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Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. \u00cen sensul \u00een care el sau ea, sau chiar tu, de ce nu, ne trimite(\u021bi) problema voastr\u0103 de suflet pe birou@lorenalupu.com. Noi citim, cuget\u0103m \u0219i analiz\u0103m, apoi propunem o solu\u021bie sau d\u0103m o opinie \u00ceNTR-UN ARTICOL PE BLOG.<\/p>\n

Sau \u00een consulta\u0163ie privat\u0103, contra cost.<\/p>\n

Mesajul de azi spune a\u015fa:<\/p>\n

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Bun\u0103, Lorena,<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Te citesc de vreo 2-3 ani \u0219i te admir foarte mult. O s\u0103-\u021bi expun mai jos \u0219i de ce te admir, dar s\u0103 \u00eencep prin a-\u021bi spune de ce \u00ee\u021bi scriu.<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Okey… deci eu nu \u0219tiu ce vreau, jur. Am 34 ani \u0219i \u00eenc\u0103 mi-o ard ca o adolescent\u0103. Credeam c\u0103 vreau s\u0103 m\u0103 m\u0103rit, s\u0103 fac copii, s\u0103 am o via\u021b\u0103 de adult normal\u0103. Am \u00eencercat oarecum s\u0103 fac asta, adic\u0103 am avut ceva rela\u021bii serioase, am iubit, am fost dezam\u0103git\u0103, am dezam\u0103git. De fapt aici e problema, eu sunt problema.<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Dac\u0103 tipul e frumos \u0219i de\u0219tept, atunci sigur nu m\u0103 vrea, dac\u0103 e prostan nu-l vreau eu deloc, dac\u0103 e acceptabil \u00eel vreau, dar m\u0103 plictisesc la un moment-dat, uit de iubire, uit de singur\u0103tate \u0219i \u00eemi fug ochii dup\u0103 alt\u0103 \u021bint\u0103. \u0218i oric\u00e2t de minunat\u0103 ar fi \u021binta nou\u0103 tot mi se ia de el, ba pentru c\u0103 m\u0103 calc\u0103 pe nervi cu ceva (\u0219i e foarte simplu s\u0103 fac\u0103 asta), ba pentru c\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eendr\u0103gostesc de altul \u0219i nu mai am ochi pentru \u0103sta.<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Dac\u0103 am reu\u0219it c\u00e2ndva s\u0103 am sentimente puternice pentru cineva, e sigur c\u0103 acum nu mai pot, poate s\u0103 fie el F\u0103t Frumos cu afaceri \u0219i devreme acas\u0103. Bleaaah.<\/strong><\/div>\n
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\u00cen ceea ce prive\u0219te copiii, nah, i-a\u0219 face, dar dac\u0103 eu nu pot s\u0103 m\u0103 stabilesc cu niciun cre\u0219tin pentru c\u0103 m\u0103 calc\u0103 pe nervi sau pentru c\u0103 \u00eemi fug ochii dup\u0103 al\u021bii, atunci nici copii nu prea pot face.<\/strong><\/div>\n
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The question is: wtf am I going to do? Tu cum reu\u0219e\u0219ti s\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u0219ti singur\u0103? Ai momente \u00een care te sim\u021bi singur\u0103? Ai momente \u00een care te-ai f… \u0219i n-ai niciun pularau valabil \u00een zon\u0103? Crezi c\u0103 un fuck buddy m-ar ajuta? Problema e c\u0103 a\u0219 prefera s\u0103 fie un fuck buddy de drum lung pentru c\u0103 jur c\u0103 n-am chef s\u0103 tot schimb pul\u0103rai, de-asta \u0219i sunt abstinent\u0103 de vreo 3 ani, pentru c\u0103 nu m\u0103 dau oricui.