Din punctul de vedere al unui t\u00e2n\u0103r profesionist, care \u00eenc\u0103 nu \u015fi-a format abilitatea mea de a pl\u0103ti hate-ul cu o p*l\u0103 viguroas\u0103 \u00eenfipt\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een amigdale, care s\u0103-l fac\u0103 pe b\u0103g\u0103torul de seam\u0103 s\u0103 schel\u0103l\u0103ie a victim\u0103, de\u015fi el fusese agresorul in the first place, ambele sunt un atac la stima de sine, dac\u0103 le la\u015fi s\u0103 te afecteze \u015fi dac\u0103 le iei de bune. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u015ei mi-a\u015f fi dorit s\u0103 am la 20 de ani un mentor, un profesor, un educator de orice tip care s\u0103-mi spun\u0103 c\u0103 nu e cazul.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
C\u00e2nd t\u00e2n\u0103rul profesionist e femeie, nu \u015ftiu cum se face, dar at\u00e2t hate-ul, agresivitatea, nevoia de a c\u0103lca \u00een picioare a haitei, c\u00e2t \u015fi aten\u0163ia divagant\u0103, b\u0103garea \u00een seam\u0103 gre\u0163oas\u0103, sunt mult mai mari \u015fi mai intense. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nu, nu e vorba de tine. Nu ai ce s\u0103 faci s\u0103 le evi\u0163i. Cel mult, po\u0163i s\u0103 te ascunzi, s\u0103 stai \u00een banca ta, s\u0103 te angajezi \u00eentr-un job de 8 ore care nu va pune \u00een valoare nici 1% din ce \u015ftii s\u0103 faci, dar asta \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 gigeii au \u00eenvins. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Cum \u00eenvingi tu? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Simplu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00ce\u0163i asumi c\u0103 vor veni. Pentru c\u0103 da, vor veni. Orice ai face, tu ca femeie, dac\u0103 nu e pe linia “ce special e iubi \u015fi uite ce bebei frumo\u015fi avem” (linia social acceptabil\u0103 pentru \u0163ara asta eminamente agrar\u0103 \u00een spirit), reac\u0163ia va fi de ur\u0103, agresivitate \u015fi prejudec\u0103\u0163i. Orice se abate de la aceast\u0103 linie duce la eticheta de “nebun\u0103”. \u015ei “nebunele” trebuie \u00eenjurate, minimalizate \u015fi jignite, intr\u0103 \u00een fi\u015fa postului de gigel. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dac\u0103 le a\u015ftep\u0163i, m\u0103car nu te vor surprinde. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dar cum le faci fa\u0163\u0103? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Le iei ca pe o confesiune a frustr\u0103rilor \u015fi limit\u0103rilor postacului. \u015ei pe o confesiune a proiec\u0163iilor lui legate… nici m\u0103car de tine. Pentru c\u0103 nu te cunoa\u015fte, \u015fi cum se vede, e mai preocupat s\u0103 latre dec\u00e2t s\u0103 fie atent. Proiec\u0163iilor lui legate de femei la care nu are acces, de frustrarea fa\u0163\u0103 de propria insignifian\u0163\u0103 cu care nu \u015ftie cum s\u0103 lupte (prin munc\u0103, b\u0103i, gogu, nu prin toxicitate \u00eempro\u015fcat\u0103 peste oameni care nu \u0163i-au mutut-o pe f\u0103-ta), \u015fi cine \u015ftie ce altor probleme pe care nu \u015ftie cum s\u0103 le rezolve. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Apoi, citesc pe un alt grup: Dar de ce au nevoie femeile de empowerment? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u0103i, iat\u0103 de ce. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Un b\u0103rbat se recomand\u0103 \u015fi \u00ee\u015fi prezint\u0103 portofoliul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nimic special, eventual unii \u00eel contacteaz\u0103 privat s\u0103 cear\u0103 cota\u0163ii \u015fi at\u00e2t. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
O femeie se recomand\u0103 \u015fi \u00ee\u015fi prezint\u0103 portofoliul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
O hait\u0103 de dul\u0103i turba\u0163i \u00eencepe instant s\u0103 latre. Oricum ar fi portofoliul. Oricum ar fi ea. Oricum. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mul\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i nu \u00een\u0163eleg nevoia de empowerment pentru c\u0103 nu au fost supu\u015fi niciodat\u0103 acestui tip de aten\u0163ie. \u015ei bine c\u0103 nu au fost supu\u015fi, pentru c\u0103 nu i-ar face fa\u0163\u0103. Vezi gigelul c\u00e2inos care, dup\u0103 ce \u00eemi bag pwla \u00een m\u0103mica lui t*rf\u0103, devine subit smiorc – smiorc. Vezi cum Michael Jackson a fost devastat fizic \u015fi mintal dup\u0103 controversa cu pu\u015ftii care l-au acuzat de hm-hm \u015fi, chit c\u0103 a fost achitat, nu \u015fi-a revenit niciodat\u0103, pornind spirala cu dependen\u0163a de tranchilizante \u015fi a murit la 50 de ani, \u00een timp ce Madonna e \u00eenc\u0103 regin\u0103 suprem\u0103, chit c\u0103 via\u0163a ei a fost o interminabil\u0103 controvers\u0103 \u015fi rev\u0103rsare de hate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dac\u0103 Madonna ar fi fost b\u0103rbat, nu ar fi primit nici a zecea parte din toxicitatea pe care a \u00eencasat-o de la primul videoclip. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dar aici vine punctul final al acestui articol. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
De ce pe Madonna n-a dobor\u00e2t-o toxicitatea, cum l-a dobor\u00e2t pe Michael? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pentru c\u0103, \u00eencas\u00e2nd-o constant, con\u015ftient\u0103 c\u0103, prin condi\u0163ia ei de femeie, o va primi no matter what, Madonna a deprins un alt mecanism psihologic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Acela de a se folosi de toxicitatea frustra\u0163ilor ca de o trambulin\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ceea ce v\u0103 dorim \u015fi dvs. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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