{"id":22154,"date":"2021-08-01T16:10:36","date_gmt":"2021-08-01T13:10:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=22154"},"modified":"2021-08-01T16:10:37","modified_gmt":"2021-08-01T13:10:37","slug":"pupa-l-pe-nenea","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/pupa-l-pe-nenea\/","title":{"rendered":"Pup\u0103-l pe nenea!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Azi, am asistat la o scen\u0103 care m-a cutremurat un pic pe interior. O m\u0103mic\u0103 plimba un copila\u0219. S-au \u00eent\u00e2lnit pe strad\u0103 cu un domn. Domnul a pupat-o pe m\u0103mic\u0103, apoi a \u00eencercat s\u0103 pupe \u0219i copilul, care s-a ferit. \u0218i m\u0103mica a \u00eenceput s\u0103-l certe: Alex, m\u0103 faci mereu de ru\u0219ine. Nu mai fi at\u00e2t de s\u0103lbatic. Pup\u0103-l pe nenea! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu am fost exact genul de copil “s\u0103lbatic”, care nu voia s\u0103 pupe pe nimeni. \u015ei de fiecare dat\u0103, auzeam o lung\u0103 litanie despre cum nu am pic de inim\u0103, \u015fi am maniere \u00eengrozitoare, \u015fi cine o s\u0103 te suporte pe tine a\u0219a, \u0219i nu mori dac\u0103 pupi \u015fi tu pe nenea sau pe tanti. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ba muream. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Muream \u00eencet pe interior de sil\u0103 \u015fi de furie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sincer, genul \u0103sta de presiune nu m\u0103 f\u0103cea s\u0103 vreau mai mult s\u0103 pup pe nenea sau pe tanti. Dimpotriv\u0103. Dar m\u0103 f\u0103cea s\u0103 m\u0103 simt al naibii de neiubit\u0103. E mai important pentru tine s\u0103 d\u0103m bine \u00een ochii lui nenea sau ai lui tanti, dec\u00e2t ceea ce simte propriul t\u0103u copil. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cred c\u0103 o lec\u0163ie cu adev\u0103rat valoroas\u0103 pe care un p\u0103rinte o poate transmite copilului s\u0103u, mai important\u0103 dec\u00e2t nevoia de a te gudura pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 nenea sau tanti, este libertatea absolut\u0103 de decizie asupra propriului corp. Ideea c\u0103 nu datorezi nim\u0103nui contact fizic \u015fi intimitate, dac\u0103 nu le dore\u015fti, \u015fi c\u0103 e perfect \u00een regul\u0103 s\u0103 spui un “nu” hot\u0103r\u00e2t, dac\u0103 ideea de a pupa persoana respectiv\u0103 nu \u00ee\u0163i sur\u00e2de. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u0103 \u00eentreb \u0219i azi, \u00een pragul b\u0103tr\u00e2ne\u021bii: frateee, de ce persist\u0103 practica asta at\u00e2t de toxic\u0103, de a ne for\u021ba \u0219i \u0219antaja copilul s\u0103 pupe persoane pe care \u00een mod vizibil nu dore\u0219te s\u0103 le pupe? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ce \u00eencerc\u0103m cu asta? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0103 ne d\u0103m bine pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 nenea sau tanti? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 da, de ce nu ne rezum\u0103m s\u0103-i pup\u0103m noi \u00een\u0219ine, p\u0103 persoan\u0103 fizic\u0103, cum ar zice Vanghelie, \u0219i de ce for\u021b\u0103m \u0219i copilul s\u0103 participe? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0103 dres\u0103m copilul s\u0103 se \u00eembr\u0103\u021bi\u0219eze \u0219i s\u0103 se pupe cu oricine \u00eei iese \u00een cale? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hm. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu func\u021bioneaz\u0103 a\u0219a. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Oamenii sunt diferi\u021bi. Unii \u00ee\u0219i \u00eemb\u0103lo\u0219esc semenii, prieteni sau du\u0219mani deopotriv\u0103, de diminea\u021ba p\u00e2n\u0103 seara. Al\u021bii au un puseu de repulsie \u0219i de la un emoji cu pupic. \u0218i e perfect ok s\u0103 simt\u0103 exact ce simt pentru c\u0103 YOUR BODY, YOUR CHOICE. Se aplic\u0103 \u0219i la asta, da. E perfect ok s\u0103 nu \u00ee\u021bi dore\u0219ti s\u0103 fii touchy – feely cu str\u0103ini, cli\u0219eul \u0103la cu insula de latinitate nu e obligatoriu s\u0103 \u021bi se aplice fix \u021bie, \u0219i un p\u0103rinte ar trebui \u00een primul \u0219i \u00een primul r\u00e2nd s\u0103-\u0219i protejeze copilul de contact fizic nedorit, nu s\u0103 i-l impun\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu am devenit mai pup\u0103cioas\u0103 \u00een urma presiunii, dimpotriv\u0103. C\u00e2nd cineva str\u0103in d\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 ating\u0103, fac mereu un pas \u00eenapoi. Dac\u0103 ajung la un nivel de prietenie confortabil, m\u0103 pup cu oameni care \u0163in neap\u0103rat s\u0103 ne pup\u0103m, dar e o concesie, nu o ini\u0163iativ\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 nu v\u0103 pute\u021bi respecta copiii a\u0219a “s\u0103lbatici” cum sunt, nu face\u021bi copii. Dac\u0103 vre\u021bi o chestie pe care s-o pute\u021bi mozoli toat\u0103 ziua f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 protesteze, lua\u021bi-v\u0103 un urs de plu\u0219. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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