\u00ce\u021bi scriu din dorin\u021ba de a \u0219ti cum s\u0103 procedez mai departe. P\u0103rin\u021bii mei, \u00een particular tat\u0103l meu, sunt \u00een punctul \u00een care \u00eemi dau ultimatumuri legate de via\u021ba mea: fie m\u0103 m\u0103rit, fie \u00eemi iau un job. Best of luck to you,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n X. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Drag\u0103 X, <\/p>\n\n\n\n Ia-\u0163i un job. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Da, e\u015fti la facultate, dar acum e var\u0103 \u015fi po\u0163i c\u00e2\u015ftiga ni\u015fte bani care te ajut\u0103 s\u0103 te mu\u0163i urgent de acas\u0103. Recomandare pe care o fac tuturor celor cu p\u0103rin\u0163i toxici, abuzivi, despotici, pu\u015fi pe har\u0163\u0103. Nu ai nevoie de genul \u0103sta de negativitate \u00een via\u0163a ta, \u015fi cu cine nu te po\u0163i \u00een\u0163elege omene\u015fte, de bun\u0103 voie, trebuie s\u0103 te dep\u0103rtezi urgent. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Cu zg\u00e2rci\u0163ii patologici nu prea ai ce face. M\u0103car maic\u0103-mea era o femeie singur\u0103 care cre\u015ftea doi copii f\u0103r\u0103 sprijin de tat\u0103, deci nesiguran\u0163a financiar\u0103 era cumva de \u00een\u0163eles. Dac\u0103 taic\u0103-tu are bani, dar e un calic care-\u015fi m\u0103n\u00e2nc\u0103 de sub unghii, nu ai alt\u0103 op\u0163iune dec\u00e2t s\u0103 \u00eencepi s\u0103 c\u00e2\u015ftigi tu bani, asap, \u015fi s\u0103-i urezi s\u0103 \u015fi-i \u00eendese pe ai lui ad\u00e2nc \u00een punctul sensibil. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Legat de medita\u0163iile moca, da, ai perfect\u0103 dreptate. NIMENI, nici m\u0103car p\u0103rin\u0163ii, nu au de ce s\u0103 promit\u0103 mocangeli \u00een numele t\u0103u, nici m\u0103car \u00een familie. \u015ei tu e\u015fti singurul decident pe valoarea timpului \u015fi a muncii tale, cu amendamentul c\u0103 cel\u0103lalt \u00ee\u0163i poate accepta termenii \u015fi condi\u0163iile, sau nu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Ca p\u0103rin\u0163i, ai t\u0103i ar fi trebuit s\u0103 stea \u00een galeria ta de ultra\u015fi – plm, fotbal reference – \u015fi s\u0103 te sus\u0163in\u0103 pe tine, respectiv valoarea muncii tale, c\u00e2nd cineva venea la mocangit, nu s\u0103 te \u00eempart\u0103 gratis ca pomana la parastas, mai ales dac\u0103 ei personal nu \u00ee\u0163i ofer\u0103 foarte multe. Faptul c\u0103 n-o fac, \u015fi nici nu te sus\u0163in, \u00eemi spune c\u0103 sunt genul de p\u0103rin\u0163i care \u00ee\u015fi v\u0103d copilul ca pe o proprietate \u015fi ca pe un electrocasnic viu, iar aceast\u0103 situa\u0163ie NU TREBUIE tolerat\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Abera\u0163iile cum c\u0103 ai fi “manipulat\u0103” sunt din categoria divaga\u0163ie de rahat \u015fi gaslighting nesim\u0163it, \u015fi sunt doar o strategie de a nu admite c\u0103 ai perfect\u0103 dreptate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n So. F\u0103 rost de un job, mut\u0103-te de acas\u0103 \u015fi rupe leg\u0103tura. Dac\u0103 te sun\u0103 ei, dup\u0103 ni\u015fte luni de silenzio stampa, nu r\u0103spunzi mieros \u015fi umil, ci prima \u00eentrebare s\u0103 fie: Bun\u0103. Mi-a\u0163i mai g\u0103sit un parazit calic c\u0103ruia s\u0103-i dau medita\u0163ii gratuite sau de ce m\u0103 c\u0103uta\u0163i? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Scoate-le pe nas – \u015fi pe c*r – episodul \u0103sta p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleg c\u0103 treaba nu merge a\u015fa, iar dup\u0103 ce au \u00een\u0163eles, mai insist\u0103 pu\u0163in, dar pe un ton glume\u0163, s\u0103 te asiguri c\u0103 nu uit\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Cu gaslighterii \u015fi cu abuzivii exist\u0103 un singur modus operandi: faci referin\u0163\u0103 la abuzurile trecute de cum te caut\u0103. Asta previne reinstalarea mecanismului de exploatare \u015fi, totodat\u0103, \u00eei face mai nesiguri pe manevrele lor de kkt. C\u00e2nd unii ard doar pe atac by default, cea mai bun\u0103 ap\u0103rare e s\u0103 anticipezi \u015fi s\u0103 \u00eei ataci tu \u015fi mai feroce. