{"id":22138,"date":"2021-07-30T14:30:46","date_gmt":"2021-07-30T11:30:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=22138"},"modified":"2021-07-30T14:30:48","modified_gmt":"2021-07-30T11:30:48","slug":"nepotelul-trans","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/nepotelul-trans\/","title":{"rendered":"Nepo\u021belul trans"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

M\u0103 duc la epilat la o doamn\u0103 adorabil\u0103 de v\u00e2rsta a treia, fost\u0103 cosmetician\u0103, acum pensionar\u0103 care mai c\u00e2\u0219tig\u0103 un b\u0103nu\u021b. \u0218i nu doar c\u0103 \u00eel c\u00e2\u0219tig\u0103, dar \u00eel \u0219i apreciaz\u0103. Spre deosebire de multe practicante tinere ale meseriei care str\u00e2mb\u0103 superior din nas dac\u0103 bac\u0219i\u0219ul li se pare mic – subliniez, bac\u0219i\u0219ul, adic\u0103 suma pe care o la\u0219i tu din bun\u0103tatea inimii tale, nesilit\u0103 de nimeni, pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 onorariul pentru serviciu – doamna respectiv\u0103 se bucur\u0103 sincer \u0219i de clien\u021bi, \u0219i de banii c\u00e2\u0219tiga\u021bi, face o treab\u0103 impecabil\u0103, cu o voie bun\u0103 de-a dreptul contagioas\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ieri, m-am dus la programare. \u0218i m\u0103 ia: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Lorena drag\u0103, \u0219tiu c\u0103 tu e\u0219ti cu leghebeteii… <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aproape c\u0103 a\u0219 fi \u00eenceput s\u0103 r\u00e2d, dac\u0103 nu durea ceara. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-A\u0219a… <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-\u0102la micu a fost la o petrecere \u00een pijamale cu fetele, l-au \u00eembr\u0103cat \u00een rochie \u0219i l-au machiat, \u0219i a venit acas\u0103 s\u0103-mi spun\u0103 c\u0103 el vrea s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103 de acum \u00eencolo ca o fat\u0103. L-am certat to\u021bi foarte tare. Poate c\u0103 n-ar fi trebuit s\u0103-l l\u0103s\u0103m la petrecerea asta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Men\u021biune: \u0103la micu are 13 ani, \u0219i el, \u0219i fetele urmeaz\u0103 s\u0103 intre la liceu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Dac\u0103 nu se ducea la petrecerea asta, se ducea la alta, \u0219i probabil c\u0103 nu e prima oar\u0103 c\u00e2nd amicele lui \u00eel \u00eembrac\u0103 \u00een fat\u0103, dar abia acum a prins curaj s\u0103 v\u0103 spun\u0103, speculez eu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-\u0218i ce pot s\u0103 fac? S\u0103-l duc la psiholog? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

M-a cuprins brusc anxietatea. Mi-am amintit toate lec\u021bioarele nesolicitate de feminitate pe care le \u00eencasasem de-a lungul adolescen\u021bei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Doamn\u0103, dumneavoastr\u0103 v\u0103 sim\u021bi\u021bi femeie, da? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Da. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Crede\u021bi c\u0103 dac\u0103 un psiholog ar \u00eencepe s\u0103 v\u0103 pistoneze \u00eendelung cu vorbe me\u0219te\u0219ugite, v-ar putea face s\u0103 v\u0103 sim\u021bi\u021bi b\u0103rbat? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Cum s\u0103 poat\u0103? Eu sunt femeie! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Exact. A\u0219a \u0219i o persoan\u0103 transgender. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tace pu\u021bin, proceseaz\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Noi l-am certat foarte tare, i-am spus c\u0103 nu o s\u0103-l mai iubim dac\u0103 vrea s\u0103 fie fat\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-De ce? