{"id":21672,"date":"2021-04-28T14:23:43","date_gmt":"2021-04-28T11:23:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21672"},"modified":"2021-04-28T14:23:43","modified_gmt":"2021-04-28T11:23:43","slug":"posta-redactiei-o-relatie-fara-iubire","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-o-relatie-fara-iubire\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei: O rela\u021bie f\u0103r\u0103 iubire"},"content":{"rendered":"

Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. \u00cen sensul \u00een care el sau ea, sau chiar tu, de ce nu, ne trimite(\u021bi) problema voastr\u0103 de suflet pe birou@lorenalupu.com. Noi citim, cuget\u0103m \u0219i analiz\u0103m, apoi propunem o solu\u021bie sau d\u0103m o opinie \u00ceNTR-UN ARTICOL PE BLOG.<\/p>\n

Sau \u00een consulta\u0163ie privat\u0103, contra cost.<\/p>\n

Mesajul de azi spune a\u015fa:<\/p>\n

Bun\u0103, Lorena!\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Te admir foarte mult pentru munca depus\u0103 \u0219i pentru curajul de a fi asumat\u0103 \u00een fiecare moment al vie\u021bii, chit c\u0103 exist\u0103 nenum\u0103rate obstacole de-a lungul adopt\u0103rii acestei c\u0103i. Misiva de azi va fi lung\u0103, deci \u00eemi cer scuze \u00een avans.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
Problema mea, la care de altfel cred c\u0103 \u0219tiu \u0219i r\u0103spunsul, \u00eens\u0103 am nevoie de obiectivitate, este urm\u0103toarea:<\/strong><\/div>\n
Acum aproape 3 ani am cunoscut un tip (s\u0103 i spunem A) prin intermediul unei rude, cuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103 comun\u0103. La prima vedere nu mi-a atras aten\u021bia, deci niciun fluture instant \u00een stomac (dac\u0103 ar fi existat, mi-a\u0219 fi dat seama, pentru c\u0103 mi se \u00eent\u00e2mplase c\u00e2ndva). \u00cen perioada aceea eu eram \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie din care am ie\u0219it ulterior, pentru c\u0103 nu ducea nic\u0103ieri.<\/strong><\/div>\n
\u00cen timpul c\u00e2nd am \u00eencheiat rela\u021bia \u00een care eram, A. m\u0103 curta, iar eu am acceptat invita\u021biile, dar din motivul gre\u0219it, din p\u0103cate, acela de a trece peste ,,focul” care m\u0103 mistuise… s\u0103 fiu \u0219i pu\u021bin poetic\u0103. \u021ain s\u0103 men\u021bionez c\u0103 A. este un b\u0103rbat cu foarte multe calit\u0103\u021bi printre care: independent, din toate punctele de vedere, atent cu mine, ajut\u0103 \u00een cas\u0103, ce s\u0103 mai, material bun de so\u021b \u0219i tat\u0103…. numai c\u0103… efectiv nu simt c\u0103 \u00eel iubesc. Nu simt \u0219i chiar cunosc sentimentul. Ne-am mutat \u00eempreun\u0103, avem, ca orice cuplu micile noastre ne\u00een\u021belegeri, \u00eens\u0103 nu m\u0103 pot pl\u00e2nge de nimic grav. Problema e, cred eu, c\u0103 avem p\u0103reri diferite \u0219i \u00een pat, \u0219i \u00een materie de muzic\u0103, \u0219i filme, eu ador s\u0103 dansez, el destest\u0103… \u00een fine, ai \u00een\u021beles ideea.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
\u00cens\u0103 povestea nu se opre\u0219te aici. De ceva timp, \u00een vizor a ap\u0103rut un b\u0103rbat interesant, dar cu care n-a\u0219 putea avea dec\u00e2t o aventur\u0103, din mai multe motive, iar partea care m-a pus pe g\u00e2nduri e c\u0103 \u00eemi fuge mintea la aceast\u0103 posibilitate.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
