O s\u0103 lipsesc c\u00e2teva zile din online. O s\u0103 las adminului s\u0103 reposteze articole vechi de pe blog – am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat \u0219i eu ceva de la catchy.ro, \u0219i anume, c\u00e2nd nu ai c\u0103rni\u021b\u0103 nou\u0103, d\u0103 repost. E ok, sunt mul\u021bi cititori noi, care nu sunt familiariza\u021bi cu munca mea mai veche, \u0219i le face pl\u0103cere s\u0103 o descopere. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dar sunt \u00een situa\u021bia de a descoperi toate institu\u021biile dintr-un ora\u0219 care mi-e cu des\u0103v\u00e2r\u0219ire necunoscut, \u0219i toate formalit\u0103\u021bile cu care nu sunt c\u00e2tu\u0219i de pu\u021bin familiarizat\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Eu sunt evenimentac cu experien\u021b\u0103. Am f\u0103cut spectacole, petreceri, evenimente de firm\u0103, ted talks. Zilele astea adaug prima \u00eenmorm\u00e2ntare. \u0218i e a lui taic\u0103-miu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Am sentimente ciudate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pe de o parte, pentru c\u0103 tata nu ne-a dorit. I-a spus nevestei – mama – c\u0103 nu vrea copii, \u0219i mama a f\u0103cut ca orice femeie c\u0103reia \u00eei tic\u0103ie ceasul biologic. Gigele, dac\u0103 tu nu \u00eei vrei, \u00eei cresc singur\u0103!!!! <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sigur, a\u0219a s-a \u0219i \u00eent\u00e2mplat, sigur, ea a avut grij\u0103 s\u0103 ne pun\u0103 \u00een tem\u0103 c\u0103 el nu ne-a dorit \u0219i, sigur, c\u00e2t timp am fost copil, i-am purtat pic\u0103 pentru asta. \u0218i pentru c\u0103 nu prea voia s\u0103 \u0219tie de noi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dar abia acum, la maturitate, \u00een\u021beleg inconvenien\u021ba. C\u00e2nd tu \u00eei zici partenerului c\u0103 nu vrei copii, iar partenerul trece peste voin\u021ba ta ca acceleratul prin Coco\u021ba\u021bii de Deal. E genul de decizie pe care n-o fpr\u021bezi, dac\u0103 ai minimum de respect fa\u021b\u0103 de cel\u0103lalt. Dac\u0103 unul m-ar l\u0103sa \u00eens\u0103rcinat\u0103 cu sila \u0219i mi-ar b\u0103ga responsabilitatea pe g\u00e2t volens – nolens, bea Grigore aghiazm\u0103, l-a\u0219 sp\u00e2nzura de ou\u021be. Mama a motivat c\u0103 “voia s\u0103-l fac\u0103 b\u0103rbat de cas\u0103”. Realitatea e c\u0103 nu po\u0163i transforma pe nimeni \u00een ceva ce nu este \u015fi nu va fi. Dac\u0103 ar veni acum un gigel s\u0103-mi spun\u0103 c\u0103 vrea s\u0103 m\u0103 fac\u0103 femeie de cas\u0103. i-a\u015f rupe o m\u00e2n\u0103 \u015fi l-a\u015f bate cu ea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Desigur, taic\u0103-miu a \u00een\u0219elat-o pe mama \u00een scurt timp dup\u0103 ce ne-a avut cu o tip\u0103 cool, crea\u021b\u0103 \u0219i ro\u0219cat\u0103, o femeie care nu \u00eencerca s\u0103 fac\u0103 b\u0103rbat de cas\u0103 din el, ci \u00eel \u00eencuraja \u00een a fi t\u00e2n\u0103r \u0219i nelini\u0219tit. Apoi, dup\u0103 un timp, crea\u021ba ro\u0219cat\u0103 s-a mutat la urm\u0103torul b\u0103rbat, \u0219i tata a \u00eencercat s\u0103 revin\u0103 acas\u0103, dar mama nu l-a mai iertat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
