{"id":21861,"date":"2021-06-09T09:55:47","date_gmt":"2021-06-09T06:55:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21861"},"modified":"2021-06-09T09:55:47","modified_gmt":"2021-06-09T06:55:47","slug":"de-ce-iubim-introvertitii","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/de-ce-iubim-introvertitii\/","title":{"rendered":"De ce iubim introverti\u021bii"},"content":{"rendered":"

E foarte u\u0219or s\u0103 treci pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 ei f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103-i observi, pentru c\u0103 sunt genul de oameni care nu se bag\u0103 \u00een seam\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 motiv bine \u00eentemeiat, nu cer\u0219esc aten\u021bie cu stupizenii \u0219i nu fac parad\u0103 de ei \u00een\u0219i\u0219i. Dar dac\u0103 treci pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 ei, pierzi foarte mult.<\/p>\n

Realitatea e c\u0103, dac\u0103 iei oamenii dup\u0103 prima impresie, \u0219i te orientezi doar dup\u0103 nivelul de g\u0103l\u0103gie pe care \u00eel produc, ai numai de pierdut.<\/p>\n

Un lucru pe care \u00eemi place s\u0103-l fac, c\u00e2nd sunt \u00eentr-un grup mare de oameni, e s\u0103 intru \u00een vorb\u0103 cu oamenii care stau lini\u0219ti\u021bi pe margine \u0219i nu caut\u0103 cu tot dinadinsul s\u0103 se impun\u0103. Astfel, am descoperit c\u00e2teva “pietre scumpe” de care sunt foarte m\u00e2ndr\u0103.<\/p>\n

De ce sunt minuna\u0163i introverti\u0163ii?<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103<\/p>\n

A) \u015etii c\u0103 prietenia lor este real\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Exist\u0103 chestia aia extrem de iritant\u0103, pe care o practic\u0103 cer\u015fetorii de aten\u0163ie, \u015fi care se nume\u015fte \u00eentre\u0163inerea de rela\u0163ii. Te caut\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 aib\u0103 ceva util de comunicat, fac complimente de fa\u0163ad\u0103, fac declara\u0163ii goale de emo\u0163ii reale \u015fi cascade de cuvinte care nu spun nimic.<\/p>\n

Introverti\u0163ii, \u00eens\u0103, sunt oamenii care nu au nevoie s\u0103 \u00eentre\u0163in\u0103 rela\u0163ii, pentru c\u0103, prin natura lor, nu au nevoie de multe rela\u0163ii. Drept care, dac\u0103 te \u00eemprietene\u015fti cu ei, tot ce spun e pe bune, \u00ee\u0163i dezv\u0103luie exact cine sunt \u015fi exact ce cred, \u015fi conexiunea este adev\u0103rat\u0103.<\/p>\n

B) Ai confiden\u0163ialitate garantat\u0103\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nu-mi place b\u00e2rfa, \u00een\u0163eleas\u0103 ca rev\u0103rsare de toxicitate care s\u0103 circule de colo p\u00e2n\u0103 colo, \u0219i care s\u0103 fac\u0103 oamenii s\u0103 se simt\u0103 umili\u021bi \u0219i dispre\u021bui\u021bi. Nu vreau s\u0103 fiu cauza nefericirii nim\u0103nui.<\/p>\n

Dar \u00eemi place s\u0103 r\u00e2d de al\u021bii, \u00eentr-un mod care s\u0103 nu presupun\u0103 c\u0103 \u00eei ur\u0103sc sau \u00eei desconsider. \u0219i singurul mod \u00een care po\u021bi face acest lucru e s\u0103 r\u00e2zi cu cineva care a) \u00een\u021belege gluma \u0219i b) nu se apuc\u0103 s-o forwardeze cu un bonus de venin \u0219i frustrare, s\u0103 par\u0103 altceva dec\u00e2t este.<\/p>\n

Introverti\u021bii sunt excelen\u021bi p\u0103str\u0103tori de secrete \u0219i intimit\u0103\u021bi, pentru c\u0103 \u00eei intereseaz\u0103 mai mult comunicarea cu persoanele care le plac, dec\u00e2t modul \u00een care te pot lucra pe la spate s\u0103 se ca\u021bere pe cadavrul t\u0103u metaforic.<\/p>\n

