{"id":21733,"date":"2021-05-09T11:16:21","date_gmt":"2021-05-09T08:16:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21733"},"modified":"2021-05-09T11:16:21","modified_gmt":"2021-05-09T08:16:21","slug":"ajuti-la-muncile-casnice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/ajuti-la-muncile-casnice\/","title":{"rendered":"Aju\u021bi la muncile casnice?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Azi, dragi copii, vreau s\u0103 scriu despre o frustrare a mea mai veche. Porne\u0219te de la un clipule\u021b pe care l-am v\u0103zut, unde o doamn\u0103 sf\u0103tuia b\u0103rba\u021bii din cupluri s\u0103 “ajute” la muncile casnice. Pentru o rela\u0163ie s\u0103n\u0103toas\u0103.<\/p>\n

Ce m\u0103 irit\u0103 major? o s\u0103 \u00eentreba\u0163i domniile voastre. \u00cen fond, e o idee bun\u0103, nu?<\/p>\n

Ce m\u0103 irit\u0103 major, \u00een acest caz e verbul “a ajuta”.<\/p>\n

Ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 “aju\u0163i”?<\/p>\n

S\u0103 aju\u0163i \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 oferi timpul, resursele, munca sau conexiunile tale unei alte persoane, c\u0103reia nu \u00eei datorezi nimic, dar faci asta din bun\u0103tatea sufletului t\u0103u \u015fi pentru c\u0103 e\u015fti un zeu milostiv.<\/p>\n

Acum: \u00eentr-o cas\u0103 \u00een care locuiesc doi, sau dac\u0103 exist\u0103 \u015fi copii, mai mul\u0163i, n-ar trebui s\u0103 existe o singur\u0103 persoan\u0103 care are obliga\u0163ia s\u0103 le fac\u0103 pe toate \u015fi alta c\u0103reia i se cuvine s\u0103 beneficieze de \u00eengrijire \u015fi s\u0103 aib\u0103 impresia c\u0103 face un act de imens\u0103 gra\u0163ie dac\u0103 pune accidental m\u00e2na pe un aspirator \u015fi apas\u0103 butonul de “on”.<\/p>\n

Da, Lorena, dar tradi\u0163ional, b\u0103rbatul era \u00eentre\u0163in\u0103torul familiei \u015fi femeia, omul cu treburile casei.<\/p>\n

Aha.<\/p>\n

Atunci, putem spune c\u0103 femeia modern\u0103, angajat\u0103 full time, \u00eel “ajut\u0103” pe b\u0103rbat c\u00e2nd contribuie \u015fi ea la bugetul familiei? Nu. Se ajut\u0103 \u00een primul r\u00e2nd pe sine, dac\u0103 putem numi asta ajutor. Pentru c\u0103 vrei s\u0103 ai banii t\u0103i, s\u0103 nu ceri 10 lei pentru un pachet de tampoane menstruale lui Gogu.<\/p>\n

\u00centotdeauna m-a deranjat la culme no\u0163iunea c\u0103 muncile casei sunt obliga\u0163ia exclusiv\u0103 a femeii \u015fi c\u0103 b\u0103rbatul, care se folose\u015fte de locuin\u0163\u0103 \u015fi de tot ce e \u00een ea \u00een m\u0103sur\u0103 egal\u0103, ar “ajuta” dac\u0103 mi\u015fc\u0103 \u015fi el ceva \u00een cas\u0103. Nu, nu ajut\u0103 pe nimeni. Se poate califica drept ajutor dac\u0103 se apuc\u0103 s\u0103 fac\u0103 curat \u00een casele altora. Dar dac\u0103 face curat \u00een a lui, \u00ee\u015fi asum\u0103 doar partea lui FIREASC\u0102, DE BUN SIM\u0162, NORMAL\u0102.<\/p>\n