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 nu po\u0163i ob\u0163ine respect prin prezen\u0163\u0103, singurul mod de a impune respect este prin disponibilitatea de a lua distan\u0163\u0103. Asta \u00eei va surprinde, mai ales dac\u0103 nu p\u0103reai genul apt s\u0103 aib\u0103 grij\u0103 de sine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Baft\u0103, <\/p>\n\n\n\n Lorena<\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, sus\u0163ine\u0163i activitatea siteului cu o dona\u0163ie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n *** Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. \u00cen sensul \u00een care el sau ea, sau chiar tu, de ce nu, ne trimite(\u021bi) problema voastr\u0103 de suflet...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":20018,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-22049","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/mailbox-507594_640.jpg?fit=640%2C426&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22049","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22049"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22049\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":22052,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22049\/revisions\/22052"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/20018"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22049"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22049"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22049"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
S\u0103 nu crezi c\u0103 provin dintr-o familie habotnic\u0103 sau chiar f\u0103r\u0103 resurse financiare (de\u0219i tat\u0103l meu este tipul care doarme pe o saltea de bani \u0219i \u00eencepe s\u0103 urle dac\u0103 \u00eei ceri 15 lei pentru un McDonalds). Buuuun, eu sunt student\u0103 la limbi str\u0103ine, \u0219i am tot f\u0103cut post\u0103ri pe diverse site-uri \u00een care ofer medita\u021bii la limba englez\u0103, anun\u021buri la care nu r\u0103spunde nimeni. Acum aproximativ 2 s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni finii de cununie \u0219i finul de botez (2 \u00een 1, ce mai!) au venit \u00een vizit\u0103 la p\u0103rin\u021bii mei. Neav\u00e2nd nicio tangen\u021b\u0103 cu ace\u0219tia, m-am retras la mine ca s\u0103 evit orice fel de interac\u021biune, pentru ca mai t\u00e2rziu ace\u0219tia, \u00eempreun\u0103 cu p\u0103rin\u021bii mei, s\u0103 vin\u0103 la mine \u0219i s\u0103 m\u0103 roage s\u0103 fac medita\u021bii cu b\u0103iatul lor, rug\u0103minte care \u00eemi adusese o sclipire in ochi pe moment p\u00e2n\u0103 s\u0103 specifice c\u0103 doreau pro bono. WHAT THE ACTUAL F**K?!
Aparent, finii li s-au pl\u00e2ns p\u0103rin\u021bilor mei c\u0103 podoaba lor nu este bun\u0103 la englez\u0103, iar p\u0103rin\u021bii mei s-au trezit s\u0103 dea din gur\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 vorbeasc\u0103 cu mine \u0219i s\u0103 m\u0103 consulte \u00een prealabil, c\u0103 a\u0219 fi dispus\u0103 s\u0103 fac medita\u021bii cu copilul lor GRATUIT, pe TIMPUL \u0219i pe ENERGIA mea.
\u00cen primul r\u00e2nd, m-a \u0219ocat indiferen\u021ba fa\u021b\u0103 de faptul c\u0103 ar fi trebuit s\u0103 se fi consultat cu mine \u00een prealabil. Al doilea lucru care m-a \u0219ocat a fost atitudinea, de parc\u0103 a\u0219 fi fost c\u00e2\u0219tigat\u0103 la belciuge, doar pentru c\u0103 ace\u0219tia sunt finii lor \u0219i le-ar face un favor, de\u0219i eu nu am tangen\u021be cu ei.
Lorena, nu m\u0103 \u00een\u021belege gre\u0219it, nu aveam de g\u00e2nd s\u0103 le cer sume colosale dac\u0103 nu au bani, sau s\u0103-mi dea banii imediat dup\u0103 \u0219edin\u021b\u0103, dar sunt \u00een punctul \u00een care nu-mi pot folosi timpul \u0219i energia f\u0103r\u0103 un scop anume (trec \u00een anul 3 \u0219i \u00eemi scriu diserta\u021bia). Also, sunt \u00een situa\u021bia descris\u0103 mai devreme cu o chitr\u0103 de tat\u0103, iar eu trebuie s\u0103 m\u0103 milogesc de ei ca s\u0103 am \u0219i eu ni\u0219te bani ca s\u0103-mi mai schimb hainele care s-au decolorat de la at\u00e2tea purt\u0103ri.
Ce este \u0219i mai r\u0103u vine acum. De o s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 ai mei \u00eemi fac scandaluri peste scandaluri despre acel moment, \u0219i \u00eemi repro\u0219eaz\u0103 constant c\u0103 a\u0219 fi \u201cmanipulat\u0103 de cineva\u201d (aici f\u0103c\u00e2nd referire la grupurile de oameni \u00een care m\u0103 \u00eenv\u00e2rt), dar \u0219i c\u0103 \u201cfamilia nu se ajut\u0103 pe bani!!!\u201d \u0219i c\u0103, practic, sunt o javr\u0103 pentru c\u0103 \u00eemi doresc proprii mei bani.
Lorena, te rog, fii sora mea mea mai mare \u0219i spune-mi exact ce s\u0103 fac. Sunt \u00een acel punct \u00een care cedez nervos.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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