{"id":22131,"date":"2021-07-27T13:15:31","date_gmt":"2021-07-27T10:15:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=22131"},"modified":"2021-07-27T13:15:32","modified_gmt":"2021-07-27T10:15:32","slug":"despre-fericire","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/despre-fericire\/","title":{"rendered":"Despre fericire"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

De c\u00e2te ori cineva face o dona\u021bie de 50 de euro sau mai mult, \u00eei ofer op\u021biunea s\u0103 aleag\u0103 un subiect despre care s\u0103 scriu. Sunt at\u00e2\u021bia mocangii care au impresia c\u0103 e dreptul lor s\u0103-\u021bi spun\u0103 despre ce s\u0103 scrii \u0219i s\u0103 nu ofere nimic la schimb, \u00eenc\u00e2t am hot\u0103r\u00e2t s\u0103 deschid aceast\u0103 op\u021biune persoanelor care sus\u021bin blogul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u0219a am primit tema: Ultima oar\u0103 c\u00e2nd ai fost fericit\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen mod cert, este vorba de un cititor care, pe de o parte, m-a descoperit recent, \u0219i pe de alta, are prea multe experien\u021be cu muieret l\u0103cr\u0103mos \u0219i ad\u00e2nc suferind de depresie, bocind dup\u0103 zilele bune de odinioar\u0103 \u0219i depl\u00e2ng\u00e2nd prezentul tragic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu e problem\u0103. Ai f\u0103cut dona\u021bia, \u00ee\u021bi tratez subiectul. Datorit\u0103 sus\u021bin\u0103torilor, blogul merge mai departe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu sunt un om foarte fericit, zi de zi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sigur, nu pare c\u00e2nd mai dai de un status iritat, de un articol care deap\u0103n\u0103 vreo nemul\u021bumire sau de vreun schimb de replici cu c\u00e2te un idiot (salut, Bendeac, \u00eenc\u0103 te mai f grija la ce fac reclam\u0103, pisi?). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar ce nu vezi este c\u0103 nu m\u0103 \u021bine mult, \u0219i de obicei \u00eemi trece de cum g\u0103sesc solu\u021bii. Sunt un om solution-oriented, ca s\u0103 folosim cli\u0219ee corporatiste. Apare problema, identific\u0103m solu\u021bia, rezolv\u0103m, via\u021ba e frumoas\u0103 din nou \u0219i p\u0103s\u0103relele ciripesc. Ur\u0103sc v\u0103ic\u0103re\u021bii care procrastineaz\u0103 s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni \u00een \u0219ir cu acela\u0219i rahat \u00een bra\u021be \u0219i nu fac nimic s\u0103-l rezolve. M\u0103 deta\u0219ez de ei instant, pentru c\u0103 via\u021ba e scurt\u0103 \u0219i merit\u0103 tr\u0103it\u0103 vesel, pe c\u00e2t se poate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sunt un om liber, care tr\u0103ie\u0219te exact cum vrea, scrie pe propria platform\u0103 exact ce vrea, f\u0103r\u0103 \u0219efi idio\u021bi care s\u0103-l condi\u021bioneze, m\u0103n\u00e2nc\u0103 exact ce-i place \u0219i ce-l face s\u0103 se simt\u0103 bine, are un medic bun de familie, \u00een caz c\u0103 apare vreo problem\u0103 de s\u0103n\u0103tate, \u00ee\u0219i g\u0103se\u0219te o fericire uria\u0219\u0103 \u00een studiu \u0219i crea\u021bie, \u0219i \u00eentr-un mod de via\u021b\u0103 lipsit de obliga\u021bii nedorite. Mi-am asumat din start lucrurile pe care nu mi le doresc, lucrurile c\u0103rora nu vreau s\u0103 le aloc timp \u0219i energie, \u0219i nu am meandre emo\u021bionale de genul: Da, nu vreau s\u0103 fac asta, dar, dac\u0103, totu\u0219i… cu care mul\u021bi oameni