\u00centrebarea mea de final e: crezi c\u0103 merit\u0103 s\u0103 stai l\u00e2ng\u0103 cineva ,,bun pe h\u00e2rtie”, f\u0103r\u0103 a-l iubi? S\u0103 alegem cu capul sau cu inima? Mi-e groaz\u0103 de ideea de a purta o discu\u021bie cu A. pentru c\u0103 nu \u0219tiu ce i-a\u0219 putea spune: hei, bun\u0103, m-am trezit \u0219i eu dup\u0103 3 ani c\u0103 nu cred c\u0103 e\u0219ti omul potrivit pentru mine. \u0218i o alt\u0103 chestie… mi-e efectiv sil\u0103 s\u0103 mai ies la \u00eent\u00e2lniri. Am \u00eent\u00e2lnit o gr\u0103mad\u0103 de specimene \u0219i nu mai am chef s\u0103 \u00eemi reiau povestea vie\u021bii over and over again.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
Sper c\u0103 po\u021bi oferi o p\u0103rere \u00een stilul propriu, oric\u00e2t de dur\u0103 ar fi.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
Cu mult\u0103 recuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103,\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Bun\u0103, X,<\/div>\n
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E\u0219ti printre pu\u021binii internau\u021bi rom\u00e2ni care pun virgul\u0103 dup\u0103 “bun\u0103” \u015fi diacritice \u00een text, \u015fi te felicit c\u0103 m\u0103 scute\u015fti de efortul exhaustiv de editare.<\/div>\n
Acum, s\u0103 r\u0103spund la \u00eentrebarea ta: cred c\u0103 decizia asta \u0163ine de structura fiec\u0103rei persoane \u00een parte.<\/div>\n
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Exist\u0103 oameni c\u0103rora le e foarte team\u0103 de singur\u0103tate. Ace\u015ftia ar fi foarte ferici\u0163i de un deal ca acela pe care \u00eel reprezint\u0103 acest partener de \u00eencredere, stabil \u015fi serios. Mai ales dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i dore\u015fti familie \u015fi copii, \u0103sta e genul de om cu care nu te treze\u015fti singur\u0103 cu un munte de responsabilit\u0103\u0163i.<\/div>\n
Apoi, exist\u0103 oameni ca mine, c\u0103rora le e o sil\u0103 profund\u0103 de compromis \u015fi care \u00ee\u015fi pre\u0163uiesc la culme libertatea individual\u0103. Nu a\u015f sacrifica dreptul de a face ce vrea plm c\u00e2nd vrea plm\u00a0 \u0219i exact cum vrea plm dec\u00e2t pentru o persoan\u0103 care s\u0103-mi inspire impulsul de a o lua \u00een bra\u0163e din exact secunda \u00een care \u00eemi apare \u00een cale. Nu m-ar interesa avantajele legate de stabilitate, pentru c\u0103 \u00eemi sunt mie \u00eens\u0103mi suficient\u0103 \u0219i nu am nevoie de nimic din partea nim\u0103nui. Totodat\u0103, nu admit nici s\u0103 fiu obiectul de uz de moment al unui aventurier, drept care, p\u00e2n\u0103 la noi ordine, singur\u0103tatea e starea mea preferat\u0103 de a fi.<\/div>\n
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Dar modul meu de trai presupune un nivel de echilibru interior \u0219i o profund\u0103 rupere-n pl legat\u0103 de presiunile sociale. Acestea \u00eemi vin m\u0103nu\u0219\u0103 mie, dar nu altor persoane, de aceea nu sunt \u00een pozi\u021bia s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi spun ce s\u0103 faci.<\/div>\n
Preferi singur\u0103tatea unui minciuni de zi cu zi? F\u0103 ca mine.<\/div>\n
Preferi s\u0103 \u0219tii c\u0103 te bazezi pe un om care nu te va l\u0103sa niciodat\u0103 la greu? Stai cu el.<\/div>\n
Indiferent ce ai decide, ia \u00een considerare consecin\u021bele, s\u0103 nu regre\u021bi pe urm\u0103. Dar e cel mai bine s\u0103 alegi \u00een func\u021bie de ceea de te define\u0219te ca om.<\/div>\n
Sper c\u0103 \u021bi-am fost util\u0103,<\/div>\n
Lorena.<\/div>\n
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