El s-a r\u0103zbunat nepl\u0103tind deloc pensie alimentar\u0103. \u00cen fond, erau copiii pe care nu-i dorise. Ea s-a r\u0103zbunat vorbindu-l de r\u0103u \u0219i acum, la peste 30 de ani dup\u0103 divor\u021b. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nici unul nu l-a dep\u0103\u0219it pe cel\u0103lalt, ca dovad\u0103 c\u0103 taic\u0103-miu \u00eenc\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i purta verigheta c\u00e2nd ne-am v\u0103zut vara trecut\u0103, la o bodeg\u0103 care \u00eenchidea ochii c\u00e2nd venea vorba de certificatul verde. “Dac\u0103 n-am temperatur\u0103, de ce s\u0103 m\u0103 vaccinez?” Nici p\u00e2n\u0103 azi n-a \u00een\u0163eles c\u0103 tocmai, te vaccinezi ca s\u0103 nu ajungi s\u0103 ai temperatur\u0103. Dac\u0103 nu-l interesa un subiect, \u00eel trata cu maxim\u0103 aproxima\u0163ie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Cam cum ne-a tratat \u015fi pe noi, p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd am devenit adul\u0163i \u015fi ne-am \u00eemprietenit. Punctez: ne-am \u00eemprietenit ca doi adul\u0163i, f\u0103r\u0103 urm\u0103 de p\u0103rin\u0163eal\u0103 sau autoritate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pentru c\u0103 taic\u0103-miu era genul golan, extrem de amuzant la beri. Umorul specific Lorena Lupu e mo\u015ftenire de la ei. Nevoia de libertate e mo\u015ftenire de la el. Incapacitatea de a m\u0103 adapta unei vie\u0163i de familie e mo\u015ftenire de la el. Cu diferen\u0163a c\u0103 eu nu torturez nici un suflet nevinovat promi\u0163\u00e2ndu-i la altar ceva ce nu pot onora. \u015eosetele desperecheate, una albastr\u0103, una alb\u0103 cu buline roz, sunt mo\u015ftenire de la el. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Chiar dac\u0103 taic\u0103-miu nu a \u015ftiut s\u0103 fie tat\u0103, \u015fi i s-a f\u00e2lf\u00e2it apoteotic de faptul c\u0103 are copii, p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd ne-am re\u00eemprietenit prin tr\u0103s\u0103turile care ne apropiau, mo\u015ftenirea genetic\u0103 de la el m\u0103 face s\u0103 fiu eu, \u015fi nu am cum s\u0103 apreciez asta. Dac\u0103 mama alegea s\u0103-i fac\u0103 copii unui b\u0103rbat responsabil, serios, provider, poate c\u0103 ie\u015feam \u00eenc\u0103 o M\u0103rioar\u0103 oarecare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00centre timp, dup\u0103 ce ne-am \u00eemprietenit – subliniez, am avut pe ultimii ani o rela\u0163ie prieteneasc\u0103, lipsit\u0103 de orice dependen\u0163\u0103 sau a\u015fteptare – taic\u0103-miu a prins o oarecare form\u0103 de drag de mine. \u00cemi d\u0103dea sfaturi de amor: “Caut\u0103-\u0163i pe unul c\u0103 e p\u0103cat s\u0103 stai a\u015fa. Dar s\u0103 fie p\u00e2n\u0103-n 25 de ani. \u0102\u015ftia de v\u00e2rsta ta sunt ciufu\u0163i \u015fi te stric\u0103 \u015fi pe tine”. Sau: “Da, poate c\u0103 nu \u0163i-am dat bani de facultate, dar mai \u0163ii minte c\u00e2nd am venit \u015fi am fost noi atunci la nu \u015ftiu ce pizzerie?” <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dialoguri pe care le ai cu tovar\u0103\u015fii t\u0103i, nu cu taic\u0103-tu. \u015ei taic\u0103-miu nu mi-a dat bani de facultate, dar ar fi dat oric\u00e2nd \u00eenc\u0103 un r\u00e2nd de beri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
O s\u0103-mi lipseasc\u0103 din toate motivele gre\u015fite. Dar o s\u0103-mi lipseasc\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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