{"id":21989,"date":"2021-06-29T09:51:05","date_gmt":"2021-06-29T06:51:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=21989"},"modified":"2021-06-29T10:02:02","modified_gmt":"2021-06-29T07:02:02","slug":"cand-esti-inteles-gresit","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/cand-esti-inteles-gresit\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00e2nd e\u0219ti \u00een\u021beles gre\u0219it"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Am primit ieri un <a href=\"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-ma-iubeste-dar-nu-stie\/\"><strong>mesaj<\/strong><\/a> \u00een po\u0219ta redac\u021biei. Persoana care scria \u00eemi relata cum poten\u021bialul iubi \u00eei ar\u0103tase interes, apoi \u00eel retr\u0103sese. Tehnic\u0103 clasic\u0103 de pus suflete nevinovate pe jar de c\u0103tre nevalida\u021bi sau nevalidate care \u00ee\u0219i hr\u0103nesc egourile din fr\u0103m\u00e2nt\u0103rile pe care le pot induce altora. Din &#8220;uite dom&#8217;le cum mor b\u0103rba\u0163ii \/ femeile dup\u0103 mine&#8221; urmat de \u00eenc\u0103 ni\u015fte paie pe foc, c\u00e2nd tu pari s\u0103 te mai dezmetice\u015fti. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Prompt, o parte din cititorime a s\u0103rit cu &#8220;\u0103\u0103\u0103, dar poate nici poten\u0163ialul iubi nu \u015ftia ce face \/ nu c\u0103uta s\u0103-l joace pe autorul mesajului \/ era doar prietenos&#8221;, \u015fi cu &#8220;oricum nu datorezi explica\u0163ii dac\u0103 altul a interpretat gre\u015fit amabilitatea ta drept interes amoros&#8221;.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Iat\u0103 punctul meu de vedere. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ba da, intuie\u015fti c\u00e2nd amabilitatea ta e interpretat\u0103 drept interes amoros \u015fi ba da, \u015ftii c\u00e2nd cineva se g\u00e2nde\u015fte la tine a\u015fa. \u015ei cel mai fair lucru pe care \u00eel po\u0163i face e S\u0102 L\u0102MURE\u015eTI LUCRURILE. S\u0103 nu \u00eel la\u015fi pe \u0103la sau pe aia s\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi croiasc\u0103 speran\u0163e de\u015farte, s\u0103 se macine cu \u00eendoieli \u015fi s\u0103-\u015fi foot\u0103 ani din via\u0163\u0103 vis\u00e2nd la tine, c\u00e2nd tu \u015ftii sincer c\u0103 nu te intereseaz\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">De aceea, eu NU FLIRTEZ NICIODAT\u0102 CU PERSOANE CARE NU \u00ceMI PLAC REAL \u015eI \u00ceN ACEL MOD. Iar tentativele de flirt le retez din fa\u015f\u0103, dac\u0103 \u015ftiu sincer c\u0103 nu m\u0103 interesezi. Pe ideea c\u0103 mai bine te frustrezi acum dou\u0103 s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni, hai, ok, o lun\u0103 dac\u0103 e\u015fti foarte prost \/ proast\u0103, dec\u00e2t s\u0103 pl\u00e2ngi mai \u00eencolo c\u0103 te-a dus Lorena de nas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Da, mi s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat s\u0103 fiu amabil\u0103, iar amabilitatea mea s\u0103 fie interpretat\u0103 drept interes de alt\u0103 natur\u0103. Aleg s\u0103 COMUNIC. S\u0103 port discu\u0163ia incomod\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 spun: Nu te sup\u0103ra, dar nu e\u015fti pe shortlistul meu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pentru c\u0103 mi s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat reversul. S\u0103 m\u0103 amorezez \u015fi s\u0103 fiu dus\u0103 cu z\u0103h\u0103relul. Nu luni \u00een \u015fir, c\u0103 sora voastr\u0103 are toleran\u0163\u0103 redus\u0103 la bull***t \u015fi nu \u00eenghite mult din el p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi bag\u0103 ad\u00e2nc picioarele. E at\u00e2t de frustrant s\u0103 fii am\u0103git, s\u0103 \u0163i se fluture iluzia iubirii pe la nas, apoi s\u0103-\u0163i fie smuls\u0103, \u00eenc\u00e2t mi se pare O DOVAD\u0102 DE RESPECT \u015eI DE COLOAN\u0102 VERTEBRAL\u0102 s\u0103 spui &#8220;uite, nu e cazul. Nu cu tine&#8221;. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sigur, av\u00e2nd \u00een vedere mentalitatea retrograd\u0103 din \u0163ara noastr\u0103, multe din &#8220;nu&#8221;-urile mele nu au fost luate ca atare, ci ca invita\u0163ii deschise la \u015fi mai mult\u0103 h\u0103r\u0163uire, pentru c\u0103 gigeii din Rom\u00e2nia mai au mult\u0103 educa\u0163ie de parcurs p\u00e2n\u0103 s\u0103 priceap\u0103 c\u0103 nu doar b\u0103rba\u0163ii &#8220;adev\u0103ra\u0163i&#8221; au dreptul la via\u0163a, deciziile \u015fi priorit\u0103\u0163ile lor. Dar am un repertoriu suficient de bogat de mor\u0163i de mam\u0103, \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 fac cel mai agasant pretendent s\u0103 renun\u0163e, chit c\u0103 uneori se las\u0103 cu film\u0103ri &#8220;de demascare&#8221; pe YouTube.   Riscul meseriei.   <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu face\u0163i al\u0163i oameni s\u0103 sufere, doar ca s\u0103 v\u0103 balona\u0163i voi egourile. G\u0103si\u0163i-v\u0103 validarea \u00een c\u0103r\u0163i citite, filme v\u0103zute, c\u0103l\u0103torii, joburi mi\u015fto, lucruri care VALOREAZ\u0102 \u00ceN MOD REAL CEVA. Chiar \u0219i \u00een banii pe care \u0219tii s\u0103 \u00eei faci. Gher\u021boiul care se laud\u0103 cu opulen\u021ba mi se pare mai pu\u021bin detestabil dec\u00e2t \u0103la care se laud\u0103 c\u00e2te femei f***.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u015ei dac\u0103 cineva pare s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103 gre\u015fit aten\u0163ia voastr\u0103, COMUNICA\u0162I. Nu l\u0103sa\u0163i la voia \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103rii, nu spera\u0163i c\u0103 se prinde \u015fi singur. Unii sunt orbi\u0163i de proiec\u0163iile amoroase din mintea lor \u015fi nu se conecteaz\u0103 la realitate. Poate c\u0103 onestitatea e o politic\u0103 p\u0103guboas\u0103 pe termen scurt \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i aduce o droaie de du\u015fmani, dar pe termen lung, e singurul mod de a tr\u0103i \u00een pace cu cea mai important\u0103 persoan\u0103: tu \u00eensu\u0163i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, sus\u0163ine\u0163i activitatea siteului cu o dona\u0163ie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><a href=\"http:\/\/paypal.me\/Trollywood\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-14577\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=160%2C160&amp;ssl=1 160w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=320%2C320&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=184%2C184&amp;ssl=1 184w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?w=931&amp;ssl=1 931w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<br>Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lorenaalmighty\/\"><strong>Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/lorenalupu\">Twitter<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;\u015fi&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lorena.lup\/\">Instagram<\/a><\/strong>, subscribe pe&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCCHBtHi6S2GlUFqETH70cjQ\">YouTube<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Am primit ieri un mesaj \u00een po\u0219ta redac\u021biei. Persoana care scria \u00eemi relata cum poten\u021bialul iubi \u00eei ar\u0103tase interes, apoi \u00eel retr\u0103sese. 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