C) Nu sunt competitivi\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00cen secunda \u00een care \u00eencepi s\u0103 ai o form\u0103 oarecare de succes, se umfl\u0103 brusc t\u0103r\u00e2\u021ba \u00een to\u021bi narcisi\u0219tii \u0219i raha\u021bii cu ochi care nu se simt bine dec\u00e2t \u00een postura de buricii p\u0103m\u00e2ntului. \u0219i consta\u021bi c\u0103 oameni cu care nu ai avut nimic de \u00eemp\u0103r\u021bit \u0219i cu care nu ai schimbat \u00een via\u021ba ta o vorb\u0103 \u00een contradictoriu se apuc\u0103 s\u0103 te sape cu sete, s\u0103 se agite s\u0103-\u021bi dea \u00een cap \u0219i s\u0103 fac\u0103 pe interesan\u021bii \u00een diverse moduri, de parc\u0103 le-ai fi gre\u0219it lor direct cu succesul t\u0103u.<\/p>\n

A trebuit s\u0103 \u00eemplinesc 30 de ani s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleg care plua mea structuralist\u0103 e problema \u0103stora \u0219i de ce mor\u021bii lor nu pot s\u0103 accepte c\u0103 unii sunt mai buni \u00een anumite domenii dec\u00e2t ei \u0219i c\u0103 nu atitudinile de kkt remediaz\u0103 diferen\u021ba, ci studiul \u0219i abilitatea de a te perfec\u021biona.<\/p>\n

Enter persoanele mele preferate, introverti\u021bii. Oamenii care \u00ee\u0219i bazeaz\u0103 respectul de sine pe ceea ce au ei de oferit, nu pe eterna compara\u021bie cu al\u021bii, \u0219i de ce \u0103la a\u0219a, \u0219i eu nu.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 un introvertit vede c\u0103 faci o treab\u0103 bun\u0103, oricare ar fi ea, face cel mai uman lucru cu putin\u021b\u0103: SE BUCUR\u0102 PENTRU TINE PUR \u0218I SIMPLU. F\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 simt\u0103 c\u0103 e o sum\u0103 fix\u0103 a succesului pe p\u0103m\u00e2nt, \u0219i dac\u0103 ai tu, iei cumva la scar\u0103 global\u0103 din volumul de succes pe care l-ar fi avut el, dac\u0103 nu existai tu.<\/p>\n

D) Nu sunt invazivi\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Exact motivul pentru care nu-i remarci \u00een public e motivul care-i face companioni minuna\u021bi. Introvertitul nu vorbe\u0219te f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 aib\u0103 ceva util de spus, nu te \u00eenghesuie f\u0103r\u0103 rost, nu te \u00eentrerupe, nu se urc\u0103 pe tine.<\/p>\n

Tocmai pentru c\u0103 sunt oameni care \u021bin la spa\u021biul lor personal,\u00a0 \u00een\u021beleg instinctiv cum func\u021bioneaz\u0103 al altuia.<\/p>\n

E) C\u00e2nd vorbesc cu tine, chiar ascult\u0103 ce ai de spus.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tipologia de om care m\u0103 scoate din s\u0103rite maximum e cea care nu a trecut prin situa\u021biile tale de via\u021b\u0103, nu are experien\u021b\u0103 \u00een domeniile \u00een care ai tu \u0219i calificare, \u0219i rezultate demonstrabile, dar \u0219tie mult mai bine dec\u00e2t tine ce ar trebui s\u0103 faci \u0219i vorbe\u0219te peste tine.<\/p>\n

\u0102stora le-a\u0219 tufe un bocanc \u00een bot de cum deschid gura. \u0218i cum greu o \u00eenchid, cred c\u0103 m-a\u0219 transforma \u00een Karate Kid.<\/p>\n

Introverti\u021bii sunt cei care \u00ce\u0218I ASUM\u0102 lucrurile pe care nu le \u0219tiu \u0219i care pun \u00eentreb\u0103ri, s\u0103 descopere. Comunicarea chiar ESTE despre schimb de p\u0103reri \u0219i informa\u021bii, nu un r\u0103zboi f\u0103r\u0103 arme.<\/p>\n

F) Nu sunt obositori\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tocmai pentru c\u0103 nu sunt invazivi, nu sunt competitivi \u0219i nu se hr\u0103nesc din disconfortul inoculat altora, introverti\u021bii sunt minunat de reconfortan\u021bi. Ca un balsam pentru suflet. \u00cen preajma lor te po\u021bi relaxa s\u0103 fii tu \u00eensu\u021bi, \u0219i \u0219tii c\u0103, odat\u0103 ce e\u0219ti acolo, \u0219i ei se relaxeaz\u0103 s\u0103 fie ei \u00een\u0219i\u0219i.<\/p>\n

Ca s\u0103 \u00eenchid acest text cu o metafor\u0103: introverti\u021bii sunt\u00a0perlele autentice ale speciei omene\u0219ti. Greu de g\u0103sit, pentru c\u0103 se ascund \u00een cochiliile lor. Dar o dat\u0103 g\u0103si\u021bi, inestimabili.<\/p>\n

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