<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Unde g\u0103sesc un b\u0103rbat inteligent care s\u0103 nu fie gelos dac\u0103 arunc privirea \u00een gradina altuia din 3 \u00een 3 ani, a\u0219a? Cu unul de-asta a\u0219 putea face \u0219i copii, m-ar durea la basc\u0103. Problema e c\u0103 masculii sunt gelo\u0219i nevoie mare \u0219i ei s-ar f… \u00een st\u00e2nga \u0219i \u00een dreapta, dar so\u021bia nu are voie deloc s\u0103 mai aib\u0103 \u0219i ea ceva escapade. Este o lume a b\u0103rba\u021bilor!<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Welp!<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Mul\u021bumesc, Lorena, te plac mult, s\u0103 \u0219tii, \u0219i te admir, a\u0219a cum spuneam, c\u0103 reu\u0219e\u0219ti s\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u0219ti singur\u0103. Spune-mi, rogu-te, care este re\u021beta ta.<\/strong><\/div>\n
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X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Drag\u0103 X.,<\/div>\n
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Dac\u0103 tot ai 34 de ani, po\u0163i \u00eencepe prin a te deta\u015fa de condi\u0163ion\u0103ri \u015fi a g\u00e2ndi cu capul t\u0103u. Nu, nu vrei s\u0103 te m\u0103ri\u0163i, \u015fi nu, nu vrei copii, astea sunt doar teorii despre condi\u0163ia femeii cu care te-au \u00eendopat familia \u015fi societatea, idei fixe care se aplic\u0103 probabil la un procent din popula\u0163ia feminin\u0103, dar \u00een mod cert nu asupra tuturor, \u015fi presiunea asta social\u0103 de secole a f\u0103cut nefericite milioane de femei care, \u00een realitate, nu erau conform tiparului.<\/div>\n
Uit\u0103 ce au zis maic\u0103-ta, bunic\u0103-ta \u015fi popa de la biseric\u0103 \u015fi \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 te cuno\u015fti cu adev\u0103rat, s\u0103-\u0163i asumi complet felul t\u0103u\u00a0autentic\u00a0<\/strong>de a fi, lucrurile pe care chiar le vrei, cele care nu te intereseaz\u0103, \u015fi nu mai plimba cli\u015fee obosite.<\/div>\n
Dac\u0103 voiai copii, g\u0103seai p\u00e2n\u0103 acum un tip serios \u015fi responsabil, \u015fi ignorai c\u0103 e prea pu\u0163in poet sau prea pu\u0163in dansator, \u00een schimbul certitudinii c\u0103 o s\u0103 se trezeasc\u0103 zi de zi, s\u0103 mearg\u0103 la munc\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 pun\u0103 p\u00e2ine pe mas\u0103. \u0162ineai conexiunea str\u00e2ns\u0103, \u015fi treceai defectele cu vederea, a\u015fa cum fac femeile care CHIAR VOR familie \u015fi copii.<\/div>\n
Tu nu le vrei, \u015fi de aceea \u00ee\u0163i \u015fi fuge aten\u0163ia de la Ion la Gheorghe, apoi la Vasile.<\/div>\n
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Cu c\u00e2t e\u015fti dispus\u0103 s\u0103 descoperi cine e\u015fti \u015fi ce vrei, cu at\u00e2t \u0163i se clarific\u0103 ce ai de f\u0103cut.<\/div>\n
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\u00cen cazul t\u0103u, observ dou\u0103 solu\u0163ii. Posibile. Poate c\u0103 nu acoper\u0103 complet toate necesit\u0103\u0163ile tale, dar hei, via\u0163a e imperfect\u0103 \u00een general.<\/div>\n
