\u00cemi place Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei. R\u0103spunzi foarte sincer \u0219i la obiect, \u0219i de foarte multe ori \u021bi-am dat dreptate. Hai s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi povestesc \u0219i despre rela\u021bia mea. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n L-am cunoscut pe A. acum patru ani \u0219i m-a fascinat de la prima conversa\u021bie. A. e un tip foarte inteligent, cult, educat, are mereu un r\u0103spuns nea\u0219teptat, are mul\u021bi prieteni, \u0219tie s\u0103 se distreze, via\u021ba cu el e foarte palpitant\u0103. Numai c\u0103 eu sunt \u00eentr-un punct \u00een care m\u0103 simt mult prea \u0219tears\u0103 pentru via\u021ba lui A. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n C\u00e2nd mi-a cunoscut, mi-a zis direct c\u0103 sunt gras\u0103 \u0219i \u0219leamp\u0103t\u0103. O s\u0103 \u021bi se par\u0103 aiurea, poate, dar asta m-a ajutat. M-am mobilizat \u0219i am sl\u0103bit aproape zece kilograme, am \u00eenceput s\u0103 merg la coafor \u0219i la cosmetic\u0103, am cerut ajutorul unei stiliste s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eembrac bine. Am sim\u021bit c\u0103 criticile lui au fost cele care m-au elevat \u0219i, dup\u0103 c\u00e2teva luni, c\u00e2nd a \u00eenceput o rela\u021bie cu mine, m-am sim\u021bit ca \u0219i cum c\u00e2\u0219tigasem premiul cel mare. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Numai c\u0103, \u00een continuare, el are ceva s\u0103-mi repro\u0219eze. C\u0103 \u00eemi place un film care lui i se pare prost, sau o carte pe care o consider\u0103 maculatur\u0103, sau un bar pe care eu \u00eel cred intim, iar el \u00eel consider\u0103 o bodeg\u0103 nenorocit\u0103. Singurele momente de armonie sunt cele \u00een care facem ceva pentru el, sau ceva care s\u0103 \u00eei plac\u0103 lui. Am obosit, Lorena. \u0218i simt c\u0103, de\u0219i influen\u021ba lui a fost pozitiv\u0103 asupra mea, de\u0219i am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat foarte multe de la el, de\u0219i e \u00een continuare un om sclipitor, rela\u021bia asta devine insuportabil\u0103. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ajut\u0103-m\u0103 cu un pic de adev\u0103r \u00een stilul t\u0103u. Am nevoie de un \u0219ut \u00een c… <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n X.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Drag\u0103 X., <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0218tii \u0219i tu c\u0103 vrei s\u0103 auzi din partea mea c\u0103 e cazul s\u0103-l dai \u00een mor\u021bii lui pe \u0103sta. Asta \u00eemi \u0219i ceri. \u0218i probabil c\u0103 o s-o faci cu sau f\u0103r\u0103 aprobarea mea, pentru c\u0103 o convie\u021buire cu un narcisist care te face perpetuu s\u0103 sim\u021bi c\u0103 nu corespunzi e obositoare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dar eu te invit la o tem\u0103 de medita\u021bie mai profund\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n De ce ai nevoie s\u0103-\u021bi spun\u0103 gigel s\u0103 sl\u0103be\u0219ti, sau s\u0103 te aranjezi? De ce trebuie s\u0103 fie el acolo, ca tu s\u0103 faci toate astea? <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cencearc\u0103 s\u0103 g\u0103se\u0219ti \u00een tine \u00eens\u0103\u021bi, \u00een bucuria ta de zi cu zi legat\u0103 de tot ce e\u0219ti tu, de modul \u00een care te po\u021bi modela ca om \u0219i \u00een satisfac\u021bia evolu\u021biei stimulentul necesar pentru a te duce la sal\u0103, pentru a spune pas pr\u0103jituricii de pe platoul aniversar sau pentru a alege haine \u00een care s\u0103 adori s\u0103 te vezi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 toate astea devin o manifestare a pre\u021buirii de sine, \u0219i nu o cer\u0219eal\u0103 a aprob\u0103rii lui Gigel, o s\u0103 ar\u0103\u021bi bine pentru c\u0103 vrei, po\u021bi \u0219i meri\u021bi, \u0219i nu pentru c\u0103 vrei s\u0103 placi unuia care \u00ee\u021bi d\u0103 de \u00een\u021beles c\u0103 nu e\u0219ti destul de bun\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Rolul unui partener nu e, \u0219i nu ar trebui s\u0103 fie acela de cioban care m\u00e2n\u0103 vaca la p\u0103scut cu b\u0103\u021bul \u00een m\u00e2n\u0103. E o dinamic\u0103 foarte toxic\u0103, foarte d\u0103un\u0103toare, \u0219i dac\u0103 rezultatele tale pozitive izvor\u0103sc din frica de dezaprobarea lui Gigel sau chiar de abandon din partea lui, ele o s\u0103 dispar\u0103 \u00een sincron cu Gigel. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Nu mai intra \u00een rela\u021bii compensatorii. Caut\u0103 un echilibru, unul \u00een care faci tot ce bine pentru tine din motivele corecte – s\u0103-\u021bi corespunzi \u00een primul r\u00e2nd \u021bie \u00eens\u0103\u021bi – apoi vei g\u0103si genul de b\u0103rbat care apreciaz\u0103 cine e\u0219ti \u0219i te place exact pentru asta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0218i de cum dai de un bou narcisist care \u00eencepe s\u0103 te s\u00e2c\u00e2ie, o s\u0103 dai tu prompt jet, pentru c\u0103 vei \u0219ti s\u0103 recuno\u0219ti \u0219i s\u0103 evi\u021bi acel gen de dinamic\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sper c\u0103 \u021bi-am fost util\u0103, <\/p>\n\n\n\n Lorena. <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 \u0163i-a pl\u0103cut acest articol, sus\u0163ine site-ul cu o dona\u0163ie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n *** ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ascult\u0103 Jet pe Spotify<\/a><\/strong>, cump\u0103r\u0103 piesa pe iTunes<\/strong><\/a> sau pe Amazon Music<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. \u00cen sensul \u00een care el sau ea, sau chiar tu, de ce nu, ne trimite(\u021bi) problema voastr\u0103 de suflet...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":22163,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-22161","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/tie.jpg?fit=640%2C427&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22161","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22161"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22161\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":22164,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22161\/revisions\/22164"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/22163"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22161"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22161"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22161"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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