Te citesc de mult timp, \u0219i sunt de acord cu majoritatea sfaturilor pe care le-ai dat, de aceea apelez \u0219i eu la tine. Nu \u0219tiu cum s\u0103 pun problema. Nu mi s-a mai \u00eent\u00e2mplat asta \u00eenainte, nu vreau s\u0103 creez animozitate, dar m\u0103 simt din ce \u00een ce mai frustrat\u0103 \u0219i am nevoie de ajutor. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Am 27 de ani \u0219i sunt pentru prima oar\u0103 \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie stabil\u0103. M-am mutat cu prietenul meu, avem planuri de viitor, am adoptat pisic\u0103 \u00eempreun\u0103, vrem un viitor comun. Eu sunt chelneri\u021b\u0103 la un restaurant destul de elegant, muncesc 12 ore, pe tocuri. Tot ce \u00eemi doresc, dup\u0103 ce ajung acas\u0103, este s\u0103 dorm. \u0218i aici e problema. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Prietenul meu m\u0103 treze\u0219te c\u00e2nd crede el c\u0103 am dormit destul, nu c\u00e2nd simt eu c\u0103 m-am odihnit. Are o gr\u0103mad\u0103 de predici despre lene, despre stil de via\u021b\u0103, despre munc\u0103, \u0219i astea m\u0103 irit\u0103 at\u00e2t de tare c\u00e2nd eu \u00eemi doresc doar s\u0103 m\u0103 bag \u00eenapoi \u00een pat \u0219i s\u0103 mai dorm o or\u0103. \u00cenainte s\u0103 m\u0103 mut cu el, am stat cu p\u0103rin\u021bii, iar p\u0103rin\u021bii nu mi-au f\u0103cut a\u0219a ceva niciodat\u0103. Am dormit mereu c\u00e2t am vrut eu. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0218tiu c\u0103 o rela\u021bie presupune compromisuri, \u0219tiu c\u0103 o femeie trebuie s\u0103 se adapteze \u00een multe, s\u0103 \u021bin\u0103 al\u0103turi de ea un b\u0103rbat, dar m\u0103 simt foarte, foarte obosit\u0103, \u0219i nu \u0219tiu cum s\u0103-l fac s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 c\u0103 nu suntem to\u021bi la fel \u0219i unii avem nevoie s\u0103 ne odihnim. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Mul\u021bumesc frumos, X.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n *** <\/p>\n\n\n\n Drag\u0103 X., <\/p>\n\n\n\n P\u0103rin\u021bii t\u0103i aveau dreptate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Prima condi\u021bie pentru o via\u021b\u0103 fericit\u0103 \u0219i echilibrat\u0103 este s\u0103 fii odihnit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Iar dac\u0103 tu pentru asta ai nevoie de mai mult somn dec\u00e2t restul lumii, more power to you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Respect mai mult o femeie care doarme zece ore dec\u00e2t una care doarme opt, dar \u00ee\u0219i petrece alte multe ore b\u00e2rfind \u0219i urzind diverse intrigi jegoase. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Legat de iubi, r\u0103spunsul meu ar fi simplu, din perspectiva mea de om care nu \u00ee\u0219i dore\u0219te neap\u0103rat o rela\u021bie. M\u0103 la\u0219i s\u0103 dorm, \u00een mor\u021bii m\u0103-tii, sau u\u0219a e \u00eencolo, \u00een mor\u021bii m\u0103-tii. S\u0103 \u00eencerce cineva s\u0103 m\u0103 trezeasc\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd dorm, \u0219i vor fi ultimele minute pe care le va petrece sub acela\u0219i acoperi\u0219 cu mine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 nu poate s\u0103-mi respecte nevoia de odihn\u0103, s\u0103 caute sclav\u0103 \u00een alt\u0103 parte. Mai ales c\u0103 am o senza\u021bie fin\u0103, mai mult o intui\u021bie, c\u0103 por\u021bionarea dormitului nu se aplic\u0103 \u0219i reciproc. Dac\u0103 vine el obosit, ceva \u00eemi spune c\u0103 e datoria ta de iubit\u0103 perfect\u0103, empatic\u0103 \u0219i fabuloas\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eel \u00een\u021belegi, s\u0103 \u00eel comp\u0103time\u0219ti, s\u0103 umbli \u00een jurul lui \u00een v\u00e2rful degetelor \u0219i tot a\u0219a. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Mam\u0103, numai scriind chestiile astea m\u0103 umplu de draci. Singurul b\u0103rbat care merit\u0103 o prieten\u0103 e \u0103la care \u0219tie s-o lase \u00een pace c\u00e2nd trebuie \u0219i s\u0103-i respecte nevoile. Restul s\u0103 fac\u0103 laba \u0219i s\u0103 pl\u0103teasc\u0103 c***e dac\u0103 au nevoie de asisten\u021b\u0103 feminin\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n OK, dar tu \u00eel iube\u0219ti \u0219i \u00eel vrei pe \u0103sta, altfel g\u0103seai \u0219i singur\u0103 drumul \u00eenapoi spre casa p\u0103rin\u021bilor, right? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Cred c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 \u00eel invi\u021bi la o conversa\u021bie prieteneasc\u0103, la un pahar de vin, \u0219i s\u0103-i explici c\u0103, a\u0219a cum el are un bioritm \u0219i tabieturi care trebuie respectate, \u0219i poate tr\u0103i confortabil cu tine pentru c\u0103 tu livrezi acest respect, ai \u0219i tu un bioritm \u0219i tabieturi care TREBUIE respectate, \u0219i dac\u0103 \u00eei place s\u0103 te f \u00een continuare, ar face bine s\u0103 le respecte, sau, de m\u00e2ine, g\u0103se\u0219te casa goal\u0103 \u0219i pl\u0103te\u0219te facturile singur. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Mul\u021bi b\u0103rba\u021bi \u00ee\u0219i permit s\u0103 fac\u0103 pe gigi durii \u0219i pe autoritarii cu femeile, doar pentru c\u0103 nu citesc \u00een ochii acestora disponibilitatea de a pleca dac\u0103 ei dep\u0103\u0219esc m\u0103sura. Dac\u0103 unul se teme s\u0103 te piard\u0103, s\u0103 vezi cum umbl\u0103 el p\u00e2\u0219-p\u00e2\u0219 pe v\u00e2rfuri \u00een jurul t\u0103u \u0219i cum \u00ee\u021bi aduce cafelu\u021ba la pat c\u00e2nd maiestatea ta face ochi din proprie ini\u021biativ\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n S\u0103 dormi c\u00e2t ai nevoie nu e o preten\u021bie exagerat\u0103. Nu e ca \u0219i cum i-ai cere un mer\u021ban, sau bani de liposuc\u021bie, sau luna de pe cer. De\u0219i exist\u0103 b\u0103rba\u021bi care le ofer\u0103 iubitelor lor \u0219i lucrurile astea. \u0218i da, un om trebuie s\u0103 se adapteze pentru a avea o rela\u021bie, dar \u00een nici un caz nu p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een punctul \u00een care b\u00e2ntuie ca un zombi nedormit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Un iubit nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 un proprietar de sclavi care vine cu biciul \u00een m\u00e2n\u0103 s\u0103 te pun\u0103 la cules bumbac. (Dac\u0103 nu ai genul \u0103sta de feti\u0219uri. Dar dac\u0103 le aveai, nu \u00eemi scriai.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n Cert e c\u0103 gigel \u0103la trebuie s\u0103 \u00eenve\u021be s\u0103 respecte ni\u0219te personal boundaries, \u0219i dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i permite s\u0103 trezeasc\u0103 un om care doarme, deja sufer\u0103 de o form\u0103 destul de crunt\u0103 de nesim\u021bire. \u0218i asta \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 abordezi problema f\u0103r\u0103 ezit\u0103ri \u0219i cu o atitudine tran\u0219ant\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0218i dac\u0103 zice ceva de genul: OK, atunci nu mai vreau aceast\u0103 rela\u021bie? \u00cei urezi mult succes s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 femeia care s\u0103 permit\u0103 s\u0103 fie trezit\u0103 cu sila dup\u0103 12 ore de munc\u0103 pe tocuri \u0219i te duci la p\u0103rin\u021bi. Uneori, o via\u021b\u0103 confortabil\u0103 e mai important\u0103 dec\u00e2t o p**\u0103, fie p**a aia \u0219i cu ou\u0103 de aur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0218tiu c\u0103 nu e neap\u0103rat ce vrei s\u0103 auzi, dar e singurul mod \u00een care \u00ee\u021bi pot fi util\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Lorena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 \u0163i-a pl\u0103cut acest articol, sus\u0163ine site-ul cu o dona\u0163ie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n *** <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. \u00cen sensul \u00een care el sau ea, sau chiar tu, de ce nu, ne trimite(\u021bi) problema voastr\u0103 de suflet...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":22522,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-22521","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/somn.jpg?fit=640%2C426&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22521","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22521"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22521\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":22523,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22521\/revisions\/22523"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/22522"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22521"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22521"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22521"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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