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A) G\u0103se\u015fte-\u0163i un iubit poliamoros.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Sigur, \u0103sta nu va fi gher\u0163oiul obi\u015fnuit cu preten\u0163ia c\u0103 d\u0103 cu pumnul \u00een mas\u0103, \u015fi nici nu se afi\u015feaz\u0103 public ca poliamoros. \u00cel g\u0103se\u015fti mai mult pe forumuri \u015fi comunit\u0103\u0163i online de specialitate. Unde po\u0163i \u00eencepe prin a posta sub anonimat despre preocup\u0103rile tale poliamoroase \u015fi prin a c\u0103uta suflete fraterne. Apoi, po\u0163i organiza picnicuri la iarb\u0103 verde cu numitele suflete fraterne \u015fi, printre ei, s\u0103 identifici tipul cu care po\u0163i avea o rela\u0163ie deschis\u0103 de tip poliamoros. Adic\u0103, voi doi sunte\u0163i emo\u0163ional un cuplu, dar sexual, ave\u0163i fiecare al\u0163i parteneri \u015fi e \u00een regul\u0103, at\u00e2ta timp c\u00e2t nu exist\u0103 implicare.<\/div>\n
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B) G\u0103se\u015fte-\u0163i un sugar daddy\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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“De ce e important s\u0103 aduc\u0103 bani \u00een rela\u0163ie?”<\/div>\n
O s\u0103 st\u00e2rnesc iar ur\u0103 pe net, dar b\u0103rba\u0163ii au cu banii rela\u0163ia pe care femeile o au cu sexul. Adic\u0103, \u00een secunda \u00een care o femeie face sex, devine investit\u0103 \u015fi vulnerabil\u0103, cam \u00een mod similar \u00een care devine b\u0103rbatul \u00een secunda \u00een care bag\u0103 bani \u00een rela\u0163ie. Teama femeii c\u0103 e folosit\u0103 doar pentru sex se reflect\u0103 perfect \u00een teama b\u0103rbatului c\u0103 e folosit doar pentru bani. B\u0103rba\u0163ii \u00eenjur\u0103 materialistele cu acela\u015fi n\u0103duf frustrat cu care femeile \u00eenjur\u0103 c**varii. Iar un b\u0103rbat care nu pune bani pe mas\u0103 e la fel de boring ca o femeie care nu s*** p***.<\/div>\n
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Mkay. S\u0103 iei bani de la b\u0103rba\u0163i e un mod de a-i \u0163ine implica\u0163i \u00een povestea cu tine. Un gigel o s\u0103 uite femeia care i-a f\u0103cut cea mai intens\u0103 \u015fi devastatoare mu**, dar n-o va uita niciodat\u0103 pe cea care l-a jecm\u0103nit \u015fi apoi l-a abandonat, c\u00e2nd el \u015fi-a pierdut jobul.<\/div>\n
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Un sugar daddy e un tip care nu vrea o rela\u0163ie monogam\u0103 \u015fi exclusiv\u0103, de aceea caut\u0103 sugar babies, aka fete cu care se \u00eent\u00e2lne\u015fte periodic pe bani. Faptul c\u0103 nu vrea o rela\u0163ie monogam\u0103 \u015fi exclusiv\u0103 implic\u0103, de obicei, \u015fi faptul c\u0103, \u00een afara momentelor cu el, faci ce vrei \u015fi cu cine vrei. Tot ce ai de f\u0103cut e s\u0103 nu te \u00eendr\u0103goste\u015fti \u015fi s\u0103 men\u0163ii stilul chill \u015fi casual.<\/div>\n
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\u00cen rest, \u00eemi pare r\u0103u s\u0103 \u0163i-o spun, dar dualitatea de tip “\u015fi cu sula-n fund \u015fi cu sufletu-n rai” nu exist\u0103, nici pentru b\u0103rba\u0163i, nici pentru femei. Exist\u0103 doar aranjamente mai mult sau mai pu\u0163in satisf\u0103c\u0103toare pentru ambele p\u0103r\u0163i.<\/div>\n
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Iar legat de admira\u0163ia ta pentru mine, prefer s\u0103 m\u0103 admiri pentru c\u00e2t de bine scriu \u015fi expresivitatea mea de performer, mul\u0163umesc.<\/div>\n
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Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/div>\n
Lorena.<\/div>\n
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