{"id":22134,"date":"2021-07-28T12:45:26","date_gmt":"2021-07-28T09:45:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=22134"},"modified":"2021-07-28T12:46:45","modified_gmt":"2021-07-28T09:46:45","slug":"despre-iubire-adevarata","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/despre-iubire-adevarata\/","title":{"rendered":"Despre iubire adev\u0103rat\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Se pare c\u0103 oamenilor le place op\u021biunea asta de a alege un subiect \u0219i de a dona minimum 50 de euro, pentru c\u0103, iat\u0103, scriem din nou pe subiect ales \u015fi sus\u0163inut de comunitate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cum e cu iubirea adev\u0103rat\u0103? Mai exist\u0103 iubire adev\u0103rat\u0103 \u00een 2021? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Iar eu o s\u0103 vin cu o afirma\u021bie care va suna \u00eendoielnic, \u0219i anume: Abia \u00een 2021 e posibil\u0103 iubirea adev\u0103rat\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2t timp femeia era dependent\u0103 economic de familie, respectiv de b\u0103rbat, nu se m\u0103rita din iubire adev\u0103rat\u0103. Secole la r\u00e2ndul, se m\u0103rita din obliga\u021bie, cu pretendentul ales de taic\u0103-su, din considerente materiale, din alian\u021be dictate de interes \u0219i a\u0219a mai departe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Apoi, \u00een secolul trecut, s-a produs emanciparea femeii \u0219i ideea de a-\u0219i alege singur\u0103 partenerul, dar, pentru c\u0103 mentalitatea “nu valorezi nimic dac\u0103 nu te ia \u015fi pe tine unul” a continuat s\u0103 existe, multe femei au f\u0103cut alegeri foarte proaste, dictate de disperare, de lips\u0103 de stim\u0103 de sine \u015fi de ideea c\u0103, dac\u0103 un oarecare se \u0163ine dup\u0103 tine, ia-l, indiferent de compatibilitate uman\u0103 \u015fi emo\u0163ional\u0103, pentru c\u0103 oricum nu g\u0103se\u015fti mai bine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sigur, evolu\u0163ia de la aceast\u0103 mentalitate de c\u0103ut\u0103toare prin gunoaie la ideea de libertate complet\u0103 de alegere \u015fi la “mai stai pu\u0163in, p\u00e2n\u0103 te descoperi tu ca om, \u015fi \u00een\u0163elegi ce \u0163i se potrive\u015fte”, merge greu, mai ales \u00eentr-o \u0163ar\u0103 bombardat\u0103 de idei retrograde, de mentalit\u0103\u0163i medievale \u015fi de ideea c\u0103 femeia e un animal f\u0103t\u0103tor \u015fi at\u00e2t. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Drept care, \u00een continuare exist\u0103 alegeri precipitate, dictate de fear of missing out, de a\u015ftept\u0103ri nerealiste \u015fi de nevoi care nu au leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu omul respectiv (de exemplu, dudui care se m\u0103rit\u0103 s\u0103 scape de s\u0103r\u0103cie, sau de o familie excesiv de despotic\u0103 \u015fi de b\u0103g\u0103rea\u0163\u0103). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar, tocmai pentru c\u0103 o mare parte din dependen\u0163a economic\u0103 a disp\u0103rut, tocmai pentru c\u0103 sunt diverse op\u0163iuni pentru femei abuzate domestic deci, tehnic, ai unde s\u0103 fugi, nu mai ai de ce s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2i de nevoie cu un cretin brutal), au ap\u0103rut premisele pentru dragostea adev\u0103rat\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cum v\u0103d eu dragostea adev\u0103rat\u0103, o s\u0103 \u00eentreba\u0163i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