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-P\u0103i cum s\u0103 fie fat\u0103? El e b\u0103iat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Dac\u0103 el pe interior e fat\u0103, o s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 fat\u0103, indiferent de amenin\u021b\u0103ri, \u0219antaj \u0219i presiune. Dac\u0103 \u0219antajul, amenin\u021b\u0103rile \u0219i presiunea ar fi fost arme func\u021bionale de convertire la normalitate, n-ar exista picior de “leghebeteu” pe planet\u0103. Cel mult o s\u0103 i se \u00eentip\u0103reasc\u0103 informa\u0163ia c\u0103 nu este iubit, \u015fi asta o s\u0103-l fac\u0103 se urasc\u0103. \u015eti\u0163i de ce rata de sinucideri la adolescen\u0163i gay \u015fi trans este mult mai mare dec\u00e2t \u00een cazul adolescen\u0163ilor “normali”? Tocmai din cauza unor astfel de r\u0103spunsuri pline de prejudec\u0103\u0163i, intoleran\u0163\u0103 \u015fi ur\u0103 din partea familiei. V-a\u0163i g\u00e2ndit c\u0103, dac\u0103 \u00eei spune\u0163i astfel de lucruri, \u00eel pute\u0163i \u00eempinge spre decizii radicale? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Doamne fere\u015fte, nu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Din p\u0103cate, ba da. De ce nu sta\u0163i mai bine de vorb\u0103 cu el, s\u0103 \u00eencerca\u0163i s\u0103-l \u00een\u0163elege\u0163i? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Dar eu nu vreau s\u0103-l \u00eencurajez. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Doamn\u0103 drag\u0103, a\u0163i avut nevoie de \u00eencurajare vreodat\u0103 s\u0103 v\u0103 sim\u0163i\u0163i femeie, sau, pur \u015fi simplu, a\u015fa v-a\u0163i sim\u0163it? A\u0163i avut nevoie de \u00eencurajare s\u0103 v\u0103 plac\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163ii care v-au pl\u0103cut, sau, pur \u015fi simplu, a\u015fa s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat? Identitatea \u015fi sexualitatea fiec\u0103ruia dintre noi sunt independente de \u00eencurajare \u015fi descurajare. Putem s\u0103 ne min\u0163im c\u00e2t vrei, putem lua decizii bazate pe interes sau presiune social\u0103, dar, \u00een definitiv, noi suntem cei care vom tr\u0103i chinul propriilor minciuni, zi de zi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se g\u00e2nde\u0219te. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-S\u0103 \u0219tii c\u0103 ai dreptate. Dar nu vreau s\u0103 ajung\u0103… <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Haide\u021bi, doamn\u0103, s\u0103 ne g\u00e2ndim ce o s\u0103 ajung\u0103. El e un copil serios, de nota zece pe linie, nu-i a\u0219a? Nu e ca \u0219i cum, acum c\u0103 a\u021bi aflat c\u0103 e trans, a devenit brusc alt copil. Dac\u0103 e umilit, torturat \u0219i abuzat verbal acas\u0103, poate fuge, a\u0219a cum au f\u0103cut at\u00e2\u021bia al\u021bi adolescen\u021bi trans. Unii, din lips\u0103 de resurse \u0219i abilit\u0103\u021bi de a se \u00eentre\u021bine, ajung s\u0103 se prostitueze la marginea drumului. Unii chiar ajung s\u0103 fie uci\u0219i de clien\u021bi violen\u021bi. Doar pentru c\u0103 familia le-a f\u0103cut zile fripte acas\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar dac\u0103 \u00eel l\u0103sa\u021bi s\u0103 fie cine vrea \u0219i-i supraveghea\u021bi doar educa\u021bia \u0219i rezultatele \u0219colare, ca oric\u0103rui alt copil? Intr\u0103 la medicin\u0103. Ajunge medic. Salveaz\u0103 vie\u021bi. Conteaz\u0103 pentru oamenii pe care i-a salvat dac\u0103 poart\u0103 m\u0103rgele la g\u00e2t, ruj pe buze \u0219i \u00ee\u0219i spune doamna doctor? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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