>\n De aceea spun c\u0103 nu ai nevoie de o astfel de prieten\u0103. Poporul rom\u00e2n are un proverb specific pentru genul \u0103sta de om. “Eu cu mila dup\u0103 tine, tu cu p*la dup\u0103 mine”.<\/p>\n O s\u0103 vezi, dup\u0103 ce rupi prietenia, o s\u0103 te caute intens o perioad\u0103 \u015fi o s\u0103 fie foarte debusolat\u0103. Explic \u015fi de ce. Motivul pentru care e \u00een concurs cu tine este pentru c\u0103, \u00een sinea ei, EA \u015eTIE C\u0102 TU E\u015eTI CU MULT MAI MI\u015eTO. Vede c\u0103 e\u015fti material superior \u015fi, exact ca \u015fahi\u015ftii, vrea s\u0103 joace \u015fi s\u0103 \u00eenving\u0103 pe cineva mai bun.<\/p>\n \u00cen secunda \u00een care tu zici pas \u015fi ie\u015fi din joc, o s\u0103-\u015fi piard\u0103 reperul cu care s\u0103 se \u00eentreac\u0103.<\/p>\n Numai c\u0103, din punctul t\u0103u de vedere, e un concurs inutil, \u00een care tu nu te-ai \u00eenscris \u015fi \u00een care nu ai de ce s\u0103 investe\u015fti timp, nervi \u015fi energie. Concentreaz\u0103-te pe planuri de viitor \u015fi lucruri care conteaz\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat, nu pe conflicte f\u0103r\u0103 miz\u0103 cu oameni toxici, pro\u015fti \u015fi r\u0103i.<\/p>\n Ca recomandare general\u0103: evit\u0103 prieteniile cu genul \u0103sta de om. 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