O v\u0103d a\u015fa: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd alegi s\u0103 petreci timp cu un om nu pentru c\u0103 ai nevoi \u015fi vrei s\u0103 \u0163i le \u00eemplineasc\u0103, nu pentru c\u0103 ai probleme \u015fi vrei s\u0103 \u0163i le rezolve, ci pentru c\u0103 prezen\u0163a lui d\u0103 bucurie zilei tale \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i ridic\u0103 instant starea de spirit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sigur, acum nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 ca aceast\u0103 afirma\u0163ie a mea s\u0103 fie r\u0103st\u0103lm\u0103cit\u0103 prompt de gigei ca o scuz\u0103 s\u0103 nu mai fac\u0103 nimic \u00een rela\u0163ie, pentru c\u0103 dac\u0103 femeile le cer s\u0103 duc\u0103 gunoiul, \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 nu e iubire adev\u0103rat\u0103. Du gunoiul, gigele, c\u0103 dac\u0103 devii o povar\u0103, starea de bine pe care o descriu mai sus o s\u0103 dispar\u0103 cam repejor. Haha. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u0103 refer mai degrab\u0103 la toate acele situa\u0163ii c\u00e2nd oamenii aleg parteneri care s\u0103 le rezolve problemele \u015fi at\u00e2t. Un tip cu bani, care s\u0103 te plimbe pe unde nu \u0163i-ai permis s\u0103 te plimbi tu. Un tip descurc\u0103re\u0163, care s\u0103 fac\u0103 pe psihologul moca dac\u0103 tu te zv\u00e2rcole\u015fti de anxietate din orice. Sau, clasic, un tip cum o fi, numai s\u0103 nu mai cotcod\u0103ceasc\u0103 babele din familie c\u0103 de ce nu te ia \u015fi pe tine unul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De obicei, c\u00e2nd alegerea este dictat\u0103 doar de nevoie, rutina \u015fi blazarea intervin de cum nevoia e satisf\u0103cut\u0103. De aici \u015fi cuplurile alea intens plictisite unul de altul, cu ochi mor\u0163i pe interior, care se chinuie din greu \u00een contexte sociale s\u0103 mimeze c\u0103 se suport\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Genul acela de rela\u0163ie se va destr\u0103ma oricum \u015fi nu va face dec\u00e2t s\u0103 \u00eengroa\u015fe statisticile de divor\u0163uri. Sau nah, \u00een trecut, c\u00e2nd nu exista op\u0163iunea de a divor\u0163a, c\u0103, maic\u0103, e ru\u015f\u00e2\u00e2\u00e2\u00e2ne \u015fi ce zic vecinele, oioioi, statisticile de neveste, sau chiar so\u0163i deceda\u0163i brusc \u00een condi\u0163ii misterioase. Mai pu\u0163in dramatic, casele acelea unde plutea perpetuu conflictul \u00een atmosfer\u0103 \u015fi \u0163i-era fric\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 tu\u015fe\u015fti, c\u0103 se declan\u015fa instant cearta violent\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cred c\u0103 iubirea adev\u0103rat\u0103 e mai posibil\u0103 acum, dec\u00e2t oric\u00e2nd \u00eenainte, prin simplul fapt c\u0103 nu ai nevoie economic\u0103 \u015fi social\u0103 de un gogu care s\u0103-\u0163i rezolve problemele \u015fi s\u0103 te fac\u0103 “femeie onorabil\u0103”, ci po\u0163i \u00eent\u00e2lni, pur \u015fi simplu, o persoan\u0103 cu care s\u0103 te potrive\u015fti natural \u015fi s\u0103 faci lucruri \u00eempreun\u0103 \u00een mod armonios. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cam asta e viziunea mea despre dragoste \u015fi e de-a dreptul plictisitor de simpl\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar, cum persoanele care sunt \u00een prezent \u00een via\u0163a mea nu \u00eemi inspir\u0103 acel gen de bucurie – \u015fi nu, nu merge cu for\u0163a, nu merge cu “trucuri psihologice” (v\u0103d prin ele \u015fi m\u0103 sc\u00e2rbesc instant) \u015fi nu merge cu pis\u0103logeal\u0103 – aleg s\u0103 m\u0103 bucur de tot ce pot face singur\u0103. \u015ei pot foarte multe. \ud83d\ude42 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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