Nu am v\u0103zut \u00eenc\u0103 niciodat\u0103 admira\u0163ie la adresa unei femei: Oau, Marioara a b\u0103gat azi rufe la sp\u0103lat. Mam\u0103\u0103\u0103, po\u0163i s\u0103-\u0163i imaginezi una ca asta? \u015ei a separat albele de colorate!! Incredibil, nu se poate a\u015fa ceva! \u015ei a pus \u015fi balsam de rufe, can you believe it?? \u015ei le-a \u015fi \u00eentins la uscat dup\u0103 aceea!! Ce fabulo\u015fenie!<\/p>\n

Plm, e treaba ei s\u0103 fac\u0103 asta, right?<\/p>\n

Dar dac\u0103 Gigel spal\u0103 \u015fi el un co\u015f de rufe: Woooow, c\u00e2t ajutooor!!<\/p>\n

Ce mi\u015fto e via\u0163a de b\u0103rbat. Abia ape\u015fi \u015fi tu butonul de “on” pe ma\u015fina de sp\u0103lat \u015fi o armat\u0103 de p*zde sunt gata s\u0103 le\u015fine \u00een extaz ce mult ai ajutat.<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103, nu-i a\u015fa, hainele tale s-au purtat singure, s-au dus s\u0103 se t\u0103v\u0103leasc\u0103 pu\u0163in prin praful ora\u015fului, \u015fi e un gest foarte nobil din partea ta s\u0103 le aju\u0163i s\u0103 redevin\u0103 curate.<\/p>\n

\u015ei atunci, b\u0103rba\u0163ii care locuiesc singuri, prin urmare nu au o proast\u0103 obligat\u0103 s\u0103 str\u00e2ng\u0103 by default dup\u0103 ei, pe cine “ajut\u0103” c\u00e2nd \u00ee\u015fi fac curat \u00een cas\u0103?<\/p>\n

Recapitul\u0103m: “ajutor” e c\u00e2nd faci ceva \u00een afara oric\u0103rei obliga\u0163ii, pentru c\u0103 po\u0163i \u015fi vrei. Dac\u0103 a g\u0103tit nevast\u0103-ta \u015fi tu speli vasele, nu “o aju\u0163i”. \u00ce\u0163i faci partea ta. C\u00e2nd mai face\u0163i clipuri din astea, nu mai pune\u0163i problema ca “ajutor”. Pune\u0163i problema ca “obliga\u0163ie egal\u0103”. Prea v\u0103 categorisi\u0163i voi pe voi drept slugi gratuite, \u015fi apoi v\u0103 mira\u0163i de ce nu sunte\u0163i fericite.<\/p>\n

Am asistat zilele trecute la o conversa\u0163ie de cuplu, la magazin.<\/p>\n

El: Ce \u00eemi dai s\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nc azi?<\/p>\n

\u015eti\u0163i deja cuv\u00e2ntul de patru litere care mi-a r\u0103s\u0103rit instant \u00een minte. Dac\u0103 nu \u00eel \u015fti\u0163i, \u00eencepe cu “p”. \u015ei se termin\u0103 cu “ul\u0103”. Nu a\u015f pierde nici trei secunde din timpul meu valoros cu unul care pune problema la modul “Ce \u00eemi dai s\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nc azi?”. Nu e\u015fti copil s\u0103rac din Africa, nu e\u015fti specie pe cale de dispari\u0163ie, nu ai nevoie s\u0103 “\u0163i se dea s\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nci”.<\/p>\n

\u00centrebarea corect\u0103 este “Ce G\u0102TIM azi”, iar dac\u0103 nu g\u0103tim, c\u0103 ne e lene, “Ce COMAND\u0102M azi”.<\/p>\n

Bine, \u00eentrebarea cu adev\u0103rat sexy \u015fi interesant\u0103, care s\u0103 te impresioneze \u015fi s\u0103 te \u015fi umezeasc\u0103 un pic, ar fi “Ce vrei s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i g\u0103tesc azi?”, dar nah, asta e Rom\u00e2nia. \u0162ar\u0103 de misecuvenism \u015fi nesim\u0163ire. “Ce g\u0103tim azi?” will do.<\/p>\n

“Ce \u00eemi dai s\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nc?”<\/p>\n

Pe m\u0103-ta la tav\u0103, cu garnitur\u0103 de legume la abur.<\/p>\n

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