{"id":21703,"date":"2021-05-03T09:57:15","date_gmt":"2021-05-03T06:57:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21703"},"modified":"2021-05-03T09:57:15","modified_gmt":"2021-05-03T06:57:15","slug":"despre-dating-si-disperare","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/despre-dating-si-disperare\/","title":{"rendered":"Despre dating \u0219i disperare"},"content":{"rendered":"

Am tot primit mailuri \u00een Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei de la diverse fete. Toate vin cu aceea\u0219i chestie. Drag\u0103 Lorena, de ce nu g\u0103sesc pe cineva? De ce m\u0103 trateaz\u0103 \u0103ia nasol? Cum fac s\u0103 nu m\u0103 mai trateze nasol?<\/p>\n

Cred c\u0103 problema e pus\u0103 extrem de gre\u0219it, \u0219i vine din mentalitatea rom\u00e2neasc\u0103 tradi\u021bional\u0103 inept\u0103, care trateaz\u0103 femeia ca pe o marf\u0103 care trebuie v\u00e2ndut\u0103 – “s\u0103 te ia \u015fi pe tine cineva” p\u00e2n\u0103 la data de expirare X. \u00cen trecut, era crunt. Data de expirare era p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een 20 de ani. Deci, nici nu apucai s\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u015fti, s\u0103 te define\u015fti ca persoan\u0103, s\u0103-\u0163i dai seama cine e\u015fti \u015fi care e misiunea ta pe p\u0103m\u00e2nt. Acum, har Domnului, data de expirare s-a extins p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een jur de 30 – 35, dar mentalitatea e gre\u015fit\u0103 \u00een continuare.<\/p>\n

Realitatea, fetele mele, e c\u0103 nu exist\u0103 o dat\u0103 de expirare.<\/p>\n

“Dar, Lorena, dup\u0103 30, sau 40, sau whatever, n-o s\u0103 mai vrea nimeni s\u0103 m\u0103 f***!!”<\/p>\n

A\u015fa, \u015fi? M\u0103car vei sc\u0103pa de arsenalul de gher\u0163oieli, grosol\u0103nii, jocule\u0163e imbecile, manevre jenante \u015fi infantilisme tembele cu care gigeii trateaz\u0103 femeile pe care vor s\u0103 le f***. \u00centotdeauna m-a enervat vorba aia cu “Las\u0103, c\u0103 \u00eemb\u0103tr\u00e2ne\u015fti tu \u015fi nici v\u00e2ntul nu-\u0163i va ridica fusta!” Ce bine, \u00een plm!! Nu e cazul s\u0103-mi ridice nimeni fusta, e un obicei de b\u0103d\u0103rani infec\u0163i, \u015fi taman de aceea prefer s\u0103 port pantaloni. Pentru c\u0103 EU aleg c\u00e2nd \u015fi pentru cine mi-i scot, nu orice scursur\u0103 a societ\u0103\u0163ii suficient de necioplit\u0103 \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 cread\u0103 c\u0103 e normal s\u0103 ridici fustele femeilor.<\/p>\n

Mbun. Revenind. Educa\u0163ia inept\u0103 tradi\u0163ional\u0103 v-a educat c\u0103 sunte\u0163i o marf\u0103, \u015fi c\u0103 validarea voastr\u0103 vine dac\u0103 “v\u0103 ia \u015fi pe voi cineva”. \u015ei dac\u0103 cineva nu e dispus s\u0103 v\u0103 ia, sau folose\u015fte Tinder doar pentru a c\u0103uta ceva de co\u0163\u0103it f\u0103r\u0103 efort, sau whatever, suferi\u0163i ca ni\u015fte fraiere.<\/p>\n

Realitatea e c\u0103, cu c\u00e2t te \u00eenjose\u015fti mai mult “s\u0103 te ia \u015fi pe tine cineva”, cu at\u00e2t vei fi tratat\u0103 mai prost, pentru c\u0103, dac\u0103 merge \u015fi a\u015fa, de ce s\u0103-\u015fi bat\u0103 capul? Dac\u0103 o marf\u0103 cost\u0103 la magazin 5 lei, nimeni nu va spune “Uite aici \u00eenc\u0103 10 din bun\u0103tatea inimii mele”.<\/p>\n

