Ce ai alege dac\u0103 op\u021biunile ar fi: un adev\u0103r teribil, dureros, capabil s\u0103-\u021bi d\u0103r\u00e2me principiile dup\u0103 care te-ai condus p\u00e2n\u0103 acum (presupun\u00e2nd \u00eendr\u0103zne\u021b, de dragul exerci\u021biului \u0219i cu speran\u021ba de a nu te irita ideea, c\u0103 un anume ceva \u021bi-a eludat cunoa\u0219terea) sau o minciun\u0103 confortabil\u0103 \u00een umbra c\u0103reia via\u021ba s\u0103 continue s\u0103 aib\u0103 acelea\u0219i arome dulci\/pl\u0103cute pe care ai \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat s\u0103 le apreciezi?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
X. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Drag\u0103 X, <\/p>\n\n\n\n Adev\u0103rul, oric\u00e2t de dureros, nu are cum s\u0103-mi d\u0103r\u00e2me principiile, pentru c\u0103 principiile mele se bazeaz\u0103, \u00een primul r\u00e2nd, pe asumarea adev\u0103rului, oric\u00e2t de dureros. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Mi se trage din copil\u0103rie. Am crescut v\u0103z\u00e2nd cum mama se min\u021bea cu \u00eenver\u0219unare c\u0103 are o rela\u021bie cu tata, \u00een timp ce tata nu avea m\u0103car o urm\u0103 de respect sau de afec\u021biune pentru ea; dimpotriv\u0103; o trata cu misecuvenismul cuiva convins c\u0103 se poate \u0219terge \u00een fiecare cotlon al anusului cu cel\u0103lalt, iar cel\u0103lalt nu va pleca. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Maic\u0103-mea \u0219i-a ratat 12 ani de via\u021b\u0103 cu o minciun\u0103 confortabil\u0103. C\u0103 dac\u0103 e o feti\u021b\u0103 suficient de bun\u0103, la un moment dat va cumula puncte pentru iubirea lui taic\u0103-meu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cen ace\u0219ti 12 ani, ar fi putut c\u0103uta un alt b\u0103rbat, care s-o iubeasc\u0103 \u0219i s-o respecte, sau s\u0103 fac\u0103 o mie de lucruri pentru ea din timpul \u0219i energia investite \u00een c*** nesim\u021bit \u0219i ingrat al lui taic\u0103-meu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dar nu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Eu, copil de 4 ani fiind, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 fi auzit de feminism sau de emancipare, eram complet uimit\u0103 de ce se mai str\u0103duia mama s\u0103 trag\u0103 de cal mort, \u0219i-mi spuneam c\u0103 dac\u0103 \u00eemi va face vreodat\u0103 a\u0219a un b\u0103rbat, \u00eel voi p\u0103r\u0103si f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 stau pe g\u00e2nduri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Era o minciun\u0103 confortabil\u0103 ideea c\u0103 la un moment dat va acumula iubire? Da, dar era o minciun\u0103. Dup\u0103 divor\u021b, a trebuit s-o ia de la zero, dup\u0103 ce \u0219i-a irosit 12 ani din via\u021b\u0103, cei mai frumo\u0219i, slug\u0103rindu-l pe el. \u0218i prin “slug\u0103rindu-l”, i mean SLUG\u0102RINDU-L, pentru c\u0103 taic\u0103-miu era genul de pwl\u0103 misecuvenist\u0103 care pretindea de toate \u015fi nu oferea nimic. M-a vaccinat anti garbage people pe tot restul vie\u0163ii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Nu po\u0163i construi lucruri \u00een via\u0163\u0103 dec\u00e2t pe adev\u0103r. Oric\u00e2t de incomod, oric\u00e2t de dureros, oric\u00e2t de tragic. Tot ce construie\u015fti pe minciun\u0103 se pr\u0103bu\u015fe\u015fte la prima adiere de v\u00e2nt. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Adev\u0103rul dureros te ajut\u0103 s\u0103 cre\u015fti ca om, s\u0103 te dezvol\u0163i, s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i asumi probleme, \u00een loc s\u0103 fugi de ele, \u015fi s\u0103 g\u0103se\u015fti solu\u0163ii. Adev\u0103rul dureros este cel care te maturizeaz\u0103 \u015fi te \u00eenva\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 supravie\u0163uie\u015fti, s\u0103 la\u015fi gre\u015felile \u015fi \u0163epele \u00een urm\u0103. Iar c\u00e2ndd se refer\u0103 la tine \u015fi un defect al t\u0103u, adev\u0103rul dureros e cel care te ajut\u0103 s\u0103 te perfec\u0163ionezi, s\u0103 repari ce nu merge \u015fi s\u0103 lucrezi la propria persoan\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Minciuna confortabil\u0103 e o form\u0103 de la\u015fitate, de mediocritate, de umilin\u0163\u0103 \u015fi, mai devreme sau mai t\u00e2rziu, o vei pl\u0103ti cu dob\u00e2nd\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cembr\u0103\u0163i\u015feaz\u0103 adev\u0103rul dureros. Fii prieten cu el. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sigur, asta nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 accep\u0163i s\u0103 fii abuzat verbal de orice manipulator tic\u0103los care \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i atace stima de sine. Calitatea definitorie a adev\u0103rului dureros este natura sa intim\u0103. Te prive\u015fte doar pe tine, \u015fi nu e obiect de dezbatere public\u0103. Dac\u0103 nu cumva e\u015fti politician \u015fi dai 10.000 de euro pe o panselu\u0163\u0103, la licita\u0163ie public\u0103. Atunci, adev\u0103rul dureros e ob\u015ftesc, pentru c\u0103 ciordeala afecteaz\u0103 bugetul, aka banii comunit\u0103\u0163ii. \u00cen rest, adev\u0103rurile dureroase private sunt fix problema ta, \u015fi cu c\u00e2t le p\u0103strezi pentru tine, cu at\u00e2t procedezi conform proverbului: “Mai bine taci \u015fi dai de b\u0103nuit c\u0103 e\u015fti prost dec\u00e2t s\u0103 deschizi gura \u015fi s\u0103 confirmi 100%”. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103, <\/p>\n\n\n\n Lorena. <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, sus\u0163ine\u0163i activitatea siteului cu o dona\u0163ie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n *** <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. \u00cen sensul \u00een care el sau ea, sau chiar tu, de ce nu, ne trimite(\u021bi) problema voastr\u0103 de suflet...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":22126,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-22124","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/justitia.jpg?fit=640%2C374&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22124","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22124"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22124\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":22128,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22124\/revisions\/22128"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/22126"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22124"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22124"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22124"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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