{"id":21829,"date":"2021-06-01T12:41:13","date_gmt":"2021-06-01T09:41:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21829"},"modified":"2021-06-01T12:42:39","modified_gmt":"2021-06-01T09:42:39","slug":"lectii-copii","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/lectii-copii\/","title":{"rendered":"Lec\u0163ii de la copii"},"content":{"rendered":"

Mul\u0163i dintre noi tr\u0103iesc cu iluzia c\u0103 \u00eei educ\u0103 pe copii, c\u0103 \u00eei \u00eenva\u0163\u0103 lucruri. C\u0103 rolul lor e acela de a adopta un ton superior \u015fi atoatecunosc\u0103tor, de a da directive \u015fi ordine, \u015fi, \u00een variantele mai grave, acela de proprietar absolut al numitului copil, cu drept de via\u0163\u0103 \u015fi de moarte. Eu te-am f\u0103cut, eu te omor. Cine a auzit fraza asta \u00een copil\u0103rie, spus\u0103 cu o convingere care i-a dat fiori reci pe \u015fina spin\u0103rii, \u015ftie senza\u0163ia. Cine nu, felicit\u0103ri intense.<\/p>\n

Al\u0163ii, ca de exemplu eu, avem pl\u0103cerea de a lua lec\u0163ii de la copii. Ace\u015fti mici mae\u015ftri ai joie-ului de vivre. Ace\u015fti mugura\u015fi de personalitate, \u00eenc\u0103 liberi de conven\u0163ii sociale.<\/p>\n

\u015ei cred c\u0103 lec\u0163iile lor sunt mult mai valoroase.<\/p>\n

Joaca\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nimic nu e mai trist \u015fi tragic dec\u00e2t adultul care a uitat s\u0103 se joace. \u015ei nu e vorba de a construi cu cubule\u0163e sau god forbid, cu borma\u015fini la \u015fase diminea\u0163a. E vorba de bucuria cre\u0103rii de situa\u0163ii abstracte ipotetice \u015fi de a g\u0103si prin resurse de moment solu\u0163ii la ele.<\/p>\n

Joaca e cel mai bun profesor. Al copilului, al adultului, al eternului copil, al cui vre\u0163i voi.<\/p>\n

Povestea\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Fie c\u0103 e cu animale magice, fie c\u0103 e cu \u00eemp\u0103ra\u0163i \u015fi \u00eemp\u0103r\u0103tese, fie c\u0103 e cu mo\u015f \u015fi bab\u0103, povestea e lec\u0163ie de emo\u0163ie, de suspans, de catharsis aristotelic \u015fi nu \u00een ultimul r\u00e2nd, de comuniune \u00een energii \u00eentre narator \u015fi ascult\u0103tor.<\/p>\n

Povestea bine spus\u0103 deschide inimi \u015fi creeaz\u0103 afinit\u0103\u0163i. Povestea e prima arm\u0103 de seduc\u0163ie din arsenalul oricui.<\/p>\n

Ce ne pot \u00eenv\u0103\u0163a copiii? S\u0103 tr\u0103im sau s\u0103 retr\u0103im povestea. Ca \u015fi cum am explora-o prima oar\u0103. \u015ei chiar o putem explora mai ad\u00e2nc. Spune un copil s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i povesteasc\u0103 un basm pe care i l-ai zis tu acum o or\u0103. Versiunea nou\u0103 te va surprinde, \u00eenfrico\u015fa \u015fi \u00eenc\u00e2nta \u00een acela\u0219i timp.<\/p>\n

\u00cembr\u0103\u021bi\u0219area<\/strong><\/p>\n

Oric\u00e2t ar fi de grea ziua \u00een curs, e ceva \u00een afec\u021biunea pur\u0103 a copiilor \u0219i a animalelor care vindec\u0103 instant durerea de cap, dezleag\u0103 ghinionul \u0219i transform\u0103 negativul \u00een pozitiv.<\/p>\n

Acum, nu spun s\u0103 \u00eencepi s\u0103 \u00eembr\u0103\u021bi\u0219ezi oameni pe strad\u0103. Sunt oameni care vor s\u0103 fie lua\u021bi \u00een bra\u021be, oameni care nu, \u0219i oameni care vor, dar nu de c\u0103tre tine. Important s\u0103 vezi care e situa\u021bia \u00een fiecare caz, \u0219i s\u0103 respec\u021bi limitele fiec\u0103rei persoane \u00een parte.<\/p>\n

Spun doar c\u0103, \u00een rela\u021biile noastre cu familia \u0219i apropia\u021bii, putem aplica m\u0103car un pic din aceast\u0103 afec\u021biune inocent\u0103 \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103 a\u0219tept\u0103ri.<\/p>\n

Curajul\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

E ceva de \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat din incon\u0219tien\u021ba copila\u0219ilor care se ca\u021b\u0103r\u0103 \u00een cei mai \u00eenal\u021bi copaci, fac cele mai extravagante n\u0103zb\u00e2tii \u0219i vin cu cele mai intense julituri.<\/p>\n

Juliturile trebuie pre\u021buite drept ceea ce sunt de fapt: insigne ale curajului \u0219i ale asum\u0103rii de riscuri. Pentru c\u0103 singurul mod de a ajunge p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een v\u00e2rful copacului e s\u0103 \u00eencerci in the first place. Juliturile sunt dovada consecven\u021bei, a perseveren\u021bei \u0219i a disponibilit\u0103\u021bii de a suferi pentru a evolua.<\/p>\n

\u00cen secunda \u00een care ne pierdem curajul, pierdem sclipirea aventurii din ochi \u0219i devenim legume cu buletin. Robo\u021bei seta\u021bi pe program fix cu bonuri de mas\u0103.<\/p>\n

Onestitatea\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ce face un copil c\u00e2nd vrea o \u00eenghe\u021bat\u0103?<\/p>\n

Cere pur \u0219i simplu o \u00eenghe\u021bat\u0103.<\/p>\n

Ce face un adult c\u00e2nd vrea ceva?<\/p>\n

Se apuc\u0103 s\u0103 bage aluzii, s\u0103 trag\u0103 sfori, s\u0103 bat\u0103 \u0219aua s\u0103 priceap\u0103 iapa, \u0219i multe alte tehnici de manipulare care pot ie\u0219i sau nu. \u0218i dac\u0103 nu, frustrarea e cu at\u00e2t mai mare.<\/p>\n

Copiii sunt dovada vie a faptului c\u0103, de multe ori, ie\u0219i mai bine dac\u0103 spui pur \u0219i simplu ce \u00ee\u021bi dore\u0219ti.<\/p>\n

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