\u015ei atunci?<\/p>\n

\u015ei atunci, \u00een loc s\u0103 vrei “s\u0103 te ia \u015fi pe tine cineva”, mai bine \u00eentreab\u0103-te “Merit\u0103 acest cineva timpul \u015fi investi\u0163ia mea?”<\/p>\n

Nu mai c\u0103uta “pe unul”, “care o fi, numai s\u0103 fie”, ci caut\u0103 persoana CEA MAI POTRIVIT\u0102 PENTRU TINE, CU VALORI ADECVATE \u0162IE. Persoana care S\u0102 MERITE.<\/p>\n

\u015ei atunci, treaba se simplific\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u0162i-a ar\u0103tat Gigel c\u0103 e neserios?<\/p>\n

Ar trebui s\u0103-i mul\u0163ume\u015fti c\u0103 a f\u0103cut-o acum \u015fi nu te-a l\u0103sat singur\u0103 cu trei copii \u015fi un credit ipotecar la cas\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u0162i-a ar\u0103tat c\u0103 e un gher\u0163oi infect?<\/p>\n

A\u015fijderea.<\/p>\n

\u0162i-a ar\u0103tat c\u0103 nu te po\u0163i baza pe el cu nimic?<\/p>\n

Idem.<\/p>\n

\u0162i-a ar\u0103tat c\u0103 e un consum inutil de biomas\u0103?<\/p>\n

Ibidem.<\/p>\n

Bucur\u0103-te dac\u0103 to\u0163i pro\u015ftii p\u0103m\u00e2ntului \u00ee\u0163i arat\u0103 c\u0103 sunt pro\u015ftii p\u0103m\u00e2ntului \u00eenainte s\u0103 te apuci s\u0103-\u0163i d\u0103ruie\u015fti timpul, energia \u015fi dragostea.<\/p>\n

\u00ce\u0162I FAC UN SERVICIU.<\/p>\n

“Ce fac s\u0103 m\u0103 iubeasc\u0103 \u0103la?”<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 era s\u0103 te iubeasc\u0103 \u0103la, te iubea deja. \u015ei dac\u0103 nu te iube\u015fte, move the f*** on. Apreciaz\u0103 c\u0103 \u015fi-a dat arama pe fa\u0163\u0103 din prima, nu c\u00e2nd deja \u0163i-ai \u00eentors via\u0163a cu c** \u00een sus \u015fi ai renun\u0163at la diverse chestii s\u0103 fii cu el.<\/p>\n

Remember: \u00een povestea ta, eroul principal e\u015fti tu. Tot efortul \u0103la, cum s\u0103 m\u0103 iubeasc\u0103 Gigel, F\u0103nel, Costel, \u00ee\u0163i diminueaz\u0103 din ceea ce ar trebui s\u0103 conteze cu adev\u0103rat: INVESTI\u0162IA TA \u00ceN TINE.<\/p>\n

Ce ai f\u0103cut pentru tine \u00eens\u0103\u0163i \u00een ultima vreme, \u00een tot timpul pe care l-ai petrecut perpelindu-te c\u0103 Gigel, F\u0103nel \u015fi Costel nu corespundeau?<\/p>\n

Nu corespund? Foarte bine c\u0103 \u0163i-au ar\u0103tat repede. M\u0103car \u015ftii. Thank you, next!<\/p>\n

Am o tem\u0103 pentru voi, \u00een Po\u015fta redac\u0163iei. S\u0103 ne oprim din mailuri despre cum nu ne iube\u015fte gogu, \u015fi s\u0103 \u00eencepem s\u0103 povestim cum l-am dep\u0103\u015fit cu succes pe gogu. Merci anticipat.<\/p>\n

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Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, pute\u021bi sus\u0163ine activitatea siteului cu o dona\u0163ie.<\/p>\n

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