se complic\u0103 singuri f\u0103r\u0103 rost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218tiu exact ce vreau, \u0219i lucrez s\u0103 ajung acolo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi-am asumat c\u0103 a fi biologic femeie (c\u0103 psihologic am penisul mai mare dec\u00e2t 70% dintre b\u0103rba\u021bi) vine cu o gr\u0103mad\u0103 de a\u0219tept\u0103ri idioate de la oameni care nu te cunosc, dar care te judec\u0103 pe baza preconcep\u021biilor lor legate de cum ar trebui s\u0103 fie turma generic\u0103 “femeile”. \u015ei pentru c\u0103 tu nu corespunzi \u015fi nici nu inten\u0163ionezi s\u0103 corespunzi, pentru c\u0103 e mai important pentru tine s\u0103 fii tu dec\u00e2t s\u0103 satisfaci pe al\u0163ii – ace\u015fti oameni te vor ur\u00ee, te vor h\u0103r\u0163ui, te vor vorbi de r\u0103u nemotivat, \u00ee\u0163i vor \u00eenscena mizerii \u015fi te vor sabota. E o nepl\u0103cere presetat\u0103, care vine cu mentalitatea retrograd\u0103 de \u0163\u0103rani b\u0103\u015fi\u0163i a rom\u00e2nului, \u015fi cu c\u00e2t te deta\u015fezi c\u0103 nu e despre tine, ci despre c\u00e2t de prost e interlocutorul, cu at\u00e2t tu \u00ee\u0163i vezi fericit de treaba ta, iar \u0103la crap\u0103 de spume constat\u00e2ndu-\u015fi propria neputin\u0163\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Po\u0163i alege s\u0103 te vaie\u0163i, sau po\u0163i alege s\u0103 le c\u00e2n\u0163i \u00een g\u00e2nd “suge\u0163i p*la-la-la-laaa”. \u015ei, \u00een timp, s\u0103 derivi satisfac\u0163ie c\u00e2nd \u00eei vezi zv\u00e2rcolindu-se. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0103 concluzion\u0103m. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ce e fericirea pentru mine? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Con\u015ftiin\u0163a propriei libert\u0103\u0163i \u015fi a autonomiei absolute de crea\u0163ie, faptul c\u0103 nimeni nu \u00eemi spune ce s\u0103 cred \u015fi ce s\u0103 fac. Dec\u00e2t, iat\u0103, c\u00e2nd aleg eu s\u0103 accept un assignment la schimb pentru o dona\u0163ie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E o stare constant\u0103 de r\u00e2njet \u015fi sobor de \u00eengeri c\u00e2nt\u00e2nd din harp\u0103? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu. Ca orice om, am \u015fi eu probleme, mi se stric\u0103 aia, mi se sparge ailalt\u0103, mi se vars\u0103 cafeaua pe blugii noi, r\u0103stoarn\u0103 motanul farfurioara cu m\u00e2ncare umed\u0103, \u00eent\u00e2rzie metroul c\u00e2nd trebuie s\u0103 ajung urgent undeva, uit mobilul pe la firmele clien\u0163ilor \u015fi tot a\u015fa. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar sunt probleme m\u0103runte, u\u015for de solu\u0163ionat, \u015fi nu le las s\u0103 m\u0103 afecteze. Slobozesc un \u015fir de \u00eenjur\u0103turi cu multe subordonate, apoi, de cum am remediat, m\u0103 \u00eenveselesc la loc. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pentru c\u0103 via\u0163a e scurt\u0103, \u015fi ceea ce conteaz\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103 e calitatea fiec\u0103rui moment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 po\u0163i lua din re\u0163eta fericirii mele \u015fi s\u0103 aplici \u015fi tu pentru tine, f\u0103-o cu \u00eencredere. Sau scrie-mi pentru po\u015fta redac\u0163iei \u015fi poveste\u015fte-mi ce e fericirea pentru tine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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