Ca orice copil care venea dintr-o familie sever\u0103, care f\u0103cea din tine tot ce voia, c\u0103 altfel \u015ftergea pe jos cu tine, aveam respectul de sine al unui tomberon din Rahova, drept care, de c\u00e2te ori m\u0103 b\u0103ga cineva \u00een seam\u0103 s\u0103-mi cear\u0103 ceva, m\u0103 d\u0103deam peste cap s\u0103 ofer pe tav\u0103 ce voia. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Prin urmare, risipeam mult\u0103 energie \u00een slujba viselor altora \u015fi nu \u00eemi r\u0103m\u00e2nea nimic pentru mine. Am f\u0103cut extrem de pu\u0163ine s\u0103 realizez lucrurile pe care le doream cu adev\u0103rat, \u015fi prin urmare, nu am nimic notabil de raportat p\u00e2n\u0103 pe la 25. \u00cenainte, influen\u0163at\u0103 de modelul maic\u0103-mii, v\u0103ic\u0103ritoare profesionist\u0103, \u00eenvinuiam oamenii ingra\u0163i, care nu ofer\u0103 oportunit\u0103\u0163i, condi\u0163ia femeii, via\u0163a, lumea, vremea \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Realitatea era c\u0103 singura vinovat\u0103 eram eu \u015fi sistemul meu f**-up de priorit\u0103\u0163i, bazat pe cum s\u0103 plac altora, nu pe ce e cu adev\u0103rat important pentru mine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Din momentul c\u00e2nd mi s-a limpezit \u00een ce ordine trebuie s\u0103 abordez problemele, au \u00eenceput oficial anii mei cei mai buni. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Am \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at s\u0103 \u00eemi conserv energia <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Oric\u00e2t eram de obosit\u0103, sau oric\u00e2t aveam de lucru, dac\u0103 vecina de vizavi sau cititorul de blog nr. 45753 de pe Facebook, \u0103la care nu sus\u0163ine blogul nici m\u0103car cu un eurocent, aveau chef de cineva care s\u0103 le asculte palavrele, m\u0103 sim\u0163eam obligat\u0103 s\u0103 le stau la dispozi\u0163ie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The idiocy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n C\u00e2t timp valoros, pe care nu mi-l va returna nimeni, niciodat\u0103, \u015fi \u00een care puteam lucra la toate skillurile \u015fi proiectele mele. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sau dac\u0103 cineva avea nevoie de ceva, l\u0103sam totul de-a valma, s\u0103 m\u0103 pun ca fraiera la dispozi\u0163ie. Ca un bun suflet cre\u015ftin. Lol. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Evident, c\u0103 nu-\u0163i mai r\u0103m\u00e2nea energie pentru ce voiai tu, dac\u0103 te l\u0103sai pe ultimul loc. \u015ei evident c\u0103 dac\u0103 tu te l\u0103sai pe tine pe ultimul loc, de ce te-ar fi plasat al\u0163ii mai sus? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Din secunda \u00een care am ajuns s\u0103 respect capitalul timpului \u015fi al energiei mele, s\u0103 le investesc strategic doar \u00een lucruri care merit\u0103 efortul \u015fi dau roade, au \u00eenceput anii mei cei mai buni. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Am \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at s\u0103 nu \u00eemi mai fac griji. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Nu vreau s\u0103 v\u0103 spun c\u00e2t procrastinam, blocat\u0103 \u00een frici, anxiet\u0103\u0163i, “dar dac\u0103” \u015fi “dar dac\u0103 nu”. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Multe lucruri de care m\u0103 apucam r\u0103m\u00e2neau \u00een stadiul de proiect pentru c\u0103, din cauza filmelor interioare horror pe care mi le proiectam f\u0103r\u0103 \u00eencetare \u00een cap, nu \u00eemi r\u0103m\u00e2neau timp \u015fi energie pentru ele. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Din secunda \u00een care am \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at s\u0103 nu \u00eemi mai pese, s\u0103 \u00eembr\u0103\u0163i\u015fez riscul, exact cum vine, \u015fi s\u0103 investesc timpul alocat grijilor \u00een ceva mai mult efort constructiv, pentru c\u0103 sunt suficient de puternic\u0103 s\u0103 roll with the punches, and even to punch back, if needed, au \u00eenceput anii mei cei mai buni. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Am \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at s\u0103 dorm. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Mare parte din calitatea vie\u0163ii \u015fi starea de fericire a omului e dat\u0103 de c\u00e2t e de odihnit \u00een momentul respectiv. Sun\u0103 a no brainer (aici simt venind comentariul cu “vaaai, dar c\u00e2t\u0103 romglez\u0103”. OK, superofert\u0103: c\u00e2nd \u00eemi demonstrezi cu chitan\u0163e de Paypal c\u0103 ai donat peste 1000 de euro cumulat s\u0103 sus\u0163ii blogul, promit s\u0103 scriu un articol \u00een rom\u00e2n\u0103 pur\u0103, virgin\u0103, special pentru tine. P\u00e2n\u0103 atunci, mar\u015f voios \u00een direc\u0163ia general\u0103 a plm.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sun\u0103 a no brainer, cum spuneam, dar foarte mul\u0163i oameni dorm extrem de pu\u0163in, fie c\u0103 muncesc prea mult, fie c\u0103 stau \u00een exces pe internet, fie c\u0103 sunt sclavii unui joc, fie c\u0103 au copii, fie c\u0103 au familie sau partener(\u0103) extrem de demanding. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cen secunda \u00een care \u00eenve\u0163i s\u0103 spui: “Acum sunt obosit(\u0103) \u015fi o s\u0103 dorm, iar restul chestiilor pot s\u0103 a\u015ftepte”, \u00eencep oficial anii t\u0103i cei mai buni. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Pentru c\u0103, adeseori, o or\u0103 de somn \u015fi o cafea te reseteaz\u0103 s\u0103 fii mai plin de energie dec\u00e2t chinuiala \u00een gol cu bateriile desc\u0103rcate, piuind a ro\u015fu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n M-am \u00eendr\u0103gostit de mine. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Nimic nu te umple de complexe inferioritate mai grave dec\u00e2t educa\u0163ia sever\u0103, lipsit\u0103 de afec\u0163iune. La care se ad\u0103uga \u015fi sentimentul c\u0103 sunt mai prejos pentru c\u0103 nu pot fi femeie \u00een sensul clasic \u00een care sunt femei altele. <\/p>\n\n\n\n De aceea cred c\u0103 e important\u0103 educa\u0163ia referitoare la identitatea de gen. Nu to\u0163i suntem b\u0103rba\u0163i adev\u0103ra\u0163i, respectiv femei adev\u0103rate, chiar dac\u0103 ne na\u015ftem cu detaliul anatomic aferent, iar pentru aceia dintre noi care suntem pe spectrul transgender, stresul interminabil cu “femeile TREBUIE S\u0102 fac\u0103 asta, asta \u015fi asta!!” \u015fi “TREBUIE S\u0102 fie a\u015fa \u015fi pe dincolo!!” e un drum dureros spre ur\u0103 de sine, negare \u015fi suferin\u0163\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Din secunda \u00een care am \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at c\u0103 nu sunt o “femeie feminin\u0103”, c\u0103 sunt perfect ok a\u015fa cum sunt, \u015fi am \u00eenceput s\u0103 lucrez cu asta, nu cu femeia ideal\u0103 din mintea altora, \u015fi am \u00eenceput s\u0103 fac lucruri care \u00eemi vin m\u0103nu\u015f\u0103 \u015fi care se nasc \u00een mod natural din felul meu de a fi, au \u00eenceput anii mei cei mai buni. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Ceea ce v\u0103 dorim \u015fi dumneavoastr\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, sus\u0163ine\u0163i activitatea siteului cu o dona\u0163ie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n *** Am v\u0103zut glumi\u021ba asta sharuit\u0103 pe Facebook. \u0218i mi-am adus aminte cum, p\u00e2n\u0103 pe la 25 de ani, m\u0103 stresa \u0219i pe mine lumea...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":22019,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-22018","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/209462413_10220311663563671_8000667079222803911_n.jpg?fit=635%2C424&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22018","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22018"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22018\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":22020,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22018\/revisions\/22020"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/22019"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22018"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22018"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22018"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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